FabSwingers.com forum: Expecting grief

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles.

So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine it is people who have not been fortunate enough to find another couple, that are all attracted to each other, and seek the same. Maybe they have met people who are not verified, so have been unable to get themselves verified.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think they shouldn't be booted off the site for not being verified after 6 months.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

How can it be a site for couples to swing with singles if it's a site for couples?

Singles can swing too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be told that fab has many functions, so people use it for different reasons: chatting in forums, going in chatrooms, looking at pics, sharing pics, curiosity and so on.

If people have been on for ages without any veris I just presume they are not people wanting to meet, so take anything they say (in regards to meeting)with a pinch of salt.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I think they shouldn't be booted off the site for not being verified after 6 months. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How can it be a site for couples to swing with singles if it's a site for couples?

Singles can swing too

You think? We both had singles profiles on here and swung with couples. For us. And we know this differs but swinging in its truest form is couples having sex with others. Singles we both agree just have an open idea of sex with other singles. Not bringing feelings in ect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know you can block the unverified,right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can it be a site for couples to swing with singles if it's a site for couples?

Singles can swing too

noooooo... thats wife swapping....

to be honest it doesn't matter I wish the site was called fabhedonists and then the world we be good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

Completely agree but if you were genuine wouldn't you have had socials that didn't lead to play but got a veri?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

erm, I have fucked a few peoples wives... aren't I guilty by association?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

erm, I have fucked a few peoples wives... aren't I guilty by association?"
Not necessarily as you are not married, so that would be fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How can it be a site for couples to swing with singles if it's a site for couples?

Singles can swing too

noooooo... thats wife swapping....

to be honest it doesn't matter I wish the site was called fabhedonists and then the world we be good"

Haha that would work better. I know more than most as when I first joined as a single fem I only met men. I soon learnt where the fun for me was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

Completely agree but if you were genuine wouldn't you have had socials that didn't lead to play but got a veri? "

fear mainly; some people dive in, some people put there toe in, some people rent a lounger and sit by the pool all day and promise themselves that one day, they are going to get in.... everyone has their own pace, i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

erm, I have fucked a few peoples wives... aren't I guilty by association?Not necessarily as you are not married, so that would be fine. "

You are queuing up with me, right?

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By *ittletonCplCouple
over a year ago

cannock

We've just been asked in a chat room to leave a shit veri. 6 left within minutes ...

Tomorrow all hidden veri's ...

Not too hard.

We enjoy clubs - turn up and only disappointed by lack of numbers but can always have some fun ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

I've always said if I was part of a couple on here then I just wouldn't bother with only couples, I wouldn't be prepared to sleep with someone I didn't like because my partner liked the female. So it'd be a case of probably singles for me, as I have no interest in females.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You know you can block the unverified,right? "

Yes but there are genuine couples who aren't verified. They tend to me newbies as within a couple of months they've met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles.

So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging "

So, the couples meeting singles are swinging, and there are feelings involved? Is that what you're saying?

I don't see what verifications have to do with it, not everyone gives or asks for verifications.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"How can it be a site for couples to swing with singles if it's a site for couples?

Singles can swing too

but swinging in its truest form is couples having sex with others."

No it's not and several dictionaries will say that.

It's about people who live promiscuous lives and have sex with others, whether they be couples or singles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

?????? But if you both liked you'd swing as a couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

erm, I have fucked a few peoples wives... aren't I guilty by association?Not necessarily as you are not married, so that would be fine.

You are queuing up with me, right? "
Yes I am, we will have the best seats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You know you can block the unverified,right?

Yes but there are genuine couples who aren't verified. They tend to me newbies as within a couple of months they've met "

And. ...? I don't follow. There are plenty on here that it doesn't hurt to block the unverified. If they are genuine then they'll be verified within a couple of months and will be able to contact you should they wish to.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If this site was set up primarily for couples to swing then why are singles allowed on here? QED - it wasn't set up primarily for couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

?????? But if you both liked you'd swing as a couple? "

If there was a couple that we were both attracted to then yes. But if not then just singles, not sure how it'd work as not in the situation, but I know plenty that do whether it's a clubs or arranging meets while the partner is elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are still meeting but sometimes opt not to leave repeat veris if they've met people once.

We don't all leave juicy details for the world and his brother to get bored with or maybe excited about.

Social meets also occur and no veri is left usually by people who know they won't get a second meet.

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By *XHNHWoman
over a year ago

Stokeish...

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

This...

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles.

So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging "

If the site is primarily for couples then why would any couples expect to meet singles?

As far as those who look at you, wink or send friend requests they could be fake profiles. I have heard there are single guys who set up fake couples profiles just to get wank fodder (i.e pic collectors etc)

Try to engage them in proper conversation (non sexual). Suggest a phone chat between both couples or the female halves, fakes will disappear lol. Suggest a coffee meet in a public place, again the fakes will vanish.

You could also just do the searching yourself and don't wait for people to contact you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If this site was set up primarily for couples to swing then why are singles allowed on here? QED - it wasn't set up primarily for couples. "

Because couples having sex with couples or singles is swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles.

So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging

If the site is primarily for couples then why would any couples expect to meet singles?

You could also just do the searching yourself and don't wait for people to contact you."

We do all of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This doesn't apply to us... but could have.

We first ventured to a club, had a crap time, didn't go back for a year. Had a *bit* better time second time round.

After the second occasion we had then joined here, purely for info on other, more suitable clubs. If we had joined before club visit number 1 we would have been booted by the 6 month rule.

After joining we found the place ever so useful for finding out info about clubs. We have never met anyone through fab, we are verified by people we have met in clubs only.

We also didn't play with others to begin with. Even now we've only played with 3 singles/couples with only 1 of those being members on this site.

Just because we don't meet from here doesn't mean we wouldn't, nor does it mean we shouldn't be able to keep up to date with friends, clubs and events (after all facebook is hardly appropriate for that alongside pictures of the kids and posting off my gran!).

Those clubs we attend don't enforce a "play with others or you're gone" rule, I don't believe fab should either. If we didn't have the freedom to take things at our own pace we wouldn't be where we are now, with rules relaxed and some horny shared experiences under our belt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

erm, I have fucked a few peoples wives... aren't I guilty by association?"

And here.....but I've never felt guilty about the pleasure I take from, or give to the couples I've met. Or the single ladies.

In the four years I had my previous profile (took a break for my own reasons) I organised socials and parties and introduced many couples to other couples and singles. The site is a complete mixture of different dynamics....and works fine that way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unverified doesn't mean they're not meeting, but even if they aren't maybe they haven't yet found what they're looking for, or won't take one for the team, or maybe they spent five months out of six barely looking at the site trying to pick up the courage to arrange the first meet. So no, very much disagree. And frankly there are plenty of people on here who meet and are verified who'll be having a good perve of your pics too...

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If this site was set up primarily for couples to swing then why are singles allowed on here? QED - it wasn't set up primarily for couples.

Because couples having sex with couples or singles is swinging. "

So couples who have sex with singles are swinging but singles who have sex with singles are NOT swinging?

Fucking hell, double standards. I can't be a swinger unless i have a partner. No thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unverified doesn't mean they're not meeting, but even if they aren't maybe they haven't yet found what they're looking for, or won't take one for the team, or maybe they spent five months out of six barely looking at the site trying to pick up the courage to arrange the first meet. So no, very much disagree. And frankly there are plenty of people on here who meet and are verified who'll be having a good perve of your pics too..."

What a lovely bottom Mrs has....

anyway... I think peeps should just be peeps; have fun with those that have fun; flirt and see what happens... don't over think what others do... just you know... be your own people/person/whatever...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a couple, primarily looking for other couples, but if a female attracted Mr M then Mrs wouldn't have a problem with him meeting alone..... but must be honest about it and not do anything behind her back.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We tend to ignore those that are not verified and wink us. We might be missing some great meets but an unverified couple who have been on here a while needs to work harder to convince us to meet than a verified couple but it doesn't bother us that much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If this site was set up primarily for couples to swing then why are singles allowed on here? QED - it wasn't set up primarily for couples.

Because couples having sex with couples or singles is swinging.

So couples who have sex with singles are swinging but singles who have sex with singles are NOT swinging?

Fucking hell, double standards. I can't be a swinger unless i have a partner. No thanks "

Nope. As I said earlier we were both singles and both played with couples and singles. Singles and couples can be swingers that's my point. Genuine people meet so if you're not for meeting after 6 months are you genuine.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"If this site was set up primarily for couples to swing then why are singles allowed on here? QED - it wasn't set up primarily for couples.

Because couples having sex with couples or singles is swinging. "

I'll say it again - No it's not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day fsb has a politics section, i dont know about the rest of fab but i aint turned on by brexit trump or lasso whats her name ?

Fab is obviously free to the point that if all you want is chat then thats fine, saying a person who aint had a meet off her shoukdnt be on it is purely outragous and personally i find it rather offensive lol

I aint had a meet on fab and been here for like 5/6 months

That mean i have less rights than anyone else on here ?

I think not

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"So couples who have sex with singles are swinging but singles who have sex with singles are NOT swinging?

Fucking hell, double standards. I can't be a swinger unless i have a partner. No thanks "

I don't meet couples thankfully but if I did I'd be sure to avoid those who class themselves as 'proper' swingers and singles as just their play things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles.

So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging "

sounds like that's exactly what they are! block and move on is what I'd do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proper swingers, does that in some way guarantee good sex ?

Not a chance in hell lol

And i aint even a swinger but i have enough slices in my liaf to know that simply is not the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Proper swingers, does that in some way guarantee good sex ?

Not a chance in hell lol

And i aint even a swinger but i have enough slices in my liaf to know that simply is not the case

Loaf

Kingsmill thick slices

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles.

So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging "

Personally I have no interest in how others choose to use the site. This has no impact on us or how we use the site.

If people simply want to perve our photos, chat in the forums or whatever that is fine by me.

They could also just be finding there feet in to swinging world.

A couple above gave a good scenario why genuine swingers may not be verified after 6 months.

Nita

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

... Finding their feet in the swinging world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

It's not for anyone else to decide, when someone else is ready to meet someone. Maybe it takes some people 6 months to feel safe.

It's also not up for us to decide who someone else fancies and what qualities they are looking for. Maybe it takes longer than 6 months to decide.

Also if you're not having much luck then it doesn't mean it's because of singles looking for singles or because it's not just a swinging siye anymore. Less singles looking for singles, or less people that need 6 months before being ready to meet, doesn't equal more swinging couples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We tend to ignore those that are not verified and wink us. We might be missing some great meets but an unverified couple who have been on here a while needs to work harder to convince us to meet than a verified couple but it doesn't bother us that much."

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No.

It's not for anyone else to decide, when someone else is ready to meet someone. Maybe it takes some people 6 months to feel safe.

It's also not up for us to decide who someone else fancies and what qualities they are looking for. Maybe it takes longer than 6 months to decide.

As I've said several times I'm not knocking singles. We were both singles who met singles and couples. My question is about couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... Finding their feet in the swinging world

Bloody high heels to totter with. And I quite understand non meeting couples chatting and not getting on. I just think a couple after 12 months of no meets. Not chatting and just sending friends requests or looking at profiles not genuine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Proper swingers, does that in some way guarantee good sex ?

Not a chance in hell lol

And i aint even a swinger but i have enough slices in my liaf to know that simply is not the case

Loaf

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Again I did not knock singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... Finding their feet in the swinging world

Id be thinking the othercway personally, i kinda have some doubts over the over chatty to much to say kind of people

Dont know why i do lol

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By *ittletonCplCouple
over a year ago

cannock

"... Finding their feet in the swinging world

Id be thinking the othercway personally, i kinda have some doubts over the over chatty to much to say kind of people

Dont know why i do lol "

Monty Python - your wife a goer ? Whats it like ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Proper swingers, does that in some way guarantee good sex ?

Not a chance in hell lol

And i aint even a swinger but i have enough slices in my liaf to know that simply is not the case

Loaf

Kingsmill thick slices

Again I did not knock singles "

Even couples, there in my opinion is no such thing as a proper swinger, theres those of us thats able to obtain sex and those that cant, couple or single

Im a slut and im happy and i have no problem admitting that, slut slag womaniser, dirty minded horned up individual lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"anyway... I think peeps should just be peeps; have fun with those that have fun; flirt and see what happens... don't over think what others do... just you know... be your own people/person/whatever..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles. "

How do you deduce that it's primary purpose is this? Have I missed something?

"So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging "

There are many threads about no verifications. There are always a range of reasons given, but it boils down to the verification system not working in the way you clearly expect. And that many don't agree with the idea that verifications are the holy grail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if we take this site back to what it is. It's a swinging site. A site primarily set up for couples to swing. This could be with other couples or singles.

So if a couple has been on a while and has no verifications should they still be here??

I ask this simply because we are looked at, winked at and friend requested by many couples that have been here 6 months plus without meeting. To us it feels like picture pervers not swinging "

You dont know if they have been meeting though. Its easy to hide verifications and the verification summary. They then appear to have non when in reality they could have had hundreds of meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they should still be on here regardless of whether they've had no verifications for 6 weeks 6 months or 6 years.

If other members are not happy with the situation, simply don't contact that profile. Otherwise what harm is it doing ?

That's right - None whatsoever !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use this site for different reasons.

I wouldn't necessarily be put off by someone who didn't have verifications. Finding suitable couples isn't the easiest. The only way is to chat and see where it leads.

We all had to start out on here with no verifications. I've met people but not always wrote verifications for each other.

Maybe some couples are just taking their time, ot simply just haven't met the right people yet.

Those people with lots of verifications, doesn't always mean that the sex is fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And to be fair OP, if we were 'picture pervers', there are plenty sites on the net ram packed with dirty pictures to look at, and I certainly wouldn't be joining a site like this just to look at some of the rubbish offerings it has to offer, so I think that kinda sinks your theory just a bit.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

OP; I think the couple dynamic is complicated; finding 4 people that get on and trust each other enough to bump beauties can be a challenge; so no I don't think we should kick people off; I say live and let live xYes, because we dont take part in adultery."
depends on your deity of choice. im all good as the flying spaghetti monster thinks swinging is awesome. Jesus is a square though so pretty sure your fucked as he has way too many rules so u have most likely already broken a few lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"If this site was set up primarily for couples to swing then why are singles allowed on here? QED - it wasn't set up primarily for couples.

Because couples having sex with couples or singles is swinging. "

Did you read what I wrote?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this all the time and just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At least us singles get a free pass to heaven

do we? How?

It is very hard to meet a couple that we both like ...so we do meet singles but also, not everyone asks others to leave a verification....alternatively I have seen some ppl who use it to post a dogging meet and they have pics to show they go dogging but no veris ...as like someone else said...please use it for different reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People not please

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"I would imagine it is people who have not been fortunate enough to find another couple, that are all attracted to each other, and seek the same. Maybe they have met people who are not verified, so have been unable to get themselves verified."

I second this,we struggle to find couples we both like so dont have loads of meets.

On my old profile as a single woman,i met men with no veries and never had a problem.

It was a well verified man who stood me up

Miss.

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