FabSwingers.com forum: Private swinger parties

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys so we've had like no responses to anything else we have posted on here but we do have a question about private parties and what they are like? What to expect as it's a new step up from what we are used to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From our viewpoint they're excellent and relaxed evenings or in some cases afternoons

Our group is from the local town and we've known the people in it socially long before we ever entered this scene.

In fact it was a conversation with another couole we socialise with that we made our first tentative steps into the party scene

It's a very relaxed and safe environment and nobody makes any assumptions or pressures you unto anything you don't want to do!

The rules if our group are basically, respect, and discretion. So works for us.

And when we consider the number of disastrous, no shows we've had from here, for us it is the way forward.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It really depends on who is holding the party and what expectations there are.

We have attended two. I would say ask if there is a social space (it can get very awkward if there isn't), ask if it's expected that everyone plays with people other than their partner, ask about dress code, if you should bring food (I wouldn't attend any party without taking drink and chocolates) and anything else you aren't sure about.

If it's in someone's home it can be difficult to refuse something you don't want to do so it's best to be sure you're happy before you attend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh wow ok so we are expected to bring things can their really be parties where they can't even socialise because wow that's just weird

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are going to bring some wine to this one on Friday night we know we have to be well dressed it's kind of exciting actually

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Oh wow ok so we are expected to bring things can their really be parties where they can't even socialise because wow that's just weird "

No, not expected but I wouldn't attend a party in someone's home empty handed. Our experience is that you need to ask the hosts what is likely to happen. It isn't weird if that is what all have agreed to.

I would say where swinging is concerned always have an idea of what you're heading in to as every situation is different and never be afraid to say no and walk away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

) thanks for the advice we just have to see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From our viewpoint they're excellent and relaxed evenings or in some cases afternoons

Our group is from the local town and we've known the people in it socially long before we ever entered this scene.

In fact it was a conversation with another couole we socialise with that we made our first tentative steps into the party scene

It's a very relaxed and safe environment and nobody makes any assumptions or pressures you unto anything you don't want to do!

The rules if our group are basically, respect, and discretion. So works for us.

And when we consider the number of disastrous, no shows we've had from here, for us it is the way forward. "
I'm often Gainsborough way and would love a social invite

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So mixed reviews really not sure if we will go to these often but it's always exciting to try out new things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never been to a party yet would love to try one xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really have you guys not? We go to clubs like Rios and eureka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to clubs but no private party's as yet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So mixed reviews really not sure if we will go to these often but it's always exciting to try out new things"
lots of good socials around u just need to take the plunge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went to a private party last night.

Bloody awesome ??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it very much depends on how you play too.

Private parties where we don't know the other guests don't suit us neither do those where it's expected that you'll have sex with people other than your partner. We found this out by experience. That's why I think it's important to find out before you go. No problem with people who do enjoy that kind of party though

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By *ad-GirlWoman
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Hey guys so we've had like no responses to anything else we have posted on here but we do have a question about private parties and what they are like? What to expect as it's a new step up from what we are used to "

Some are good some are bad some are really well run with lots going on and others aren't they do vary a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to several before i met hubby. Most were great.

The last one i went to was many years ago with hubby and it was awful hence it was the last lol.

The house was very dirty and there was a guy there who kept making very racist comments about where we live (Leicester). So we left asap !!!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We've been to one and never again. Almost put me off the whole scene. The hostess was incredibly d*unk and staggering around and everyone was expected to play. I don't like pressure of any sort .... I was insulted because even though I was bi I wouldn't play with her! The guests were totally awful .... women laughing about how other women's husbands preferred them to their wives. It was total madness. I honestly had an awful time, but this endorses the point made above .... know the people first. It was early on in our relationship and Mr knew the couple from a club .... totally different in their own home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to 2. First one too many women and not enough guys. Look at the ratio otherwise you could be left disappointed. Ask how many have met previously because the first one I was the only woman that hadn't meet everyone and it felt awkward and clicky.

Social area is a must. Ask the organiser if everyone is aware that the same rules in a club also apply in the party I e. No means no. It's bit a free for all etc etc.

2nd party was much much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to about 6 a year always great meet up with friends and new couples so I think we have been lucky there is never any pressure to play and the hosts are always great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only parties we will attend ! A quality private one

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Attended : good manners would say that I'd take at least wine ( no different from any other party). Enqire if other guests are on here so you can read their profile. As the hosts about the set up /social/play expectations.

Knowledge means you aren't going totally blind into it.

Held: mix of couples already knew and believed would get along. Also a few people who been talking to but not met.

At the end of the day all you can do is try. ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys sorry about the late responce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well the DicksnDivas one that we went had no expectation of playing with anyone you didn't want to. We were not pressurised at all. If we go to another then this is the sort of atmosphere I would expect. If you've never been to one then i certainly recommend these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We treat our house parties like normal parties. People arrive, we have a drink and a nibble and a chat. But people end up having sex. There has never been any pushiness at our parties, but each one has been a bit different. We have been to house parties where people have been a bit presumptuous and that's not good. Us personally would not attend a small scale house party where we didn't know anyone, because we don't like playing with people we dont know.

Mrs

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I host regular weekday daytime coffee morning parties for local Fabbers, couples and select singles. no pressure or expectations of any playing but no objections if any guests get the urge to go upstairs and play lol.

Some parties have just been guests having a natter over a brew or three. Some have turned into mini orgies. All part of the fun

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