FabSwingers.com forum: Relationship?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been wondering, does one look for a relationship on fab or pof?

Obviously pof is supposedly for relationships as opposed to swinging, but what if one wishes to consider swinging as an option in a future relationship. I'm quite sure dropping such a bombshell six months into a vanilla relationship could be a wee bit tricky!! On the other hand, the swinging would be the initial connection on here, but are women really looking for something more on here, well, im sure some will be, but I'm equally sure lots are not. Thoughts anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We didn't "look" for anything. We just got chatting arranged to meet ( he's from London) I'm in South Wales. We hit it off like a house on fire both sexually and socially and have been together ever since

Kinky

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We met at a swingers party over a year ago and are now a couple.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

up to you, look on both maybe?

i've differentiated the sites and on here i'm looking for sex and on pof i'm looking for a relationship. but i've been here 2 years with no intention of having a relationship, almost had a few off here but the guys seem to be full of shit when it comes down to it, or insecure at the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met at a fab social 3 years ago

Sara and Will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were on another swinging site. Met. Fell in love. Married now. Neither were looking for that though.

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

We met through a mutual fab friend who put us in touch. Our first meet was electric and 12 months later we are still together.

Ali

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm not looking for anything right now but it's always good to keep your eyes open in all aspects of your life

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Not looking for a relationship, but think if it happens it happens, but not actively seeking. I like my independence and freedom

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?"

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't."

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd suggest you could write something on your profile here that explains you're open to more than a one off and if you're looking for 'monogamy with extras' in the future, or if you're open to polyamory.

I often talk to guys who are interested in relationships/partnerships with swinging as a core motivators, however I often find that they are the 'monogamous with extras' type, which doesn't do anything for me.

Being up front could find you more interested people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

Thing is once you find you have a kink or a liking for swinging it's normally part of your lifestyle. At some point you would have to tell your prospective partner about it and hopefully they might like to engage too. I don't think I could ever go back to a "vanilla" relationship now

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

If they're not interested in it when it's on your profile, they won't be interested in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

most women probably presume men are on there for sex anyway, i know i do.

so long as you emphasize you are genuinely wanting a relationship with that then the swingle ladies looking for the same won't be put off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

most women probably presume men are on there for sex anyway, i know i do.

so long as you emphasize you are genuinely wanting a relationship with that then the swingle ladies looking for the same won't be put off."

Most of the people I know that use PoF are monogamous and looking for monogamy not casual sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can easily easily find someone on fab looking for love! Definitely. I do not want this myself but I h don't ve.met a few guys who have confessed that with right willing lady they would be open to a serious committed relationship.

Only single.guys though... 99% of married guys on here are seeking NSA shags - mostly because they are getting sod all from the missus. Very rare for them to seek serious stuff. Many don't make this clear enough so make sure you find out first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

It isn't silly at all. Have you read all those threads from men asking how they can go about getting their partner into swinging? Best to be honest from the start.

By the way, if you have fringe issues, you can always visit a barber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

most women probably presume men are on there for sex anyway, i know i do.

so long as you emphasize you are genuinely wanting a relationship with that then the swingle ladies looking for the same won't be put off.

Most of the people I know that use PoF are monogamous and looking for monogamy not casual sex..."

might just be my area or age range i'm going for on there?

OP call yourself a swingle male in your header.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can easily easily find someone on fab looking for love! Definitely. I do not want this myself but I h don't ve.met a few guys who have confessed that with right willing lady they would be open to a serious committed relationship.

Oops another typo...meant to say I HAVE met a few guys who have confessed....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only a platform isn't it.

WHEREVER you meet someone, you've met them.

I'm desperate for a relationship but who knows where I will meet them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think I will modify my pof profile to include a general idea of my preferences. But, for now, I will remove my face picture, coward, I know. I shall see if it creates any interest on there, if not I can always revert to my original profile complete with fizzog

I shall maybe do something similar with my fab profile.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think I will modify my pof profile to include a general idea of my preferences. But, for now, I will remove my face picture, coward, I know. I shall see if it creates any interest on there, if not I can always revert to my original profile complete with fizzog

I shall maybe do something similar with my fab profile.

We met on here, but we were also both on POF. My experience elf the men on POC, more into casual sex without the respect that swingers have and no understanding of the lifestyle. We weren't looking, it just happened.... I think if you go looking, it wont happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

most women probably presume men are on there for sex anyway, i know i do.

so long as you emphasize you are genuinely wanting a relationship with that then the swingle ladies looking for the same won't be put off.

Most of the people I know that use PoF are monogamous and looking for monogamy not casual sex...

might just be my area or age range i'm going for on there?

OP call yourself a swingle male in your header.

oh, I like it. Then those that know, will know, and those that don't will think I have a lisp

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We met on pof, then did a couples profile. We are friends and have great sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I must say, there are some lovely examples of folk meeting and happily swinging. And I know that looking too hard can lead to failure, but I am think that not exploring the potential of swinging will be detrimental to any future relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

most women probably presume men are on there for sex anyway, i know i do.

so long as you emphasize you are genuinely wanting a relationship with that then the swingle ladies looking for the same won't be put off.

Most of the people I know that use PoF are monogamous and looking for monogamy not casual sex...

might just be my area or age range i'm going for on there?

OP call yourself a swingle male in your header.

oh, I like it. Then those that know, will know, and those that don't will think I have a lisp

yeah, or a typo maybe?

if people ask what a swingle male is though, you gonna tell them? they might be checking yu haven't done a typo, lol.

bet your profile gets a lot more views because people will wonder what a swingle is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some very lovely stories

So, if it happens, it happens. I think both is the right way to go, but maybe come clean with the swinging interest on pof before anything gets serious?

yeah, maybe put it in your interests so they know before chatting? if you have it on your profile then pof will probably delete you, but have it in your interests they won't.

Swinging in my interests??? They would be running for the hills surely, it's difficult enough to attract women on there with my fringe issues as it is

most women probably presume men are on there for sex anyway, i know i do.

so long as you emphasize you are genuinely wanting a relationship with that then the swingle ladies looking for the same won't be put off.

Most of the people I know that use PoF are monogamous and looking for monogamy not casual sex...

might just be my area or age range i'm going for on there?

OP call yourself a swingle male in your header.

oh, I like it. Then those that know, will know, and those that don't will think I have a lisp

yeah, or a typo maybe?

if people ask what a swingle male is though, you gonna tell them? they might be checking yu haven't done a typo, lol.

bet your profile gets a lot more views because people will wonder what a swingle is."

I will let you know, the question is, does one keep ones picture up too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will let you know, the question is, does one keep ones picture up too?

I don't bother writing to people without pictures personally...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I will let you know, the question is, does one keep ones picture up too?

I don't bother writing to people without pictures personally..."

No, I know. Well, maybe I shall keep my picture up and see how it goes. If I get chased by folk with pitchforks and burning brands I might reconsider

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will let you know, the question is, does one keep ones picture up too?

I don't bother writing to people without pictures personally...

No, I know. Well, maybe I shall keep my picture up and see how it goes. If I get chased by folk with pitchforks and burning brands I might reconsider

yeah, i think interrupted is like most people, they won't reply to anyone without a pic.

doubt anyone will give you grief but you can report them for that if they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"up to you, look on both maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on pof, most of the men I encountered were on here anyway and the others were just weird ...

If I was looking for a relationship I'd stick to fab, as you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"up to you, look on both maybe?

same a women too

my comment wasn't aimed at you, was thinking of more recent guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started chatting to him on Pof didn't arrange a date because I thought he was too vanilla for me. Then arranged a meet on here 3 months ago and upturned the guy from Pof lol. We've been together since and we are loving it. If I'd have arranged a date we would have been together 9 months lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Met my other half on here. Neither of us was looking for anything. Three years next month.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I started chatting to him on Pof didn't arrange a date because I thought he was too vanilla for me. Then arranged a meet on here 3 months ago and upturned the guy from Pof lol. We've been together since and we are loving it. If I'd have arranged a date we would have been together 9 months lol "

Good lord, what are the chances of that

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I sometimes wonder if we would have been different if we would have met on pot. I mean obviously we are the same people, but would we have kept swinging from each other? I doubt it .... but you never know. We get on on so many levels, probably wouldn't have mattered anyway ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my openness to a relationship on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on POF then Mr said after a few months that he would like to have mmf etc (he had done it before ) I said let's try it and the rest is history

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have my openness to a relationship on my profile.

That is a very lovely and honest profile, food for thought indeed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We met on POF then Mr said after a few months that he would like to have mmf etc (he had done it before ) I said let's try it and the rest is history "

But the question is what if you had said no thanks? Would that have asked questions from both of your points of view??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did ask him what if the conversation that started it had never come up (I'd started a conversation about sex toys and experimenting) and he said he would just never have said anything lol

Who knows though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on pof, but recently deleted it as I got bored. But I stated on there that I was in the swinging scene and not prepared to leave it, as some of my best nights are going out to clubs and socials, plus I have made some amazing friends, so not willing to give it up. That way I was upfront and a man didn't have to message me if he wasn't interested it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did ask him what if the conversation that started it had never come up (I'd started a conversation about sex toys and experimenting) and he said he would just never have said anything lol

Who knows though "

who knows indeed, I don't wish to have any more what if's in my life, I have been tripping over them for too bloody long now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was on pof, but recently deleted it as I got bored. But I stated on there that I was in the swinging scene and not prepared to leave it, as some of my best nights are going out to clubs and socials, plus I have made some amazing friends, so not willing to give it up. That way I was upfront and a man didn't have to message me if he wasn't interested it. "

I admire your honesty, but I really wouldn't want to be too obvious for fear of being vilified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were on another swinging site. Met. Fell in love. Married now. Neither were looking for that though. "

I should have added that we have been together approx 10 years.

We swing together although had a few breaks from active swinging due to family issues (close family member being killed) and health issues.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

within days of chatting and I had one on here who wanted more , I'm here for fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We were on another swinging site. Met. Fell in love. Married now. Neither were looking for that though.

I should have added that we have been together approx 10 years.

We swing together although had a few breaks from active swinging due to family issues (close family member being killed) and health issues."

I think, in an ideal world, meeting someone from here would be perfect. But one has to keep ones options open eh? Lots of positives from this forum though and I have appreciated everybodies contributions, thank you all

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

We met on another site just over 10 years ago. Neither of us were looking for a relationship. In fact the reason we met was because we knew we were 'safe' in that neither of us was looking for a relationship having both just come out of ones. Buuuuut.... we ended up falling in love anyway.

We've taken time out of the scene when we went though IVF (mixing fertility drugs and swinging probably ain't a good idea!) and various family things, but kept dipping back in as life allowed.

-Matt

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