FabSwingers.com forum: Just a fuck or more..

By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Is there a term in swinging for meets that are more than just sexual?

i.e. My fella is very much into the chase & flirting & a nice social. (In normal terms, a date.)

Whereas I prefer a couple of messages, meet & bobs your uncle!

Do other couples do this?

Send each other off on a meet where it's not just going to be just a lusty

Fuckfest?

I'm coming round to the idea but the single men on here just seem to want self gratification.

Therefore would it be better to do this with another couple?

Any thoughts on this?

Cheers. Nat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been the same as you, message, meet and fuck. Seems the safest way, not wanting to get involved with people.

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By *irstTime4everythingCouple
over a year ago

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Yea we do this, find the flirting and seduction so arousing and extremely exciting x

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Yes I agree. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've played it both ways...kinda flexible to this.

Some "meets" have been just that.....a drink, a laugh, a fuck...and that's the goal.

Others I've met have become friends...socially and even more. Some even refer to as family friends. They've met mine....I've met theirs....

At least two from fab have been shopping with my sister! I've met parents and children of others....just take it as it comes and don't stress it!

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Yea we do this, find the flirting and seduction so arousing and extremely exciting x "

And do you just meet singles or both parts of a couple separately?

How do the dynamics work for you?

I'm intrigued by it. x

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Wow. That's very open minded.

I think it does take a little more thinking about when you're a couple tho. x

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By *irstTime4everythingCouple
over a year ago

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"Yea we do this, find the flirting and seduction so arousing and extremely exciting x

And do you just meet singles or both parts of a couple separately?

How do the dynamics work for you?

I'm intrigued by it. x"

Mostly singles but sometimes couples as a full swap as in not in the same house. We've had a full night swap which was insanely hot

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Yea we do this, find the flirting and seduction so arousing and extremely exciting x

And do you just meet singles or both parts of a couple separately?

How do the dynamics work for you?

I'm intrigued by it. x

Mostly singles but sometimes couples as a full swap as in not in the same house. We've had a full night swap which was insanely hot "

So what do you put on your profile when that's what you're looking for? x

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By *irstTime4everythingCouple
over a year ago

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Your profile as it is pretty much says it, you will always get people that won't both to read or just ignore your profile but lay down your wants and rules and if they can't accommodate them then move on,

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Your profile as it is pretty much says it, you will always get people that won't both to read or just ignore your profile but lay down your wants and rules and if they can't accommodate them then move on, "

Thank you.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

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I think it just comes down to what type of people you meet..some you will click with more and then build more of a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met socially first and nothing has happened until meet 2 or 3 and then other times it's turnup get naked and fuck like mammals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather not talk at all as a lot of people put me off them once they open their mouths!

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather not talk at all as a lot of people put me off them once they open their mouths!

Ruby x"
open wide I've got something for u lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - with us it all depends on who we're in contact with. We usually like to exchange a few messages, meet and then see what happens. However we're also happy taking things slower with people depending on the circumstances.

Plus we've had our fingers burnt before with too much flirting.

Probably doesn't really answer your question lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take a fairly chilled approach in parties or clubs. But if we are meeting a single guy privately we are looking for friendship too, and ideally a sort of 'mini-relationship'. We love the flirting over a glass of wine and wondering where it's going to lead. However this does make us unsuitable for some people on Fab, but there are still plenty of lovely men who enjoy our approach. We say on our profile what we expect, so men can decide if that's for them or not. Plenty have walked away when they realise it's not 'fuck and go', but we've had some exciting fun with plenty of others.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather not talk at all as a lot of people put me off them once they open their mouths!

Ruby x"

We have similar views.

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I'd rather not talk at all as a lot of people put me off them once they open their mouths!

Ruby x

We have similar views.

Yes so do I. I think that's why I'm apprehensive about it.

He might be great in bed but dull as dishwater to chat with! Lol

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"We take a fairly chilled approach in parties or clubs. But if we are meeting a single guy privately we are looking for friendship too, and ideally a sort of 'mini-relationship'. We love the flirting over a glass of wine and wondering where it's going to lead. However this does make us unsuitable for some people on Fab, but there are still plenty of lovely men who enjoy our approach. We say on our profile what we expect, so men can decide if that's for them or not. Plenty have walked away when they realise it's not 'fuck and go', but we've had some exciting fun with plenty of others.

Mrs

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Mrs

And do you both meet like that or just you?

I can see the appeal but cautious to dip my toe in.

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"OP - with us it all depends on who we're in contact with. We usually like to exchange a few messages, meet and then see what happens. However we're also happy taking things slower with people depending on the circumstances.

Plus we've had our fingers burnt before with too much flirting.

Probably doesn't really answer your question lol. "

Just good to hear others opinions & experiences. Thanks.

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I have met socially first and nothing has happened until meet 2 or 3 and then other times it's turnup get naked and fuck like mammals "

I know it sounds odd, but I'm much more comfortable with the second option!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met socially first and nothing has happened until meet 2 or 3 and then other times it's turnup get naked and fuck like mammals

I know it sounds odd, but I'm much more comfortable with the second option!

It's not odd at all, there's a lot people out there who'd prefer that. The forums can be a bit skewed towards the social side, but the forums aren't representative of fab.

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I have met socially first and nothing has happened until meet 2 or 3 and then other times it's turnup get naked and fuck like mammals

I know it sounds odd, but I'm much more comfortable with the second option!

It's not odd at all, there's a lot people out there who'd prefer that. The forums can be a bit skewed towards the social side, but the forums aren't representative of fab. "

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I have met socially first and nothing has happened until meet 2 or 3 and then other times it's turnup get naked and fuck like mammals

I know it sounds odd, but I'm much more comfortable with the second option!

It's not odd at all, there's a lot people out there who'd prefer that. The forums can be a bit skewed towards the social side, but the forums aren't representative of fab. "

Thankyou for taking the time to reply. It's not like it's something I can chat with my best mate or sister about! Lol

Is this the m or f?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met socially first and nothing has happened until meet 2 or 3 and then other times it's turnup get naked and fuck like mammals

I know it sounds odd, but I'm much more comfortable with the second option!

It's not odd at all, there's a lot people out there who'd prefer that. The forums can be a bit skewed towards the social side, but the forums aren't representative of fab. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather not talk at all as a lot of people put me off them once they open their mouths!

Ruby x

We have similar views.

Yes so do I. I think that's why I'm apprehensive about it.

He might be great in bed but dull as dishwater to chat with! Lol"

Glad it's not just me!

Ruby x

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"I'd rather not talk at all as a lot of people put me off them once they open their mouths!

Ruby x

We have similar views.

Yes so do I. I think that's why I'm apprehensive about it.

He might be great in bed but dull as dishwater to chat with! Lol

Glad it's not just me!

Ruby x"

No definately not just you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think to many years swinging has jaded my outlook. I Dislike the flirty banter and the compliments and a guy saying what he will do to me for the following reasons

A. He has/is most likely saying exactly the same or similar to every other woman he has approached on fab...

B. I am here for fun and sex and the lies and chat up isnt needed on here.. We are on here for pretty much the same thing

C. He doesn't need me to feel special.. its just a fuck..

I have always felt like this but lately even more so.. its meeting to mutually get what we wany but predominantly we are all here to get what we personally want.

So a guy wanting a gf experience isnt going to be any good to me etc..

Ive got friends on here who would be upset if a guy left straight after sex.. yet I would throw them out.. ( as I dont play as a single it isnt something I do now ) friends that like a guy to text and tell them how much they are wanted ans how sexy they are... I would cancel on a guy for doing that.

Yet on couples meets I like to see the banter although i take a back seat myself... weird old place really

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By *aughty neighbours OP Woman
over a year ago

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"I think to many years swinging has jaded my outlook. I Dislike the flirty banter and the compliments and a guy saying what he will do to me for the following reasons

A. He has/is most likely saying exactly the same or similar to every other woman he has approached on fab...

B. I am here for fun and sex and the lies and chat up isnt needed on here.. We are on here for pretty much the same thing

C. He doesn't need me to feel special.. its just a fuck..

I have always felt like this but lately even more so.. its meeting to mutually get what we wany but predominantly we are all here to get what we personally want.

So a guy wanting a gf experience isnt going to be any good to me etc..

Yet on couples meets I like to see the banter although i take a back seat myself... weird old place really "

I can flirt in a couples situation. In general with everyone.

Just not the 1-1 stuff.

I feel like to them I'm only one step up from knocking one out themselves. So I know it's not sincere. It's just to get in my knickers.

But we're on a swingers site, & Im chatting, so chances are you'lol get in my knickers anyway! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think to many years swinging has jaded my outlook. I Dislike the flirty banter and the compliments and a guy saying what he will do to me for the following reasons

A. He has/is most likely saying exactly the same or similar to every other woman he has approached on fab...

B. I am here for fun and sex and the lies and chat up isnt needed on here.. We are on here for pretty much the same thing

C. He doesn't need me to feel special.. its just a fuck..

I have always felt like this but lately even more so.. its meeting to mutually get what we wany but predominantly we are all here to get what we personally want.

So a guy wanting a gf experience isnt going to be any good to me etc..

Yet on couples meets I like to see the banter although i take a back seat myself... weird old place really

I can flirt in a couples situation. In general with everyone.

Just not the 1-1 stuff.

I feel like to them I'm only one step up from knocking one out themselves. So I know it's not sincere. It's just to get in my knickers.

But we're on a swingers site, & Im chatting, so chances are you'lol get in my knickers anyway! Lol"

See I totally understand that mindset.. and yup as a pair with a pair I can... but well.. I like you say... its kinda like wrapping a present for myself... unneeded x yet Mr likes to flirt and chat and wine and dine when he did meet by himself. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met socially first and nothing has happened until meet 2 or 3 and then other times it's turnup get naked and fuck like mammals

I know it sounds odd, but I'm much more comfortable with the second option!

It's not odd at all, there's a lot people out there who'd prefer that. The forums can be a bit skewed towards the social side, but the forums aren't representative of fab.

Thankyou for taking the time to reply. It's not like it's something I can chat with my best mate or sister about! Lol

Is this the m or f? "

It's the Mr here, normally me on the forums. Mrs lurks mainly, I think if she started posting on here she'd get a forum ban within 10 minutes

We mainly play together but we've experimented a lot with meeting on our own, and one offs, regular meets etc

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