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By *obytails OP   Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Can anyone offer some advice on how to persuade my shy wifev to visit a swingers club, even if only for a drink and to socialise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

erm...you don't, you can put the idea to her and let her decide but if it's not for her then pushing will only create friction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone offer some advice on how to persuade my shy wifev to visit a swingers club, even if only for a drink and to socialise? "

Is she even into the swinging scene? It's a big leap to take if she's not even been introduced. It can be a bit overwhelming. It might put her off a little as well as you get, shall we say a large variety of people there.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Simply, don't do it, unless you are so positive she'd accept it!

Have you discussed it with her? Or is it something that is in "your head" that you feel she'd be fine?

I only ask, as a number of times, I've had guys responding to my Profile, saying their wives are "up for anything", but I always ask to speak to the lady too!

All too often, I've found out that the female partner isn't aware of what's about to occur, until I've shown up!

You have to give it a lot of thought. Talk it over with her, but don't be pushy; it could end up a helluva lot worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on how open she is I got into the club scene before the swinging scene if that makes sense. My friend that took me did'nt tell me we were going to a swingers club just told me to dress sexy. Long story short he took me to cupids and it was one of the best nights of my life and opened my eyes to a whole new world.

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By *obytails OP   Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Thanks looks as though I need to tread carefully, she did get excited once watching a swinging programme

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Thanks looks as though I need to tread carefully, she did get excited once watching a swinging programme"

Have you ever watched porn with her? That might be a first step.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Ask,talk, fantasize,share.

If a club is a step too far,why not try a social?

Good luck xx

(oh and it took 3 years from first suggesting it to going here,and i was aready swinging,so don't give up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile on here and ask if she fancies having some fun of her own?

You can't persuade someone to get involved in something involving sex, it's not like trying a new flavour of ice cream; it has to be something she really wants to try for herself.

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By *obytails OP   Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Thanks folks I have mentioned the subject during sex yesterday, and she didnt smack me, dont think she takes me seriuous, I will keep working on it and hope to see you all soon as a couple.

Enjoy yourselves and take care

Rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xtasia is more like a dance club .. yes swingers club but more about dancing and flirting dressing up .. we started out going there ... did nothing for first 5 times just chated and flirted was good fun.

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By *im halpertMan
over a year ago

malvern

there are loads of people ive met at chams who just go to chill relax have a drink,and dont play ,tell her you could just do that at first.go look around and have a feel of the place

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Choosing the right club is critical. I would tell her one of your fantasies is to make love in a Jacuzzi, and go with that as your objective, pick a good clean classy club, and on your first visit, DON'T do anything with anyone else, unless she suggests it.

If you push her to get involved, then you will blow the whole thing. Just go and see the enviroment and have a good time together, start that way. Slowly Slowly, catchy swinging monkey....

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By *ndy pandy and looby looCouple
over a year ago

YORK/LEEDS/HARROGATE/EAST COAST/NORTH WALES

There is a clue in the question -"shy wife". you cant persuade or cojole someone to this it has to be an open and natural progression of your sex lives. If you even try by subversive means, or out right nagging the results could loose you everything. Make take a while, might never happen but introduce the idea in own home by just talking the senarios through of watching other/being watched then maybe touching...and on, you will know her well enough for the speed to proceed (or not), if you dont know her well enough in that way, this is not the route for either of you. It can break a relationship as well as enhance. Everyone needs to be 100% comfortable to play and 100% curious to even venture to look.

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