FabSwingers.com forum: Play meets with kids at home

By *uffnsmov OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

Chatted with a couple who told us they couldn't play out as they have kids at home and can't get babysitters.

So could we go to them.

We both decided we weren't comfortable with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something we've come across too, a definite NO from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A total no no in our book

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By *ench and StripeCouple
over a year ago

Stenalees

Have had meets while the kids are in bed with several couples. They know there own situation and can assess based on that. If they are comfortable and so are we then all is good. But what works for 1 doesnt work for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt agree with that not even if you knew them well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite an emotive subject. One which usually brings a pile of vitriolic response.

Personally speaking, we wouldn't play at someone's house if they had kids in bed. But, nor would we judge a couple who could only offer accommodation that way. Every person/couples circumstances are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had it happen so often we've had to put it in our profile after one wasted Sunday where all 3 couples we spoke to all wanted to meet after 9pm because the kids would be in bed...no...just no...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site "

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By *ralbiswMan
over a year ago

Fareham

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site "

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's quite an emotive subject. One which usually brings a pile of vitriolic response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think admin are too keen on threads like this. They have given warnings in the past, as it alerts people who have kids and could raise safeguarding issues which may need authority involvement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????"

What do you think Sherlock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site "

I don't think not feeling comfortable about kids being in the house is judgemental, it's how we feel, they can meet who they like, it just won't be us.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

I've been asked to go round while kids still up by a couple once, we'll just say your daddies friend I was told, didn't accept invite,

And once meeting a different couple I walked into there front from to see a piece of 2x2 propped under the door handle to the hallway, when I asked it was so if kids wake and come downstairs we don't be disturbed! Made my excuses and left.

While I understand childcare can be hard to arrange it just didn't feel right to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????"

I think the point being that the kids are not even in the home at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I don't think not feeling comfortable about kids being in the house is judgemental, it's how we feel, they can meet who they like, it just won't be us. "

I'm sure there won't be any tears that you won't be meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't do it at ours and wouldn't do at someone else's

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????

I think the point being that the kids are not even in the home at the time

I much preferred your deleted comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I don't think not feeling comfortable about kids being in the house is judgemental, it's how we feel, they can meet who they like, it just won't be us.

I'm sure there won't be any tears that you won't be meeting them

On either side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done it once

Many years ago

Never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????

I think the point being that the kids are not even in the home at the time

I much preferred your deleted comment

Hahaha you saw it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a big No from me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????

I think the point being that the kids are not even in the home at the time

I much preferred your deleted comment

Hahaha you saw it?

Well I don't personally like being tarnished with what he was implying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????

I think the point being that the kids are not even in the home at the time

I much preferred your deleted comment

Hahaha you saw it?

Well I don't personally like being tarnished with what he was implying

I deleted when I saw he'd written all. So wasn't sure if the comment was directed at just you. If it was though, the comment was completely uncalled for.

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By *ralbiswMan
over a year ago

Fareham

Tarnished? Lighten up!! The only tarnishing was in your mind!

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By *ralbiswMan
over a year ago

Fareham

It was not aimed at you directly! Don't take offence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tarnished? Lighten up!! The only tarnishing was in your mind! "

Well it was in my mind too. So he's not the only one who saw it as rather wrong... And a little creepy too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????

I think the point being that the kids are not even in the home at the time

I much preferred your deleted comment

Hahaha you saw it?

Well I don't personally like being tarnished with what he was implying

I deleted when I saw he'd written all. So wasn't sure if the comment was directed at just you. If it was though, the comment was completely uncalled for. "

Similar to calling people judgemental if they prefer not to meet with kids in the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tarnished? Lighten up!! The only tarnishing was in your mind! "

I wouldn't wanna know what's on you're mind thinking like that fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

I trust u are not all saying you would prefer the kids to be still up????

I think the point being that the kids are not even in the home at the time

I much preferred your deleted comment

Hahaha you saw it?

Well I don't personally like being tarnished with what he was implying

I deleted when I saw he'd written all. So wasn't sure if the comment was directed at just you. If it was though, the comment was completely uncalled for.

Similar to calling people judgemental if they prefer not to meet with kids in the house

If you say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids needs come before my own, it's a no from me.

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By *uffnsmov OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site "

Not being judgemental at all and hope our post didn't come across as that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if it was my last ever chance of having sex it would still be a "No thanks" from me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Chatted with a couple who told us they couldn't play out as they have kids at home and can't get babysitters.

So could we go to them.

We both decided we weren't comfortable with this.

Discuss"

You made the right decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

Not being judgemental at all and hope our post didn't come across as that."

Of course it didn't it's your opinion and preference as it ours,God knows how or why some people see as having an opinion is being judgemental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My kids needs come before my own, it's a no from me. "

this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chatted with a couple who told us they couldn't play out as they have kids at home and can't get babysitters.

So could we go to them.

We both decided we weren't comfortable with this.

Discuss

You made the right decision. "

For them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss that you weren't comfortable with this?

Your prerogative to meet as you choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

Not being judgemental at all and hope our post didn't come across as that."

No it didn't come across judgemental. I would never play with anyone who's kids where in the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't. To many judgemental people on this site

Not being judgemental at all and hope our post didn't come across as that."

It didn't OP. He said site, not thread. You haven't said anything negative about people who do, just stated your preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's a total no for us, we just could never have that in our home with the kids around.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

this site is for adults only.so should meets be .imagine a child opening a door as youve got a dildo up there mums ass as you fuck her .as amie so no .no.no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no.nobody coming my house with my kids there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had women say u can come over and fuck me its ok he/she will be asleep and never wakes up etc. I was far too uncomfortable with the situation and thats just on a one on one situation.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It's a no from me... It's bad enough trying to have sex as a couple without waking the kids.

I personally wouldn't feel comfortable knowing children of what ever age were in the house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no, no home is where my children are this is why I go to clubs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us this is a hard stop, and it can really put us off people if they are insistant about it not being a problem.. it is for us and it really doesn't make for a comfortable meet.

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

We went to a couples house and did this once... and really regretted it. Never again, not for us.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"No, no, no home is where my children are this is why I go to clubs x"
knock your self out girl you so right .we been players for years in lay byes cinemas clubs woods every where .but not our house cos thats ours to sit in wearing jim jams and dressing gowns ect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, no, no home is where my children are this is why I go to clubs xknock your self out girl you so right .we been players for years in lay byes cinemas clubs woods every where .but not our house cos thats ours to sit in wearing jim jams and dressing gowns ect."

It's great to think outside the box be creative lol have had some great car fun in the past x

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By *onnie and JimCouple
over a year ago

holmfirth

erm no, no no and erm no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chatted with a couple who told us they couldn't play out as they have kids at home and can't get babysitters.

So could we go to them.

We both decided we weren't comfortable with this.

Discuss"

Personal choice and dependent on the situation.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I was once brought a bacon sandwich in bed by a meet's son.

Having played Mario Kart with the other son the night before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think admin are too keen on threads like this. They have given warnings in the past, as it alerts people who have kids and could raise safeguarding issues which may need authority involvement."

I dont think social services would care about swinging, if they do its not really there business.

Imo anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go to someone's home if I knew there was a child there. And if they didn't tell me there was a child there, I'd be fucking furious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not play at home if we had kids nor would I feel comfortable playing at someone else house if there was children there however each to there own (Kat) xx

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

How scary for the child if they wake up...a stranger/s in the house.

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By *ovely_and_HimselfCouple
over a year ago

North of Derby

"Don't think admin are too keen on threads like this. They have given warnings in the past, as it alerts people who have kids and could raise safeguarding issues which may need authority involvement.

I dont think social services would care about swinging, if they do its not really there business.

Imo anyway"

Err, yes they would.

When the needs of a child are not being put first, it becomes their business

And having strangers you've met off the Internet into your home for sex, while the kids are upstairs, isn't putting their needs first.

Swinging and sexual activities that take place away from the kids and has no impact on them and their needs, isn't of interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's lots of people who don't mind inviting strangers into their homes for sex while their children are in bed.

I've had many offers to go to a woman's house in those circumstances. Not just off here but dating sites too.

Other guys I know tell me the same .

It's happens a hell of a lot.

I'm personally not comfortable with that situation though.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Apply the test

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is as well I am a single mum not being selfish time is scarce so if I have a night off then I want to go out home is my families sanctuary x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't think admin are too keen on threads like this. They have given warnings in the past, as it alerts people who have kids and could raise safeguarding issues which may need authority involvement.

I dont think social services would care about swinging, if they do its not really there business.

Imo anyway"

Your opinion is incorrect.

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

I suspect the vast majority of members on here wouldn't invite or extect an invite of fab friends when they've been let down by a sitter.

I did have some friends at Chams who mentioned their teenage kids were getting a little too curious as home, so Mum and Dad joined Chameleons. It was going so well when Mum and Dad simply stated they were off out for a night in Brum ..... except the next morning one of their bright spark kids stated if they'd been to a pub and club, why does Mum smell of Swimming pools!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a parent the thought of playing with any children asleep in my house to me is unacceptable...massive safeguarding risk and inappropriate. Not something I would do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How scary for the child if they wake up...a stranger/s in the house. "

...especially if they're spit roasting mummy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey no!

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm personally uncomfortable with that, but that's my problem, it's certainly no judgement on them.

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By *ubgirl66Couple
over a year ago

dunfermline

Not for me either. Big no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go offer a flip side .

Let's say a single mum goes for a night out . She pulls , gets on great with the guy ( or girl , or even couple ) and wants to invite them back to hers .

She isn't on a swinging site or any site , but as people do she wants to invite them in for a coffee . The sitter goes home , and she and they sit in the sofa , drink coffee and have a bit of fun . Is she as wrong as the swingers to do so ?

Or should she never have sex again in her own home ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just go offer a flip side .

Let's say a single mum goes for a night out . She pulls , gets on great with the guy ( or girl , or even couple ) and wants to invite them back to hers .

Or should she never have sex again in her own home ?

I'm a single mum and can say I would never invite someone to mine that may lead to play while my kids are home, wherever I met them. When/if I ever get into a relationship again, I've said it'll be 6mths before they were ever around my kids. I don't want people in and out of my kids lives, I want stability for them, not seeing me with a different man all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something we would be comfortable with, but that doesn't make it wrong.

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By *gnes Loves AnalWoman
over a year ago

Kingstanding

"Chatted with a couple who told us they couldn't play out as they have kids at home and can't get babysitters.

So could we go to them.

We both decided we weren't comfortable with this.

Discuss"

Don't blame you nobody wants to be walked in on while you are legs in the air and poppas head is tongue deep in your pussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discuss what?

It's weird. I would feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a no from me

Tease

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By *rKinkedKuntMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

As a full time single dad with very little support yes I do this.

BUT only with established play partners I have met multiple times both socially and for play. After all my kids are still very young and I can hear the second one of them puts a foot on the floor so no risk of been caught.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two rules never wake up to strangers i n my bed and not a load of uncles in their lives. Been that way for 18 years. And I can say over the years have had an active sex/social life. I work around the kids but they will always come first x

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By *uffnsmov OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

So the discuss bit refered to your opinions not necessarily what we decided to do. Some interesting things have been said and I must give quite a lot of repetitive to the guys who went against convention and said I would.

As for the safeguarding issue. I think the Social Services have a lot more on their respective plates.

But thanks for all comments

Safe n happy playing y'all

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