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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope , doesn't annoy me at all .

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners."

I'm a single so it's not a problem I have op!

My only observation though is that I had to scroll down at least 30 pics of Mrs before I came across one of mr - so hardly surprising that those who message you think your wife is the primary player or 'main event' as it were! X

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners.

I'm a single so it's not a problem I have op!

My only observation though is that I had to scroll down at least 30 pics of Mrs before I came across one of mr - so hardly surprising that those who message you think your wife is the primary player or 'main event' as it were! X"

People can see my left and right hand in first 5 pics

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

TBH I do like to see man and woman in a couple profile even if it is just a few of them together

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By *s1981Couple
over a year ago

halifax

Totally agree. If you want equal interest then need to include both of you on your profile other wise you will end up putting some random rant on the forums and being told stuff that should be plainly obvious , oh wait.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People actually get contacted on here??? Hahaha joking... honestly

Joking apart, if they don't show interest in both of us then we just move on.

Ess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are four pictures of the male partner/husband on his own in pics. A handful of you both as a couple (i'm assuming), and about 70+ of the female alone. So is it really surprising that the female half is the one that people want to communicate with? There's no selling point on the male half.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

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Not really, different people have different limits, scenarios and fantasies they want to try. Sometimes one can't find out if there is a scenario that you could all enjoy without exchanging a few PMs.

But then we meet single men occasionally, And let's face it, it's understandable that they'd only be interested in Mrs ddc

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont disagree with any of you byw, but what i am asking is about the rest of you, not about us.

For example, a couple message a couple saying "hey sexy, how are you doing" so Mr replies with a joke saying " im good and happy you think im sexy, but i think my Mrs is 10 x more sexy than me".

Most people would find that at least a nice ice breaker but we have notice most just ignore it by not replying, deleting or by trying to only speak to the Mrs again ignoring the message reply that they just got. its rare that anyone even says "hi guys" or anything that address' a couple.

We just thought that there would be more people who contact couple that actually want couples.

Most of the time its just people (yes men, women, couples etc) that cnt find a single women that start trying to get the fem of a couple alone lol

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

I used to meet one couple and all the male wanted to do was watch he never got undressed his fun was to watch her enjoy her self

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to meet one couple and all the male wanted to do was watch he never got undressed his fun was to watch her enjoy her self "

Not really the imput i was looking for though but thanks for sharing lol

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

Yes it does annoy us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners."

That would only annoy me if it was me they wasn't interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners."
yes it would..

And all those saying that all the photos are if the partner.. well if its a couples profile regardless of the photos you should address them both..

To be fair we havent had people doing that much lately but when they do they are reminded its a couples profile.

We always when contacting people include photos of us both together and both seperately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners."

But most of your verifications are from single people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners."

Then your profile needs to be specific about what you want. You say you want someone to enhance both your sex lives so does that mean you want a male to come and suck cock?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners.

Then your profile needs to be specific about what you want. You say you want someone to enhance both your sex lives so does that mean you want a male to come and suck cock? "

Thats is answered on our profile.

My point is why people dont address a couple as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners.

But most of your verifications are from single people? "

Yes, because they addressed us as a couple so we knew they wanted to talk to or meet a couple.

I am talking about why people contqct a couple but clearly dont want to engage with a couple.

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By *ephistoCouple
over a year ago

torrance

They do it all of the time. They don't really read the profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I would say most of our msgs are aimed at just the female half and even though our profile says we only meet as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I went to clubs and parties with my ex fb I had many couples ask me to play as a 3some informing Bruce that he was not required/their type...he took it with good grace but it did annoy me. However he was 10 years older so maybe that was part of the reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners."

It's very disrespectful OP. Block and delete. Play as a couple. Plenty of singles out there who know how to interact with couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners.

I'm a single so it's not a problem I have op!

My only observation though is that I had to scroll down at least 30 pics of Mrs before I came across one of mr - so hardly surprising that those who message you think your wife is the primary player or 'main event' as it were! X"

Even if she was the main event as you put it, does it not only take a moment to be polite and acknowledge the fact that you want to koin a couple when messaging them?

And if it happens to be the male that replies when you want the female is it not also respectful to converse with him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it annoys us. And no one's fucking Mrs m without my say so, so can't be bothered to address me, then you don't get her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners.

Then your profile needs to be specific about what you want. You say you want someone to enhance both your sex lives so does that mean you want a male to come and suck cock?

Thats is answered on our profile.

My point is why people dont address a couple as a couple."

To annoy you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To annoy you "

So to get into bed with both of us there tactic is to annoy 1 of us?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes it annoys us. And no one's fucking Mrs m without my say so, so can't be bothered to address me, then you don't get her "

This

Exactly. do other people not realise that to have fun with anyone that is part of a couple, you need to be liked by both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To annoy you

So to get into bed with both of us there tactic is to annoy 1 of us? "

It was ment as a joke, do you only get this 'problem' with single guys??

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Does it annoy you when someone/couple contacts you and is clearly only interested in 1 of you?

They want to be invite to join a couple but wont entertain interacting both of us.

Sorry but im not interested in anyone that cant understand the we want someone to enhance both of our sex lives not just my partners."

It doesn't annoy us as such, because we simply delete or ignore messages like that. Not that we get very many, the vast majority, are aimed at us both.

I agree with what some others have said about your photos. It's mainly the female on show, you have scroll pretty much all the way down to find a hint of the male.

Rightly or wrongly, that will influence how alot of people will approach you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To annoy you

So to get into bed with both of us there tactic is to annoy 1 of us?

It was ment as a joke, do you only get this 'problem' with single guys??"

Nope. Had it from all. mostly single men but a few couples and the odd single fem.

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By *herbert fountainWoman
over a year ago

Hanley

Don't let it annoy you OP. Just use it as a filter. Anyone that can't be bothered to read your profile or is only interested in her is obviously not someone you want to meet and they are doing you the favour of identifying themselves it's like the trash taking itself out

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