FabSwingers.com forum: Size of person and strong personality

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bit of a double ender this one

Been on the scene for about 18 months. Regulars at Townhouse. Met some great people and some who are friends for life.

Regularly chat to people there or we get noticed and messaged on fab afterwards. But of a recurring theme why people don't approach us.

1. Male looks big, strong and therefore a bit intimidating (I'm teddy bear really)

2. Female is very good looking, sexy and confident. Personality wise can come across as a bit dominant. Bit worried about approaching and being rejected.

Is anyone on here put off meeting people based on any of these characteristics.

We tend to not approach people who seem over the top with laughing for example. Don't know why but over exaggerated personality traits are a bit off putting for us.

Tend to approach people who look a bit nervous and need someone to break the ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think people don't approach people who they deem to be better looking for fear of possible rejection

Kinky

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

OP Congratulations on expecting a baby. I hope all goes well.

Sally

PS. It would be nice to know if it is the male or female half who posted this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP Congratulations on expecting a baby. I hope all goes well.

Sally

PS. It would be nice to know if it is the male or female half who posted this thread."

It's the male half... but it was a topic we were discussing last night with swinger friends so I said I'd put something up.

And thanks. Couple of months to go now

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

In a club situation people's appearance doesn't put us off talking . But we don't like people who are overly confident and too outgoing and forward.

We would never not talk to someone who is better looking than us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I'm a bit of a nervous type until I get to know people after a nice chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite an imposing stature and have heard the same things from friends / acquaintances (intimidating, scary etc) when in reality it couldn't be further from the truth (unless provoked) some people just have pre conceived ideas based around looks, just like you would approach someone who is particularly extrovert, they may not approach someone who looks a certain way despite neither of you actually knowing the other one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*wouldnt approach

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