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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham

Following on from the poppers thread,what do people think of those who seemingly have to be d*unk to play?

i have observed this quite a few times at clubs, especially amongst women,nothing happening until they are almost mortal.Some might say it is dutch courage,but to my mind if you need a drink to play,you should really consider whether swinging is for you.

D*unkenness is also very unsexy.What do others think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to say I agree on both counts. It's one thing enjoying a drink like you would on any evening out. But totally different thing to need it to play. Plus, as you say, nothing worse than someone who's d*unk when it comes to playing if they're really far gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drinking and swinging is like drinking and driving.

No matter why you do it it'll always end badly.

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"Got to say I agree on both counts. It's one thing enjoying a drink like you would on any evening out. But totally different thing to need it to play. Plus, as you say, nothing worse than someone who's d*unk when it comes to playing if they're really far gone. "

But it happens all too often, i do wonder about consent,and wish clubs would do more to get d*unk ppl to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be aware of what I am doing. Plus I want to enjoy and remember my evenings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean but I'm not apposed to a couple of drinks. I've also been to a club and seen women (I only say women cause that's what I've whitnessed) bladdered! I agree that a swinging club is not the place to be that d*unk! If your that d*unk you don't know what your doing which means your left open for people to take advantage!

And some men will try and take advantage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

drinking and swinging.

piss heads 90% of the time in chat of an evening.

falling asleep on cam or typing absolute rubbish which no one can understand.

yes its a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got to say I agree on both counts. It's one thing enjoying a drink like you would on any evening out. But totally different thing to need it to play. Plus, as you say, nothing worse than someone who's d*unk when it comes to playing if they're really far gone.

But it happens all too often, i do wonder about consent,and wish clubs would do more to get d*unk ppl to leave. "

Yes I've seen it a number of times at Chams and it does make you wonder. It's bad enough when it's someone from a couple with at least one person looking out for them. But I do worry when I see single females barely able to stand.

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"I know what you mean but I'm not apposed to a couple of drinks. I've also been to a club and seen women (I only say women cause that's what I've whitnessed) bladdered! I agree that a swinging club is not the place to be that d*unk! If your that d*unk you don't know what your doing which means your left open for people to take advantage!

And some men will try and take advantage!

"

That is very true,i do think clubs should try to police this more.But even worse to my mind are the couples where the male is plying his partner with drink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If folk need to be d*unk to swing then they've chosen the wrong hobby.

The two just don't fit comfortably together.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If folk need to be d*unk to swing then they've chosen the wrong hobby.

The two just don't fit comfortably together.

XXXX"

agreed

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"If folk need to be d*unk to swing then they've chosen the wrong hobby.

The two just don't fit comfortably together.

XXXX"

A couple of times i have taken the female to one side,to try to have a quiet word.But it is still the case that at any party or social there seem to be an idea everyone will drink heavily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from the poppers thread,what do people think of those who seemingly have to be d*unk to play?

i have observed this quite a few times at clubs, especially amongst women,nothing happening until they are almost mortal.Some might say it is dutch courage,but to my mind if you need a drink to play,you should really consider whether swinging is for you.

D*unkenness is also very unsexy.What do others think?"

can only agree.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Following on from the poppers thread,what do people think of those who seemingly have to be d*unk to play?

i have observed this quite a few times at clubs, especially amongst women,nothing happening until they are almost mortal.Some might say it is dutch courage,but to my mind if you need a drink to play,you should really consider whether swinging is for you.

D*unkenness is also very unsexy.What do others

think?"

Totally agree! Besides being counter productive in the erection stakes, smelling like a pub carpet is very unattractive for either sex and after using the loos at chams after someone's up chucked is delightful not!

Plus if you need to be ask the q why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"............

That is very true,i do think clubs should try to police this more.But even worse to my mind are the couples where the male is plying his partner with drink! "

You see quite a bit of this on the dogging scene.

The 'wife' will be happily swallowing away from a bottle of 'diet ' but, as the blether progresses, it becomes increasing obvious that the contents are probably more vodka than .

That's the time to make your excuses and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most people drink heavy when depressed about something.

often it shows at parties when they feel they are not getting enough attention.

its always sad to see a nice looking woman in bits because shes unhappy.

the drink just makes it worse.

i dont drink myself as i have a family member who has been a hard drinker for years and ruined her life and others from it.

drinking socially is fine but it seems far to many go passed this and it does become ugly.

sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind taking a bottle of wine with me if visiting chams...

I have also had a few voddies but dont get legless.

Why....

Anyways...i would never make it up and down all them bloody stairs. lmao

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"............

That is very true,i do think clubs should try to police this more.But even worse to my mind are the couples where the male is plying his partner with drink!

You see quite a bit of this on the dogging scene.

The 'wife' will be happily swallowing away from a bottle of 'diet ' but, as the blether progresses, it becomes increasing obvious that the contents are probably more vodka than .

That's the time to make your excuses and leave."

ohhh you know about dogging!

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I know that for some people I have met, they have wanted a drink or two; it was their own choice, almost Dutch Courage, as the saying goes!

As for me, it doesn't apply ever. 'Cos, I am that really rare breed, the Teetotal Scotsman!! Yep, I know that sounds odd, but it is true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If folk need to be d*unk to swing then they've chosen the wrong hobby.

The two just don't fit comfortably together.

XXXX"

I'm going to disagree to some extent because I'm assuming that when everyone is talking about drinking and swinging they are picturing someone arseholed.

People can drink and keep it in moderation. Whats wrong with that? Your still capable of making decisions and enforcing them!

Yes someone who's bladdered isn't attractive and being in that state doesn't go with swinging. I agree with that completely for reason's I've already mentioned. But I don't see anything wrong with a couple of "sociables"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And have to admit that a few bacardis and s makes me even randier...

dont know why as its only that drink that does it. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes I like to just get fucked, if I make an arse of myself thats that, iknowtheres other times where I wont and know theres other times where I will.And never been chucked out a club or party for gettin too pished...altho sometimes I surprise myself and discover ive shagged more than i thot lol

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By *atladyCouple
over a year ago

wigan

vodka does it 4 me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sometimes I like to just get fucked, if I make an arse of myself thats that, iknowtheres other times where I wont and know theres other times where I will.And never been chucked out a club or party for gettin too pished...altho sometimes I surprise myself and discover ive shagged more than i thot lol"

See I'd dissagree with that. Each to their own but if I wanted to just get pissed I'd go out on the piss.

Having been to several clubs when I was part of a couple I don't think I'd be to impressed with someone who was bladdered slobbering all over the missus. Bearing in mind that no matter how smooth you think your being when your bladdered you really are just slobbering!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And have to admit that a few bacardis and s makes me even randier...

dont know why as its only that drink that does it. ? "

Because it loosens you up. Not that you could get much looser from looking at your profile you filthy mare lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And have to admit that a few bacardis and s makes me even randier...

dont know why as its only that drink that does it. ?

Because it loosens you up. Not that you could get much looser from looking at your profile you filthy mare lol "

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sometimes I like to just get fucked, if I make an arse of myself thats that, iknowtheres other times where I wont and know theres other times where I will.And never been chucked out a club or party for gettin too pished...altho sometimes I surprise myself and discover ive shagged more than i thot lol

See I'd dissagree with that. Each to their own but if I wanted to just get pissed I'd go out on the piss.

Having been to several clubs when I was part of a couple I don't think I'd be to impressed with someone who was bladdered slobbering all over the missus. Bearing in mind that no matter how smooth you think your being when your bladdered you really are just slobbering!!! "

aye but we expect some slabberin in scotland, cheers for yer input tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

aye but we expect some slabberin in scotland, cheers for yer input tho lol"

PMSL well if anyone can get away with it it's the jocks lol. Can't fault you for your banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

aye but we expect some slabberin in scotland, cheers for yer input tho lol

PMSL well if anyone can get away with it it's the jocks lol. Can't fault you for your banter "

well geez yer ex partners number, i'll shag her while i swallow a bucket of buckfast!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

aye but we expect some slabberin in scotland, cheers for yer input tho lol

PMSL well if anyone can get away with it it's the jocks lol. Can't fault you for your banter

well geez yer ex partners number, i'll shag her while i swallow a bucket of buckfast!!!"

PMSL You've probably already been there Come to mention it there was a couple of empty buckfast bottles in the recycling not so long back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

aye but we expect some slabberin in scotland, cheers for yer input tho lol

PMSL well if anyone can get away with it it's the jocks lol. Can't fault you for your banter

well geez yer ex partners number, i'll shag her while i swallow a bucket of buckfast!!!

PMSL You've probably already been there Come to mention it there was a couple of empty buckfast bottles in the recycling not so long back "

perfectly acceptable as cheap alternatives of sex toys! hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

buckfast! eck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When going to a club I only ever take a bottle of wine or a half bottle of vodka, thats what I no is my limit, for me being nicely happy but not d*unk.

In the house on a 1 on 1 meet, depends who im meeting, if its someone newish, I still watch what I drink, and I pour my own.

If its someone I know pretty well, and the drinking head is on, then yes, now and again I have been known to get d*unk.

Its about being comfy, I wouldnt be happy in a club/house party d*unk. I like to know what im doing and who im doing. 1 to 1 with someone I know, its like a night in with a mate.

The worst thing I have seen in a club, was some woman in her 20's come up to me after playing, so d*unk she could hardly speak, to tell me that she was 'dripping with cum'. And that wasnt from her mouth or her face! I dont even want to imagine how many men she had fucked bareback.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Gave up getting too pissed many years ago when I had to ask my mates who I had to apologize to next day!

Still like a drink though. hic

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"most people drink heavy when depressed about something.

often it shows at parties when they feel they are not getting enough attention.

its always sad to see a nice looking woman in bits because shes unhappy.

the drink just makes it worse.

i dont drink myself as i have a family member who has been a hard drinker for years and ruined her life and others from it.

drinking socially is fine but it seems far to many go passed this and it does become ugly.

sad. "

Not sure I agree with you about the aetiology of heavy drinking - it seems to me depression is as often an after effect of problem drinking as the cause.

However, I do think heavy drinking and good sex are rarely compatible. Since risk and edginess are pretty much central to what I do being sober enough to assess risk and having good co-ordination are pretty much essential for me.

It's also nice to go for a pint without sexual tension ruining the occasion - although the mix can be fun within limits...

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"If folk need to be d*unk to swing then they've chosen the wrong hobby.

The two just don't fit comfortably together.

XXXX

I'm going to disagree to some extent because I'm assuming that when everyone is talking about drinking and swinging they are picturing someone arseholed.

People can drink and keep it in moderation. Whats wrong with that? Your still capable of making decisions and enforcing them!

Yes someone who's bladdered isn't attractive and being in that state doesn't go with swinging. I agree with that completely for reason's I've already mentioned. But I don't see anything wrong with a couple of "sociables"

"

Me neither,but i have yet to go to a club where there isnt some woman who is totally pissed and playing.The domestics between couples i have witnessed have always involved the man being d*unk too.

It would be fine if everyone knew there limits,but since they don't i am just floating the idea that a teetotal night might be a good idea.

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"most people drink heavy when depressed about something.

often it shows at parties when they feel they are not getting enough attention.

its always sad to see a nice looking woman in bits because shes unhappy.

the drink just makes it worse.

i dont drink myself as i have a family member who has been a hard drinker for years and ruined her life and others from it.

drinking socially is fine but it seems far to many go passed this and it does become ugly.

sad.

Not sure I agree with you about the aetiology of heavy drinking - it seems to me depression is as often an after effect of problem drinking as the cause.

However, I do think heavy drinking and good sex are rarely compatible. Since risk and edginess are pretty much central to what I do being sober enough to assess risk and having good co-ordination are pretty much essential for me.

It's also nice to go for a pint without sexual tension ruining the occasion - although the mix can be fun within limits..."

Oh the mix can be excellent

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"most people drink heavy when depressed about something.

often it shows at parties when they feel they are not getting enough attention.

its always sad to see a nice looking woman in bits because shes unhappy.

the drink just makes it worse.

i dont drink myself as i have a family member who has been a hard drinker for years and ruined her life and others from it.

drinking socially is fine but it seems far to many go passed this and it does become ugly.

sad.

Not sure I agree with you about the aetiology of heavy drinking - it seems to me depression is as often an after effect of problem drinking as the cause.

However, I do think heavy drinking and good sex are rarely compatible. Since risk and edginess are pretty much central to what I do being sober enough to assess risk and having good co-ordination are pretty much essential for me.

It's also nice to go for a pint without sexual tension ruining the occasion - although the mix can be fun within limits...

Oh the mix can be excellent "

So long as you can find the train home and I don't bump into my boss, lol...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

and that is the reason i don't drink in clubs....

I have seen men in them so hammered they have fallen down stairs....

I have seen women in them so hammered they have passed out....

and I'd never want to be in a situation where I was so valunerable in a club where I couldn't look after myself.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have been on a social and had a few drinks and been in a state lol

so now i dont drink alot on a social meet unless i know its not to play

i know my limits but a drink is ok but to the point u are hammered no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I don't mind a couple of sociable drinks if im playing,but being really horny is a fabulous natural high that is more than enough to cope with though..........plus you don't get a hangover,you don't lose sensation and you remember every detail

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"most people drink heavy when depressed about something.

often it shows at parties when they feel they are not getting enough attention.

its always sad to see a nice looking woman in bits because shes unhappy.

the drink just makes it worse.

i dont drink myself as i have a family member who has been a hard drinker for years and ruined her life and others from it.

drinking socially is fine but it seems far to many go passed this and it does become ugly.

sad.

Not sure I agree with you about the aetiology of heavy drinking - it seems to me depression is as often an after effect of problem drinking as the cause.

However, I do think heavy drinking and good sex are rarely compatible. Since risk and edginess are pretty much central to what I do being sober enough to assess risk and having good co-ordination are pretty much essential for me.

It's also nice to go for a pint without sexual tension ruining the occasion - although the mix can be fun within limits...

Oh the mix can be excellent

So long as you can find the train home and I don't bump into my boss, lol..."

i think he liked me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tl:dr replies.

I prefer to be d*unk due to courage and body issues. Sue me.

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"tl:dr replies.

I prefer to be d*unk due to courage and body issues. Sue me."

i wont sue you , i dont know you, if i did i would want to have a very serious chat about swinging tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patronising much?

I don't get absolutely hammered, I just like a few drinks.

Each to his own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting my sensible head back on it's worth remembering that having sex with a woman who is too d*unk to consent could get a guy into serious trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Patronising much?

I don't get absolutely hammered, I just like a few drinks.

Each to his own.

"

That's not the same thing as "I prefer to be d*unk".

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, let me rephrase then "I like to have a few drinks in order to lose my inhibitions."

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"Patronising much?

I don't get absolutely hammered, I just like a few drinks.

Each to his own.

"

A few drinks isnt what you said,you admitted to body issues,needing courage and getting d*unk.

i wasn't patronising,just trying to avoid giving a personal view of why i don't think that is a good thing.

But hey ,if you want to get into it,feel free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See above rephrase.

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"Ok, let me rephrase then "I like to have a few drinks in order to lose my inhibitions."

"

Again, i would say , if you need to drink to loose them , think seriously about whether swinging is for you.

i wud be pissed a lot of lunchtimes

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no."

i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape.

Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a couple of drinks but only as I would on a normal night out. Mr WS always drives and has a clear head. I only have a couple as I like to remember all the pleasures of the night before!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I need to question whether it's for me at all.

As someone who is new to this and with limited experience, obviously I am going to be lacking in confidence to start with. Such is my choice.

Like I said, to each his own.

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford


"

i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape.

Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent?"

Thats a valid point you have raised, and in our eyes its tantamount to it but you see it happening on weekend nights all over. I guess we have too many principles but thats just us.

I certainly wouldnt want it playing on my mind thats for sure

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Actually I have less problems with single girls getting d*unk, than I do with ladies in couples.

If a single girl has walked into a swingers club, whether she is sobber, tipsy or wasted, she made the original choice to go and everything else is her decision.

Including the risk of having regrets in the morning.

What has worried me more was seeing a lady of a couple d*unk, the saying she did not want to do x,y or z, but was then shall we say verbally persuaded to continue by her partner. If sobber she may have decided otherwise, I'm not going to intervene in a couples dispute, but I would be more worried about coersion via the drink than a single person using something to relax their nerves.

Personally I prefer to be sobber, I enjoy swinging, but I too have confidence issues (bloke speaking). Am I too tubby, too scrawny, will I be attractive to someone else other than my wife?

I'm fairly sure that my wife too has similar confidence issues, no matter how many times I tell her she is gorgeous, when it's someone new that you are looking to meet those old issues can come to the fore for anyone.

Some people can be full of confidence no matter the situation others need some assistance. If that's a drink, or a shaparone ie fuck buddy, each to their own.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"I don't think I need to question whether it's for me at all.

As someone who is new to this and with limited experience, obviously I am going to be lacking in confidence to start with. Such is my choice.

Like I said, to each his own."

Ps not to be corny, but you look fabulous, don't know if it helps with the body issues. But thought it was worth mentioning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I need to question whether it's for me at all.

As someone who is new to this and with limited experience, obviously I am going to be lacking in confidence to start with. Such is my choice.

Like I said, to each his own.

Ps not to be corny, but you look fabulous, don't know if it helps with the body issues. But thought it was worth mentioning.

"

Thank you, thats really cheered my day up =)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no."


"i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape."

Rape is such a difficult charge to prove it's almost impossible to say if any given set of circumstances would lead the CPS/ Crown Office to pursue a case.


" Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent? "

Absolutely not. A woman (or a guy) has the absolute right to withold consent to sex at any time. Simply being in a location which is regularly used by people for sexual activity takes away that right.

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no.

i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape.

Rape is such a difficult charge to prove it's almost impossible to say if any given set of circumstances would lead the CPS/ Crown Office to pursue a case.

Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent?

Absolutely not. A woman (or a guy) has the absolute right to withold consent to sex at any time. Simply being in a location which is regularly used by people for sexual activity takes away that right."

This is what i was thinking, when the law recently changed i thought it meant you had to have a positive giving of consent,therefore if a woman was very d*unk at a club she could not consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just get horny when there d*unk.... I think there is nothing wrong with having a drink brings some people out there shell and helps them relax everyone is different so let them get on with what works for them I say! as long as they are not to d*unk and they no what there doing its fine. End of the day they arrange to meet when there soba...... least you would hope so lol

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no.

i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape.

Rape is such a difficult charge to prove it's almost impossible to say if any given set of circumstances would lead the CPS/ Crown Office to pursue a case.

Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent?

Absolutely not. A woman (or a guy) has the absolute right to withold consent to sex at any time. Simply being in a location which is regularly used by people for sexual activity takes away that right.

This is what i was thinking, when the law recently changed i thought it meant you had to have a positive giving of consent,therefore if a woman was very d*unk at a club she could not consent."

As with all things, it's never that clear cut. Too be honest we have never given positive consent at a swingers club.

It's mostly been approaching someone in a club or being approached. Some body contact and slow progression from there. We've never actually discussed it. So technically we never verbalise positive consent, but we are concious and aware.

If someone was so d*unk they could not move then that would be the same as fucking a sleeping person who can't give consent. But if they are simply making bad choices whilst d*unk, that does not mean rape. Just like committing murder or assualt when d*unk does not absolve you of those choices. Committing to sex when d*unk does not suddenly make everyone you choice to play with rapists.

It's all a fine line, but I would imagine that a swingers club would be a difficult place to be raped with so many onlookers and witnesses. There is a difference between making poor choices and not having a choice.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Ok, let me rephrase then "I like to have a few drinks in order to lose my inhibitions."

"

I am really really glad you changed the statement from the 1st one you made... it sent so many alarm bells ringing... its not often i use but in this case i think it would be justified.

nobody is saying that alcohol in moderation isn't bad... but if you have to use alcohol to the point where it is a crutch in your swinging, then yes I would be worried....... so I can absolutely see where jemima and others are coming from...

I use to drink in clubs... then someone was so bad in a club it really shocked me into not drinking as I saw others reactions to that and swore I would never put myself in that position....

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I won't play with people who need to drink to play or are on their way to being pissed.

I am amazed by the number of guys who will shag a pissed-up woman.... especially after the number of court cases which have questioned ability to give consent whilst intoxicated. It is now part of case law… if she’s shit-faced, you cannot assume or even accept co-operation as being given consent…. she is deemed incapable of the rational thought required for giving consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I said, to each his own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't play with people who need to drink to play or are on their way to being pissed.

I am amazed by the number of guys who will shag a pissed-up woman.... especially after the number of court cases which have questioned ability to give consent whilst intoxicated. It is now part of case law… if she’s shit-faced, you cannot assume or even accept co-operation as being given consent…. she is deemed incapable of the rational thought required for giving consent.

"

The challenge in rape cases isn't usually about whether intercourse took place (so long as the woman doesn't wait too long before reporting the matter) and it isn't usually about who the identity of the alleged rapist.

The issue of consent is regularly at the heart of the matter and it all too often comes down to her word against his. Since there's usually only two people present it's difficult to prove the matter either way, unless there's strong evidence of violence having being used to subdue the victim.

In a situation where there's a witness prepared to say "Yes, I was there and the woman was too d*unk to give her consent" the court might reasonably ask 'why didn't you do anything to stop it then?'.

In Scotland I believe only about 4% of rapes reported lead to a conviction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If folk need to be d*unk to swing then they've chosen the wrong hobby.

The two just don't fit comfortably together.

XXXX

I'm going to disagree to some extent because I'm assuming that when everyone is talking about drinking and swinging they are picturing someone arseholed.

People can drink and keep it in moderation. Whats wrong with that? Your still capable of making decisions and enforcing them!

Yes someone who's bladdered isn't attractive and being in that state doesn't go with swinging. I agree with that completely for reason's I've already mentioned. But I don't see anything wrong with a couple of "sociables"

"

Yes naturally there's nothing wrong with a couple of social drinks, most people, us included, do that.

What the O.P and ourselves are referring to are those who feel the need to get legless.

We've been to swingers house parties which resembled a rugby club outing, with nobody wanting to move more than two paces from the booze in the kitchen.

They'e had to actually be reminded that its meant to be a swinging party!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

again I like how this post has been twisted so much...not one person has said about the clubs(speaking from a scottish experience)having good standards to ensure that there isnt anything that would lead to the extremes...not one person has mentioned that some people out of a caring aspect will look after eachother in clubs, and YES this includes men who wouldnt want to see any harm come to a woman.Face it, some of us like to get very d*unk some dont but if you are assuming that it gives rise to such horrible things as rape in swinging clubs I'd imagine that we would have more police interest in where the events are and how they are run.And I'm guessing that many of the , lets call them "d*unks"- return to the same places for fun.

In general and this is fact, there is more horrific incidences of violent rapes happinging in the city centres of our cities/towns...and I dont believe any of these are in anyway connected to our choices of venues.In fact not just on the sexual front, theres rarely any fights that I have witnessed on the grounds of our beloved play areas.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Ive seen clubs take action against people that were a little worse for wear always and only with their best interests at heart

I have friends that own a licensed club but when moving premises recently they were unlicensed for a short while so it was bring your own alcohol,they said they never seen so many totally ratarsed people in their club ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my first swingers party I turned up and was one of the few people not drinking to an excessive level. One woman was so d*unk she could barely walk or talk and that was in the early afternoon. Later on she preceded to try and push herself on me and was rather forceful which made me very uncomfortable. By 10:30 she was passed out on the sofa. Now I believe everyone has the right to decide how much they want to drink, being in that situation was intimidating for me and also a worry for her own personal safety as she could have really hurt herself. I think drinking excessively in that sort of situation is a very bad idea and can lead to more that just the d*unk person being hurt or upset. Its one of the reasons I barely drink at all

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

We all know people who have had one too many may 'think' they are doing a great job but in actual fact are fumbling, slobbering, clumsy 3 out of 10’s at best.

I recon that’s why some drink too much…. so they can either blame the drink for their substandard performance or so they just don’t care about being crap shags generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I need to question whether it's for me at all.

As someone who is new to this and with limited experience, obviously I am going to be lacking in confidence to start with. Such is my choice.

Like I said, to each his own."

people are so bloody judgemental on here! so what if some people like a drink! just let em get on with it, like the girl said each to there own! .........im not lacking in confidence I just enjoy drinking and having a laugh, Its just about knowing your limits, and when to stop

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over a year ago

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


"As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no.

i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape.

Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent?"

First question; can intoxication void consent if a reasonable man would have known that the woman was unable to form the necessary agreement? Yes.

Second question; would presence at the club entitle a man to presume consent? There was a truly horrible case at Preston a while back about a woman with gangbang fantasies who was raped by a group of men. No precedent was established because the CPS withdrew when the defence ambushed them with MSN records of chats where the woman discussed gangbang fantasies.

Presence at a club, especially where there are private as well as public facilities, would not seem, to me, to reduce the duty on the man to make sure the woman can and does consent, but I'll bet a lot of crown prosecutors would run a mile from such a case.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


", Its just about knowing your limits, and when to stop "

that is the key... and obviously you haven't read a lot of the above because a lot of people seem to have encountered people who don't know there limits and don't know when to stop!!!!

I have seen people so d*unk they have crashed down stairs...

I have seen people so d*unk they have passed out...

I have seen people so d*unk they have turned violent...

I have seen people so d*unk they have violently been sick and ambulances have been called...

I have seen people so d*unk they have not known where they are....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I need to question whether it's for me at all.

As someone who is new to this and with limited experience, obviously I am going to be lacking in confidence to start with. Such is my choice.

Like I said, to each his own.

people are so bloody judgemental on here! so what if some people like a drink! just let em get on with it, like the girl said each to there own! .........im not lacking in confidence I just enjoy drinking and having a laugh, Its just about knowing your limits, and when to stop "

That's just it, most of us like a drink but know our limits and when to stop.

It's the ones who go to a swinging meet, party or club who enjoy drinking to excess that are the problem.

What they call "having a laugh" is most often a pain in the arse and the downer of the night for all those around them.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems to me u lot south of the border just cant handle yer drink!hehehe

coming from a glaswegian,scotland most violent nation on earth with a huge drink problem....OOOh, and yes....utterly shit swingers lol

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no.

i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape.

Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent?

First question; can intoxication void consent if a reasonable man would have known that the woman was unable to form the necessary agreement? Yes.

Second question; would presence at the club entitle a man to presume consent? There was a truly horrible case at Preston a while back about a woman with gangbang fantasies who was raped by a group of men. No precedent was established because the CPS withdrew when the defence ambushed them with MSN records of chats where the woman discussed gangbang fantasies.

Presence at a club, especially where there are private as well as public facilities, would not seem, to me, to reduce the duty on the man to make sure the woman can and does consent, but I'll bet a lot of crown prosecutors would run a mile from such a case."

Your last point i am afraid i have to agree with. Whilst a womans sexual behavior is not meant to be brought up in court i could imagine what would happen should a woman try to bring forward a case of rape in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think I need to question whether it's for me at all.

As someone who is new to this and with limited experience, obviously I am going to be lacking in confidence to start with. Such is my choice.

Like I said, to each his own.

people are so bloody judgemental on here! so what if some people like a drink! just let em get on with it, like the girl said each to there own! .........im not lacking in confidence I just enjoy drinking and having a laugh, Its just about knowing your limits, and when to stop

That's just it, most of us like a drink but know our limits and when to stop.

It's the ones who go to a swinging meet, party or club who enjoy drinking to excess that are the problem.

What they call "having a laugh" is most often a pain in the arse and the downer of the night for all those around them.

XXXX"

I agree that people who drink to excess are a pain in the arse lol iv only been to parties so far, are clubs much different? I will check some out, anyone recomend some decent clubs in london for single males? and is it just full of cock? are the girls few and far between?

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

seen in our local club a cpl where the woman was so pished she was left sitting down stairs head down in a little corner so mortal she didnt know where she was ,the hubby was off playing upstairs "oh she be ok " was his attitude ,in end club owner went up stopped play and hubby told to take her home, we drink get d*unk at socials have a laugh but only have a cpl on meets sometimes if driving only one of us has a cpl

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I saw a bloke in a club recently who was pissed, he was a bit of a pain and being a bit creepy with some of the ladies and he poked his head in the couples room a couple of times and was told to clear off.

He was asked to leave by the manager after a couple of complaints. The manager told me he won't be allowed in again - so fair play to the club and the manager for that.

What amazed me was how he thought he stood a chance in a swingers club? He stank of BO and booze and was being quite creepy and pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw a bloke in a club recently who was pissed, he was a bit of a pain and being a bit creepy with some of the ladies and he poked his head in the couples room a couple of times and was told to clear off.

He was asked to leave by the manager after a couple of complaints. The manager told me he won't be allowed in again - so fair play to the club and the manager for that.

What amazed me was how he thought he stood a chance in a swingers club? He stank of BO and booze and was being quite creepy and pushy. "

AYE _nvictus sounds like one of those "a guy I knew" stories...come clean n be honest, twas yersel lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"I saw a bloke in a club recently who was pissed, he was a bit of a pain and being a bit creepy with some of the ladies and he poked his head in the couples room a couple of times and was told to clear off.

He was asked to leave by the manager after a couple of complaints. The manager told me he won't be allowed in again - so fair play to the club and the manager for that.

What amazed me was how he thought he stood a chance in a swingers club? He stank of BO and booze and was being quite creepy and pushy.

AYE _nvictus sounds like one of those "a guy I knew" stories...come clean n be honest, twas yersel lol"

I'd only had two Babychams as well...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from the poppers thread,what do people think of those who seemingly have to be d*unk to play?

i have observed this quite a few times at clubs, especially amongst women,nothing happening until they are almost mortal.Some might say it is dutch courage,but to my mind if you need a drink to play,you should really consider whether swinging is for you.

D*unkenness is also very unsexy.What do others think?"

Very very unsexy..yuk !

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"As far as we go, i never drink as i always drive..or if i do its always one. Liz may have a couple as she would do socially but not to the point where she is intoxicated or uses it to the point to have to do things.

For us playing with someone who is d*unk is a no-no and we have watched peoples attitude change over the time as well..from perfectly nice when they are sober to downright horrible/offensive people after hitting the bottle.

We had arranged to meet a single woman several times at a local club, but unfortunately the spirit (1/2 bottle of brandy) got the better of her and we respectfully declined, however were surprised to see some guys lined up waiting. To us its too much like taking advantage. If they dont know what they are doing or could potentially regret it due to drink then its a no-no.

i wonder if there are any legal experts (coughs Sir) who know if it would count as rape.

Would entry to the club mean a man could presume consent?

First question; can intoxication void consent if a reasonable man would have known that the woman was unable to form the necessary agreement? Yes.

Second question; would presence at the club entitle a man to presume consent? There was a truly horrible case at Preston a while back about a woman with gangbang fantasies who was raped by a group of men. No precedent was established because the CPS withdrew when the defence ambushed them with MSN records of chats where the woman discussed gangbang fantasies.

Presence at a club, especially where there are private as well as public facilities, would not seem, to me, to reduce the duty on the man to make sure the woman can and does consent, but I'll bet a lot of crown prosecutors would run a mile from such a case.

Your last point i am afraid i have to agree with. Whilst a womans sexual behavior is not meant to be brought up in court i could imagine what would happen should a woman try to bring forward a case of rape in a club."

hmmm interesting...i thought that rape is rape and no means no..no matter what the situation..thats the rules that i know...the lady can change her mind whenever she chooses...

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"I don't think I need to question whether it's for me at all.

As someone who is new to this and with limited experience, obviously I am going to be lacking in confidence to start with. Such is my choice.

Like I said, to each his own.

people are so bloody judgemental on here! so what if some people like a drink! just let em get on with it, like the girl said each to there own! .........im not lacking in confidence I just enjoy drinking and having a laugh, Its just about knowing your limits, and when to stop "

point being some don't and they're the ones who spoil it...

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I find d*unkenness in anyone unattractive though do partake of it myself on occassions as it can be good fun. Would never do so if I was planning a rendezvous though and I would agree withprevious posters that it puts women at high risk due to lack of control, judgement, etc. And for myself I always think back th the Bards observations on alcohol

"Lechery, sir, it provokes, and unprovokes; it provokes the desire buut it takes away the performance: therefore, much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on, and it takes him off; it persuades him, and disheartens him; makes him stand to; and not stand to; in conclusion, equivocates him in a sleep, and, giving him the lie, leaves him."

Wise words Will!

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

I try not to drink too much when swinging. It normally spills all over the birds tits lol !!!!! (and its so expensive !!!)

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs


"Following on from the poppers thread,what do people think of those who seemingly have to be d*unk to play?

i have observed this quite a few times at clubs, especially amongst women,nothing happening until they are almost mortal.Some might say it is dutch courage,but to my mind if you need a drink to play,you should really consider whether swinging is for you.

D*unkenness is also very unsexy.What do others think?"

women are the worst offenders. seen loads paralytic in clubs .. well known clubs at that

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

Oh and thats when they normally kick off on some poor woman talking to their hubby !!!

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Personally, I don't drink and swing, much the same as, I don't drink and drive.... the drink slops all over the place out of the glass!!

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

women cant hold their drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


", Its just about knowing your limits, and when to stop

that is the key... and obviously you haven't read a lot of the above because a lot of people seem to have encountered people who don't know there limits and don't know when to stop!!!!

I have seen people so d*unk they have crashed down stairs...

I have seen people so d*unk they have passed out...

I have seen people so d*unk they have turned violent...

I have seen people so d*unk they have violently been sick and ambulances have been called...

I have seen people so d*unk they have not known where they are...."

Ahhhhh the good old days of being a teenager lol

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs


"Following on from the poppers thread,what do people think of those who seemingly have to be d*unk to play?

i have observed this quite a few times at clubs, especially amongst women,nothing happening until they are almost mortal.Some might say it is dutch courage,but to my mind if you need a drink to play,you should really consider whether swinging is for you.

D*unkenness is also very unsexy.What do others think?"

have you tried an Alcholohlics Anon meet. I hear there are lots of tee totallers there and no alchohol allowed. not sure if theres much fun there though. try the yellow pages for your local meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worked the bar at a social for some friends once and I was told of a girl that was so d*unk she couldn't possibly have been consenting to everything she was doing. Creeped me out that she let herself get so d*unk in the first place but also that there were guys that were willing to play with a girl in such a state. As someone who isn't and has never been a heavy drinker it amazes me that it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should point out that it wasn't at the social I was at. It was a story someone told me, otherwise I would have interveened

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By *r and Mrs FlintstoneCouple
over a year ago

bridgwater

we both like a few vinos when were socialising and partying . we dont get hammered we just like a few vinos it makes us more relaxed and plus mrs som gets a bit horny lol .

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"I find d*unkenness in anyone unattractive though do partake of it myself on occassions as it can be good fun. Would never do so if I was planning a rendezvous though and I would agree withprevious posters that it puts women at high risk due to lack of control, judgement, etc. And for myself I always think back th the Bards observations on alcohol

"Lechery, sir, it provokes, and unprovokes; it provokes the desire buut it takes away the performance: therefore, much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on, and it takes him off; it persuades him, and disheartens him; makes him stand to; and not stand to; in conclusion, equivocates him in a sleep, and, giving him the lie, leaves him."

Wise words Will!"

That should be enshrined on the door of all clubs!

*bows to the well spoken gent*

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By *ndy pandy and looby looCouple
over a year ago

YORK/LEEDS/HARROGATE/EAST COAST/NORTH WALES

Not a pretty sight when people, male or female get loud and gobby or almost as bead semi out of it, before they feel they can perform. If you really like sex, are confident in your situation and that of your partner, if in a couple your comfort with your play mate/s should be on same honest footing. your mind and body should be able to have a good time without needing artifical stimulants - if you need those maybe you have either the wrong hobby, or the wrong partner/s. Sadly talked to a few, especially ladies who feel they have to do it keep their fella interested and have to drink to blot night out - buy a dido and ditch that man - you can then play alone (sober) on your own terms and find someone you are relaxed and confident enough with to be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree as ive had a few meets where alcohol played a huge part and spoilt it completely, never met them again since. Also a club i went to not long ago, drink seemed play a huge part in it and thats not my thing at all

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"I find d*unkenness in anyone unattractive though do partake of it myself on occassions as it can be good fun. Would never do so if I was planning a rendezvous though and I would agree withprevious posters that it puts women at high risk due to lack of control, judgement, etc. And for myself I always think back th the Bards observations on alcohol

"Lechery, sir, it provokes, and unprovokes; it provokes the desire buut it takes away the performance: therefore, much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on, and it takes him off; it persuades him, and disheartens him; makes him stand to; and not stand to; in conclusion, equivocates him in a sleep, and, giving him the lie, leaves him."

Wise words Will!

That should be enshrined on the door of all clubs!

*bows to the well spoken gent*"

Thank you he does seem to have the answer to most things if you poke about enough

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"I find d*unkenness in anyone unattractive though do partake of it myself on occassions as it can be good fun. Would never do so if I was planning a rendezvous though and I would agree withprevious posters that it puts women at high risk due to lack of control, judgement, etc. And for myself I always think back th the Bards observations on alcohol

"Lechery, sir, it provokes, and unprovokes; it provokes the desire buut it takes away the performance: therefore, much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on, and it takes him off; it persuades him, and disheartens him; makes him stand to; and not stand to; in conclusion, equivocates him in a sleep, and, giving him the lie, leaves him."

Wise words Will!

That should be enshrined on the door of all clubs!

*bows to the well spoken gent*

Thank you he does seem to have the answer to most things if you poke about enough "

i find poking about enough is the answer to most things too!

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock


"I find d*unkenness in anyone unattractive though do partake of it myself on occassions as it can be good fun. Would never do so if I was planning a rendezvous though and I would agree withprevious posters that it puts women at high risk due to lack of control, judgement, etc. And for myself I always think back th the Bards observations on alcohol

"Lechery, sir, it provokes, and unprovokes; it provokes the desire buut it takes away the performance: therefore, much drink may be said to be an equivocator with lechery: it makes him and it mars him; it sets him on, and it takes him off; it persuades him, and disheartens him; makes him stand to; and not stand to; in conclusion, equivocates him in a sleep, and, giving him the lie, leaves him."

Wise words Will!

That should be enshrined on the door of all clubs!

*bows to the well spoken gent*

Thank you he does seem to have the answer to most things if you poke about enough

i find poking about enough is the answer to most things too! "

Yes poke about deep enough and long enough and eventually the solution will come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

got to agree if you need to get pissed to swing swinging is not for you

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

If I had too many drinks ( too many drinks can be as much as two as I am not a drinker normally) on a meet there would be two very bored men twiddling their thumbs listening to me snoring...as thats exactly what would happen, I would be asleep.

For us, we don't really drink and although we don't mind someone having a drink when we meet as we meet at the local, we would not go through with a meet if they were d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always drink at the socials and always get pissed. wtf do i care....do i fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always drink at the socials and always get pissed. wtf do i care....do i fuck"

I like u lets have fun ehhehehehehehe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always drink at the socials and always get pissed. wtf do i care....do i fuck

I like u lets have fun ehhehehehehehe x"

have fun up me arse, just make sure you dont make me spill me drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always drink at the socials and always get pissed. wtf do i care....do i fuck

I like u lets have fun ehhehehehehehe x

have fun up me arse, just make sure you dont make me spill me drink "

hehheheheheheheh never....i'll be drinkin too....we should get those babycups lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always drink at the socials and always get pissed. wtf do i care....do i fuck

I like u lets have fun ehhehehehehehe x

have fun up me arse, just make sure you dont make me spill me drink

hehheheheheheheh never....i'll be drinkin too....we should get those babycups lol x"

Now Paddy wtf are babycups???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always drink at the socials and always get pissed. wtf do i care....do i fuck

I like u lets have fun ehhehehehehehe x

have fun up me arse, just make sure you dont make me spill me drink

hehheheheheheheh never....i'll be drinkin too....we should get those babycups lol x

Now Paddy wtf are babycups???"

the wee cups that have a lid and a wee spout lolol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always carry a bottle of wine when visiting, gotta admit get a tad concerned when the bottle is emptied before the front door close's - I'm I really that bad?

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

Hi all,

We're new to the site and the scene, so our next stop will probably be the introductions page!

However after waiting a week before posting on this thread owing to site rules, just thought we'd share our experience on this topic so far.

So, our first meet in a club, really nervous, and we both like a drink. Like most clubs, this one was bring your own beer - so, first dillema - how much to take? Not enough and that can kill a moment, too much and run the risk of drinking too much as your nerves get the better of you - or worse, you having such a good time you dont realise how much you are drinking.

We made a complete mess of it. We started off necking a few back to try and just relax, and then ended up having such a great time, didn't realise how much we were drinking.

Ironically the copule we met had said before hand, even if you liek a drink you dont need or find you want much anyway....I wish we'd listened...

We didn't do anything we didn't want to and dont think we could have had a better first experience - apart from the drink...

So hands up, we got it wrong and made a mistake. We agree, its not pretty and really doesnt' make the experience better, infact the opposite. We were just lucky we got away with it.

We went again a week later, and took half the amount - had a great time and said next time we'll take less.

I think, personally, we'll always take a drink, even just a few as we both like the relaxing effect a couple can have and think being relaxed is key, but everything in moderation.... and think there really is a happy medium.

Looking aroudn the club Saturday night, I didn't see anyone who was "d*unk" although there were lots of smiles - which is all good by us!.

Thanks

D&K

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By *ockwell DominusMan
over a year ago

Birstall

Don't do anything d*unk that you wouldn't do while sober.

Anyone for ginger beer

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Both of us are not big drinkers so will only ever have 1 or 2....otherwise we end up on our backs and not in a good way! lol

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By *emima_puddlefuck OP   Couple
over a year ago

hexham


"Hi all,

We're new to the site and the scene, so our next stop will probably be the introductions page!

However after waiting a week before posting on this thread owing to site rules, just thought we'd share our experience on this topic so far.

So, our first meet in a club, really nervous, and we both like a drink. Like most clubs, this one was bring your own beer - so, first dillema - how much to take? Not enough and that can kill a moment, too much and run the risk of drinking too much as your nerves get the better of you - or worse, you having such a good time you dont realise how much you are drinking.

We made a complete mess of it. We started off necking a few back to try and just relax, and then ended up having such a great time, didn't realise how much we were drinking.

Ironically the copule we met had said before hand, even if you liek a drink you dont need or find you want much anyway....I wish we'd listened...

We didn't do anything we didn't want to and dont think we could have had a better first experience - apart from the drink...

So hands up, we got it wrong and made a mistake. We agree, its not pretty and really doesnt' make the experience better, infact the opposite. We were just lucky we got away with it.

We went again a week later, and took half the amount - had a great time and said next time we'll take less.

I think, personally, we'll always take a drink, even just a few as we both like the relaxing effect a couple can have and think being relaxed is key, but everything in moderation.... and think there really is a happy medium.

Looking aroudn the club Saturday night, I didn't see anyone who was "d*unk" although there were lots of smiles - which is all good by us!.

Thanks

D&K"

Thank you for your very honest post.i think many make the same mistake on their first club visit,the trick is to learn from our mistakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope i dont mix drink with playing. I know lots do just to relax. But for me i like to know exactly whats going on. Thats my kick!....

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Nope i dont mix drink with playing. I know lots do just to relax. But for me i like to know exactly whats going on. Thats my kick!...."

When I was younger late teens early twenties I thought that the only way to have a good time and a laugh was to have a few beers.

I still like to have a drink with my vanilla friends when we go out or stay in but i think experience has taught me that the best sex is sober and the best rush is caused by the adrenalin of a new meet.. Thats not to say that repeat visits aren't special and the experience increases in time but for mr sober and clear headed is always best and especially if you're driving! lol

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By *omnlynneCouple
over a year ago

milton keynes

crikey took me nearly 20 mins to read all these posts...i need a drink......lololol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree about d*unkenness not being sexy. Mr is teetotal so that solves the 'whose turn is it to drive' argument and a glass or two of bubbly turns ms into a raving nymph. Well more of a nymph than she is normally lol. Not a cheap date.

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

Lets all go for a BEER or 10 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything I do with drink I would do sober.

Every Social or Club I have been to the majority drink. I believe most people at the Red Blue & White which the OP attended all had a fantastic time with many people participating with drink.

Perhaps it is when too much drinking reaches the vomit stage that it is too much

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Everything I do with drink I would do sober.

Every Social or Club I have been to the majority drink. I believe most people at the Red Blue & White which the OP attended all had a fantastic time with many people participating with drink.

Perhaps it is when too much drinking reaches the vomit stage that it is too much "

I am not going to knock people for drinking.. I am one of these weird people where i won't drink at a club, but will happily drink at socials...

(never been to a social in a club yet so not sure where my brain will be at with that one) but it is just drinking in moderation that is the key..... if it gets to the point where you are "humming"... that is too many, that is going to be different points for different people....

judgements, judgements, judgements...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope i dont mix drink with playing. I know lots do just to relax. But for me i like to know exactly whats going on. Thats my kick!....

When I was younger late teens early twenties I thought that the only way to have a good time and a laugh was to have a few beers.

I still like to have a drink with my vanilla friends when we go out or stay in but i think experience has taught me that the best sex is sober and the best rush is caused by the adrenalin of a new meet.. Thats not to say that repeat visits aren't special and the experience increases in time but for mr sober and clear headed is always best and especially if you're driving! lol

"

+1

I only ever do sober sex and do not have sex with partners who are stinking of drink

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs


"Nope i dont mix drink with playing. I know lots do just to relax. But for me i like to know exactly whats going on. Thats my kick!....

When I was younger late teens early twenties I thought that the only way to have a good time and a laugh was to have a few beers.

I still like to have a drink with my vanilla friends when we go out or stay in but i think experience has taught me that the best sex is sober and the best rush is caused by the adrenalin of a new meet.. Thats not to say that repeat visits aren't special and the experience increases in time but for mr sober and clear headed is always best and especially if you're driving! lol

+1

I only ever do sober sex and do not have sex with partners who are stinking of drink"

What if they ate a packet of polo mints first lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I find I spill far too much while swinging, especially during oral.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I only drink when swinging, not because I need it to swing, but simply as its offten the only place I can relax enough to let go and enjoy a drink.

So umm i guess technicaly i swing to drink (though realy im just horny and the two mix well for me)

if people don't like us being a tad pissed, then meh dont invite us to play, were more than happy to go to a party/club and only play with eachother anmyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only drink when swinging, not because I need it to swing, but simply as its offten the only place I can relax enough to let go and enjoy a drink.

So umm i guess technicaly i swing to drink (though realy im just horny and the two mix well for me)

if people don't like us being a tad pissed, then meh dont invite us to play, were more than happy to go to a party/club and only play with eachother anmyway "

Exactly hun. Horses for courses, each to their own. If I have had a drink and peops dont like it, I dont think I would particularly care. Jog on, next victim

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