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"People Will only learn this slowly. If your post helps one more person to become less ignorant then you have helped. Ignore, block and have fun meeting better, more enlightened people." Cheers | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. " | |||
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"I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression a couple of times, no intention of topping myself though, as was said, it has different levels, shame so many of us suffer with this illness in this so called modern world. I'm with you op, and ignore the ignorant buggers lol. " Thanks | |||
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"A woman on this site that I chatted to for a few days and got on really well with after finding out I had suffered from Depression suddenly did not want to know me? Why? Because a friend of her Daughter killed herself and the Boyfriend was held responsible!! When are people going to learn that anyone who has Depression or has suffered in the past from it is not going to slash thier wrists at the drop of a hat!! I am NOT a Nutter! I am proud of who I am!! I am definately not ashamed of admitting I needed help to cope with my life either!! Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!! " The majority of people suffer from depression at some point, I am one who has had severe depression brought on by stress for 5-8 years. I am now mostly recovered and working full time. I also volunteered for a Mental Health charity and I am looking to date a lady who has Aspergers. I have seen many people get better (not cured) and go on to lead very full lives. I am currently working on a stigma video to be shown nationally. Most of my friends have or had mental illness and I would not swap any of them or change them. | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. " exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too" I'm 24 and I know about 10 people around my age who have had severe depression myself being one of them, and anyone who thinks it's scary shouldn't be on this site, because if you do your so uneducated that you think someone with depression is going to hurt you or themselves when there with, you have more chance of being killed by someone who has taken bdsm to far or who likes that rape feel, they are the fucked up ones!!!!! Someone who is depressed is more likely to just brake down and cry that's what I've found when you give them the comfort and support they need and don't make them out to be looney, fuck sake. are we in the Victorian times or something fucking stupid cunts!!! | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too I'm 24 and I know about 10 people around my age who have had severe depression myself being one of them, and anyone who thinks it's scary shouldn't be on this site, because if you do your so uneducated that you think someone with depression is going to hurt you or themselves when there with, you have more chance of being killed by someone who has taken bdsm to far or who likes that rape feel, they are the fucked up ones!!!!! Someone who is depressed is more likely to just brake down and cry that's what I've found when you give them the comfort and support they need and don't make them out to be looney, fuck sake. are we in the Victorian times or something fucking stupid cunts!!! " just because i used the word scary does not make me stupid fkn cunt tvm - i have had 2 breakdowns myself and i work with mental health sufferers and for people on the outside looking in it can be scary - i didnt say anything about hurting people - it isnt just the sufferer it affects | |||
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"A woman on this site that I chatted to for a few days and got on really well with after finding out I had suffered from Depression suddenly did not want to know me? Why? Because a friend of her Daughter killed herself and the Boyfriend was held responsible!! When are people going to learn that anyone who has Depression or has suffered in the past from it is not going to slash thier wrists at the drop of a hat!! I am NOT a Nutter! I am proud of who I am!! I am definately not ashamed of admitting I needed help to cope with my life either!! Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!! " Ignore , ignore, ignore the ignorance. I work with people with mental illnesses and there is still so much stigma and ignorance around such people who are unwell. Would the woman have reacted in the same way if you had a physical illness? People are way too quick to judge. Just move on and enjoy people who accept you for who you are | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too I'm 24 and I know about 10 people around my age who have had severe depression myself being one of them, and anyone who thinks it's scary shouldn't be on this site, because if you do your so uneducated that you think someone with depression is going to hurt you or themselves when there with, you have more chance of being killed by someone who has taken bdsm to far or who likes that rape feel, they are the fucked up ones!!!!! Someone who is depressed is more likely to just brake down and cry that's what I've found when you give them the comfort and support they need and don't make them out to be looney, fuck sake. are we in the Victorian times or something fucking stupid cunts!!! " I'm 49 year's of age and never suffered from true depression. I've been incredibly low at various time's through two period's of my adulthood,the last time it did scare me as I'd never felt like that before. Depression is scary for others if you don't understand it which I don't. To say anyone that finds it scary shouldn't be on this site is just plain silly. | |||
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"A woman on this site that I chatted to for a few days and got on really well with after finding out I had suffered from Depression suddenly did not want to know me? Why? Because a friend of her Daughter killed herself and the Boyfriend was held responsible!! When are people going to learn that anyone who has Depression or has suffered in the past from it is not going to slash thier wrists at the drop of a hat!! I am NOT a Nutter! I am proud of who I am!! I am definately not ashamed of admitting I needed help to cope with my life either!! Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!! " Good for you, OP and fuck 'em! You can only educate an open mind. | |||
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"A woman on this site that I chatted to for a few days and got on really well with after finding out I had suffered from Depression suddenly did not want to know me? Why? Because a friend of her Daughter killed herself and the Boyfriend was held responsible!! When are people going to learn that anyone who has Depression or has suffered in the past from it is not going to slash thier wrists at the drop of a hat!! I am NOT a Nutter! I am proud of who I am!! I am definately not ashamed of admitting I needed help to cope with my life either!! Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!! " I'm sorry you're suffering with depression. Your post does imply that someone who is suicidal IS a nutter though and that's a really unpleasant thing to say. Attitudes really need to change. As far as the woman you spoke to - she's had something awful happen to someone close to her family, someone who suffered with depression. It sounds like what you're going through is just a little too close to home right now for her to get her head around. Perhaps be less open until you've met someone and know them a lot better? My fuck buddy had depression and was suicidal before I met him. He's much better these days and it's lovely to see. I hope you have people to support you OP. | |||
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"A woman on this site that I chatted to for a few days and got on really well with after finding out I had suffered from Depression suddenly did not want to know me? Why? Because a friend of her Daughter killed herself and the Boyfriend was held responsible!! When are people going to learn that anyone who has Depression or has suffered in the past from it is not going to slash thier wrists at the drop of a hat!! I am NOT a Nutter! I am proud of who I am!! I am definately not ashamed of admitting I needed help to cope with my life either!! Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!! I'm sorry you're suffering with depression. Your post does imply that someone who is suicidal IS a nutter though and that's a really unpleasant thing to say. Attitudes really need to change. As far as the woman you spoke to - she's had something awful happen to someone close to her family, someone who suffered with depression. It sounds like what you're going through is just a little too close to home right now for her to get her head around. Perhaps be less open until you've met someone and know them a lot better? My fuck buddy had depression and was suicidal before I met him. He's much better these days and it's lovely to see. I hope you have people to support you OP. " Excellent post. Mental health problems can have enormous impact on those people who care for the sufferer. A suicide even more so - research clearly shows that people are deeply shaken by such events. Whilst the language from your initial correspondent may not have been ideal OP, there's leverage in cutting some slack. Not everybody is for everybody and people on a sex site are entitled to discriminate in any way they see fit, even if we may not like it. In no way does this minimise the harm and difficulties that depression causes, and I wish you well OP | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too I'm 24 and I know about 10 people around my age who have had severe depression myself being one of them, and anyone who thinks it's scary shouldn't be on this site, because if you do your so uneducated that you think someone with depression is going to hurt you or themselves when there with, you have more chance of being killed by someone who has taken bdsm to far or who likes that rape feel, they are the fucked up ones!!!!! Someone who is depressed is more likely to just brake down and cry that's what I've found when you give them the comfort and support they need and don't make them out to be looney, fuck sake. are we in the Victorian times or something fucking stupid cunts!!! just because i used the word scary does not make me stupid fkn cunt tvm - i have had 2 breakdowns myself and i work with mental health sufferers and for people on the outside looking in it can be scary - i didnt say anything about hurting people - it isnt just the sufferer it affects " My ex-wife had undiagnosed bipolar, so although on occasions she was violent for me it was the mental effect it had on me that left the most scars.. S | |||
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"If you want to get more people to understand mental illness there is no point flying of the deep end. Explain to people. We have come an awful long way with dealing with the stigma of mental illness. People who dont understand do find it scary or the only thing they have seen is things in the press where someone has done something terrible. There are some bigots but generally its a simple case of not knowing. Spend more time educating people in a calm logical way. Someone on this thread called them cunts. Well im sorry but that isnt doing anyone with a mental illness any favours. Its a raw subject to sufferers but instead of knee jerk reactions a calm and logical approach is required. " Well said. Maintaining one's dignity is a great piece of advice once given to me. | |||
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"If you want to get more people to understand mental illness there is no point flying of the deep end. Explain to people. We have come an awful long way with dealing with the stigma of mental illness. People who dont understand do find it scary or the only thing they have seen is things in the press where someone has done something terrible. There are some bigots but generally its a simple case of not knowing. Spend more time educating people in a calm logical way. Someone on this thread called them cunts. Well im sorry but that isnt doing anyone with a mental illness any favours. Its a raw subject to sufferers but instead of knee jerk reactions a calm and logical approach is required. " Well said | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too I'm 24 and I know about 10 people around my age who have had severe depression myself being one of them, and anyone who thinks it's scary shouldn't be on this site, because if you do your so uneducated that you think someone with depression is going to hurt you or themselves when there with, you have more chance of being killed by someone who has taken bdsm to far or who likes that rape feel, they are the fucked up ones!!!!! Someone who is depressed is more likely to just brake down and cry that's what I've found when you give them the comfort and support they need and don't make them out to be looney, fuck sake. are we in the Victorian times or something fucking stupid cunts!!! " You have just said everyone who is into bdsm and rape play are fucked up, very thing you were done disagreeing with about the generalisation of people's attitude towards mental health. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems." It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. | |||
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"Op, did the woman use the word nutters or did you? " That's a really important question re behaviour on the site. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. " its her choice, she wasnt rude. Its a swinging site and everyone has preferences. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. its her choice, she wasnt rude. Its a swinging site and everyone has preferences." Yes I know this. I was just expressing my personal Opinion exactly the same | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. " Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. " It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles " why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone" That's exactly my point! So how would one know? | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles " we all have our problems though and i prefer to meet someone who is uncomplicated and lighthearted. I meet people on here because i like meeting people, especialy reasonably cheerful people who brighten up my day. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles we all have our problems though and i prefer to meet someone who is uncomplicated and lighthearted. I meet people on here because i like meeting people, especialy reasonably cheerful people who brighten up my day." Depression and mental illness is not all doom and gloom. I have a good friend whom leads a very varied life and has a better social life. Very good career with very understanding employers. Yet she has bipolar, she manages it and it's her illness not anyone else's to worry about. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? " they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves" Think there's been crossed wires. I was refering solely on grumpy saying she'd not meet anyone with depression or mental health issues. I was basically saying it is narrow minded. Another poster then said some people don't even give correct details out names etc. So how would grumpy know they had MHI? As surely if they don't disclose their name they wouldn't disclose any health issues. So how would she base her descision on not meeting them. I mean she might of already for all she knows. They/we don't go around with a notice on our head just as cancer patients etc wouldn't | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves Think there's been crossed wires. I was refering solely on grumpy saying she'd not meet anyone with depression or mental health issues. I was basically saying it is narrow minded. Another poster then said some people don't even give correct details out names etc. So how would grumpy know they had MHI? As surely if they don't disclose their name they wouldn't disclose any health issues. So how would she base her descision on not meeting them. I mean she might of already for all she knows. They/we don't go around with a notice on our head just as cancer patients etc wouldn't " well she wouldnt. My mental illness is chronic, if im just having a coffee with someone they dont need to know, but if its going to be more i brush over things and if they are going to be "in my life" for anytime i will go into more detail. Its what you tell people and how you tell people. Ive been a big advacot for mental illness on the forums for ten years so there may have been people who have chosen not to meet me because of it. But not one person ive arranged to meet has just stopped chatting or cancelled the meet. Noone i know treats me differently, they let me get on with it and when i need support i ask for it | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves Think there's been crossed wires. I was refering solely on grumpy saying she'd not meet anyone with depression or mental health issues. I was basically saying it is narrow minded. Another poster then said some people don't even give correct details out names etc. So how would grumpy know they had MHI? As surely if they don't disclose their name they wouldn't disclose any health issues. So how would she base her descision on not meeting them. I mean she might of already for all she knows. They/we don't go around with a notice on our head just as cancer patients etc wouldn't well she wouldnt. My mental illness is chronic, if im just having a coffee with someone they dont need to know, but if its going to be more i brush over things and if they are going to be "in my life" for anytime i will go into more detail. Its what you tell people and how you tell people. Ive been a big advacot for mental illness on the forums for ten years so there may have been people who have chosen not to meet me because of it. But not one person ive arranged to meet has just stopped chatting or cancelled the meet. Noone i know treats me differently, they let me get on with it and when i need support i ask for it" This was exactly my point. I think your not understanding what I mean | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism." Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. " Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves Think there's been crossed wires. I was refering solely on grumpy saying she'd not meet anyone with depression or mental health issues. I was basically saying it is narrow minded. Another poster then said some people don't even give correct details out names etc. So how would grumpy know they had MHI? As surely if they don't disclose their name they wouldn't disclose any health issues. So how would she base her descision on not meeting them. I mean she might of already for all she knows. They/we don't go around with a notice on our head just as cancer patients etc wouldn't well she wouldnt. My mental illness is chronic, if im just having a coffee with someone they dont need to know, but if its going to be more i brush over things and if they are going to be "in my life" for anytime i will go into more detail. Its what you tell people and how you tell people. Ive been a big advacot for mental illness on the forums for ten years so there may have been people who have chosen not to meet me because of it. But not one person ive arranged to meet has just stopped chatting or cancelled the meet. Noone i know treats me differently, they let me get on with it and when i need support i ask for it This was exactly my point. I think your not understanding what I mean " i dont think i am. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems." Its not the folk with depression you need to look out for as they know there is a problem, its the so called normal pig ignorant folk that look apon folk with depression as if there abnormal. When inatual fact they've got guts and should be proud of themselves to confront their issues and make it known to get the help they need. It can happen to anyone in all walks of life but just thank yourself lucky you don't suffer from it. | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite." Why wouldn't they? | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism." i agree, when im ill i wouldnt even be able to meet anyway. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. Its not the folk with depression you need to look out for as they know there is a problem, its the so called normal pig ignorant folk that look apon folk with depression as if there abnormal. When inatual fact they've got guts and should be proud of themselves to confront their issues and make it known to get the help they need. It can happen to anyone in all walks of life but just thank yourself lucky you don't suffer from it." 100% agree. But some very narrow mindedness opinions about | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves Think there's been crossed wires. I was refering solely on grumpy saying she'd not meet anyone with depression or mental health issues. I was basically saying it is narrow minded. Another poster then said some people don't even give correct details out names etc. So how would grumpy know they had MHI? As surely if they don't disclose their name they wouldn't disclose any health issues. So how would she base her descision on not meeting them. I mean she might of already for all she knows. They/we don't go around with a notice on our head just as cancer patients etc wouldn't well she wouldnt. My mental illness is chronic, if im just having a coffee with someone they dont need to know, but if its going to be more i brush over things and if they are going to be "in my life" for anytime i will go into more detail. Its what you tell people and how you tell people. Ive been a big advacot for mental illness on the forums for ten years so there may have been people who have chosen not to meet me because of it. But not one person ive arranged to meet has just stopped chatting or cancelled the meet. Noone i know treats me differently, they let me get on with it and when i need support i ask for it This was exactly my point. I think your not understanding what I mean i dont think i am." I'm agreeing so you obv are. I have first hand experience with mental health and my sister is a CPN so I have a very good and educated background with mental health | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too" Exactly - anyone who has had depression, or had family, friends, or lovers with depression or other mental illness knows it can indeed be very stressful for all concerned, and sorry OP I would say that anyone had a perfect right to choose not to meet or have sex with someone on here for ANY reason. Dealing with a close friend grieving the loss of a child is a valid reason to choose to avoid anyone that might make life more complicated I think. I might tend to avoid married men for the same reason, or someone who had young children, or worked offshore or any other number of things that might make life more complicated if I got involved with them. I do not see that as any kind of judgement or condemnation or ignorance - I am not ignorant on the subject, I'm just making an informed choice. If I was looking for nsa fuck and go I might feel differently, but I can empathise with anyone exercising a right to free choice or trying to keep things simple on a sex site. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves Think there's been crossed wires. I was refering solely on grumpy saying she'd not meet anyone with depression or mental health issues. I was basically saying it is narrow minded. Another poster then said some people don't even give correct details out names etc. So how would grumpy know they had MHI? As surely if they don't disclose their name they wouldn't disclose any health issues. So how would she base her descision on not meeting them. I mean she might of already for all she knows. They/we don't go around with a notice on our head just as cancer patients etc wouldn't well she wouldnt. My mental illness is chronic, if im just having a coffee with someone they dont need to know, but if its going to be more i brush over things and if they are going to be "in my life" for anytime i will go into more detail. Its what you tell people and how you tell people. Ive been a big advacot for mental illness on the forums for ten years so there may have been people who have chosen not to meet me because of it. But not one person ive arranged to meet has just stopped chatting or cancelled the meet. Noone i know treats me differently, they let me get on with it and when i need support i ask for it This was exactly my point. I think your not understanding what I mean i dont think i am. I'm agreeing so you obv are. I have first hand experience with mental health and my sister is a CPN so I have a very good and educated background with mental health " ok, i thought you where saying i dont understand | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? " I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. It's this attitude which gives mental health a stigma. Being treated like a lepar. Not necessarily so on here. For many this is purely NSA fun, minimal contact / knowledge of the other person, some don't even know their real names. By telling someone you're suffering from mental health issues / depression you've made it more personal and some may not want that. It's everyone's personal choice and that's fine. I just find it old fashioned and narrow minded. If you don't give or know someone's real name why would you base meeting them on the fact they have depression or mental health issues? The mind boggles why would anyone tell someone who they dont know about a mental illness they had. Its not going to affect the meet. Would you list your past medical history to someone That's exactly my point! So how would one know? they wouldnt unless the person told them about it. The op told someone about an illness he "had" why would you need to do that. I dont say "oh i used to have pcos but when i had the coil fitted my symptoms went" if people dont want others to treat mental illness differently they have to stop doing it themselves Think there's been crossed wires. I was refering solely on grumpy saying she'd not meet anyone with depression or mental health issues. I was basically saying it is narrow minded. Another poster then said some people don't even give correct details out names etc. So how would grumpy know they had MHI? As surely if they don't disclose their name they wouldn't disclose any health issues. So how would she base her descision on not meeting them. I mean she might of already for all she knows. They/we don't go around with a notice on our head just as cancer patients etc wouldn't well she wouldnt. My mental illness is chronic, if im just having a coffee with someone they dont need to know, but if its going to be more i brush over things and if they are going to be "in my life" for anytime i will go into more detail. Its what you tell people and how you tell people. Ive been a big advacot for mental illness on the forums for ten years so there may have been people who have chosen not to meet me because of it. But not one person ive arranged to meet has just stopped chatting or cancelled the meet. Noone i know treats me differently, they let me get on with it and when i need support i ask for it This was exactly my point. I think your not understanding what I mean i dont think i am. I'm agreeing so you obv are. I have first hand experience with mental health and my sister is a CPN so I have a very good and educated background with mental health ok, i thought you where saying i dont understand" No not atall. I was infact agreeing with you but trying to say that I wasn't explaining myself correctly where's you didn't understand my point and not the subject matter. I'm confused myself now . | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. Its not the folk with depression you need to look out for as they know there is a problem, its the so called normal pig ignorant folk that look apon folk with depression as if there abnormal. When inatual fact they've got guts and should be proud of themselves to confront their issues and make it known to get the help they need. It can happen to anyone in all walks of life but just thank yourself lucky you don't suffer from it." How do you know i dont? | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances." I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it " I was about to say exactly the same | |||
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"You have to be careful what you say to people on here, you dont really know them. Personaly i prefer not to meet someone who suffers from depresion or has any sort of mental health problems. Its not the folk with depression you need to look out for as they know there is a problem, its the so called normal pig ignorant folk that look apon folk with depression as if there abnormal. When inatual fact they've got guts and should be proud of themselves to confront their issues and make it known to get the help they need. It can happen to anyone in all walks of life but just thank yourself lucky you don't suffer from it. How do you know i dont? " By your comment someone with the understanding or first hand situation of the illness wouldn't come out with a low comment as yours | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it " Drug abuse and alcoholism in an illness too. Funny how people can defend their own plights but not sympathise with anothers. | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too Exactly - anyone who has had depression, or had family, friends, or lovers with depression or other mental illness knows it can indeed be very stressful for all concerned, and sorry OP I would say that anyone had a perfect right to choose not to meet or have sex with someone on here for ANY reason. Dealing with a close friend grieving the loss of a child is a valid reason to choose to avoid anyone that might make life more complicated I think. I might tend to avoid married men for the same reason, or someone who had young children, or worked offshore or any other number of things that might make life more complicated if I got involved with them. I do not see that as any kind of judgement or condemnation or ignorance - I am not ignorant on the subject, I'm just making an informed choice. If I was looking for nsa fuck and go I might feel differently, but I can empathise with anyone exercising a right to free choice or trying to keep things simple on a sex site." I agree with this. | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it Drug abuse and alcoholism in an illness too. Funny how people can defend their own plights but not sympathise with anothers." often caused by depression | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it Drug abuse and alcoholism in an illness too. Funny how people can defend their own plights but not sympathise with anothers." | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it Drug abuse and alcoholism in an illness too. Funny how people can defend their own plights but not sympathise with anothers.often caused by depression" Or narcissism - but why would anyone choose to meet someone who lacked sympathy, or be judged for choosing not to do so? | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it Drug abuse and alcoholism in an illness too. Funny how people can defend their own plights but not sympathise with anothers.often caused by depression Or narcissism - but why would anyone choose to meet someone who lacked sympathy, or be judged for choosing not to do so?" sorry ment drug use and alcoholism is often caused by depression | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? I dont know. It could possibly affect the way they behave. Same as a heavy drinker or drug user, so why take chances. I beg your pardon please do not put me or any other person who suffers this illness in the same position as these two groups I didn't get hooked on depression it wasn't my choice to start it Drug abuse and alcoholism in an illness too. Funny how people can defend their own plights but not sympathise with anothers." I understand its an illness, but it was a choice they made in the first place and unfortunately it got a hold of them like depression can. But it wasn't my choice to wake up and say here I feel like shit and want to end it, but you know what I like this feeling so I'm going to keep it up until I can't control it. | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? " They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too I'm 24 and I know about 10 people around my age who have had severe depression myself being one of them, and anyone who thinks it's scary shouldn't be on this site, because if you do your so uneducated that you think someone with depression is going to hurt you or themselves when there with, you have more chance of being killed by someone who has taken bdsm to far or who likes that rape feel, they are the fucked up ones!!!!! Someone who is depressed is more likely to just brake down and cry that's what I've found when you give them the comfort and support they need and don't make them out to be looney, fuck sake. are we in the Victorian times or something fucking stupid cunts!!! just because i used the word scary does not make me stupid fkn cunt tvm - i have had 2 breakdowns myself and i work with mental health sufferers and for people on the outside looking in it can be scary - i didnt say anything about hurting people - it isnt just the sufferer it affects " I agree with you, if someone's you know has been through depression and suicide. It can be extremely stressful on the friends and family. Maybe the person doesn't realise there's all kinds of levels of depression. But just maybe there personal experience is enough to put them off someone they know don't from Adam off the net with mental health issues. And before anyone starts I have had anxiety and depression myself previously. I can see it from both sides. | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. " I have met plenty of people who do this, and they aren't depressed, obsessed more like .... to me that isn't a symptom of depression .... | |||
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"Its very interesting that not one person has chosen to answer my question Can you ask it again because I am having trouble following the thread " i asked how we could deccrease the stigma of mental illness and how can we educate the "layman" | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. " I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber | |||
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"Its very interesting that not one person has chosen to answer my question Can you ask it again because I am having trouble following the thread i asked how we could deccrease the stigma of mental illness and how can we educate the "layman"" I do my bit by talking very openly with anyone who asks me questions about my mental health. I have nothing to be ashamed of and have always found, including at my recent meet, that people will say things like 'I don't know much about it, what's it like?' Or 'what does it affect?' and I tell them. I think we are moving forward slowly | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber " It just means their a cunt and anyone can be a cunt regardless of illness or disability. | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I have met plenty of people who do this, and they aren't depressed, obsessed more like .... to me that isn't a symptom of depression ...." Yes or they could have a personality disorder which i think is also a mental illness, not sure. I have known a few, not many people with mental health problems and they just drag you down with them, sometimes they cant stand to see anyone else happy. Of course they arent all like that though. | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too Exactly - anyone who has had depression, or had family, friends, or lovers with depression or other mental illness knows it can indeed be very stressful for all concerned, and sorry OP I would say that anyone had a perfect right to choose not to meet or have sex with someone on here for ANY reason. Dealing with a close friend grieving the loss of a child is a valid reason to choose to avoid anyone that might make life more complicated I think. I might tend to avoid married men for the same reason, or someone who had young children, or worked offshore or any other number of things that might make life more complicated if I got involved with them. I do not see that as any kind of judgement or condemnation or ignorance - I am not ignorant on the subject, I'm just making an informed choice. If I was looking for nsa fuck and go I might feel differently, but I can empathise with anyone exercising a right to free choice or trying to keep things simple on a sex site." after reading though this post I find I have to agree with the sentiment of posts about respecting everyone's personal choice on who they choose to meet or not meet on what grounds . I personally don't have a list of reasons why I would not met someone as I tend to take each and every person I interact with on there merits as a human being . the truth is I would not know if some one had mental illness or any other personal thing about themselves unless they choose to share such information with me . now would knowing said information effect my opinion on them in a negative light of coarse not because as I've already said I tend to not go with preconceived ideas and opinions on others I tend to take each person as I find them and act accordingly from there . | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I have met plenty of people who do this, and they aren't depressed, obsessed more like .... to me that isn't a symptom of depression .... Yes or they could have a personality disorder which i think is also a mental illness, not sure. I have known a few, not many people with mental health problems and they just drag you down with them, sometimes they cant stand to see anyone else happy. Of course they arent all like that though." More likely to be codependent or have the behaviour/personality of an addict ... it can be a vicious cycle as to who meets who, but I would never rule anyone out by a label, I would see what the person is like and likely to handle the meet etc, as much as you can do in advance ... how we click | |||
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"Its very interesting that not one person has chosen to answer my question Can you ask it again because I am having trouble following the thread i asked how we could deccrease the stigma of mental illness and how can we educate the "layman" I do my bit by talking very openly with anyone who asks me questions about my mental health. I have nothing to be ashamed of and have always found, including at my recent meet, that people will say things like 'I don't know much about it, what's it like?' Or 'what does it affect?' and I tell them. I think we are moving forward slowly" exactly, how are people supposed to know anything about mental illness if they have never met anyone with a mental illness. Most people i know didnt know anyone with mental illness and when ive asked what their perception was it was usually what they had seen in the media | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber " Maybe but its not what you call normal behaviour is it, accusing people of things all the time, being on the defensive? | |||
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" Drug abuse and alcoholism in an illness too. Funny how people can defend their own plights but not sympathise with anothers. I understand its an illness, but it was a choice they made in the first place and unfortunately it got a hold of them like depression can. But it wasn't my choice to wake up and say here I feel like shit and want to end it, but you know what I like this feeling so I'm going to keep it up until I can't control it. " But, with respect - so what?? Many illnesses are a result of our own choices, and we are STILL entitled to choose not to have sex with anyone who is ill, different, or just not to our liking in any way whatsoever! | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber It just means their a cunt and anyone can be a cunt regardless of illness or disability. " Or even depression.... | |||
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"A woman on this site that I chatted to for a few days and got on really well with after finding out I had suffered from Depression suddenly did not want to know me? Why? Because a friend of her Daughter killed herself and the Boyfriend was held responsible!! When are people going to learn that anyone who has Depression or has suffered in the past from it is not going to slash thier wrists at the drop of a hat!! I am NOT a Nutter! I am proud of who I am!! I am definately not ashamed of admitting I needed help to cope with my life either!! Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!! " Well said!! Rebuild on my life for nearly 4 years after 5 years of increasing hell. Am I fully recovered?? Am I fuck....Probably never likely to be either but I am in a damn sight better shape than I was at the pivotal point of my illness! | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber Maybe but its not what you call normal behaviour is it, accusing people of things all the time, being on the defensive?" Everyone's definition of normal is different. I'd say your situation set up as stated in your profile isn't very normal but hey ho | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber Maybe but its not what you call normal behaviour is it, accusing people of things all the time, being on the defensive?" I think you're attributing certain behaviours to depression that aren't necessarily linked. I've certainly never acted like that, but I know a few people without depression who have. Perfect example of why conversations need to take place about what depression and anxiety disorders actually are and how they can present.... with the caviat that it can present differently in different people | |||
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"While the word "nutter" is used to describe anybody with mental ill health it will be stigmatised. " This! OP says "Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!!". So people who suffer from depression should be understood and looked after but people with other mental health complications or challenges are crazy? Disturbing. | |||
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"Some of the comments in here are quite disturbing." I agree | |||
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"While the word "nutter" is used to describe anybody with mental ill health it will be stigmatised. This! OP says "Shame on anyone who thinks anyone with Depression is a Nutter!!". So people who suffer from depression should be understood and looked after but people with other mental health complications or challenges are crazy? Disturbing." i actually think its the most stigmatized thread on mental illness ive seen on the forums and its not from those that dont understand. Scarey | |||
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"After reading some of these posts i think im even more sure about not meeting someone who has depression or mental health disorders." and there you go, all i see in this thread is making the situation worse. Twice i asked how we could change things and only one person answereed . So basically everyone wants to bitch on the thread but noone wants to change it. All the good the mental health threads seem pointless if someone reads this | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber Maybe but its not what you call normal behaviour is it, accusing people of things all the time, being on the defensive? Everyone's definition of normal is different. I'd say your situation set up as stated in your profile isn't very normal but hey ho" Yes and i could say the same about your profile only i noticed youve changed it. | |||
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"After reading some of these posts i think im even more sure about not meeting someone who has depression or mental health disorders." You've made that quite clear, thank you for sharing your thoughts. | |||
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"From my own experience a while back When I used to tell people I'd spent three weeks in a psychiatric hospital they'd all take a nervous step back. When I told them it was The Priory they'd all take a step forward and ask if I met anyone famous. " really? All of them took a nervous step back? | |||
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"After reading some of these posts i think im even more sure about not meeting someone who has depression or mental health disorders. You've made that quite clear, thank you for sharing your thoughts." Thats ok. | |||
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"After reading some of these posts i think im even more sure about not meeting someone who has depression or mental health disorders.and there you go, all i see in this thread is making the situation worse. Twice i asked how we could change things and only one person answereed . So basically everyone wants to bitch on the thread but noone wants to change it. All the good the mental health threads seem pointless if someone reads this" You can't change people's perception of mental health because there's so many different types of mental illness, some mental illness' people should be afraid of. Some mental health illness' are prone to certain personality disorders like psychopathy for example. I'd probably guess that if you had an eating disorder your knowledge of mental health would be confined to eating disorders, you wouldn't know that much about living with/treating or dealing with substance abuse which is also a mental health illness. If you were suffering with depression I wouldn't expect you to know about bipolar disorders or schizophrenia. People will make judgements on what little experience they have with mental illness, if they know someone had a certain illness they'll probably assume everyone is the same. I don't even know what I'm trying to say, it made sense in my head! | |||
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"After reading some of these posts i think im even more sure about not meeting someone who has depression or mental health disorders.and there you go, all i see in this thread is making the situation worse. Twice i asked how we could change things and only one person answereed . So basically everyone wants to bitch on the thread but noone wants to change it. All the good the mental health threads seem pointless if someone reads this You can't change people's perception of mental health because there's so many different types of mental illness, some mental illness' people should be afraid of. Some mental health illness' are prone to certain personality disorders like psychopathy for example. I'd probably guess that if you had an eating disorder your knowledge of mental health would be confined to eating disorders, you wouldn't know that much about living with/treating or dealing with substance abuse which is also a mental health illness. If you were suffering with depression I wouldn't expect you to know about bipolar disorders or schizophrenia. People will make judgements on what little experience they have with mental illness, if they know someone had a certain illness they'll probably assume everyone is the same. I don't even know what I'm trying to say, it made sense in my head!" No it does make sense | |||
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"After reading some of these posts i think im even more sure about not meeting someone who has depression or mental health disorders.and there you go, all i see in this thread is making the situation worse. Twice i asked how we could change things and only one person answereed . So basically everyone wants to bitch on the thread but noone wants to change it. All the good the mental health threads seem pointless if someone reads this You can't change people's perception of mental health because there's so many different types of mental illness, some mental illness' people should be afraid of. Some mental health illness' are prone to certain personality disorders like psychopathy for example. I'd probably guess that if you had an eating disorder your knowledge of mental health would be confined to eating disorders, you wouldn't know that much about living with/treating or dealing with substance abuse which is also a mental health illness. If you were suffering with depression I wouldn't expect you to know about bipolar disorders or schizophrenia. People will make judgements on what little experience they have with mental illness, if they know someone had a certain illness they'll probably assume everyone is the same. I don't even know what I'm trying to say, it made sense in my head!" it made far more sense than those blaming those that dont understand | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber Maybe but its not what you call normal behaviour is it, accusing people of things all the time, being on the defensive? Everyone's definition of normal is different. I'd say your situation set up as stated in your profile isn't very normal but hey ho Yes and i could say the same about your profile only i noticed youve changed it. " Changed it? Haven't changed anything on my profile? | |||
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"I would rather not know. I get depresed but when i meet people i dont feel or act depresed or talk about it, people dont usualy want to hear about that, meeting people on here is for fun and escapism. Yes and I'd think just because someone has been diagnosed with a MHI that also applies to them. Yes if they acted normaly, kind, respectful and polite. Why wouldn't they? They might be when you meet them but then they might behave eraticly, calling you in the middle of the night, sending constant messages, repeating themselves. Little things like that but can be slightly annoying. Saying strange things, playing mind games. Accusing you of all sorts of things. I've met loads of men woman who behave like that doesn't just mean they have a MHI, or depression. It's like saying every Muslim is a suicide bomber Maybe but its not what you call normal behaviour is it, accusing people of things all the time, being on the defensive? Everyone's definition of normal is different. I'd say your situation set up as stated in your profile isn't very normal but hey ho Yes and i could say the same about your profile only i noticed youve changed it. Changed it? Haven't changed anything on my profile? " Oh sorry, my mistake. | |||
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"After reading some of these posts i think im even more sure about not meeting someone who has depression or mental health disorders.and there you go, all i see in this thread is making the situation worse. Twice i asked how we could change things and only one person answereed . So basically everyone wants to bitch on the thread but noone wants to change it. All the good the mental health threads seem pointless if someone reads this You can't change people's perception of mental health because there's so many different types of mental illness, some mental illness' people should be afraid of. Some mental health illness' are prone to certain personality disorders like psychopathy for example. I'd probably guess that if you had an eating disorder your knowledge of mental health would be confined to eating disorders, you wouldn't know that much about living with/treating or dealing with substance abuse which is also a mental health illness. If you were suffering with depression I wouldn't expect you to know about bipolar disorders or schizophrenia. People will make judgements on what little experience they have with mental illness, if they know someone had a certain illness they'll probably assume everyone is the same. I don't even know what I'm trying to say, it made sense in my head!" Makes perfect sense and totally agree | |||
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"I think the people I get on with best have a certain personality disorder. The most well rounded people with very sunny cheerful dispositions would never understand me. " That does make sense. I'm kind of the opposite it I associate with people who are cheery assertive and have high self esteem so it rubs of on me. | |||
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"It's the strongest of people that suffer with depression or anxiety. I know as I've been there too. Sometimes, just sometimes we have to admit we need a little bit of help. That's hard to admit when you are so independent in life. Well done for posting this. " So true. | |||
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"I applaud your post OP. Only people who have suffered from depression truly understand what it's like. You are right. Not everyone with depression is a ticking time bomb with suicidal ideations. There are different levels of depression, as with other illnesses. exactly that - but i work with mental illness and can see other peoples perspective also - it is scary for them too I'm 24 and I know about 10 people around my age who have had severe depression myself being one of them, and anyone who thinks it's scary shouldn't be on this site, because if you do your so uneducated that you think someone with depression is going to hurt you or themselves when there with, you have more chance of being killed by someone who has taken bdsm to far or who likes that rape feel, they are the fucked up ones!!!!! Someone who is depressed is more likely to just brake down and cry that's what I've found when you give them the comfort and support they need and don't make them out to be looney, fuck sake. are we in the Victorian times or something fucking stupid cunts!!! " Chill. There are two sides to every story. | |||
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"Depression is a very costly illness for the NHS so it'd be a good idea if more people had knowledge of it. Sadly people go into hibernation as they spiral downwards (they isolate themselves, don't partake in normal activities, which can include routine mealtimes). At times they may start on a course of self-destruction and/or are suicidal. Extremely rarely will they interact with others, let alone harm them. If you have a friend or loved one like this, try to prevent them from totally isolating themselves. Make them a cuppa. Open up avenues to talk even if no talking initially occurs. You're not trying to cure them, but never before has the saying "a problem shared is a problem halved" been more apt." Well said. | |||
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