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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Our relationship wouldn't end without swinging. Swinging is just a lovely bonus.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

We could give it up tomorrow and it would have zero effect other than we'd need a new hobby to fill our weekends with.

In my honest opinion, if swinging is holding anyone's relationship together it's just papering over the cracks and they're destined to break up sooner rather than later sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together? "
Ooooh now there's a question!! I would like to say no but....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all. Swinging together should be built up on a relationship of love and trust. If either one of us wanted to stop we would but whilst we are having fun we know we love and respect each other more than swinging itself.

We met as singles who both swing so it was a natural progression to do it together. But ultimately our relationship and family come first away from swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, swinging is an extension of our sex life, not a replacement or a glue for it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No

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By *mber GamblerCouple
over a year ago

rugby

No. It's just a thing we do on the side. We love each other dearly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon swinging saves a lot of marriages as after years together they get bored with eachother, so this is an acceptable form instead of cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together? "

Of course you aren't going to get any couples on here admitting their relationship was anything but perfect. For us, we rarely meet as we spend so much of our time with family things together. We don't have swingers in our social group so life goes on

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I reckon swinging saves a lot of marriages as after years together they get bored with eachother, so this is an acceptable form instead of cheating."

And I reckon you're wrong.

Couples who do it to save their marriage are more than likely just delaying the inevitable. There may be some whose marriage it saved but they will be few and far between.

Almost every couple we met and chatted to over the last ten years absolutely adore each other, even more so than any vanilla couple we've ever met. Couples in the lifestyle tend to be more open and honest with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we were married 15 years before we started swinging lol so wouldn't change that at all if we gave in this lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together?

Of course you aren't going to get any couples on here admitting their relationship was anything but perfect. For us, we rarely meet as we spend so much of our time with family things together. We don't have swingers in our social group so life goes on "

That's us too. X

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I reckon swinging saves a lot of marriages as after years together they get bored with eachother, so this is an acceptable form instead of cheating.

And I reckon you're wrong.

Couples who do it to save their marriage are more than likely just delaying the inevitable. There may be some whose marriage it saved but they will be few and far between.

Almost every couple we met and chatted to over the last ten years absolutely adore each other, even more so than any vanilla couple we've ever met. Couples in the lifestyle tend to be more open and honest with each other."

have to agree with shave to be honest. Most couples we know are not swingers though, and their marriages seem very solid. Many many couples we have talked to at parties and clubs and seen around the scene dont seem as secure by a long way. I just think people need to not see swinging through rose coloured glasses ... relationships are about the people involved, not whether they are swingers

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No, not at all.

I mean, monogamy fills me with a kind of dread, but I adore my other half and I would totally not be bothered if that's what he wanted. I just want him to be happy.

I'd just go back to outrageous flirting

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By *xkinkycouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

Not at all. If a relationship is souling on swinging then its already over, relationship has to be strong enough and you know and trust and can communicate about anything, swinging is an extra, not an essential.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all, our relationship is not based around swinging. Swinging is just an added part of our relationship, which we both enjoy.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"We could give it up tomorrow and it would have zero effect other than we'd need a new hobby to fill our weekends with.

In my honest opinion, if swinging is holding anyone's relationship together it's just papering over the cracks and they're destined to break up sooner rather than later sadly."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together? "

No & no. It has no importance at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can swing because our relationship is so strong.

We don't swing to fill a void. We swing to compliment an already fantastic loving relationship

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we met on here but I reckon we'd be together and very happy if we werent on here anymore xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together? Ooooh now there's a question!! I would like to say no but.... "
This was a tongue in cheek comment. We met on here and have been a couple for just over 5 years. So this lifestyle has become a part of us but isn't all that we are, and there is so much more than swinging that cements us. I think if anything it helps toward a stronger togetherness.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together?

Of course you aren't going to get any couples on here admitting their relationship was anything but perfect. For us, we rarely meet as we spend so much of our time with family things together. We don't have swingers in our social group so life goes on

That's us too. X"

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By *arried West End CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

No, it's just an added buzz that we are both really enjoying x

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By *aughtibearMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

I'm probably in the wrong place but, fuck it, any suggestions would most welcome. I'm a 45yr old active fully bi guy and I'm dating a 30yr old "verbally" bi girl. We had been seeing other people but always hooked up to have sex, me with another womans cum over me n her full of another guys cum, I loved it, loved knowing I was licking him from her and she said she loved sucking them from me and after we had a straight guy and she saw me getting all bi on his ass, quite literally, we hooked up on the agreement wed carry on fucking others but strictly as a cpl. It seems that as soon as the bf/gf tag was put on, everyone was a threat or I only thought about sex if it included another, neither true, I also discovered that one of her bi experiences was a lie cobbled together by her mate and her to tease me making a grand total of same sex experiences to 1 when she was a teen arguably during the experimentation period. I have not seen 1 iota of lust for another woman from her whereas I know, in the right situation, I am all in. Over the last 18months we tried fab but there always be some problem with those showing an interest and I'm now convinced we're seen as time wasters due to her refusing anyone she considered better looking, thinner, possibly more talented, etc, etc. I want to fuck guys and girls and I'd like to do it with a like minded girl, I thought she was it. Please help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite what everyone is saying above (let's be honest who's going to say their marriage is anything other than rock solid to each other) any relationship where the sex life is suddenly changed radically is bound to be impacted.

If swinging is an important part of a couples sex life and all of a sudden the buzz of sex with multiple partners is taken away if one partner decides they don't want to do it any more then it's bound to have an effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together? "

Heck no. We didn't get into swinging to save our marriage or anything like that. We got into because of fantasies and excitement together.

We are strong with or without it.

Eve. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together?

Of course you aren't going to get any couples on here admitting their relationship was anything but perfect. For us, we rarely meet as we spend so much of our time with family things together. We don't have swingers in our social group so life goes on "

Ditto to this! X

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I reckon swinging saves a lot of marriages as after years together they get bored with eachother, so this is an acceptable form instead of cheating."

It is the opposite with us sex between us is always exciting and fresh whereas meets can quickly become boring.

We have been married over 30 years and could not envisage life without the other, but could envisage life without swinging.

Some couples may/do use swinging as a prop but those couples are more often than not couples in which one party is not committed to the marriage.

Then there are also couples whose life is in a rut and they use swinging as the spice to add excitement they would probably miss swinging and could break up without it.

But the same could be said about single people who swing, some use it as a hobby, others use it as a drug and some use it as a way to find a future lifelong partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like going on a roller coater great fun while you're on the ride and the build up to the thrill is delicious, but it's still the two of us leaving together after the ride and we can give it a miss and carry on with our relationship without said roller coaster.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. THE MOORLANDS. BARMOUTH.

We are a totally solid couple. We have been married 35 years, A marriage which like every marriage has had its fair share of up's and down's. It's how you deal with the downs that count. We are extremely happy together, we can chat about everything and anything. Enjoy a good laugh. And sometimes communicate without a word spoken.

Does swinging glue our marriage ? Absolutely not. It's just a fun night out. We go together and come home together.

Could we give it up and stay together after ? Absolutely yes. We have a fantastic life, and a fantastic family and friends. Long may we reign together. xxxxxx Suzi

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen


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In my honest opinion, if swinging is holding anyone's relationship together it's just papering over the cracks and they're destined to break up sooner rather than later sadly."

This 'nails it'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think your relationship would end if you weren't swinging? Does it hold you both together? "

I assume many have ended from swinging

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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

It's our hobby, some people build ships in bottles, some people collect stamps... some go out bowling - we swing.

We make good friends, get to see the country and keeps us fit. We met on fab but if for whatever reason we had to stop swinging we would just find another hobby.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

No.

How would fucking other people keep us together if our relationship was already in trouble??

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Despite what everyone is saying above (let's be honest who's going to say their marriage is anything other than rock solid to each other) any relationship where the sex life is suddenly changed radically is bound to be impacted.

If swinging is an important part of a couples sex life and all of a sudden the buzz of sex with multiple partners is taken away if one partner decides they don't want to do it any more then it's bound to have an effect. "

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