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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone else had issues with this? People who simply do not know what "no" means. We've been on and off this site for a while now and there always seems to be those people (mainly men) who have no idea what no means. They persist and say "oh but I'm amazing in bed and will make you scream/cum loads/squirt." Or something cliché like that.

We have already said no? So please stop asking, we find it rude that they continue to pester you about meeting. And no matter how much we say no they seem to continue in these tangents to try and convince us.

Then you get people who are rude when you say no. They call you "time wasters" or call you a "slag/whore/slut." And just continue to insult you. People who pester us and don't take no as our first answer will always get blocked now.

But there is one guy who just won't leave us alone. He has made a profile and we met up with him a while ago and had a play and it was quite honestly - shit. He was pushy and rude and we expressed that to him and told him several times that we had no interest in meeting him again. But he keeps asking so we block him. He just makes another profile and pesters us again - so we try everything - we try being rude, being nice, telling him over and over again we weren't interested and blocking his account. Needless to say he still bothers us. We have reported his profiles several times for each but nothing. I think he's made around 20 profiles now and we've blocked him on every single profile he's made but as I said he just makes another.

Anyone else have issues with pushy people or people who won't take no for an answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy dealt with. Block them after sending the first 'no thanks'

Saves a whole inbox of whining 'but why not? I'm amazing'

Job done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone else had issues with this? People who simply do not know what "no" means. We've been on and off this site for a while now and there always seems to be those people (mainly men) who have no idea what no means. They persist and say "oh but I'm amazing in bed and will make you scream/cum loads/squirt." Or something cliché like that.

We have already said no? So please stop asking, we find it rude that they continue to pester you about meeting. And no matter how much we say no they seem to continue in these tangents to try and convince us.

Then you get people who are rude when you say no. They call you "time wasters" or call you a "slag/whore/slut." And just continue to insult you. People who pester us and don't take no as our first answer will always get blocked now.

But there is one guy who just won't leave us alone. He has made a profile and we met up with him a while ago and had a play and it was quite honestly - shit. He was pushy and rude and we expressed that to him and told him several times that we had no interest in meeting him again. But he keeps asking so we block him. He just makes another profile and pesters us again - so we try everything - we try being rude, being nice, telling him over and over again we weren't interested and blocking his account. Needless to say he still bothers us. We have reported his profiles several times for each but nothing. I think he's made around 20 profiles now and we've blocked him on every single profile he's made but as I said he just makes another.

Anyone else have issues with pushy people or people who won't take no for an answer? "

You must have took his virginity. Im lucky if I get a message from anyone lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block newbies so he cant message you for a week i think it is - eventually he will give up - if you keep reporting though i think admin can block his ip addy

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good point. Most people are fine with it you just get the odd few who aren't. Like this guy who's created over 20 profiles just to bother us haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Probably did and we get a good fair few messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"block newbies so he cant message you for a week i think it is - eventually he will give up - if you keep reporting though i think admin can block his ip addy"

Spot on

Exactly what I was going to say.

FYI Autocorrect changed the "what I" in my previous post into "boners" for some reason ha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wasn't too sure on that cause we don't mind meeting newbies. But it could be a solution and didn't know that. But next time his new profile appears I will try that and continue to until he disappears off fab for good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cock on the brain! Haha. And we don't mind meeting newbies so we were unsure on using that method. But needs must.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't too sure on that cause we don't mind meeting newbies. But it could be a solution and didn't know that. But next time his new profile appears I will try that and continue to until he disappears off fab for good"

you need to set your filters now before he messages you - once he has messaged the filter wont stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him you will meet him. Arrange said meet that's somewhere quite a way for him and dontbturn up. When he asks why make an apology and make another. Once again don't turn up. He'll soon get fed up and leave you alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell him you will meet him. Arrange said meet that's somewhere quite a way for him and dontbturn up. When he asks why make an apology and make another. Once again don't turn up. He'll soon get fed up and leave you alone. "

You read my mind

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent


"Cock on the brain! Haha. And we don't mind meeting newbies so we were unsure on using that method. But needs must."

Yes block newbies, it means they have to have been on site for longer than a few days.

But if it helps also block those who are unverified or have no pics.

If he's just creating profiles to pester you then he'll get bored very shortly when he realises he can't.

Either that or move out of Alness!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah thank you for the suggestion

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Blocking new or unverified for a while should stop such rule breakers most of the time. Admin do their best but there are thousands of users and many different types of problems to manage. This on a free site, with limited budgets.

There are some who don't take no for an answer here and in clubs. I've had people touching me after I've said no but clubs will throw most out. And at clubs you've got others around for community enforcement.

I now usually block and end online chat very quickly.

I also think it pays to be ready to bring in the police, should people overstep certain barriers too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have blocked people with no pics but still get messages from people without them. Also we can't afford to move away and that wouldn't solve our issue as he doesn't live in alness

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's easy dealt with. Block them after sending the first 'no thanks'

Saves a whole inbox of whining 'but why not? I'm amazing'

Job done"

This. Report if abusive, block and forget.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah will have to do that and yeah people like that are the worse but only so much can be done which I understand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your username, change your location, this might help also.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just tell them you don't find them attractive and can't compare to who you're already fucking.

that's what i did last time someone wouldn't take no for an answer, he didn't take it well but at least he stopped asking to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone else had issues with this? People who simply do not know what "no" means. We've been on and off this site for a while now and there always seems to be those people (mainly men) who have no idea what no means. They persist and say "oh but I'm amazing in bed and will make you scream/cum loads/squirt." Or something cliché like that.

We have already said no? So please stop asking, we find it rude that they continue to pester you about meeting. And no matter how much we say no they seem to continue in these tangents to try and convince us.

Then you get people who are rude when you say no. They call you "time wasters" or call you a "slag/whore/slut." And just continue to insult you. People who pester us and don't take no as our first answer will always get blocked now.

But there is one guy who just won't leave us alone. He has made a profile and we met up with him a while ago and had a play and it was quite honestly - shit. He was pushy and rude and we expressed that to him and told him several times that we had no interest in meeting him again. But he keeps asking so we block him. He just makes another profile and pesters us again - so we try everything - we try being rude, being nice, telling him over and over again we weren't interested and blocking his account. Needless to say he still bothers us. We have reported his profiles several times for each but nothing. I think he's made around 20 profiles now and we've blocked him on every single profile he's made but as I said he just makes another.

Anyone else have issues with pushy people or people who won't take no for an answer? "

I,'ve had that from a female, FWB gave her my contact details after placing an add on CL. I told her I wasn't interested, she found me on here and every time she contacted me I blocked her, she made 4 new profiles in total to contact me.Had only exchanged 2 messages with her but I found she was married and said no thanks to her. XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tried the username change but didn't work. The photos are always a give away it's us x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha good idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nightmare

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