FabSwingers.com forum: Can you have to many verifications

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, to many verifications can you have many? I was chatting to a woman who had 197 !! It does put me off. I don't show my verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no you can't, ok.

people like sex and meeting other people, they might also like veris.

if someone has an amount that puts you off then you aren't compatible probably and that's it. doesn't matter how many there are as the person with them is happy with them.

who they're off on the other hand...

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

You can have to few for some, and too many for some.

All of which is very odd, given that those with few could be utter slappers in vanilla land, and those with many could all be social...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some find a lot of verifications off putting.. some dont. Some dont care..

Op did you really think that 197 was a lot on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me its not off putting. Some women have 500+ verifications, and still have less meet in person veri's than those with 30 verifications.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"You can have to few for some, and too many for some.

All of which is very odd, given that those with few could be utter slappers in vanilla land, and those with many could all be social..."

Slappers?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

some people are put off by more than a certain amount of verifications, lots of profiles say that they aren't looking for lots of meets. As said above it just means that they aren't compatible with those that do have lots of verifications.

I don't think its fair to make judgements on people who have more partners than you personally find acceptable.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Hi, to many verifications can you have many? I was chatting to a woman who had 197 !! It does put me off. I don't show my verifications"

At what point are you out off - 10, 50, 100? It somewhat annoys me when guys like a sexual woman...but not too sexual.

Not just sexually liberated though. Can a woman also be too intelligent, too educated, too successful, have too many kids or many other examples before you're put off her, judge or feel threatened?

At what point does admiration of a trait go to judgement?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Slappers?

It was intended as gender neutral (!), happy to hear of a better term.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Verifications cause so many problems on here.

Either trying to get one

Having too many

Having them from the 'wrong' type of people

Being too graphic / arse licking/ lamp post pissing etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verifications cause so many problems on here.

Either trying to get one

Having too many

Having them from the 'wrong' type of people

Being too graphic / arse licking/ lamp post pissing etc

Well said, that's why its best to just hide them completely imo or not care what others think.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think 7 is an ideal number. Any less - frigid, any more - slapper. I know this cos I read it in a magazine article at Hove train station.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Verifications cause so many problems on here.

Either trying to get one

Having too many

Having them from the 'wrong' type of people

Being too graphic / arse licking/ lamp post pissing etc

Well said, that's why its best to just hide them completely imo or not care what others think."

We go through spells of both

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I think 7 is an ideal number. Any less - frigid, any more - slapper. I know this cos I read it in a magazine article at Hove train station. "

Marks Steve down as frigid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The kind of small-minded people who would be put off by large amounts of verifications aren't the kind of people I would like to meet.

Sometimes guys message me and make some comment about how they're glad I don't have lots of veris (I have a handful on another profile), and I promptly point out that I have had sex with several hundred more people than are listed in my verifications on this site. Thankfully that usually means they never bother to write back...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, at least they are honest enough to show them. Some women .. me included have hidden or not been verified but hasnt stopped me from meeting that person. You could find one woman you meet has only 3 veris but has met and fucked 100 people.. its not really something you can take on face value

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, to many verifications can you have many? I was chatting to a woman who had 197 !! It does put me off. I don't show my verifications"

197 Over 10 years or the last month?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't show our summary as it does get judged way too often .

I guess we could display it as we wouldn't want to meet those who judge us for it , but suffice to say that 197 is not that many really .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Slappers?

It was intended as gender neutral (!), happy to hear of a better term.

I guessed it was gender neutral. I just don't think its fair to use derogatory terms for people who have a lot of partners, I wouldn't like to be called a slapper myself.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Probably for some people. But I don't care how many someone has - we're adults and entitled to a free life, living as we please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slappers?

It was intended as gender neutral (!), happy to hear of a better term.

I guessed it was gender neutral. I just don't think its fair to use derogatory terms for people who have a lot of partners, I wouldn't like to be called a slapper myself. "

Also it's not a gender neutral term - it's primarily been used to refer to women in the past.

Perhaps try 'people who have had lots of partners' instead of 'slappers'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can have to few for some, and too many for some.

All of which is very odd, given that those with few could be utter slappers in vanilla land, and those with many could all be social..."

You think women who have sex with a lot of men are slappers, yet you're on a swingers website lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure I'll get shot down for this, but it does irritate me when people find lots of verifications a turn off. It's a swingers site, and it is fairly normal for swingers to have multiple partners. This should be the one place where people embrace sexual liberation to not find promiscuity a turn-off. Why do people come to a site like this if numbers of partners bother them?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure I'll get shot down for this, but it does irritate me when people find lots of verifications a turn off. It's a swingers site, and it is fairly normal for swingers to have multiple partners. This should be the one place where people embrace sexual liberation to not find promiscuity a turn-off. Why do people come to a site like this if numbers of partners bother them?

Mrs"

Here here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs"

Because they mistake it for a dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had more than that on my previous profile.

It's a swingers site. We meet and fuck people....why would it put you off?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Slappers?

It was intended as gender neutral (!), happy to hear of a better term.

I guessed it was gender neutral. I just don't think its fair to use derogatory terms for people who have a lot of partners, I wouldn't like to be called a slapper myself.

Also it's not a gender neutral term - it's primarily been used to refer to women in the past.

Perhaps try 'people who have had lots of partners' instead of 'slappers'."

I assure you I meant it about both, and have certainly used it about myself in the past. In hindsight, it should have been in quotes, if not as you suggest, replaced.

Apologies to anyone upset.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx"

Why should it matter that she probably doesnt remember each one? Is it because you are worried you will be just another notch on the bedposts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx"

So at what number would you say is a sensible number to stop at?

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I have a lot of verifications. A fair few are social only.... AND I have been on here ten years, so how does that fair?!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Hi, to many verifications can you have many? I was chatting to a woman who had 197 !! It does put me off. I don't show my verifications"

Personally, I'd be concerned about meeting anyone who's met with more than 657,389... but I'm picky like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx"

What an attitude you have , and on a swinging site too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I find a bit incongruous is a profile plastered with pictures of cocks, but gets a bit prudish when around people who have too many partners.

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By *BW star and DocCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't think people should be judged for anything to be honest. We are all here for fun and that's what should be assumed right?

No matter how many veris we have. We can't please everyone as people would be put off meeting someone without veris just as much as having too many. As already said, some or most could be from socials or after chatting to people you meet in a club etc.

Doesn't mean every veri is by someone she's fucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx"
why does that matter..

And do you really think someone with less verifications has really met less... trust me that our verifications have no baring on how many meets we have had.. let alone how many people we have had sex with in our lifetime

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Hi, to many verifications can you have many? I was chatting to a woman who had 197 !! It does put me off. I don't show my verifications"

However the person may not have met anyone!

Verifications can be for many things the number isn't an account of every sexual encounter.

You have to decide what you are looking for and happy with because you can't change anyone else

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Unless someone chooses to show their verification summary and all their verses, you will never know how many.

What I choose to show and what I actually have may be different by thousands or 1.

What about meets that don't end in a verification?

What about the woman you have a d*unken shag with on Saturday night, do you ask her how many she has slept with? Would you believe the number?

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By *ayde BlanchardTV/TS
over a year ago

lancashire

They don't mean you have slept with them all they could be off people that know your socially. I seen one the other day that said verified by 4 people newest 7 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well We've got 20 odd ...and are still swinging Virgins lol..

Just people we've met along the way on our sexy nights out..

And have chosen to give us a veri on our page ...

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By *immerman100Man
over a year ago

Never never land

I know of someone who must have 500+ verifications

I hide what ones i have

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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago

secret garden chilling, always something to do in the garden

"some people are put off by more than a certain amount of verifications, lots of profiles say that they aren't looking for lots of meets. As said above it just means that they aren't compatible with those that do have lots of verifications.

I don't think its fair to make judgements on people who have more partners than you personally find acceptable."

I don't think its fair to make judgements on people who have more partners than you personally find acceptable.

this equally, as sometimes I won't get to play cause of medical reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We want to come across innercent rather then come across a very naughty couple. It's like telling someone new how many people you slept with and giving that thought away that your a nice young girl with a tight virgina ready for it to be abused by a nice big cock lol then given them that shock when you get them in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx"

Can hardly remember who I had last week never mind all of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx"

Can you remember every single fuck you've had?

Be honest now.

Because if you can I'm not sure you've been sexually active for very long.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I started this post it's just my own opinion I'm sure the woman who had 197 verifications can remember every single fuck lol xx

Can you remember every single fuck you've had?

Be honest now.

Because if you can I'm not sure you've been sexually active for very long."

Course he can he hasn't had any meets just a drink and chat according to his profile lol but don't judge him on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers that have met too many people ?

Unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally am not bothered. Who knows how many that person has even shagged outside of the site. You could have 2 veris showing and done a 100 off the site.

Doll x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

197 isnt that many some people have a lot more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez... you can't win if you have too many, you can't win if you have too little.

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke

"The kind of small-minded people who would be put off by large amounts of verifications aren't the kind of people I would like to meet.

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke

Mrs"
totally agree

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Mrs"

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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago

secret garden chilling, always something to do in the garden

Mrs

I keep getting saying to many. Yet most our club or repeat it so stupid, I'm trying to find another regular but so hard! This is the first time all day I've not been in pain so it's so hard to get out for a social! Or the men that do want too meet our to far away!An think they can make it from Kent to Portsmouth in an hour! I need someone close lol....

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Thing is not all veris are from sexual meets and some have multiple from the same person. The number of Veris wouldn't put me off however if the person was meeting someone new daily that would make me question their standards in a way

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