FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

Mff

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have been keen to do this again after many years absence and got chatting to this lovely couple on fab who were keen to meet. We arranged to meet socially and a few days before the meet they kindly informed me that they had a another three ladies at their disposal that they obviously met on a rotational basis for mff fun at theirs. This completely put me off and I decided not to take things further. The couple sounded great but the setup wasn't for me - is this common with couples and single ladies?

Has any other single ladies had a similar experience?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most couple seem to have problems meeting one Bi Lady, 3 sounds a bit exaggerated, are they verified?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends what dynamic you want with a couple. If they only had you and expected frequent meets, would that work for you too? You'd meet other. Couples I'm guessing ? so why shouldn't they meet other ladies?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

[Removed by poster at 06/11/16 07:21:05]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 06/11/16 07:25:21]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 06/11/16 07:27:43]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 06/11/16 07:27:43]"

They had four verifications. From couples however.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

We have our Lady friend whom we meet regularly for ffm or hubby and her catch up without me. It's working really well for all of us.

MrsSB

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While we don't have anyone at the moment we wouldn't expect the single girl to only have us and we assume they wouldn't expect us to only have them. That said I don't think we'd be so blunt to say you are one of a rotation so join the queue, particularly before meeting

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would put me off tbh. Sounds like they are trying to tell you how great they are......but has back fired spectacularly.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love mff

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep...to be part of a harem of ladies is not my goal on fab I'm afraid

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have had 45 verified meets. They clearly did not judge you on that.

They like to meet single ladies for mff... you fit their requirements, they fit yours!

With your 45 verified meets you judge them for having a few? I'm just re-stating the facts you seem to have presented.....I don't see your point/problem.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria


"Most couple seem to have problems meeting one Bi Lady, 3 sounds a bit exaggerated, are they verified?"

I think couples can be their own worst enemies. There are many single ladies out there looking for respectable couples. The problem solving that many couples treat these ladies like free prostitutes and no woman wants to feel that way. If a couple is respectful and devoid of jealousy issues it isn't difficult. For us finding a couple to come to ours is a challenge!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have had 45 verified meets. They clearly did not judge you on that.They like to meet single ladies for mff... you fit their requirements, they fit yours!

With your 45 verified meets you judge them for having a few? I'm just re-stating the facts you seem to have presented.....I don't see your point/problem."

And I wouldnt have judged them either if they had disaplyed 41 verifications! 85% of my meets over a year are actually social/catch up with friends. And the point is that I am not willing to be part of a group of ladies used in rotation as a free sex toy to please the hubby! This was also becoming apparent in our many chats. That sums it up for me and my verifications really have no bearing on this.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

PS It was a shame really as they were a delightful couple and we had a good rapport..ah well..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I agree that, irrespective of the facts, making you feel like "a random off the shelf" can't be a good idea.

I wouldn't talk to a lady I was trying to get together with anything about any "regulars" I may or may not have, and I'm sure most would be the same...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree that, irrespective of the facts, making you feel like "a random off the shelf" can't be a good idea.

I wouldn't talk to a lady I was trying to get together with anything about any "regulars" I may or may not have, and I'm sure most would be the same..."

Exactly! If they had not.mentioned the other ladies I wouldn't have been any the wiser..sometimes too much info backfires

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *achiavellian_adventuresCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke/Andover

We have one of these "spare ladies" right now which took us ages to find, but 3? They are either exceptionally lucky or exaggerating.

Although I am planning to setup up an all-female group in Hampshire/Wiltshire so if anyone is interested...

Flick xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep a bit of decorum was called for on their part

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm one of the criteria that I had as a single is that the people that I met were also meeting others. To me it just seems that they were saying that there's no pressure on you. Although one of the things that I've noticed is that many ladies from fab like a guy to be solely focused on them.

Are you meeting others? To me it sounds a little like you simply dislike that they have other people that they meet and that you will be 'one of many'

Just taking it from what you've said it seems a bit like you want it on your terms and that you were put off by their active swinging. It's a hard thing to be just sexual with someone but surely if you're meeting a couple that's what it is?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmm one of the criteria that I had as a single is that the people that I met were also meeting others. To me it just seems that they were saying that there's no pressure on you. Although one of the things that I've noticed is that many ladies from fab like a guy to be solely focused on them.

Are you meeting others? To me it sounds a little like you simply dislike that they have other people that they meet and that you will be 'one of many'

Just taking it from what you've said it seems a bit like you want it on your terms and that you were put off by their active swinging. It's a hard thing to be just sexual with someone but surely if you're meeting a couple that's what it is?"

A good point there but I also like to be friends with all my meets too! Whether sexual or not

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

For us swinging is purely about no strings sex - we don't expect to become friends with those we swing with (though there are some single guys we have) and don't feel any "ownership" over them. We do expect the same liberties in return. However we play at a mutual agreed time and certainly wouldn't expect a man, woman or couple to fit in with any rotation schedule

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree that, irrespective of the facts, making you feel like "a random off the shelf" can't be a good idea.

I wouldn't talk to a lady I was trying to get together with anything about any "regulars" I may or may not have, and I'm sure most would be the same...

Exactly! If they had not.mentioned the other ladies I wouldn't have been any the wiser..sometimes too much info backfires"

I've had the same. A seemingly nice couple who then went on to tell me about all their other regular women. I found it very indiscreet. I don't care if they are fucking 100 other women. I won't however be a fuck toy they discuss with other people. I cut all contact.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most couple seem to have problems meeting one Bi Lady, 3 sounds a bit exaggerated, are they verified?

I think couples can be their own worst enemies. There are many single ladies out there looking for respectable couples. The problem solving that many couples treat these ladies like free prostitutes and no woman wants to feel that way. If a couple is respectful and devoid of jealousy issues it isn't difficult. For us finding a couple to come to ours is a challenge! "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why OP you would be put off by a couple seeing other single females regularly, why didn't you look at the positives? They obviously know how to treat & play with a single lady, they are not looking for an exclusive relationship etc etc can't see any down sides!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

It doesn't take much at times for a comment to put me off people. Might not seem much but I can see where the OP is coming from.

I wouldn't like to be discussed in a way that the couple described their three other girls.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top