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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

We have been together for six and a half years , married for four and swinging for five . We find swinging enhances our relationship which didn't need fixing by the way . No way do we feel like our relationship wasn't so good before we began our swinging .

Over to you ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If our relationship hadn't been strong there's no way we'd have got into this, I think there's too much potential for damage if you're doing it to paper over cracks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

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The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm not interested in just having sex with one person. It's not who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging isn't doing my relationship any good what so ever and im not even in one . In fact , im not even swinging . !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a great marriage and would happily swing as an extra, if only hubby would.

But I do think that some couples use it to try and "repair" their relationship. Just going off experience of chatting to different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because I'm not interested in just having sex with one person. It's not who I am."

Mmm shame in a little to old lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging isn't doing my relationship any good what so ever and im not even in one . In fact , im not even swinging . ! "

Sorry but this made me chuckle

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship "

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I have a great marriage and would happily swing as an extra, if only hubby would.

But I do think that some couples use it to try and "repair" their relationship. Just going off experience of chatting to different people. "

Oh dear .... wait for it

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit "

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can only assume that if the couples relationship is good, then swinging can make it better or just add another angle of interest. It's not a case of detraction but addition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because our relationship is so great that we swing.

In my opinion, to swing when your relationship isn't good inevitably will end in tears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a great marriage and would happily swing as an extra, if only hubby would.

But I do think that some couples use it to try and "repair" their relationship. Just going off experience of chatting to different people. "

Yes. Some do. But it's equally possible to have a fantastic relationship and swing. . Although you wouldn't think so by the judgement of some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not part of a couple myself, I am presuming that sex is a big part in most relationships. Enhancement of such an important part of your relationship, can only be a good thing I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just life. You can have best relationship ever and swing and have fun. Or you could have a terrible relationship and swing and have fun.

Or you can be vanilla and have fun. Or vanilla and have a terrible relationship.

Not too sure why people think this lifestyle means you have a problematic relationship. Alcohol or stress at work is a bigger threat to successful relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a great marriage and would happily swing as an extra, if only hubby would.

But I do think that some couples use it to try and "repair" their relationship. Just going off experience of chatting to different people.

Oh dear .... wait for it"

Yes SOME do but SOME don't so leave the wait for it and we'll leave the I'm being victimised,stop being personal crap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

"

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a great marriage and would happily swing as an extra, if only hubby would.

But I do think that some couples use it to try and "repair" their relationship. Just going off experience of chatting to different people.

Yes. Some do. But it's equally possible to have a fantastic relationship and swing. . Although you wouldn't think so by the judgement of some. "

People are just too judgemental on here, but that will always be the case. I'm a believer in live and let live

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I have a great marriage and would happily swing as an extra, if only hubby would.

But I do think that some couples use it to try and "repair" their relationship. Just going off experience of chatting to different people.

Oh dear .... wait for it

Yes SOME do but SOME don't so leave the wait for it and we'll leave the I'm being victimised,stop being personal crap "

Gosh, how much longer are you going to keep this up? Am I allowed to talk now, without being ridiculed ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ? "

No such thing as perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes? "

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ? "

Can you tell me which words I can use then? It was a point I was making about language I have heard and things I have heard people say. Can I voice my opinion or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To improve their sex life, without cheating.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?"

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It adds a whole new layer to our relationship, its more than just sex, theres no jealousy no trust issues. We were solid before and pretty much unbreakable since (Famous last words)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

Can you tell me which words I can use then? It was a point I was making about language I have heard and things I have heard people say. Can I voice my opinion or not?"

Please do and use any words you like .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing .."

I think the key word is need...we don't need to, we want to.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship "

this..

given that most people will keep this aspect fairly closely guarded, is it the 'opinion' of other's in this lifestyle that some may be concerned about..

if anyone is, isn't that a tad strange..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a great marriage and would happily swing as an extra, if only hubby would.

But I do think that some couples use it to try and "repair" their relationship. Just going off experience of chatting to different people.

Oh dear .... wait for it

Yes SOME do but SOME don't so leave the wait for it and we'll leave the I'm being victimised,stop being personal crap

Gosh, how much longer are you going to keep this up? Am I allowed to talk now, without being ridiculed .... "

To be fair, you do make it easy to do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone as great as myself should not be taken by one woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?"

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me i find it unnatural to be monogamous, and always has been, although I was manogomous because I believed it to be right. I feel I cannot be the real me. Me having a lover makes no diffence to our marriage or our love for each other, but I need the variety. My husband's reasoning for swinging is slightly different. He loves watching me be pleasured. But he also loves group sex of any kind - like a recreation to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

No such thing as perfect "

All this talk about swinging in a relationship ! If I was busy with a relationship and swinging, I wouldn't have time to come on here asking such questions . On a sunday too ! You'll all burn in hell you know .

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?"

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't handle it, to be honest, but only swung as a single, and what a great couple of years that was, been in a vanilla relationship for six months, and I'd cut his cock off if he wanted another woman,(tongue in cheek) and I don't have any desire to have another man, yea, it's early days, and I'm in loooooovvvvvvveeeeeee.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

No such thing as perfect

All this talk about swinging in a relationship ! If I was busy with a relationship and swinging, I wouldn't have time to come on here asking such questions . On a sunday too ! You'll all burn in hell you know . "

The OH is watching poon, what else am I to do (this post was deliberately inserted so other posters can jump on it and pick it to shreds)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Never concerned me what others think

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots


"Swinging isn't doing my relationship any good what so ever and im not even in one . In fact , im not even swinging . ! "

It's not all its made to sound like I've just started one and now I'm thinking is this for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens"

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

No such thing as perfect

All this talk about swinging in a relationship ! If I was busy with a relationship and swinging, I wouldn't have time to come on here asking such questions . On a sunday too ! You'll all burn in hell you know .

The OH is watching poon, what else am I to do (this post was deliberately inserted so other posters can jump on it and pick it to shreds)"

Steelin my thunder ! Get back to your swinging relationship . You greedy sinner you

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I admire the strength of some relationships couples have on here.

I think over time my perception of couples who swing has definitely changed.

However for me its not something I'd want to do in a relationship. Perhaps it's because I've been single so long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same reason we would go to the cinema together, to enjoy ourselves. It just happens to involve other people and nakedness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do it because it's fun, plain and simple.

It's not fixing anything, it's not replacing anything, it's not something we 'need'

It's simply and addition to the varied and healthy sex life we have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We actually met on here and then got together as a result of that. We found that we are sexually compatible and also compatible in many other ways too and our relationship is strong. We chose to come back here as a couple to continue our swinging journey as there are many things we both want to experience with each other. If the day comes that we do not wish to do this any more then we will stop

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are. Both bi. That's why we swing lol.

Her strap on cock is cold and my pussy ain't the same as a ladies lol.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence... "

Evidence on my experience of the scene. Check the green arrow if you don't believe me

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

No such thing as perfect

All this talk about swinging in a relationship ! If I was busy with a relationship and swinging, I wouldn't have time to come on here asking such questions . On a sunday too ! You'll all burn in hell you know .

The OH is watching poon, what else am I to do (this post was deliberately inserted so other posters can jump on it and pick it to shreds)

Steelin my thunder ! Get back to your swinging relationship . You greedy sinner you "

No sense of humour allowed here, don't ya know

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

We have been married 35 years. Guess that's a solid relationship.

We are both really enjoying the experience. We have no secrets and never have had. We enjoy sharing each other with other couples. And have agreed that when the time comes where one of us has had enough then we will stop together.

We do not feel we have to explain or apologise to anyone for what we do.

Our life and we live and play it our way.

Happy swinging xxxxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Evidence on my experience of the scene. Check the green arrow if you don't believe me"

Oh I have, I actually do read what's written in context

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence... "

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Evidence on my experience of the scene. Check the green arrow if you don't believe me

Oh I have, I actually do read what's written in context "

Good. Glad to hear it .... sorry I haven't returned the favour ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I am having to justify myself again. "

You are deliberately misinterpreting peoples words.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"If our relationship hadn't been strong there's no way we'd have got into this, I think there's too much potential for damage if you're doing it to paper over cracks. "

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol "

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"

I am having to justify myself again.

You are deliberately misinterpreting peoples words."

I am saying what I feel. It is my perception .... not only mine, as other people share it too. Perception is reality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Evidence on my experience of the scene. Check the green arrow if you don't believe me

Oh I have, I actually do read what's written in context

Good. Glad to hear it .... sorry I haven't returned the favour ...."

Don't be sorry, it's ok, you clearly can't help it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I am having to justify myself again.

You are deliberately misinterpreting peoples words.

I am saying what I feel. It is my perception .... not only mine, as other people share it too. Perception is reality? "

No, no it isn't.

I could perceive it's ok to rob a bank. Last time I checked, it isn't....

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"

I am having to justify myself again.

You are deliberately misinterpreting peoples words.

I am saying what I feel. It is my perception .... not only mine, as other people share it too. Perception is reality?

No, no it isn't.

I could perceive it's ok to rob a bank. Last time I checked, it isn't...."

Oh gosh, I dont think you understand. Perception ... never mind. I dont talk down to people but I think we are on different wavelengths. Good luck with everything.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Neither I nor my wife is monogamous.

Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers"

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Evidence on my experience of the scene. Check the green arrow if you don't believe me

Oh I have, I actually do read what's written in context

Good. Glad to hear it .... sorry I haven't returned the favour ....

Don't be sorry, it's ok, you clearly can't help it "

A debate without an insult .... is this possible?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION "

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been with my husband 25 yrs...it keeps it fresh and exciting...done wonders for ours sex life

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship "

This.

Lots of people don't "get" swinging or non traditional relationships... Do I care? No? Do we have a happy marriage and are we having fun swinging? Hell yes!

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

No such thing as perfect

All this talk about swinging in a relationship ! If I was busy with a relationship and swinging, I wouldn't have time to come on here asking such questions . On a sunday too ! You'll all burn in hell you know .

The OH is watching poon, what else am I to do (this post was deliberately inserted so other posters can jump on it and pick it to shreds)

Steelin my thunder ! Get back to your swinging relationship . You greedy sinner you

No sense of humour allowed here, don't ya know "
maybe that should be the next question

Can you swing in a strong relationship and have a sence of humour ?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Some people say their relationship is perfect .... that's the difference. Perfect is different from great.

Some people don't bang on about their perfect relationship like they are trying to convince themselves as much as everyone else. Others say ours is perfect and if its perfect, you will be a swinger. They deny that someone can have a monogamous relationship that is perfect. Why make a big deal about it being perfect, why not just get on with it?

Perfection is never an attainable thing is it ?

One persons idea of perfect would be another's nightmare .

The op didn't mention perfect , nor did the previous forum post I refer to .

So back to the op , what's your view on that ?

No such thing as perfect

All this talk about swinging in a relationship ! If I was busy with a relationship and swinging, I wouldn't have time to come on here asking such questions . On a sunday too ! You'll all burn in hell you know .

The OH is watching poon, what else am I to do (this post was deliberately inserted so other posters can jump on it and pick it to shreds)

Steelin my thunder ! Get back to your swinging relationship . You greedy sinner you

No sense of humour allowed here, don't ya know maybe that should be the next question

Can you swing in a strong relationship and have a sence of humour ? "

Do swingers have a sense of humour? Yes, great question ....

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Why does nearly every topic on swinging dissolve into war....... For goodness sake people, you are coming across so angry, ......

Please leave the thread, calm down and just enjoy swinging for the purpose it is intended........ fun xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ...."

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

This.

Lots of people don't "get" swinging or non traditional relationships... Do I care? No? Do we have a happy marriage and are we having fun swinging? Hell yes!

Nita"

Exactly this .

What prompted the op was the suggestion that we don't have such a great relationship , or we wouldn't want to swing .

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Why does nearly every topic on swinging dissolve into war....... For goodness sake people, you are coming across so angry, ......

Please leave the thread, calm down and just enjoy swinging for the purpose it is intended........ fun xxxxx Suzi"

You are right, Suzi, it gets very, very personal in some cases. Sort. of fits with the 'do swingers have a sense of humour?' question

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you "

They may well be afraid or have been on the receiving end of an attack from you before .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I am having to justify myself again.

You are deliberately misinterpreting peoples words.

I am saying what I feel. It is my perception .... not only mine, as other people share it too. Perception is reality?

No, no it isn't.

I could perceive it's ok to rob a bank. Last time I checked, it isn't....

Oh gosh, I dont think you understand. Perception ... never mind. I dont talk down to people but I think we are on different wavelengths. Good luck with everything."

I understand well enough.

Perception: a way of regarding, understanding, or interpreting something; a mental impression.

That's where your statements confuse me, because yours seem slightly wayward to the norm, but don't worry, I do find it comical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on guys can we actually get back to the question that the OP posted for discussion? Listen to and respect the views of all members x

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you

They may well be afraid or have been on the receiving end of an attack from you before ....."

Lol still waiting......

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I can only assume that if the couples relationship is good, then swinging can make it better or just add another angle of interest. It's not a case of detraction but addition. "

Got it in one

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does nearly every topic on swinging dissolve into war....... For goodness sake people, you are coming across so angry, ......

Please leave the thread, calm down and just enjoy swinging for the purpose it is intended........ fun xxxxx Suzi

You are right, Suzi, it gets very, very personal in some cases. Sort. of fits with the 'do swingers have a sense of humour?' question"

It seems to be only when you throw nonsensical allegations at people.

If nothing else, you do a great job of flaming the threads with your ill-perceived logic....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does nearly every topic on swinging dissolve into war....... For goodness sake people, you are coming across so angry, ......

Please leave the thread, calm down and just enjoy swinging for the purpose it is intended........ fun xxxxx Suzi

You are right, Suzi, it gets very, very personal in some cases. Sort. of fits with the 'do swingers have a sense of humour?' question"

I dont have one . Then again , as I have already stated ,im not swinging or in a relationship . Mmmmm so could it be that being outside a relationship and not swinging means I have time to have a sence of humour ? Maybe wanking and humour go together in some primal way ?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

This.

Lots of people don't "get" swinging or non traditional relationships... Do I care? No? Do we have a happy marriage and are we having fun swinging? Hell yes!

Nita

Exactly this .

What prompted the op was the suggestion that we don't have such a great relationship , or we wouldn't want to swing ."

I think that is the perception of many outside swinging and probably several in it...

Do they not realise it's bloody difficult to have a threesome, foursome of moresome with only two people?

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Evidence on my experience of the scene. Check the green arrow if you don't believe me

Oh I have, I actually do read what's written in context

Good. Glad to hear it .... sorry I haven't returned the favour ....

Don't be sorry, it's ok, you clearly can't help it

A debate without an insult .... is this possible?"

I am literally crying with laughter

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Why does nearly every topic on swinging dissolve into war....... For goodness sake people, you are coming across so angry, ......

Please leave the thread, calm down and just enjoy swinging for the purpose it is intended........ fun xxxxx Suzi

You are right, Suzi, it gets very, very personal in some cases. Sort. of fits with the 'do swingers have a sense of humour?' question

It seems to be only when you throw nonsensical allegations at people.

If nothing else, you do a great job of flaming the threads with your ill-perceived logic.... "

If that is what you think I am doing, why rise to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does nearly every topic on swinging dissolve into war....... For goodness sake people, you are coming across so angry, ......

Please leave the thread, calm down and just enjoy swinging for the purpose it is intended........ fun xxxxx Suzi

You are right, Suzi, it gets very, very personal in some cases. Sort. of fits with the 'do swingers have a sense of humour?' question

It seems to be only when you throw nonsensical allegations at people.

If nothing else, you do a great job of flaming the threads with your ill-perceived logic.... "

Spot on

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you

They may well be afraid or have been on the receiving end of an attack from you before .....

Lol still waiting......"

Several PMs from people who don't want to broadcast it here.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

This.

Lots of people don't "get" swinging or non traditional relationships... Do I care? No? Do we have a happy marriage and are we having fun swinging? Hell yes!

Nita

Exactly this .

What prompted the op was the suggestion that we don't have such a great relationship , or we wouldn't want to swing ."

My parent were swingers and they have been married for nearly 60 years.... We swing and have like I said been married for 35 years.

So I guess only solid, stable, trusting, loving relationships can tolerate the swinging scene.

Already volatile, unstable relationships will not survive the swinging scene. These relationships should, ideally be sorted between the couples themselves first. Don't try and use the scene to repair an unstable relationship. It is not fair on others in the scene.

Anyway, that's my opinion, and all I have to add xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you

They may well be afraid or have been on the receiving end of an attack from you before .....

Lol still waiting......

Several PMs from people who don't want to broadcast it here. "

Yeah of course there is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you

They may well be afraid or have been on the receiving end of an attack from you before .....

Lol still waiting......

Several PMs from people who don't want to broadcast it here. "

And we've had a BILLION pms agreeing with us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you

They may well be afraid or have been on the receiving end of an attack from you before .....

Lol still waiting......

Several PMs from people who don't want to broadcast it here. "

Really? Then please do report, as I have asked you to do several times when responding to your shockingly inaccurate accusations, and let the mods decide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

This.

Lots of people don't "get" swinging or non traditional relationships... Do I care? No? Do we have a happy marriage and are we having fun swinging? Hell yes!

Nita

Exactly this .

What prompted the op was the suggestion that we don't have such a great relationship , or we wouldn't want to swing .

My parent were swingers and they have been married for nearly 60 years.... We swing and have like I said been married for 35 years.

So I guess only solid, stable, trusting, loving relationships can tolerate the swinging scene.

Already volatile, unstable relationships will not survive the swinging scene. These relationships should, ideally be sorted between the couples themselves first. Don't try and use the scene to repair an unstable relationship. It is not fair on others in the scene.

Anyway, that's my opinion, and all I have to add xxxxx Suzi

"

Wise words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We actually met on here and then got together as a result of that. We found that we are sexually compatible and also compatible in many other ways too and our relationship is strong. We chose to come back here as a couple to continue our swinging journey as there are many things we both want to experience with each other. If the day comes that we do not wish to do this any more then we will stop

Kinky "

Just curious,how would you deal with the situation if one of you wanted to stop swinging tomorrow but the other of you desperately wanted to continue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah well, that was all exciting. Not!

Who's for a shag?

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

This.

Lots of people don't "get" swinging or non traditional relationships... Do I care? No? Do we have a happy marriage and are we having fun swinging? Hell yes!

Nita

Exactly this .

What prompted the op was the suggestion that we don't have such a great relationship , or we wouldn't want to swing .

My parent were swingers and they have been married for nearly 60 years.... We swing and have like I said been married for 35 years.

So I guess only solid, stable, trusting, loving relationships can tolerate the swinging scene.

Already volatile, unstable relationships will not survive the swinging scene. These relationships should, ideally be sorted between the couples themselves first. Don't try and use the scene to repair an unstable relationship. It is not fair on others in the scene.

Anyway, that's my opinion, and all I have to add xxxxx Suzi

Wise words "

Thank you xxxxx

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Following on from a previous thread which suggested that if you are in a great relationship , it can't be that good , or you wouldn't need to swing ....... How do you lot feel about this ?

The truth of the matter is that as long as Mr N and I are good I don't give a flying Scooby doo what anyone else thinks about our relationship

You guys are 100% spot on and we think exactly the same,we've tried to defend the fact but too many pathetic people try and find reasons why they can't understand why a couple can't have a great sex life together but want to swing together so your right who gives a shit

Is anyone who disagrees or asks a question by definition 'pathetic' is your eyes?

If anyone disagreeseen with you will you continue with the " I'm being victimised " and why are people being personal?

Personal because they are talking about my relationship. When I never talked about theirs, just in general. Implying someone is pathetic is personal ... why do it?

So where has anyone on this post mentioned your relationship,and the pathetic comment ,where are you mentioned,are you really that insecure?

I am having to justify myself again. This isn't what the thread is about but the issue of my relationship was brought up on the previous thread. No use deflecting your personal insults onto me. I am not criticising you personally, so why do you need to keep on doing it to me? Its obvious what is happening for anyone following the thread as a fair few have told me they can see what is going on. No worries though, glad you are enjoying it. I have been on the forums for a while so I see how it happens

If you've been on the forums for so long, how is it you still clearly don't read Whats written in them. Because in my opinion, you make wildly inaccurate accusatory statements based on zero evidence...

Zero evidence in there eyes is evidence lol

Now .... why not share this in a PM? What is the point in sharing it here? Airing your dirty laundry? Is it related to the OP? How scary you must be for forum lurkers

Because it's a forum discussion for all to see,we are making it a general discussion you for some reason are making it personal,shall we scream VICTIMISATION

It should be a discussion vaguely related to the thread, not about me .... why make personal comments about me? I dont kind, its fine, but you clearly don't see what you are doing, whereas lots of others do .... no worries, just wonder why the fascination with me ....

So forum people please let us know if we have made personal comments about said person and where the " lots of others do to " but please be factual....thank you

They may well be afraid or have been on the receiving end of an attack from you before .....

Lol still waiting......

Several PMs from people who don't want to broadcast it here.

Really? Then please do report, as I have asked you to do several times when responding to your shockingly inaccurate accusations, and let the mods decide."

I am not sire everyone needs to know how many times you have told me to report you. sounds like you are enjoying the attention. If people have a problem then they can sort it out themselves. I just wish you'd stop being so aggressive as it really isn't attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I can see (and I should point out that I've always been a single person on the scene) swinging seems to amplify whatever state your relationship is in.... so if you're having problems then it will make things worse, but if you're strong and happy together it will make it more so.

Just my view from the couples I've met and chatted with, and observed

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe it is time to leave it there

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