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By *eeg OP   Man
over a year ago

taunton

can you have such a thing as too many verifies does it put people off?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I'd say that 50+ could be a tad off-putting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For many on here you can have too many veris .

But ask yourself a question . If they figure you have too many , are they the type of people you want you want to meet ?

Clearly they wouldn't want to meet you if they consider you have too many . So why bother hiding them in order to get a meet with someone who isn't going to be on the same wavelength ?

It's a swinging site , so there will inevitably those who see it as such and don't think about the fact that lots of people aren't into those who meet lots of people . Like us , but we gave up giving a second thought to those who judged us a long time ago .

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd say that 50+ could be a tad off-putting...

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Why?

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I'm really not judging anyone.

Maybe I'm just jealous

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By *anoffee pieWoman
over a year ago

baking pies in my kitchen

I could be hiding 200 verifications and only showing a few!!!! How would you know?

Also, many veries could be from social meets.

Stop fretting about it, if the person fits then relax and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say that 50+ could be a tad off-putting...

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Better not say how many I had on my old profile then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once started a thread about why people are put off people with 'too many' verifications. The overriding feedback was that people 'wanted to feel special'. Surely people join the swing scene to embrace the freedom of being able to enjoy multiple partners without judgement? It raises the question 'what is too promiscuous for a swinger?' Makes me wonder if people are bringing vanilla values to swinging. I joined the swing scene to get away for that.

Mrs

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I once started a thread about why people are put off people with 'too many' verifications. The overriding feedback was that people 'wanted to feel special'. Surely people join the swing scene to embrace the freedom of being able to enjoy multiple partners without judgement? It raises the question 'what is too promiscuous for a swinger?' Makes me wonder if people are bringing vanilla values to swinging. I joined the swing scene to get away for that.

Mrs"

Someone I knew was always put-off by someone with lots of veris. Maybe he clouded my opiniin?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"I'd say that 50+ could be a tad off-putting...

Why?"

It shouldn't be, as others have said.

But it's been clearly demonstrated many times, so I'm going to credit this as objectivity, not a personal opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't care less . We care about them turning up and us all having a good time. How many verifications someone has doesn't affect either of those

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"Someone I knew was always put-off by someone with lots of veris. Maybe he clouded my opiniin? "

Let me apply a little logic. As soon as anyone has been on here a year, you can no longer tell over how long their veris were accumulated. Use me as an example - if I've been here 13 months, I'm a legend amongst single men, or if I've been here 10 years I'm getting laid about every six months!

And even that logic only works if you assume that every veri is a play one - and you will know how many of yours are, so could apply that proportion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you look at people with a lot of verifications you usually find a lot of them are from people they have bumped into in a club or at a social or a party . Verification can also mean you've met them on a social level as well so don't judge ,they may just be friendly outgoing people

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I once started a thread about why people are put off people with 'too many' verifications. The overriding feedback was that people 'wanted to feel special'. Surely people join the swing scene to embrace the freedom of being able to enjoy multiple partners without judgement? It raises the question 'what is too promiscuous for a swinger?' Makes me wonder if people are bringing vanilla values to swinging. I joined the swing scene to get away for that.

Mrs"

As I don't read them or even look at them I couldn't careless as to number of. all I care about is do you have that certain something that will inspire me to want to play and the only way to find that out is to chat to you and eventually meet you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone I knew was always put-off by someone with lots of veris. Maybe he clouded my opiniin?

Let me apply a little logic. As soon as anyone has been on here a year, you can no longer tell over how long their veris were accumulated. Use me as an example - if I've been here 13 months, I'm a legend amongst single men, or if I've been here 10 years I'm getting laid about every six months!

And even that logic only works if you assume that every veri is a play one - and you will know how many of yours are, so could apply that proportion.

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Mmmm in some cases you can, as your have been over 7 years

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Someone I knew was always put-off by someone with lots of veris. Maybe he clouded my opiniin?

Let me apply a little logic. As soon as anyone has been on here a year, you can no longer tell over how long their veris were accumulated. Use me as an example - if I've been here 13 months, I'm a legend amongst single men, or if I've been here 10 years I'm getting laid about every six months!

And even that logic only works if you assume that every veri is a play one - and you will know how many of yours are, so could apply that proportion.

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Finally someone with a brain!

I have a lot of verifications - but I've also been on here years and have had many many socials.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"can you have such a thing as too many verifies does it put people off?"

Just lie.

Let's say you have sex once a week with different people. You know 'swinging'. It adds up quickly. That's just you having great sex as nature intended.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What they said *points finger up*

I love this site to bits but it is simultaneously the most open minded yet judgemental place I've ever come across *laughs*

I wouldn't worry too much about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What they said *points finger up*

I love this site to bits but it is simultaneously the most open minded yet judgemental place I've ever come across *laughs*

I wouldn't worry too much about it!"

You've hit the nail on the head !!! I had someone message us once really interested in meeting us. Put a status up that we were having a gangbang and he messaged us to say he in had now been put off and wanted us to block him lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I could be hiding 200 verifications and only showing a few!!!! How would you know?

Also, many veries could be from social meets.

Stop fretting about it, if the person fits then relax and have fun."

This.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I have quite a few from socials and club visits (and maybe the occasional club meet). I can't be bothered with the hassle and judgement that occurs so hide mine but I wish I was confident enough to think fuck it. I don't think the amount matters - if they've chosen to spend time with you, let them use your cock/orifices it shouldn't matter how many there have been before you.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

yep; 500 or more, put me off

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By *eeg OP   Man
over a year ago

taunton

thanks for your views it was just someone said I had too many because I had 14 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many verifications from all new people might paint the picture of a player. Some women aren't interested in being a name on a long list or "a notch on a bed post"

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