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By *entleman Jimmy OP   Man
over a year ago

Hove

What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

We agree with you, we dont get it either...puts us off a couple if the have something like that on their profile, a pic of the with those words scribbled on lipstick on their bodies...not for us...very tacky we think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway."

Some people are into being called names. Just preference really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway."

On a different note, the Daleks didn't say that.

It was BOSS in the Green Death.

Just so you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We agree with you, we dont get it either...puts us off a couple if the have something like that on their profile, a pic of the with those words scribbled on lipstick on their bodies...not for us...very tacky we think. "

Totally agree, it may mean nothing but puts me off straight away!!

Yet I love tattoos ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

On a different note, the Daleks didn't say that.

It was BOSS in the Green Death.

Just so you know."

Was going to say that as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't do anything for us either, but some people love it - each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

On a different note, the Daleks didn't say that.

It was BOSS in the Green Death.

Just so you know.

Was going to say that as well "

Bloody geek.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really care..I meet people of all sorts

sluts,vixens,tartsmilfs etc etc

what matters is I meet and like them or me.

simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway."

that's fair enough, but no point dissing it as some people are into name calling..

who are we to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway."

It takes all types Bro. I used to see a couple and for 99% of their lives they are the bastions of middle England. The 1% they delve into has all sorts of thrown into the mix including the lady being called lots of names we would all term derogatory. It just their thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

On a different note, the Daleks didn't say that.

It was BOSS in the Green Death.

Just so you know.

Was going to say that as well

Bloody geek."

I love being a geek..

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

On a different note, the Daleks didn't say that.

It was BOSS in the Green Death.

Just so you know.

Was going to say that as well "

Oh no it wasn't. It was the robot in "Lost in Space!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBAijg5Betw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont really care..I meet people of all sorts

sluts,vixens,tartsmilfs etc etc

what matters is I meet and like them or me.

simple"

or they like me.

it's a site...I chose a username that I chose...others do the same

bigdick4u2004 as as good as transientfaceplantemulsifier...if they meet and have fun with people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

On a different note, the Daleks didn't say that.

It was BOSS in the Green Death.

Just so you know.

Was going to say that as well

Oh no it wasn't. It was the robot in "Lost in Space!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBAijg5Betw"

It's a reference that's been used all over. But the Daleks definitely didn't say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naughty words can be a turn on. It's just words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

It takes all types Bro. I used to see a couple and for 99% of their lives they are the bastions of middle England. The 1% they delve into has all sorts of thrown into the mix including the lady being called lots of names we would all term derogatory. It just their thing!"

Indeed, it's about fantasy and role play for some people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes some do enjoy it. They'd have a smack if they tried that with me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking to a friend last night, I called her a filthy cock rising slut as she fingered her pussy.

the SHAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As this has turned into an "I know more about Dr Who than you" I'm going to forget I was going to put my pennyworth in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe FAB is the meeting point for the Tourette............ bitch whore slut.............Society

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was talking to a friend last night, I called her a filthy cock rising slut as she fingered her pussy.

the SHAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "

Keep it coming babeeeeeeee!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes some do enjoy it. They'd have a smack if they tried that with me though "

Oh, yes please.

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By *entleman Jimmy OP   Man
over a year ago

Hove

Yes! It was the robot in "lost in Space" that I remember it from! Shows my age that! Not the Daleks at all, I must exterminate such inaccuracies!

I agree with those who say "it takes all sorst" and, of course, no judgement implied! I suppose I was wondering if I was in a small minority in finding it a real turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the moment it can work, woe betide anyone calling me those words outside of during play though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes! It was the robot in "lost in Space" that I remember it from! Shows my age that! Not the Daleks at all, I must exterminate such inaccuracies!

I agree with those who say "it takes all sorst" and, of course, no judgement implied! I suppose I was wondering if I was in a small minority in finding it a real turn off"

I thought there was a lot of judgement implied in your opening post

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I do refer to myself, tongue in cheek, as the whore of Babylon, but I don't like the word slut, or any other abusive terms.

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By *entleman Jimmy OP   Man
over a year ago

Hove


"

I thought there was a lot of judgement implied in your opening post "

It wasn't meant to be judgemental but I can see it could be read that way - I suppose am just another one of all those "sorts"

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

We're all adults and its just banter I think- some people like to think of themselves as sluts or whores lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't think it was judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway.

On a different note, the Daleks didn't say that.

It was BOSS in the Green Death.

Just so you know.

Was going to say that as well

Oh no it wasn't. It was the robot in "Lost in Space!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBAijg5Betw"

Got to give kudos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're all adults and its just banter I think- some people like to think of themselves as sluts or whores lol"

Some of us can be them too, at times

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan
over a year ago

Fylde

All part of personalised play surely? If I'm the right content it pushes someone's buttons then I see no issue.

Out of context of course unacceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand the name calling and im rather partial to it in certain scenarios, with select people. It can be a massive turn on for me.

However, I would object to being called derogatory names while out in public. That is something entirely different.

I wouldn't consider using it on every meet at all, especially not anything more than a one on one situation, unless the other people requested it.

There needs to be a lot of respect and understanding of the context that "naughty words" are used or it can come across extremely wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I thought there was a lot of judgement implied in your opening post

It wasn't meant to be judgemental but I can see it could be read that way - I suppose am just another one of all those "sorts"

"

No harm done, I'm man enough to admit I was maybe seeing something that wasn't there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like it dirty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have one of those dreadful and offensive words tattooed on me!

In the right context it is very hot to use that kind of language. To stranger I would say it would be offensive!

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Once attended a gangbang with somebody off here, she had just had "Slut" tattooed on her pussy, was a bit shocked but hey each to their own.

Just for the record I did cum all over her face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have one of those dreadful and offensive words tattooed on me!

In the right context it is very hot to use that kind of language. To stranger I would say it would be offensive!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet a woman semi regularly and she loves being called a slut....it's all about context

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being called a slut

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

there aren't many guys who prefer a nice prudish gurl in bed darling x most guys like a dirty slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as everyone involved is comfortable with name calling then what's the harm?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Words are words, I hate sanctimonious for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still feel uncomfortable to a degree hearing and using the words as I say them to someone who has usually referred to themselves as slut, whore, etc and wants to be told that's what they are and they seem to get off on it which is fine at the time. I would never take it for granted though that everyone you meet likes it and I certainly wouldn't use such terms in the vanilla world we mostly live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things to bear in mind here

1 - the derigatory value you place on a word or name comes from the 'vanilla' world you live in. Where I live, words like 'twat', 'dickhead', 'wanker' etc are commonly used as friendly banter. So for me, it's not difficult to see the meaning of a word as being derived more from its context than its dictionary definition.

2 - G calls me 'his good / bad / dirty / naughty whore' and I love it. It's part of the game, but it's also very intimate - I'm his whore, I'm a whore for him & him alone and whilst it's kept in the bedroom during play, we use it day to day as a kind of 'in joke' that adds to the intimacy. We play online scrabble with each other while we are not together & earlier this week I played the word 'whore', which he discovered while at work! He also calls me his 'good / bad kitten' which has the same connotation for me.

I guess the answer to your question is that it's entirely down to the context and the meaning the words have for the person saying & hearing them

M x

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We enjoy the use of the English language as it can so accurately convey the intentions of the user. However, I have worked in the Construction Industry all my life, where foul language is the "working language". I do not use it once I have left site and certainly not at home. There so many other words that can be used to convey your feelings.

People that claim that "words are just words" are missing the point. Words accurately display feelings.

Derogatory or abuse terms do nothing for us.

So up your chuff you cock sucking slut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes some do enjoy it. They'd have a smack if they tried that with me though "

Fiesty. I like that.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

ha just a few words yoused in our game of sex .no more no less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like it dirty xx"

Love all of the bad language

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I quite enjoy all of the 'naughty' words.

Whisper them in my ear and I'm a goner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the right situation as in really horny and wet I LOVE to be called 'a dirty fucking whore'

But only in the throws of passion x

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"What is all this abusive terminology about? It seemes so pervasive across this site and others and am I on my own in disliking it - a lot?

I have met some delightful people from the swinging community over the years and why would I use insulting language to describe someone with whom I have just shared a delightful, sexy, intimate experience? What's more, I'd probably like to meet them again!

"Does not compute" as the Daleks used to say - well, not for me anyway."

Op there just words that can be used by those who find such words used at the right time a turn on to help push them over the edge .

So with that being the case would you not embrace such words and use them with those you know find such words a real mental boost that can push them over the edge, as part of trying to give a great sexual experience and time to your play partner at the time .

That's how I view such words they are a mental aid to the physical play to those who find such terms a turn on .so as a guy who wants to deliver a great sexual experience to all I find interesting enough to share my bed with. I will gladly use such words and more besides to make sure my play partners are fully turn on and having a great memorable sexual experience because to not do so would be very selfish of me in my opinion .

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