FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for single guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi single guys wanting to get into the action.. can I give you some advice so you can succeed in having some fun with a couple..

1. Send a photo where your face is actually visible. No glasses. Not taken 50m away. And not some artistic angle where we only see your one eye..

2. You are trying to fuck another mans wife..make an effort. Write a proper message. Be the one that she wants to meet out of the 40 msg she gets per day.

3. When you go onto kik or another chat app make an effort! You need to pick this girl up. Just as if you would pick her up in a bar.

4. You do not only have to impress her. You also have to impress her husband. Yes this is a swingers site but as a couple we still want a decent guy. Make an effort!

5. Be clean and presentable when you meet. Make an effort with your clothes. Make sure your hands and nails are clean. You are basically going on a date. Make an effort.

6. Be respectful. I am constanly horny but when a guy asks me in the first message if I wanna swallow his cum, it puts me off. Yes there are girls that enjoy that, and good for them! But im looking for something different. If you want a regular wife to enjoy with her husband, make an effort.

7. Well thats it. I thought id give the guys some advice as I'm hearing so many complaining that they are being judged and not being taken seriously.

So guys ... make an effort? You will get results.

Happy swinging! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When messaging YOU, you cannot say how other members would like men to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice for patronizing people - stop being so patronizing...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

That's advice to single men wanting to meet you. Why not put it all on your profile?

I know better than you do what my approach is, so thanks but.....no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice for preaching couples: The only reason you get somewhere is because of the woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP has actully given some good advice to single men who want to meet couples. Not patronising just common sense and within the forum rules.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I'm not sure it's alway's a good idea to give other's advice. I know what you mean,but just perhaps concentrate on those that are respectful toward's you.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Same as I'd give to men and couples: don't be a fuckin knob!!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Same as I'd give to men and couples: don't be a fuckin knob!!

Ok thankyou for the advice,I'll try my best not to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All they did was try to help people, get a grip!. This Isint another one of those threads where that lad pointed out the other Chap with a small penis.

This is someone trying to help and advise someone that wants the help or could do with it or relate or what ever.

If you don't need it good for move alone this Isint a competition

They are taking time out of there own available time that they do have,

Some people are nuts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Same as I'd give to men and couples: don't be a fuckin knob!!

Ok thankyou for the advice,I'll try my best not to be

I'm struggling today but I maybe knob free tomorrow

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By *rrowxxxMan
over a year ago

Hitchin

2. You are trying to fuck another mans wife..make an effort. Write a proper message. Be the one that she wants to meet out of the 40 msg she gets per day."

Read your profile and guess what it says

"Mrs does not have sex with other guys"

PMSL

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Perhaps you could ask the original poster, seems to know what we all want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think everyone has their wires crossed ...

I think they were just trying to help... Probably because they receive lots of silly messages...

I actually do really well in everyday life, because I'm outgoing and confident.

But tbh whatever you try, on here single men are always at a disadvantage.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"All they did was try to help people, get a grip!. This Isint another one of those threads where that lad pointed out the other Chap with a small penis.

This is someone trying to help and advise someone that wants the help or could do with it or relate or what ever.

If you don't need it good for move alone this Isint a competition

They are taking time out of there own available time that they do have,

Some people are nuts!

I don't see it as people being nut's,when someone gives advice like this and mainly it's to single guy's it can come across a little patronising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that escalated quickly....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Same as I'd give to men and couples: don't be a fuckin knob!!

Haha spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comes across a bit condescending to me, but thats just my view.

Also what may be appreciated by the OP isn't what everyone is looking for, a local profile to me states, wants a full nude body and cock picture, as shes a size queen and proud of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the people who this thread did help, and resonate with are far to scared, afraid, to give any thanks to op, in fear of been ridiculed for not been as cool and on point as you guys who feel the need to let every one know your to cool for school

Yes Admitting iv not long come out of school, iknow the irony

(before anyone jumps on the band wagon)

You lot are like a pack of wolves Savage!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Same as I'd give to men and couples: don't be a fuckin knob!!

Ok thankyou for the advice,I'll try my best not to be

I'm struggling today but I maybe knob free tomorrow

made my chuckle out loud xx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well read that post and thank goodness I do t do any of that but I must say it did read a bit snobbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All they did was try to help people, get a grip!. This Isint another one of those threads where that lad pointed out the other Chap with a small penis.

This is someone trying to help and advise someone that wants the help or could do with it or relate or what ever.

If you don't need it good for move alone this Isint a competition

They are taking time out of there own available time that they do have,

Some people are nuts!

I don't see it as people being nut's,when someone gives advice like this and mainly it's to single guy's it can come across a little patronising. "

Also could be they're not getting what they want so asking others to do it for them. Now I'm not interested in couples....any advice from single ladies ?

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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago

Belfast and Fife

Hi, I haven't read anything in this thread, just thought I'd chip in my knee jerk reaction to the title of the thread.

Thanks but I don't need any advice as a single guy. I'm very good av being a single guy, I've been a single guy for a long time now....oh, hold on, I'm not coming off well here. Guess I should just delete this rather than posting it.

Damn it! Finger slipped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All advice is gratefully received, thanks

I wish I was good at chatting to women in a bar though, I wouldn't need this site then

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Yes, always go for men from Staffordshire

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"All they did was try to help people, get a grip!. This Isint another one of those threads where that lad pointed out the other Chap with a small penis.

This is someone trying to help and advise someone that wants the help or could do with it or relate or what ever.

If you don't need it good for move alone this Isint a competition

They are taking time out of there own available time that they do have,

Some people are nuts!

I don't see it as people being nut's,when someone gives advice like this and mainly it's to single guy's it can come across a little patronising.

Also could be they're not getting what they want so asking others to do it for them. Now I'm not interested in couples....any advice from single ladies ?

Yeah, be yourself, not what others think you should be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like all the general advice threads its all well & good if the right people read them but the threads get lost by the way side quickly anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HILARIOUS

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"Hi single guys wanting to get into the action.. can I give you some advice so you can succeed in having some fun with a couple..

1. Send a photo where your face is actually visible. No glasses. Not taken 50m away. And not some artistic angle where we only see your one eye..

2. You are trying to fuck another mans wife..make an effort. Write a proper message. Be the one that she wants to meet out of the 40 msg she gets per day.

3. When you go onto kik or another chat app make an effort! You need to pick this girl up. Just as if you would pick her up in a bar.

4. You do not only have to impress her. You also have to impress her husband. Yes this is a swingers site but as a couple we still want a decent guy. Make an effort!

5. Be clean and presentable when you meet. Make an effort with your clothes. Make sure your hands and nails are clean. You are basically going on a date. Make an effort.

7. Well thats it. I thought id give the guys some advice as I'm hearing so many complaining that they are being judged and not being taken seriously.

So guys ... make an effort? You will get results.

Happy swinging! Xx"

Cool, i didn't realize it was so easy! All this time it never crossed my mind to try your tactics! lol..

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Come across to me as a sales pitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All they did was try to help people, get a grip!. This Isint another one of those threads where that lad pointed out the other Chap with a small penis.

This is someone trying to help and advise someone that wants the help or could do with it or relate or what ever.

If you don't need it good for move alone this Isint a competition

They are taking time out of there own available time that they do have,

Some people are nuts!

I don't see it as people being nut's,when someone gives advice like this and mainly it's to single guy's it can come across a little patronising.

Also could be they're not getting what they want so asking others to do it for them. Now I'm not interested in couples....any advice from single ladies ?

Yeah, be yourself, not what others think you should be x"

Sound advice...

...and it does pay off. Know what you want and stick to your standard and it'll happen....just be patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And the people who this thread did help, and resonate with are far to scared, afraid, to give any thanks to op, in fear of been ridiculed for not been as cool and on point as you guys who feel the need to let every one know your to cool for school

Yes Admitting iv not long come out of school, iknow the irony

(before anyone jumps on the band wagon)

You lot are like a pack of wolves Savage! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only some couples would make the same amount of effort when contacting single males...

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I thinks its a good thread. With the amount of "what am i doing wrong" "why cant I meet" forum posts why not one that offers some advice. May not be to everyones liking.. but thats the forums for you.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'm not criticising as such, but unsolicited advice can put people's backs up. In any situation, not just here.

So some will react negatively and some positively. It's human nature not savages.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I'm not criticising as such, but unsolicited advice can put people's backs up. In any situation, not just here.

So some will react negatively and some positively. It's human nature not savages."

Or wolves

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

imagine this was advice to a single woman..im like yeah right you've turned me right off..no i don't want to fuck your missus..or you..thanks for the man to woman chat about your territory advice, ill pass..

guys be yourselves..use your common sense

is this really appealing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone were to post advise on a gardening forum about how they think is the best way to grow tomatoes, fellow gardeners would think one of a number of responses 'ignore advise because I don't want to grow tomatoes', ignore advise because I'm already doing what is advised', 'ignore advise because I disagree with the advise', or 'let's try out that advise and see if it works'. But the advise would not be considered patronising or offensive. But if someone posts advise to a particular demographic on a sex forum,about how they believe success can be achieved, it is often considered patronising. If I as an individual was singled out for advise I didn't want I might find that patronising. But I wouldn't find it patronising if a single person posted advise for couples in general. It is then purely my choice as to whether I consider the advise relevant to me or not. Certainly nothing for me to be offended about. But I've seen advise threads like this go tits up before, and never really understood why.

Mrs

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By *loriajonCouple
over a year ago

near u

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By *eaded_BazMan
over a year ago

Truro

"Hi single guys wanting to get into the action.. can I give you some advice so you can succeed in having some fun with a couple..

1. Send a photo where your face is actually visible. No glasses. Not taken 50m away. And not some artistic angle where we only see your one eye..

2. You are trying to fuck another mans wife..make an effort. Write a proper message. Be the one that she wants to meet out of the 40 msg she gets per day.

3. When you go onto kik or another chat app make an effort! You need to pick this girl up. Just as if you would pick her up in a bar.

4. You do not only have to impress her. You also have to impress her husband. Yes this is a swingers site but as a couple we still want a decent guy. Make an effort!

5. Be clean and presentable when you meet. Make an effort with your clothes. Make sure your hands and nails are clean. You are basically going on a date. Make an effort.

7. Well thats it. I thought id give the guys some advice as I'm hearing so many complaining that they are being judged and not being taken seriously.

So guys ... make an effort? You will get results.

Happy swinging! Xx"

I like to think I already am doing the above and so appreciate the confirmation.

However you do realise you are pitching this to the same demographic of people who don't read the FAB faqs about politeness and respectful declinations, if you want there attention try a thread titled Free Pussy or something lol.

Genuinely appreciate the intention of your thread though.

Barry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha...Love this thread.

Here's some advice for couples if you want a nice respectful decent guy to join you for non restricted ongoing group pleasure.

Stop being so fucking superior!!

We are all made of the same horny stuff.

Yeah it would be nice if you just said...

She wants it

She a slot

She loves cum

She loves anything you throw at her

She is all yours

But let's be honest. The couple is here to fulfill some desires as much as the singles.

Most men understand all women and couples are different.

Not all singles are desperate you know. Most complain about guys being attached!!

Very arrogant post and this is the attitude that is putting genuine guys like me off fab.

Good luck avoiding us scary single guys!

Rant over.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Some very harsh responses here.

The forums are littered with 'why can't I get a meet' topics from dudes. Here's a couple giving some decent advice.

I don't see anything patronising about it. If you think the advice doesn't apply to you, why take offence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Advice for preaching couples: The only reason you get somewhere is because of the woman."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Advice for preaching couples: The only reason you get somewhere is because of the woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Advice for preaching couples: The only reason you get somewhere is because of the woman."

That's not advise. It's a statement. And a statement that is probably true for many couples. It's not a big deal though.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol...well that did escalate quickly. To whomever took offence, that was not the intention. The intention was only to help those who don't know these things (coz we all know they are out there). To you took offence, we do apologise. To you who saw the value, thx.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"Advice for preaching couples: The only reason you get somewhere is because of the woman.

Haha, here come the bitter dudes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

getting deja vu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol...well that did escalate quickly. To whomever took offence, that was not the intention. The intention was only to help those who don't know these things (coz we all know they are out there). To you took offence, we do apologise. To you who saw the value, thx.

Clearly a very wise couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone were to post advise on a gardening forum about how they think is the best way to grow tomatoes, fellow gardeners would think one of a number of responses 'ignore advise because I don't want to grow tomatoes', ignore advise because I'm already doing what is advised', 'ignore advise because I disagree with the advise', or 'let's try out that advise and see if it works'. But the advise would not be considered patronising or offensive. But if someone posts advise to a particular demographic on a sex forum,about how they believe success can be achieved, it is often considered patronising. If I as an individual was singled out for advise I didn't want I might find that patronising. But I wouldn't find it patronising if a single person posted advise for couples in general. It is then purely my choice as to whether I consider the advise relevant to me or not. Certainly nothing for me to be offended about. But I've seen advise threads like this go tits up before, and never really understood why.

Mrs"

Great analogy.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Yes, always go for men from Staffordshire

Someone gave me advice to avoid men from Staffordshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Yes, always go for men from Staffordshire

Someone gave me advice to avoid men from Staffordshire

How about Stockport? X

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Yes, always go for men from Staffordshire

Someone gave me advice to avoid men from Staffordshire

How about Stockport? X

I'm from Stockport so definitely avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Yes, always go for men from Staffordshire

Someone gave me advice to avoid men from Staffordshire

How about Stockport? X

I'm from Stockport so definitely avoid

Definitely not one to avoid by the look of things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone want to give us single women some advice?!

Yes, always go for men from Staffordshire

Someone gave me advice to avoid men from Staffordshire

How about Stockport? X

I'm from Stockport so definitely avoid

I couldn't be sure without a taste x

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

Send 100 messages a day every day and you might yes might get meet

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151

OP your profile clearly States the Mrs doesn't have sex with other man...so why bother giving advice when you have already stated you're not interested. Why not just block single guys from messaging you since you've already made your mind up. What are you trying to do by giving guys advice about messaging you when you're not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP your profile clearly States the Mrs doesn't have sex with other man...so why bother giving advice when you have already stated you're not interested. Why not just block single guys from messaging you since you've already made your mind up. What are you trying to do by giving guys advice about messaging you when you're not interested?

They just know everything Pal. Us singletons are just desperate fools always!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All i can say on this is 1, it would be great if people looking at a post for what the poster is trying to say and not act like they do on other social media by reading make it about the reader.

And 2, point No 4 is absolutle spot on.

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151

"All i can say on this is 1, it would be great if people looking at a post for what the poster is trying to say and not act like they do on other social media by reading make it about the reader.

And 2, point No 4 is absolutle spot on."

I get that.... I commend the points OP raised but to generalise that us Single man are just after a shag without respecting both members of a couple isn't a very nice thing to do. Would you not agree?

I've met couples where one or both individuals were not pleasant people at all, but I dont say advice to all couples and write a Piece putting all couples in one category.

I'm not here to offend anyone, just saying how its coming across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All i can say on this is 1, it would be great if people looking at a post for what the poster is trying to say and not act like they do on other social media by reading make it about the reader.

And 2, point No 4 is absolutle spot on.

I've met couples where one or both individuals were not pleasant people at all, but I dont say advice to all couples and write a Piece putting all couples in one category.

I'm not here to offend anyone, just saying how its coming across."

But there not posting it direct to you. They have taken some of there free time to offer help to anyone that might find it useful. Nothing more as there title clearly states.

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151

"All i can say on this is 1, it would be great if people looking at a post for what the poster is trying to say and not act like they do on other social media by reading make it about the reader.

And 2, point No 4 is absolutle spot on.

I've met couples where one or both individuals were not pleasant people at all, but I dont say advice to all couples and write a Piece putting all couples in one category.

I'm not here to offend anyone, just saying how its coming across.

But there not posting it direct to you. They have taken some of there free time to offer help to anyone that might find it useful. Nothing more as there title clearly states."

Its the generalization which doesn't feel right, but yes you are right...its directed at me and I shouldn't read it as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All i can say on this is 1, it would be great if people looking at a post for what the poster is trying to say and not act like they do on other social media by reading make it about the reader.

And 2, point No 4 is absolutle spot on.

I've met couples where one or both individuals were not pleasant people at all, but I dont say advice to all couples and write a Piece putting all couples in one category.

I'm not here to offend anyone, just saying how its coming across.

But there not posting it direct to you. They have taken some of there free time to offer help to anyone that might find it useful. Nothing more as there title clearly states.

Its the generalization which doesn't feel right, but yes you are right...its directed at me and I shouldn't read it as such. "

It's very difficult to offer advise without generalising, and I'm sure the OP didn't mean literally every single male. I for one would not be in the slightest bit offended if any one of you guys were to offer your advise to couples in general.

Btw not sure that only indulging in soft play, as explained in their profile, disqualifies the OP from offering advise. Surely the way they choose to play, although not everybody's cup of tea, is irrelevant to this discussion?

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