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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recovery times vary from man to man and situations can influence this too.

Do any guys feel pressure during a meet to keep an erection?

And if so does it have the opposite effect?

It happens to me sometimes

Thoughts!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel as if I should have a quick recovery time until I met the amazing invention of a toy... AKA - Mr Vibrator. Keeps my women happy in between my recovery and I get to have fun with her soft spots. Honestly, I think my recovery time is about average but I make up for it in stamina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just posted this on another thread

I have a similar issue, but I am more than just a cock and if whoever I play with finds the lack of an erection an issue then the problem lies with them. If they are patient they will eventually get to see how well it performs!

Guys we are not performing seals!

Yes I have tried pills sometimes they work sometimes they don't.

Yes I use cock rings!

As it's a subconscious thing (I can be solid for ages when asleep) I've contemplated alternative therapy.

Anyone tried hypnotism if so what was the result?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just posted this on another thread

I have a similar issue, but I am more than just a cock and if whoever I play with finds the lack of an erection an issue then the problem lies with them. If they are patient they will eventually get to see how well it performs!

Guys we are not performing seals!

Yes I have tried pills sometimes they work sometimes they don't.

Yes I use cock rings!

As it's a subconscious thing (I can be solid for ages when asleep) I've contemplated alternative therapy.

Anyone tried hypnotism if so what was the result?

"

I've met one man who wasn't able to achieve an erection, but he was very upfront when we messaged back and forth, and had a lot of fun oral wise, and with toys. As long as you are upfront with potential meets about your issue, its fine. But if you don't mention it, its only understandable that some will be disappointed. And it's not really fair to say the problem would lie with them, given the nature of the site, and the expectation that is derived from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just posted this on another thread

I have a similar issue, but I am more than just a cock and if whoever I play with finds the lack of an erection an issue then the problem lies with them. If they are patient they will eventually get to see how well it performs!

Guys we are not performing seals!

Yes I have tried pills sometimes they work sometimes they don't.

Yes I use cock rings!

As it's a subconscious thing (I can be solid for ages when asleep) I've contemplated alternative therapy.

Anyone tried hypnotism if so what was the result?

I've met one man who wasn't able to achieve an erection, but he was very upfront when we messaged back and forth, and had a lot of fun oral wise, and with toys. As long as you are upfront with potential meets about your issue, its fine. But if you don't mention it, its only understandable that some will be disappointed. And it's not really fair to say the problem would lie with them, given the nature of the site, and the expectation that is derived from it. "

That was the wrong term but didn't quite know how to put it as some couples/women have been quite unforgiving with the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have encountered this a few times, it's not a problem. There's other things to do, I find if I play with the man's cock it often goes back up. I would play it down if I met a man who couldn't maintain erection, otherwise his confidence could get dented. Of course it could sometimes be that the man isn't turned on by the female xxx

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

The problem comes on with age too.....!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not at all, it is all about me having the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok here's our appraisal .

If you're meeting up for sex and you have a problem getting an erection then as long as you tell them prospective meet first then no problem .

Personally we wouldn't entertain such a meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends...I rarely keep raging hard right through a meet...I don't think I want to spend hours solidly with a hard on I'm fine with that

It's happened that I've over thought it and struggled to maintain for long enough too but I've learned from that not to over think it's supposed to be fun..it's not a performance test

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here's our appraisal .

If you're meeting up for sex and you have a problem getting an erection then as long as you tell them prospective meet first then no problem .

Personally we wouldn't entertain such a meet .

"

You create a very cock nurturing environment and atmosphere I find enough to tempt the shyest of members to rise I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves on a first time meet can affect mine, when its not getting attention it loses interest and needs a jump start!

If I'm relaxed I cant keep it down!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok here's our appraisal .

If you're meeting up for sex and you have a problem getting an erection then as long as you tell them prospective meet first then no problem .

Personally we wouldn't entertain such a meet .

"

Hello up there

From

Down here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here's our appraisal .

If you're meeting up for sex and you have a problem getting an erection then as long as you tell them prospective meet first then no problem .

Personally we wouldn't entertain such a meet .

You create a very cock nurturing environment and atmosphere I find enough to tempt the shyest of members to rise I'm sure "

Well,that's a fair point as I recall

The point is this .

We meet for fun and the fun does revolve around the cock . If the cock isn't gonna play , it's no fun for us . It may be for others , just not for us .

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Don't bother me.

If we're talking 1st meet and a known erectile issue, let me know.

If we're talking playtime and recovery time like the op said, well, bring it on!! Gives me a chance for a drink and a wee. All part and parcel, no pressure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't bother me.

If we're talking 1st meet and a known erectile issue, let me know.

If we're talking playtime and recovery time like the op said, well, bring it on!! Gives me a chance for a drink and a wee. All part and parcel, no pressure. "

Let's chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here's our appraisal .

If you're meeting up for sex and you have a problem getting an erection then as long as you tell them prospective meet first then no problem .

Personally we wouldn't entertain such a meet .

You create a very cock nurturing environment and atmosphere I find enough to tempt the shyest of members to rise I'm sure

Well,that's a fair point as I recall

The point is this .

We meet for fun and the fun does revolve around the cock . If the cock isn't gonna play , it's no fun for us . It may be for others , just not for us .

"

I think you've always been pretty clear about what you want from here and your style of play so yeah..I don't think I'd be knocking at your door as It were if I wasn't looking for and able to play in the same way.

That's what I like about fab though..there's a meet out there for everyone's taste or mood I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok here's our appraisal .

If you're meeting up for sex and you have a problem getting an erection then as long as you tell them prospective meet first then no problem .

Personally we wouldn't entertain such a meet .

You create a very cock nurturing environment and atmosphere I find enough to tempt the shyest of members to rise I'm sure

Well,that's a fair point as I recall

The point is this .

We meet for fun and the fun does revolve around the cock . If the cock isn't gonna play , it's no fun for us . It may be for others , just not for us .

I think you've always been pretty clear about what you want from here and your style of play so yeah..I don't think I'd be knocking at your door as It were if I wasn't looking for and able to play in the same way.

That's what I like about fab though..there's a meet out there for everyone's taste or mood I suppose "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get too hard up about it

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"Don't get too hard up about it "

Its a hard one to answer

Depends on the meet

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I have in my profile that I prefer a repeater because I can take ages, sometimes, to orgasm. It's not essential, however, but it is my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it shouldn't matter and if there is pressure implied while at a meet then they probably aren't the best person to be meeting anyway as I think meets should always be fun relaxed not rushed with time to explore each other and enjoy each other. Its nice to have a chat and a laugh in-between fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have in my profile that I prefer a repeater because I can take ages, sometimes, to orgasm. It's not essential, however, but it is my preference "

Good stamina me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm more talking about self inflicted pressure

The desire to please

Or assuming an expectation that probably doesn't exist

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I've got quite good staying power and last quite a while before cumming anyway - to be honest having a break for a chat/drink etc before round 2 is quite useful for both of us!

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