FabSwingers.com forum: Inbox help ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies - do you reply to everyone? I've hidden my profile to look at my inbox from the last two days

It currently stands at 1088

Do you message every guy back 'no thank you' etc

Or just delete

Or maybe block

Do you hide your profiles regularly to sort through them?

I'm getting a bit overwhelmed by it all

(Not a 'look at me' as I'm in hiding)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Ladies - do you reply to everyone? I've hidden my profile to look at my inbox from the last two days

It currently stands at 1088

Do you message every guy back 'no thank you' etc

Or just delete

Or maybe block

Do you hide your profiles regularly to sort through them?

I'm getting a bit overwhelmed by it all

(Not a 'look at me' as I'm in hiding)

Sometimes I just mass delete. Very rarely though! I would hide it for a few days and any that haven't read my profile or are along the lines of 'fancy a fuk' get an instant delete, those that match what I am looking for and respond to my profile, maybe a short message? Do you have filters up to help?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Crikey! That's a lot of messages.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I only reply to the ones that have read my profile so I reply to about one person a day

You can set your message filters to help cut down the amount you receive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies - do you reply to everyone? I've hidden my profile to look at my inbox from the last two days

It currently stands at 1088

Do you message every guy back 'no thank you' etc

Or just delete

Or maybe block

Do you hide your profiles regularly to sort through them?

I'm getting a bit overwhelmed by it all

(Not a 'look at me' as I'm in hiding)

Thank you

I have MM blocked and age filters I think

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We're a couple but no, we don't reply to everyone.

Do you have age and gender filters in place? If you're hiding your profile to sort through messages why not filter everyone out so you don't receive any for that period?

Don't feel you need to respond to everyone, it would become a full time job for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh I've just looked and I didn't realise I could block newbies and ppl without photos x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just remove myself from most searches. ...remove all interests, remove what I'm looking for, set age filters etc. It's much easier to look for yourself and remove yourself from searches if you're feeling overwhelmed. And i ignore messages I'm not interested in. Block and delete if you prefer. I only reply if I'm interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a single woman on here, I just blocked guys and searched myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're a couple but no, we don't reply to everyone.

Do you have age and gender filters in place? If you're hiding your profile to sort through messages why not filter everyone out so you don't receive any for that period?

Don't feel you need to respond to everyone, it would become a full time job for you.

I don't have gender because I want women to message me

Is there a filter for 'my type'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do a methodical cull.

Instantly delete silhouette avatars.

Closely followed by cock avatars.

Then ditch the 'hi, how are you' one liners.

You may not have too many left after that, then you can see if anyone tickles your bits

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My filters are uktrantight but I still get many.many.messages. I don't reply to the ones I am not interested in. I delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies - do you reply to everyone? I've hidden my profile to look at my inbox from the last two days

It currently stands at 1088

Do you message every guy back 'no thank you' etc

Or just delete

Or maybe block

Do you hide your profiles regularly to sort through them?

I'm getting a bit overwhelmed by it all

(Not a 'look at me' as I'm in hiding)

It gets mental as a couple / triple . We have had 1500 unread messages on times . 2 percent seem to actually read our profile . You can't reply to all and why should you ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We're a couple but no, we don't reply to everyone.

Do you have age and gender filters in place? If you're hiding your profile to sort through messages why not filter everyone out so you don't receive any for that period?

Don't feel you need to respond to everyone, it would become a full time job for you.

I don't have gender because I want women to message me

Is there a filter for 'my type'

if you get overwhelmed you could block everyone and search for the ones you want. We never get more messages than we can handle it must be a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X

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By *angria_girlukWoman
over a year ago

LUTON

if they've written a proper message, I say no thank you, if I'm not interested and delete the message if they come back whinging or rude they get blocked!

I also block smokers as I can't find a filter for those. It's a deal breaker for me.

ones who just say want a shag get deleted too.

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By *angria_girlukWoman
over a year ago

LUTON

yes, if you message them they can reply.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X"

Yes. If you've messaged before you still can.

We sometimes get a build up of five messages and nag each other about replying over a thousand and we'd go into a flat spin

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X"

As long as you've exchanged messages with them before then yes they can still message after the filters in place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I can see why messages get lost all the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X

Yes. If you've messaged before you still can.

We sometimes get a build up of five messages and nag each other about replying over a thousand and we'd go into a flat spin

It's stressing me out, some guys keep messaging

'Not bothered then?'

'Rude not replying'

'???'

It's frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Now I can see why messages get lost all the time"

I haven't opened it, I'm sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I can see why messages get lost all the time

I haven't opened it, I'm sorry "

I wasn't meaning you. People I've chatted with in the past that say my messages got lost hence no reply for weeks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Now I can see why messages get lost all the time

I haven't opened it, I'm sorry

I wasn't meaning you. People I've chatted with in the past that say my messages got lost hence no reply for weeks

Yes, it's like an endless sea

A sea of cock if you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X

Yes. If you've messaged before you still can.

We sometimes get a build up of five messages and nag each other about replying over a thousand and we'd go into a flat spin

It's stressing me out, some guys keep messaging

'Not bothered then?'

'Rude not replying'

'???'

It's frustrating "

Why wouldn't you just block those so that they can't do that and stress you out? It's a tool so use it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm going to sort it out today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm going to sort it out today

And get you're pictures back up while you're at it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to ones who have actually put some thought into a message even if it's just to say that I'm not looking to meet at the moment but thank you.

Delete the ones asking for a fuck or being generally grim right off the bat and I tend to block some, which are particularly crass.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I get very little mail, and reply to them all. Filters, filters, filters. Also be aware that as more public pictures you post as more attention you get. Same applies to status updates.

Best is as others suggested, to block all the guys and go and search the juicy ones yourself. Best approach anyway in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X"

Yes you can. If you message filter and block guys anyone who you have previously messaged can still message unless you block their profile. And if you wink at someone then they can message

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

Initially, I had the same problem. I had to hide my profile to check the messages and do the admin. It eventually got too much wading through the rubbish to find the gems whilst sending 'no thank you' messages and then responding to them.

In the end it was too much. Those that I was humming and ha-ing about dropped off the message list cos I didn't save it. It was a mess...

I have blocked virtually everyone now. I don't search anymore. I only message those who I have met with very few exceptions. If I find someone who is desirable, then I message. If it's a yes, then it's a yes. If no, then no biggie. Plenty of fish out there. (I have been known to contact people complimenting them on their photos).

I hardly ever meet up with anyone through fab now, it's just a communication tool for those that I meet by other means.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

"I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X"

If you message them then they can reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks a lot ladies

It's all really helpful

I'm going to make all my photos private now.

That will stop the majority I hope

I keep getting recognised off tinder

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

I meant to say filter, not block. Although I do use the block button, I don't use it en masse.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I just remove myself from most searches. ...remove all interests, remove what I'm looking for, set age filters etc. It's much easier to look for yourself and remove yourself from searches if you're feeling overwhelmed. And i ignore messages I'm not interested in. Block and delete if you prefer. I only reply if I'm interested. "

Exactly what I normally do. I can't even be bothered with that at the moment though so I have turned all my filters on.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Ladies - do you reply to everyone? I've hidden my profile to look at my inbox from the last two days

It currently stands at 1088

Do you message every guy back 'no thank you' etc

Or just delete

Or maybe block

Do you hide your profiles regularly to sort through them?

I'm getting a bit overwhelmed by it all

(Not a 'look at me' as I'm in hiding)

I only have to get 30 messages..and i start to panick lol..that's a lot of messages. You reply to the ones you like or hotlist them for a later date maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always replied to every message, and winks. At the point now that we're thinking it's too much trouble, purely because of the ignorant or rude ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I've just looked and I didn't realise I could block newbies and ppl without photos x"
The ones with no pic verification (single males pretending to be a couple) are the ones who need deleting/blocking then it's down to preference and what kind of message they sent you *Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a couple of guy friends, if I block males, can I still message them? X

Yes. If you've messaged before you still can.

We sometimes get a build up of five messages and nag each other about replying over a thousand and we'd go into a flat spin

It's stressing me out, some guys keep messaging

'Not bothered then?'

'Rude not replying'

'???'

It's frustrating "

Anybody who gets rude or arsey just block them. It's not rude to not reply.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

1016 sometimes I just can't be arsed to be honest. I know this is not good and when I feel like that I go into hiding.

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

I just bulk delete ... most are fugly or just have a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just bulk delete ... most are fugly or just have a cock pic "

Charming

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

"I just bulk delete ... most are fugly or just have a cock pic

Charming

It's the truth tho

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I try to reply to everyone, but I don't get that many messages lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm looking to meet I reply to everyone that mails because I think it's not polite to ignore or delete.

It's really easy to avoid tons of mail. Cut down on the number/ type of pics. Only have 'men' on the Looking For list for a couple of hours at a time. (Nothing on the Looking For list takes you off the searches and cuts down on mail.)

Hiding my profile cuts down mail to 0. Posting in forums with a suggestive profile pic will mean you still get mail even if hidden.

Leaving my profile with Looking For Men, suggestive pics and ignoring mail would just be the height of rudeness and some ridiculous ego trip.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I'm looking to meet I reply to everyone that mails because I think it's not polite to ignore or delete.

Hiding my profile cuts down mail to 0. Posting in forums with a suggestive profile pic will mean you still get mail even if hidden.

Leaving my profile with Looking For Men, suggestive pics and ignoring mail would just be the height of rudeness and some ridiculous ego trip. "

I'm not rude or on an ego trip. I posted some public photos and it all went a bit mental.

I spent an hour before work going through messages and got down to just under 800. I mailed 2 back and both are now blocked because their second messages made a bit of sick come up in my mouth.

There is no way I am messaging everyone back. I haven't got time.

I've changed my profile to say 'tell me a joke' so from now on. All messages, apart from Direct from the forum, will be deleted if they haven't read my profile.

I've also hidden all my photos, which is a shame coz they were damn good photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have alot of filters applied so I get maybe 10 a day. So I do reply to them all.

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