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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi to all i,ve been on this site for about a year now and have probably sent about 115 emails on in all that time i have had not one meet with any couples or females so i think i must be doing somthing wrong so all you happy people out there please idvise me on how to get some fun .as thats all im looking for cheers strongbow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile needs improvement and punctuation and you could do with some more photos - a cock shot does nothing for me personally. Plus, I'm not being funny but you've sent on average 1 message every 3 days, the odds are against you so you might want to think about sending a few more. Don't make them cut and paste though, that'll do you no favours.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lazy" profile - I not saying you were lazy when you wrote it, it's never easy writing about yourself, but you are giving people nothing to get interested in.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Hi to all i,ve been on this site for about a year now and have probably sent about 115 emails on in all that time i have had not one meet with any couples or females so i think i must be doing somthing wrong so all you happy people out there please idvise me on how to get some fun .as thats all im looking for cheers strongbow "

Well, looking at your Profile, I'm not surprised you have failed to get any response.

You need to fill out your profile a bit more. The main problem is, it's one long continuous sentence. You have said it as if you were talking with no pauses to draw breath. You have to break it down into paragraphs at least; if not, into separate sentences.

Use punctuation, and Capital Letters where appropriate. You're seeking people, not dunces.

The main trap you have fallen into, is that you have not "sold" yourself here. You wouldn't send out a Job Application letter in the same style - you'd get nowhere! Thus, in the same manner, you don't cheapen your profile here! You have to "sell yourself"

One VERY crucial point! Is that the only photo you possess? That cock shot "kills" your profile. Ditch it now!

Take all comments constructively!

Good Luck.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Well, assuming you are sending well written and interesting intro pm's then it's just a waiting game in many respects. The volume of messages ladies and couples gets goes against you and sometimes your message just gets deleted in a bulk delete when they log on after 3 days and find 100 messages.

Send a message that leaves them wanting to ask you a question, that leaves them intrigued.

Assuming they look at your message then their next stop is your profile, so I would say loose the cock pic and put it in private, get some nice torso and bum pics on your profile instead. Get a nice face pic done and send it with each message.

Make the text more interesting, you need to show people what makes you different. Maybe a passion you have for something, maybe your wit or intelligence or some interesting hobby etc.

Your profile needs to say 'I'm different from the other 5000 single guys on here'.

Getting meets at a club or party and getting verified a bit more from those could well help as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your location to "Bamford", they`ll think your minted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not fair to dis someone for not using punctuation , im not good with it but can still get point across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Change your location to "Bamford", they`ll think your minted. "

He might well be minted and that could attract some interest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Change your location to "Bamford", they`ll think your minted.

He might well be minted and that could attract some interest! "

Shallow I know, but true.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull


"not fair to dis someone for not using punctuation , im not good with it but can still get point across "

Maybe so to some, and I agree that some people can find it hard.

But, on the other hand, spelling, grammar and punctuation errors can be a "turn-off" to a lot of people. The same comments have been made by others on here, to similar questions asked by posters, so it isn't just me.

And as I said in my reply above, treat the comments as constructive - that makes a difference, and it isn't dissing the guy!

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Change your location to "Bamford", they`ll think your minted.

He might well be minted and that could attract some interest!

Shallow I know, but true. "

Highly attractive is power and money.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Lesson one. Change your avatar pic for one of your chest or something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the comments above about punctuation, lose the cock-shot and add some nice bum/chest pics.

Also, your profile needs to be l o n g e r! "I know what you're looking for so if that's what you're looking for" .... what the heck does this mean???? We're all looking for DIFFERENT things, so this blanket statement ("I'll do anything for a shag", basically) makes you look desperate.

Think through what you have that a couple/lady will find 'special', add this to your profile, and then you won't blend into the background so much.

Good luck!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"not fair to dis someone for not using punctuation , im not good with it but can still get point across "

I'm certain Genguy wasn't being disrespectful, just pointing out that some people find it a bit of a turn off on a profile. Your profile is like an advert and badly punctuated or presented text can stop someone reading that advert, no matter how good the product.

If anyone has trouble with such things then ask for help on site to 'tidy up' your text. There would always be people willing to help I'm sure.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"not fair to dis someone for not using punctuation , im not good with it but can still get point across

Maybe so to some, and I agree that some people can find it hard.

But, on the other hand, spelling, grammar and punctuation errors can be a "turn-off" to a lot of people. The same comments have been made by others on here, to similar questions asked by posters, so it isn't just me.

And as I said in my reply above, treat the comments as constructive - that makes a difference, and it isn't dissing the guy!"

And there is a difference between errors and not using punctuation at all.i pop on and off fab so dont take long about posts,and am guilty of text speak,but i hope my comments are comprehensible.No one is expecting an in depth debate about the oxford comma,but one long sentence is hard to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I really do hope you take the above comments and advice on board. You are in a majority being a single male and you really do need to put yourself on a pedestal by using your profile.

Some women like to see a cock pic straight away but it seems the majority (including myself) prefer to see them in the private gallery. Face, bum and torso pics are fairly popular and favourable with me..... errr I mean the ladies

Go on... make a bit me effort and reap the rewards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% change your profile pic! thats not gona help you at all! leave something to the imagination! lol

your profile is pony! but mine is not much better so dont worry lol listen to what these guys have said, you wont go far wrong.

good luck...... but not to much luck, save some for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never, never want to meet anyone based on a cock pic - so would definitely add to everything already written and ask you to swap it for one of your face/body - it does it for some but not for all - different strokes I guess....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personaly a cock pic does very little for us,but certainly gives us a little insite to the person than a profile with no picture at all. As with the puncuation and grammar, if you think you may be perceived badly for your lack of english grammar, spelling & grammar can be corrected using google. However, bad grammar is by no degree a sign that someone is of low intelect, and be honest how many profiles are totally illegible, surely we can all fill in the spaces and understand the main message thay have written.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

put some more work in to your profile its a bit short more detail and more about what you like a few more pics as well, cock pics do work i can tell you that stick at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not fair to dis someone for not using punctuation , im not good with it but can still get point across "

You could write your profile in word? You could then spell and punctuation check it and paste it into your profile. Where there's a will there's a way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is also an easy rule to follow for punctuation. If you need to breathe, it's a full stop. If you need to pause for a half breath, it's a comma. That's all you need really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi to all i,ve been on this site for about a year now and have probably sent about 115 emails on in all that time i have had not one meet with any couples or females so i think i must be doing somthing wrong so all you happy people out there please idvise me on how to get some fun .as thats all im looking for cheers strongbow

Well, looking at your Profile, I'm not surprised you have failed to get any response.

You need to fill out your profile a bit more. The main problem is, it's one long continuous sentence. You have said it as if you were talking with no pauses to draw breath. You have to break it down into paragraphs at least; if not, into separate sentences.

Use punctuation, and Capital Letters where appropriate. You're seeking people, not dunces.

The main trap you have fallen into, is that you have not "sold" yourself here. You wouldn't send out a Job Application letter in the same style - you'd get nowhere! Thus, in the same manner, you don't cheapen your profile here! You have to "sell yourself"

One VERY crucial point! Is that the only photo you possess? That cock shot "kills" your profile. Ditch it now!

Take all comments constructively!

Good Luck."

*Nods in total agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly a cock pic does very little for us,but certainly gives us a little insite to the person than a profile with no picture at all. As with the puncuation and grammar, if you think you may be perceived badly for your lack of english grammar, spelling & grammar can be corrected using google. However, bad grammar is by no degree a sign that someone is of low intelect, and be honest how many profiles are totally illegible, surely we can all fill in the spaces and understand the main message thay have written."

Indeed, but why use a Rosetta Stone to decipher messages when some men are able to construct one? I know which profile would get my interest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus if you have'nt had much luck this last year broaden your horizon and try some socials put names to faces. They are great ice breakers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other thing you are doing wrong is using your profile as your main "hello". I've been on this site 4 weeks as a couple profile and I know that's wrong.

As a single guy you need to be using messages as your initial "hello" to people on the site. The hook to get them to look at your profile if you will. Then you use your profile to sell "you" to them.

Sadly, saying you are a nice guy tends to send "sad lonely creep" vibes to people. I know that there are nice men out there, but there are many borderline psycho's calling themselves "nice guys"

As other have said. Get better pics on your profile. I've had a play with your profile text. Fab people, would this hook you any better (this is my first "guy" profile go and is based on matey boy's profile text):-

Hi, I'm looking for good clean adult fun with women or couples.

I'm not new to the scene and I'm into most things, as you'll see from the list in my profile below! If you don't see something you'd like to try, ask me and maybe I can help you?

I'm non-pushy and willing to travel to see other non-pushy people for fun. In bed the pleasure of the woman is my only priority and I don't rest until she is TOTALLY satisfied.

I hope to hear back from you soon.

If not I hope you have fun on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the sort of things you are looking for so if that's what you are looking for. ??????????? says nowt.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Agree with the other advice you have given.....

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Still got that cock pic I see... mmmmm

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