FabSwingers.com forum: Pet swinging hates

By *emel9 OP Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Haven't posted anything in here for a while. But thought about this as a venting, letting off steam etc, topic.

Please don't get aggressive, swear etc...just post very simply the type of things that frustrate or annoy you about swinging...for example mine are:

Profiles that demand a face pic with the first message, but have no pics on their own profile.

"Conversations" where you are asked lots of questions, but none of yours are answered.

"User no longer on site"

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By *upofteaMan
over a year ago

hornchurch

Those that chat, lead you along but have no intention of meeting... Timewasters!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Those what send one word answers to messages

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judgmental and narrow minded people, Fab is full of them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

One word or one liner messages as an initial contact from men.

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By *hoxyWoman
over a year ago

Chester

People who just assume its ok to come to mine.

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By *erksGuy3Man
over a year ago

Aquitaine France

people who send you a wink then block you when you try to contact them

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's really not worth getting so wound up that you hate things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who assume that because I can't accommodate I must be cheating.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Judgmental and narrow minded people, Fab is full of them."

This.

And those whose profile opening gambit is negative, arrogant and dismissive of all men. Some of us have a mind of our own.

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By *ymph84Woman
over a year ago

durham

People who block you after they send a face pic as your phone has died before you had a chance to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text speak, one word messages, and zero conversation after they wink you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the people say im bored need sex and then chat and then disapear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who get all arsey when I ask them to send me a photo of the front and back of their credit card to prove they are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who message me saying 'great profile'

If they are saying that then I know 100% that they haven't read it

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Couples who bang on about their perfect marriage and say if you aren't a swinger then your marriage must be cramp...

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By *emel9 OP Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fakes

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By *ymph84Woman
over a year ago

durham

Couples that message saying they happy with just girl on girl play to find out 3 messages later they have wasted my time as actually they want the man to be involved too

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Couples in clubs who think they because you have chatted to them you obviously want to play with them. No, I was just making conversation in the smoking area instead of standing there in silence.

Couples who are way too eager in clubs: "Soooo, you want to go play?". No, it's only 9pm, I've spoken to you for 5 minutes and haven't even had a chance to hang my coat up yet.

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By *ral addict 13Man
over a year ago

lincolnshire

People who just think it's ok to tell you what they don't like about you and abuse you.

Ruins it for everybody as puts people off using this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples who bang on about their perfect marriage and say if you aren't a swinger then your marriage must be cramp..."

Couples who bang on about and can't understand the fact that if you are in a great relationship you can still swing together without there being something missing in your relationship

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

"Haven't posted anything in here for a while. But thought about this as a venting, letting off steam etc, topic.

Please don't get aggressive, swear etc...just post very simply the type of things that frustrate or annoy you about swinging...for example mine are:

Profiles that demand a face pic with the first message, but have no pics on their own profile.

"Conversations" where you are asked lots of questions, but none of yours are answered.

"User no longer on site"

My cat isn't on here - I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here before, know what it's about"!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys telling me they are nearby if I want to meet. Yes, that is my sole criteria on meets lol

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

"Haven't posted anything in here for a while. But thought about this as a venting, letting off steam etc, topic.

Please don't get aggressive, swear etc...just post very simply the type of things that frustrate or annoy you about swinging...for example mine are:

Profiles that demand a face pic with the first message, but have no pics on their own profile.

"Conversations" where you are asked lots of questions, but none of yours are answered.

"User no longer on site"

My cat isn't on here - I hope"
its playing with my two rascals

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Whenever I read "I wont bite unless asked"

"I cant have pics up because of my job"

My face just goes

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

People who want to see your photos but won't let you see there's,hand one couple wanted me to pay for a taxi from Blackpool blocked.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"A warning to Sydney University....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who message in the fact it is only the other half(missus) on the profile, by saying they'd do this and that to 'me', when ours says its mostly me on here.

Plus the usual one liners and messages from those who don't fall within our 'requirements'.

As for the scene generally speaking, it is the impolite people who presume that we will have sex with them because we are in a place at the same time.

Most annoyances can be removed by people reading profiles and responding (or not) as appropriate.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Men who moan or ask me why i wont do certain things, men who ask stupid, boring questions. Someone who keeps asking to see you so you do, they arrange a date to see you again, then you dont hear from them again even to say they have changed their mind or cant come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles that are 'SHOUTY' ....you know the ones, they are written as a list of bullet points about their rules! Yes we all have things we don't like but we're basically here to enjoy ourselves.

I wish Sydney University would use our pics.

Profiles that are full of gaping fannys, arseholes and cocks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haven't posted anything in here for a while. But thought about this as a venting, letting off steam etc, topic.

Please don't get aggressive, swear etc...just post very simply the type of things that frustrate or annoy you about swinging...for example mine are:

Profiles that demand a face pic with the first message, but have no pics on their own profile.

"Conversations" where you are asked lots of questions, but none of yours are answered.

"User no longer on site"

But requiring a face pic to be private messaged is not the same the same as having a face pic on profile for all to see. Those who insist on a face pic with first message (like ourselves) should be prepared to also send face pics if it's them initiating first contact, as we do. But I don't think it's reasonable to expect us to display face pics publically for everybody on Fab to see, surely?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who say out of messages. But only been on the site less than 24 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20/25 yr old single girls who are only looking for single males 20-35 etc wtf is all that about its a swinging site not a hook-up free sex site

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

People who lie, pretend to be nicer than what they are, pretentious people.

Certain people who think that because they are grateful for the attention that you should be too.

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

Writing a long introduction message and getting no response. No wonder some cut and paste at times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who message who presume cos I'm local I have to fuck them. Or men who think because I'm single I am available to them 24 7 so if they get a better offer they can blow me off.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

Men that send cock pics and no face pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they are asking for more pics, when they dont got any lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People or profiles that are:

Rude.

Bigoted.

Judgmental.

Egocentric.

Egotistical.

Selfish.

Ignorant.

Immoral.

Exigent.

Exacting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to have pet hates and just hang loose, but it is tiresome explaining that, no I'm not forcing my wife into this and that she's not doing it just to put on a show for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that presume I'm an easy lay just because I'm on a swinging site, and should just drop my knickers because they've sent me a message.

Abusive messages that are aimed at putting me down, just because I haven't read a message they sent previously... Although I state I'm here for the forums and not meeting, and have not asked anyone to message me, on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a message asking why you haven't replied to thier last one. There's a local guy who is very good at that. Can spot him a mile off on each profile he has. Always block him.

People who dot understand the concept of unable to accommodate.

People who ask why you don't want to meet and get arsey about it. Even after you've politely said no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples who bang on about their perfect marriage and say if you aren't a swinger then your marriage must be cramp...

Couples who bang on about and can't understand the fact that if you are in a great relationship you can still swing together without there being something missing in your relationship "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples who bang on about their perfect marriage and say if you aren't a swinger then your marriage must be cramp... "
The irony is that they got no clue what a proper marriage is according to the bible as they are committing adultery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"20/25 yr old single girls who are only looking for single males 20-35 etc wtf is all that about its a swinging site not a hook-up free sex site "

Huh

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Small rooms. If I can't swing my cat....I have no other pets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 05/11/16 18:08:08]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The "hi how are you" message...

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By *ce948Man
over a year ago

Darlington

People who send friend request and don't reply if you message them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not cutting your toe nails before a meet....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples who bang on about their perfect marriage and say if you aren't a swinger then your marriage must be cramp... The irony is that they got no clue what a proper marriage is according to the bible as they are committing adultery."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utter crap .

Next we will hear that gay marriage is against the bibles teaching .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How religious exactly are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utter crap .

Next we will hear that gay marriage is against the bibles teaching .

Wouldn't bother guys

let them have there little love in , actually who gives a shit,ignorance and lack of knowledge clearly showing

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

people who lie to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people who lie to themselves."

Yes agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Providing they believe in the bible......

And those that do shouldn't be here, unless they're those types that only apply the bits of their religion that suits. (But that debate is for an entirely different thread.)

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Couples that message saying they happy with just girl on girl play to find out 3 messages later they have wasted my time as actually they want the man to be involved too"

We get this a lot too, similar 'yep she plays on her own no probs" then "But I have to be there" or "can I just touch? You are fucking my Mrs after all"...

No! Bugger off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Womens profiles with a list of demands and donts.

Guys who address one half of a couple in 1st message.

White knights..place is full of them.

Straight in profile..bi in messages.

Cliques in chatrooms and forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Small rooms. If I can't swing my cat....I have no other pets

Beat me to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Womens profiles with a list of demands and donts.

Guys who address one half of a couple in 1st message.

White knights..place is full of them.

Straight in profile..bi in messages.

Cliques in chatrooms and forums."

Great list and we agree with all your points

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Utter crap .

Next we will hear that gay marriage is against the bibles teaching .

Wouldn't bother guys

let them have there little love in , actually who gives a shit,ignorance and lack of knowledge clearly showing "

True , nothing new there I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How religious exactly are you?

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I am religious, but not to the extreme you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Providing they believe in the bible......

And those that do shouldn't be here, unless they're those types that only apply the bits of their religion that suits. (But that debate is for an entirely different thread.)

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That is right too and yeah it would be a different debate as well there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The "let's speak tomorrow" and when you wake up you've been blocked.

The women who have set looking for mf in preferences but says no couples in text

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

"Womens profiles with a list of demands and donts."

I'm guilty of that

but despite stating in my profile that I'm an ssbbw I still end up having to explain what it is. Then they stop replying and block me

Hate guys with really bad screen names like heavycummer. Iliketofuck etc. Those that claim to be vwe but most definitely aren't - one was actually only 3" erect and pencil thin.

Sky remotes and deodorant cans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who message trying to get you away from your partner,"cos you would be more than a fuck to me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"20/25 yr old single girls who are only looking for single males 20-35 etc wtf is all that about its a swinging site not a hook-up free sex site "

People who think because you're on a swinging site you'll hook up with anyone, regardless of age.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

One word

HI!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

couples and single ferns who do every thing they can to emasculate men and turns us into preforming seals who will do everything they demand for a chance of a fuck .

men who allow couples and single ferns to emasculate them because there so desperate for a fuck they will roll over play dead clap like a seal or do what ever other emasculating demands are made of them by those looking to strip men of there masculinity and turn us into controlled puppies doing there bidding .

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Hi" messages

"Meet now ?" Messages because im dressed up laid in bed gagging 24/7 waiting for you .......not lol

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By *otrockloverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

People who repeatedly look at your profile, then wink, but then inexplicably delete your introductory message *without reading*.

Head scratcher. I mean, if it's possible to lurk without leaving a track (it is) and equally, it isn't easy to wink by mistake (a wink is a form of communication on here), why do it only to delete my message when I respond and say hello?

Ok I get folk change their minds (that's how the site rolls) but is it too much to say "sorry I've changed my mind" if you receive a message from someone who has clearly invested in reading your profile and spent time making an introductory message which reflects this?! After all, I've only messaged as a result of their direct actions!

Hmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My irritants are cock avatars and profiles that are predominantly a collection of cock pics. I also don't like being sent a picture of cock - find it very presumptuous.

One-line messages such as 'how are you' irritate me, and I cannot bare it when someone we don't know randomly asks what we're up to (but I don't like it when that gets asked in the supermarket checkout either).

I don't like the way some guys try and use this site more as a escort site where the don't have to pay.

Mrs

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By *ral DMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

These are my pet hates too and it happens far far to often. Well said mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People whose profile comes over full of negatives dominated by stringent rules as opposed to information about themselves - likes and dislikes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages just say Hi.

Profiles that say put the words : I've got a big chopper in the title or won't reply.

I'm a professional : what in? Wanking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Text speak, really does get my back up

Women and couples that think they have a god given right to mess a guy around just because he's single.

People that seem unable to hold a conversation because they only answer a message with one word replies.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

People that dictate what swinging is and is not under the guise of being open minded but failing to be so. Overtly negative profiles aren't great but I can understand why they happen.

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Men and women who are using this site as a hook up one and not a swingers site.

Couples in clubs who assume because you've chatted to them its a garuntee play. Recently got cornered in a hot tub for this exact reason

People who don't read profiles

Cock picks

The "I know you're not looking for men BUT..." messages

People who assume because I'm fat I'll meet up with anyone regardless of age, sex ect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who block you after they send a face pic as your phone has died before you had a chance to reply"

Who in their right mind would want to block you!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys (Women probably do it too, but I'm just goin off my own experience.) deleting their profile, then rejoining the site; on a regular basis like weekly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who message me saying 'great profile'

If they are saying that then I know 100% that they haven't read it

Hi great profile ! Well great legs anyway!!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The long profiles with things they don't do and don't like. Kinda just puts me off, we all have people that ruin the fun but we just move on from it, no need to keep moaning about it.

People that are pushy.

Lots of fanny cock pics on profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like it when i send a decent message maybe ten lines or more. Really make an effort to communicate effectively and all i get back is one line....

Bad breath is also something i just can't do...don't people floss ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest pet hate for me is turning up with fishnet stockings (devils spawn in my mind), second one is people who expect to be trusted to come to my home for fun, but as soon as you say we need to exchange phone numbers it's you might ring me, hello you can block my number but I can't block my address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Hi" messages

"Meet now ?" Messages because im dressed up laid in bed gagging 24/7 waiting for you .......not lol "

"Hi" Messages!?

Outrageous! Reminds of a sketch by the late, great Peter Cook and Dudley Moore!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GVMasdUbhfs

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"I dont like it when i send a decent message maybe ten lines or more. Really make an effort to communicate effectively and all i get back is one line....

Bad breath is also something i just can't do...don't people floss ? "

I just paid £57 to get my teeth cleaned, my last dentist wasnt very good as he never sent me to the hygenist. I dont floss i use interdental brushes they are much better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who think I am some kind of free prostitute to "service" them at their convenience.

People who take a wink or a fab as a guarantee you will fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who say they will meet u after becoming friends and 6 months down the rd still haven't made the effort to arrange something

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

When you send a polite no thank you you're not our type then a few hours later they send a message again like it's the first time they've ever contacted you

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By *nioukMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

When people wink you, so you drop them a nice message and they delete it. At least tell me what I said wrong, or is it my face

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Men outside our age range who actually argue about your preference for older men !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"20/25 yr old single girls who are only looking for single males 20-35 etc wtf is all that about its a swinging site not a hook-up free sex site "

What

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you tell someone there lovely buy sorry to young then get a message back off them just 2 weeks later and they've aged 7 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men outside our age range who actually argue about your preference for older men !"

Change your filters then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who moan in forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who moan in forums "

Are you moaning about people moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who moan in forums "

Isn't that what there for ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who moan in forums

Are you moaning about people moaning

I'm moaning, about people moaning, about people moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who moan in forums

Are you moaning about people moaning

I'm moaning, about people moaning, about people moaning "

Ah, that's ok then

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