FabSwingers.com forum: Agh ! Do they read profiles ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The last two weeks in here have been, let's say , interesting

My profile now CLEARLY says I've given up but still getting messages including one just now from someone who said something like ' do you find that fantasies and taboos get more extreme ' - I pressed him a little with a 'such as' and he gave me some examples of what he called the milder ones i.e. Forced , stranger, and a few others - I then said 'get to the point' ( he clearly hadn't read my profile) and he replied with 'get a book on being polite' and blocked me. He was CLEARLY going to build up to incest or animals. Weirdo

Um so, yeah

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Haha

Takes all sorts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just block everyone from messaging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 things :

1. FILTERS if you want to prevent unsolicited messages (unless you've spoken before of course)

2. You've made quite an assumption about where the conversation was going based on the limited info you've put here! You may well be right but the fact is it wasn't him that made any mention of incest or animals (as far as I can see) - you made that leap yourself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes actually that's a point , I've only just changed my profile , didn't know you could block like that although it wouldn't work if I wanted to keep in touch for those in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not just block everyone from messaging?"

You took the words from my head.

It's really that simple OP. You have the tools to stop messages, there's no point complaining if you don't use them and then get messages you don't want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From the ones he had already listed - there wasn't much left !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes actually that's a point , I've only just changed my profile , didn't know you could block like that although it wouldn't work if I wanted to keep in touch for those in clubs"

Then take the usernames of those you meet in clubs and message them yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes actually that's a point , I've only just changed my profile , didn't know you could block like that although it wouldn't work if I wanted to keep in touch for those in clubs"

There's nothing stopping you from messaging anybody. The filter won't apply to someone you message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes actually that's a point , I've only just changed my profile , didn't know you could block like that although it wouldn't work if I wanted to keep in touch for those in clubs

Then take the usernames of those you meet in clubs and message them yourself?"

Stop nicking my advice you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes actually that's a point , I've only just changed my profile , didn't know you could block like that although it wouldn't work if I wanted to keep in touch for those in clubs

Then take the usernames of those you meet in clubs and message them yourself?

Stop nicking my advice you.

Bite me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From the ones he had already listed - there wasn't much left !"

But by your own admission he's listed out a whole string of taboos already. Maybe he'd run out of the list and by you saying 'get to the point' maybe he thought it was YOU that was putting pressure on him to cross a line he wasn't comfortable with and hence HE blocked you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes actually that's a point , I've only just changed my profile , didn't know you could block like that although it wouldn't work if I wanted to keep in touch for those in clubs

Then take the usernames of those you meet in clubs and message them yourself?

Stop nicking my advice you.

Bite me

Right on that peachy arse...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes actually that's a point , I've only just changed my profile , didn't know you could block like that although it wouldn't work if I wanted to keep in touch for those in clubs

Then take the usernames of those you meet in clubs and message them yourself?

Stop nicking my advice you.

Bite me

Right on that peachy arse...

Wouldn't be a first for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No - I've been around long enough to know how it was gonna go - had messages of dog worriers before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it, plenty of women don't read mens profiles either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wonder you've given up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No - I've been around long enough to know how it was gonna go - had messages of dog worriers before "

I can't see why you engaged in conversation with him in the first place to be honest .

But I would imagine he wondered that too before he blocked you .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No - I've been around long enough to know how it was gonna go - had messages of dog worriers before

I can't see why you engaged in conversation with him in the first place to be honest .

But I would imagine he wondered that too before he blocked you ."

I guess I was angry because I knew where it was going and my profile was clearly not read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fooking barrel of laughs you sound like. fab needs more people like you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't read profile.if they look a ride that'll do me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not meeting, I'm using this profile for the forums for now, I just empty my inbox daily without reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not meeting, I'm using this profile for the forums for now, I just empty my inbox daily without reading. "

All those wasted messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much anger on your profile, maybe you need to step away for a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I barely look at my messages. Some of the ones I do though, you can tell by the content, that some definitely don't read the profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get loads of messages from guys asking or offering things we don't like as stated on our profile,

its easy to catch them out as I just ask them if they like nice smooth pussy as we don't like smelly hairy ones, they always reply with oh yes love shaven cant stand hairy then we know they haven't read our profile,

we are both natural and hairy and its clearly stated on our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chill pill anyone?

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

"No - I've been around long enough to know how it was gonna go - had messages of dog worriers before "

Is being hassled by folks who are into beastiality a common problem here???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The last two weeks in here have been, let's say , interesting

Um so, yeah "

So you engaged with this guy, pushed him (very bluntly and rather rudely) to go further than his pretty basic fantasy taboos, made assumptions that he would then hit you with illegal scenarios, and you're surprised he called you out and blocked you??

Nope, I'm with the guy on this one - you do need to learn some manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chill pill anyone? "

Had as status today.lots needing them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No - I've been around long enough to know how it was gonna go - had messages of dog worriers before

Is being hassled by folks who are into beastiality a common problem here???

I wouldn't know we have never been asked for anything above what we call normal, but then what is normal

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I think you were ruder in that scenario OP

And now your discussing your PRIVATE conversation with him publicly on the forum

I would block you too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I havnt named him or put exact conversation ( apart from my own six words) and yes I KNOW I was curt - his conversation launched straight in - it was completely unsolicited and if you've read my profile which stands now as it would have done to him - I'm

Dumbfounded why he bothered. At least I won't have to be involved now thankfully but I stand by my actions and read your comments with interest

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"No - I've been around long enough to know how it was gonna go - had messages of dog worriers before

Is being hassled by folks who are into beastiality a common problem here???

Bestiality is an inappropriate subject for the forum.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

so why are you even reading the messages in the first place from guys you have zero interest in?

Why not just block everyone?

If you want to keep in touch with people you've met at clubs and parties then why not just use kik etc.....

Fabs layout is shit for keeping in touch with people..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks to me like you led him on. Why did you reply? Why was he able to message you?

Why are you complaining about it when you have the power to stop it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks to me like you led him on. Why did you reply? Why was he able to message you?

Why are you complaining about it when you have the power to stop it? "

Have you never read the forum before? In Most of the whinging threads about the behaviour of others,the op has the power to do something about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"so why are you even reading the messages in the first place from guys you have zero interest in?

Why not just block everyone?

If you want to keep in touch with people you've met at clubs and parties then why not just use kik etc.....

Fabs layout is shit for keeping in touch with people.."

Yes I've done that , I was venting and his message came in when I was online so I answered it. It told me why I had written my new profile text, kinda confirmed it didn't it. I know some will think I'm just moaning but I'm actually a bit shocked at it all

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

OP, tbh if I felt the way you do I would hide my profile and use my filters.

Then after some time had passed I would either feel ready to come back or just leave

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a thousand messages like this! If this one message has bothered you so much then I'm not sure fab is the right place for you :/ Just sounds like the majority of messages that most people get every single day. Not really understanding the "shock" youre feeling tbh.....

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

May we suggest you re-think your username?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I havnt named him or put exact conversation ( apart from my own six words) and yes I KNOW I was curt - his conversation launched straight in - it was completely unsolicited and if you've read my profile which stands now as it would have done to him - I'm

Dumbfounded why he bothered. At least I won't have to be involved now thankfully but I stand by my actions and read your comments with interest"

I'm dumbfounded as to why anyone would bother to message you, extremely unwelcoming

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Dumbfounded why he bothered. At least I won't have to be involved now thankfully but I stand by my actions and read your comments with interest

I'm dumbfounded as to why anyone would bother to message you, extremely unwelcoming "

Exactly - I had just written the profile ( I've changed it now) and could see no reason why I'd be messaged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, with such a poor profile, no pics etc. What type of messages do you expect? Quality breeds quality, put effort into your profile and you'll get a better quality of people messaging you. It's doesn't excuse ridiculous messages, but it doesn't help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, with such a poor profile, no pics etc. What type of messages do you expect? Quality breeds quality, put effort into your profile and you'll get a better quality of people messaging you. It's doesn't excuse ridiculous messages, but it doesn't help

My profile had pics and an amusing script and a lot more depth to the type of sexual encounters I excell at - ive actually noted that when I opened the profile with one line - then a couple of edits to much more ( was told it was too much ) then down to quite negative - the numbers of messages and subject was broadly the same . As in - it didn't seem to matter. I've had a few interesting conversations and there's a meet or two in the offing

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Dumbfounded why he bothered. At least I won't have to be involved now thankfully but I stand by my actions and read your comments with interest"

No you haven't named him but he'd know it was about him if he read it and that's just a train wreak waiting to happen, and I have seen it happen before

Just think it's in poor taste. Total lack of discretion

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