FabSwingers.com forum: Homophobia on Fab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It is preference though. Although if you read through the 'bi lies' thread, the comments therein will make you wonder how some people manage to get through their day without choking on their vomited up bile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

Sometimes men think because a guy is bi it automatically means they will fancy them. Some people think because a man is bi they will be having bareback sex with every Tom 'dick' and harry, thereby putting them at risk of diseases. Some have other reasons I presume, others don't actually care, focus your attention on them

I'd love a 3 some with 2 bi guys but it's proving difficult to sort out

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

The biphobia on here really grinds my gears.

So called sexually liberated folk being bigoted and small minded. Preferences my arse.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

It may not be what you want to hear but people are perfectly at liberty to meet whomever they choose and if they don't want to meet fat/slim, tall/short, black/white/Asian, straight/bi then that's up to them. At least if they say so on their profile then you know not to waste your time messaging them.

Just look for the people who meet your preferences and who are looking for someone like you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

I'd love a 3 some with 2 bi guys but it's proving difficult to sort out

Should go to Ria's parties. Always plenty of bi guys, couples there to make your dreams come true

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

I'd love a 3 some with 2 bi guys but it's proving difficult to sort out

One of my fantasies is bi MMF

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe they are scared of 'catching the ghey'

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I have heard some outrageous comments about bi guys and about black guys and about how not meeting them is a preference .... well, in my opinion, its not a preference at all. If you have a preference, state your preference in a positive way, ie, I prefer ,,,,,, rather than no blacks, no gays etc. That is just plain rude.

Many people think bi's are a race apart and have a certain lifestyle. Others think they are so irresistible to bi's that we wont be able to control ourselves. I know what I like, my partner does too ... and if you are a straight couple, or one of you is straight, it wont be you ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It may not be what you want to hear but people are perfectly at liberty to meet whomever they choose and if they don't want to meet fat/slim, tall/short, black/white/Asian, straight/bi then that's up to them. At least if they say so on their profile then you know not to waste your time messaging them.

Just look for the people who meet your preferences and who are looking for someone like you."

Of course it's up to them. But equally it's my opinion that those people are homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how it's generally (not all but generally in our experience) the couples with a bi female that take offence to us bi males. Double standards and all that.

Ess

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have heard some outrageous comments about bi guys and about black guys and about how not meeting them is a preference .... well, in my opinion, its not a preference at all. If you have a preference, state your preference in a positive way, ie, I prefer ,,,,,, rather than no blacks, no gays etc. That is just plain rude.

^^^this

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Funny how it's generally (not all but generally in our experience) the couples with a bi female that take offence to us bi males. Double standards and all that.

Ess"

We don't. We find it much harder to find couples with bi males and steer away from couples where one partner is straight .... that doesn't work for us

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences."

Gizzashag, shag

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences."

No. It's homophobia.

A straight guy wouldn't meet a gay or a bi guy (unless genuinely curious)

A straight woman wouldn't meet a gay bi woman (unless genuinely curious)

A couple looking to meet a guy for the wife's... why does it matter if the prospective guy is bi? Meeting a gay guy wouldn't work for obvious reasons. But a bi guy has a straight side.

It can't be the risk issue because you already roll the dice. And bring up AIDS/HIV in any other walk of life (career, education) and it's discrimination.

So no, not a preference. Just homophobia (in our opinion).

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

'Preference' to many, homophobia to some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences.

Gizzashag, shag

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lol good one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

I'd love a 3 some with 2 bi guys but it's proving difficult to sort out

One of my fantasies is bi MMF

It's my biggest fantasy.

OP, you have an age range on your profile that you want to meet. Is that because you're ageist or is that just a preference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences.

No. It's homophobia.

A straight guy wouldn't meet a gay or a bi guy (unless genuinely curious)

A straight woman wouldn't meet a gay bi woman (unless genuinely curious)

A couple looking to meet a guy for the wife's... why does it matter if the prospective guy is bi? Meeting a gay guy wouldn't work for obvious reasons. But a bi guy has a straight side.

It can't be the risk issue because you already roll the dice. And bring up AIDS/HIV in any other walk of life (career, education) and it's discrimination.

So no, not a preference. Just homophobia (in our opinion). "
That is right as well, it depends how some _iew it, but what about race, some could say that is brexisim instead of preferences.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences.

Gizzashag, shag

lol good one."

It could be, mate

I'll buy you a beer after like wot real men do

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's a preference. Not doing certain things or not finding certain physical attributes such as height, hair colour etc is preference.

But not meeting someone because of their sexual orientation is a preference based on prejudice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly don't feel like that

My preference is for bi guys

I think all guys have a feminine side!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

I'd love a 3 some with 2 bi guys but it's proving difficult to sort out

One of my fantasies is bi MMF

It's my biggest fantasy.

OP, you have an age range on your profile that you want to meet. Is that because you're ageist or is that just a preference?"

Our veris show we've met older people. We regularly chat to older people in clubs too.

Our "preference" is to meet people around our age but open to meet all

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too "

I'd love to hear what you think our 'bi lifestyle' is like. Because you see saying everyone who is gay or bisexual has a certain type of lifestyle is a wee bit stereotypical, surely. So what is it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences.

Gizzashag, shag

lol good one.

It could be, mate

I'll buy you a beer after like wot real men do

Haha

Get together guys.

If you hug afterwards, it's gay.

If you play on the Xbox, it's not gay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm straight....not fab straight, but reallly straight. However I'm not homophobic....having met, and played with, many couples where the guy is bi.

I have never once felt "threatened" or intimidated by the guy as, with any meet, "ground rules" are set. But I do respect, and accept, that people DO have boundaries and preferences and have every right to state and stick to these.....

Some women have a preference for bbc, others will not meet black or Asian guys. I consider neither of these to be racist. Some guys love bbw, I prefer slimmer women....it's what I'm attracted to. I don't consider some guys "slimist " nor myself "fatist" as I have many friends who would fall into that category....but I don't fancy them.

People have preferences....why would they meet people who don't match these.

Get over yourselves. Stop ranting and focus on people who do match your preferences, and you theirs.

It would save so many messages and so many other "rants" about so called time wasters.....stop wasting your own time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What don't help the bi guys out is guys who say they don't fancy a guy but will suck he's cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too "

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

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By *rivate auditionsMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

OP, you have an age range on your profile that you want to meet. Is that because you're ageist or is that just a preference?"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd like to know what a bisexual lifestyle is like too if anyone can give me some hints and tips.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Yes it's a preference. Not doing certain things or not finding certain physical attributes such as height, hair colour etc is preference.

But not meeting someone because of their sexual orientation is a preference based on prejudice."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

The ones whining that people won't meet them and calling them names like homophobic is just incredibly childish. I couldn't give a shit if someone called me homophobic or racist or ageist or sexist etc etc. If I don't want to meet them I damn well won't.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today" "

It happened to George Michael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm straight....not fab straight, but reallly straight. However I'm not homophobic....having met, and played with, many couples where the guy is bi.

People have preferences....why would they meet people who don't match these.

Get over yourselves. Stop ranting and focus on people who do match your preferences, and you theirs.

It would save so many messages and so many other "rants" about so called time wasters.....stop wasting your own time!"

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Awwwww, poor Bi guys

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

O.P. I get where you are coming from, there does seem to be a substantial amount off people on here who do not wish to meet bi men or couples where the male half is bi so it can become really frustrating for some after a while. The reasons differ for people most are just genuinely not into men who like both sexes but then again there is definitely a presence off those who take it beyond the whole "preference" thing and have some not some pretty negative things to say, everyone is different though I suppose. Can "homophobia" be a factor some times? sure but then again it might not always be, life is just unfair that way some times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

It happened to George Michael

It did?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Just going to put this out there, I love bi guys.

Bee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question... and it's is a genuine question I'm not just being pedantic (for a change) but... why are people comparing homophobia to racism and ageism etc? Homophobia is a genuine fear much like arachnophobia etc whereas racism is a thought mindset to hate?

Ess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

It happened to George Michael

It did?"

Wasn't he married but then had cock and used to hang around toilets

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'd like to know what a bisexual lifestyle is like too if anyone can give me some hints and tips. "

Weekly classes on beer drinking and football jeers followed by flower arranging and disco dancing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

There's to many heightists on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

It happened to George Michael

It did?

Wasn't he married but then had cock and used to hang around toilets

No. He was always gay. But he tried to fit into a society which was extremely prejudicial towards gay people.

There are lots of examples (my husband being one who had it used in court by his ex wife)

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

It happened to George Michael

It did?

Wasn't he married but then had cock and used to hang around toilets

Sounds like my OH, but then he always hung around the toilets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is nothing wrong with it, it is preferences.

Gizzashag, shag

lol good one.

It could be, mate

I'll buy you a beer after like wot real men do

Haha

Get together guys.

If you hug afterwards, it's gay.

If you play on the Xbox, it's not gay. "
That is right, one day for a beer at the brighton pier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

It happened to George Michael

It did?

Wasn't he married but then had cock and used to hang around toilets

No. He was always gay. But he tried to fit into a society which was extremely prejudicial towards gay people.

There are lots of examples (my husband being one who had it used in court by his ex wife)"

Oh I'm bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Right so you're one of those people wh do not think homophobia exists despite it being evidenced in two topics posted on the matter?

Gotcha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Nope, when some people wont even consider you because if an attribute or a sexual orientation without meeting you even talking, then they are closed minded. I dont care as we don't meet anyway so we don't need to feel better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

This.

Someone on here posted a rather homophobic post recently, who'd previously messaged me asking for a 'suck and go' lol

For a site about alternative lifestyles, there are quite a few closed-minded people on here.

I can understand people stating preferences in their profiles, as I have done the same, but it oppressive attitudes needn't permeate the whole site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Right so you're one of those people wh do not think homophobia exists despite it being evidenced in two topics posted on the matter?

Gotcha!"

I didn't say homophobia doesn't exist. If people don't want to fuck bi men it's not homophobia. It's their preference.

What two topics?

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over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Nope, they are exercising their right to choice. I know, terrible isn't it? The closed minded ones are the ones who cannot accept and respect the preferences of others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question... and it's is a genuine question I'm not just being pedantic (for a change) but... why are people comparing homophobia to racism and ageism etc? Homophobia is a genuine fear much like arachnophobia etc whereas racism is a thought mindset to hate?

Ess "

It's all under one umbrella of ignorance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd like to know what a bisexual lifestyle is like too if anyone can give me some hints and tips.

Weekly classes on beer drinking and football jeers followed by flower arranging and disco dancing "

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Right so you're one of those people wh do not think homophobia exists despite it being evidenced in two topics posted on the matter?

Gotcha!

I didn't say homophobia doesn't exist. If people don't want to fuck bi men it's not homophobia. It's their preference.

What two topics?"

Wasn't replying to you.

Anyway, there is a bi lies post on the forum.

If people don't want to fuck bi men. Fine. But it's homophobia.

A gay guy, obviously a no go for a woman.

A bi guy is simply a person who likes girls and guys. So what possible reason could there be other than blind prejudice.

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

I still can't make my mind up on the whole thing. I can kind of understand a guy being uncomfortable having a threesome with me and his wife, knowing I've had gay experiences, and MAY inadvertently touch him in a way he's not comfortable with. Single women that won't meet me purely because of my past sexual experiences though is still a bit of a mystery. People assuming I'll infect them with God knows what cos obviously I've already shagging every other bi guy on here I just can't be bothered with.

I can also understand people using "no bi guys" as a filter to just thin out the masses of single guys on here in the same way some say "no asians" after meeting a few who were rude or disrespectful. I don't believe these people are racist or believe all asians behave like this, they just haven't time to _iew every guy's profile on here and chat to them all till they've formed an opinion.

Yes we'd all like to be judged on our own individual merits rather than being disregarded en masse, but we also understand that that's not always practical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today" "

Well I for one didn't choose to be bisexual or transgender.

I've met lots of guys in saunas who, if they weren't in there, I would never have guessed fancied guys. I really don't understand why people can say it's a 'preference' not to meet bi men. If they hadn't told you, you often wouldn't know. If you prefer not to meet fat/thin, hairy/smooth, purple/green guys or whatever that's because you don't find their look attractive.

To say you have a 'preference' not to meet a guy who may occaisionally touch another man's cock is like saying you have a preference not to meet guys who occaisionally windsurf or play chess.

They're not doing it with you and you'd never know they were an occaisional chess player if they didn't mention it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I still can't make my mind up on the whole thing. I can kind of understand a guy being uncomfortable having a threesome with me and his wife, knowing I've had gay experiences, and MAY inadvertently touch him in a way he's not comfortable with. Single women that won't meet me purely because of my past sexual experiences though is still a bit of a mystery. People assuming I'll infect them with God knows what cos obviously I've already shagging every other bi guy on here I just can't be bothered with.

Yes we'd all like to be judged on our own individual merits rather than being disregarded en masse, but we also understand that that's not always practical. "

I'm talking about specific instances of actual homophobia towards bi guys. Not general preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's it called when bi people or couples won't meet straight people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just look for the people who meet your preferences and who are looking for someone like you.

Of course it's up to them. But equally it's my opinion that those people are homophobic. "

Well then by your definition I must be homophobic.. I best stop being friends with my gay and tv/ts friends then...

I don't want to have sex with bi guys due to it not being a turn on.. as mentally it just turns me off... yet quite capable of being understanding and accepting of others sexual preferences... does that make me phobic.... nope makes me have sexual preferences.

As women that dont want to meet bi guys are in the minority I dont get why so many people get annoyed about it.. simply meet those that are...

Same as I as a short fat woman I'm not going to message those that state fit or in shape people...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No one has ever actually said to me that they don't want to meet me because I'm bisexual. Mostly, I suppose they don't contact me in the first instance so it really doesn't affect me at all, either directly or indirectly. I've had both bi mmf and straight mmf - that's the fun of being bi - more choice, not less.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

Well I for one didn't choose to be bisexual or transgender.

To say you have a 'preference' not to meet a guy who may occaisionally touch another man's cock is like saying you have a preference not to meet guys who occaisionally windsurf or play chess.

They're not doing it with you and you'd never know they were an occaisional chess player if they didn't mention it. "

Brilliantly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today" "

Yes, some do, others behave with restraint and decorum

You have absolutely no right or reason to accuse me of homophobia,as usual anyone not unquestionably supporting your post is homophobic, well much as you don't like it, nowhere have i posted anything that could be considered as such

I presented a fact, and as such you are the ones choosing to make accusations

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Nope, they are exercising their right to choice. I know, terrible isn't it? The closed minded ones are the ones who cannot accept and respect the preferences of others

Like I said, we don't care how closed minded other people are, but for someone to say they wont play with anyone of that race, sexual orientation or anything else involves making as assumption which is based on the belief that everyone in that group is the same on some level. How can anyone say they wouldn't ever be attracted to a black man, fro example, unless they think they are all the same? Similarly for bi men, unless it is based on some small minded closed perception of what all bi men are like? It can be your preference not to, but can't you concede there isn't anyone out there who could break the rule. For me, for example, I am much more attracted to a black man of a certain age, type, look, etc .... certainly not all though, and I am also attracted to some white men too .... I just don't get how anyone could dismiss an entire group of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The biphobia on here really grinds my gears.

So called sexually liberated folk being bigoted and small minded. Preferences my arse. "

I never thought swingers would be so close minded and prejudiced.

I've also seen profiles that state they don't even want anyone who's been with bi/c-couples. EVEN if you class it as a preference, it's the equivalent of saying you don't want to be with anyone who's been with a black guy etc.

We were at Eureka's a while back in the sauna with some lorry driver guy who was going on about how much he hated gay guys.

He tracked is down on our old profile and messaged, asking to suck my cock.

I honestly don't know what's wrong with some of you fuckers sometimes.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"What's it called when bi people or couples won't meet straight people

Selfish

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

Yes, some do, others behave with restraint and decorum

I presented a fact, and as such you are the ones choosing to make accusations "

What fact? That homosexuality us a choice?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"What's it called when bi people or couples won't meet straight people

Whatever it is, that's us, because neither of us play with the opposite sex .... so no need. Let us know when you find out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The biphobia on here really grinds my gears.

So called sexually liberated folk being bigoted and small minded. Preferences my arse.

I never thought swingers would be so close minded and prejudiced.

We were at Eureka's a while back in the sauna with some lorry driver guy who was going on about how much he hated gay guys.

He tracked is down on our old profile and messaged, asking to suck my cock.

I honestly don't know what's wrong with some of you fuckers sometimes."

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

Yes, some do, others behave with restraint and decorum

I presented a fact, and as such you are the ones choosing to make accusations "

Still waiting to hear what you think a 'bi lifestyle' is

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"No one has ever actually said to me that they don't want to meet me because I'm bisexual. Mostly, I suppose they don't contact me in the first instance so it really doesn't affect me at all, either directly or indirectly. I've had both bi mmf and straight mmf - that's the fun of being bi - more choice, not less. "

Exactly this, you have opened yourself up to the other 50% of the entire human race yet he's still complaining about the odd few who wont meet a Bi guy

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

Yes, some do, others behave with restraint and decorum

I presented a fact, and as such you are the ones choosing to make accusations

Still waiting to hear what you think a 'bi lifestyle' is"

I'm also really confused by this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with a Somalian bloke he is a supervisor at my work he was looking through the newspaper one day and there was a story about two gay men to which he said " that's a dirty white mans disease " I asked him to explain he replied all gays should be stoned to death, I hit the roof I said to him so you would murder my daughter she is gay he had no answer I'm in the process now of trying to get him sacked because his comments were both racist and homophobic and offensive and I'm not normally offended by words spoken.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

A couple looking to meet a guy for the wife's... why does it matter if the prospective guy is bi? Meeting a gay guy wouldn't work for obvious reasons. But a bi guy has a straight side.

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We used to meet single men and it didn't matter to us whether they were straight or bi but at one meet the man made us both feel uncomfortable by his actions, so much so that we ended the meet there and then.

I am well aware not all bi men will act the way this man did but when you have limited time to meet someone and it is spoilt within minutes of the meet starting then it is best for US not to get in that situation again.

Yes, I am aware some men are bi and pretend to be straight, but at least we are trying our best by asking for straight men of getting the meet we want.

If that makes us homophobic, then so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Right so you're one of those people wh do not think homophobia exists despite it being evidenced in two topics posted on the matter?

Gotcha!

I didn't say homophobia doesn't exist. If people don't want to fuck bi men it's not homophobia. It's their preference.

What two topics?

Wasn't replying to you.

Anyway, there is a bi lies post on the forum.

If people don't want to fuck bi men. Fine. But it's homophobia.

A gay guy, obviously a no go for a woman.

A bi guy is simply a person who likes girls and guys. So what possible reason could there be other than blind prejudice. "

Ah sorry I mixed up posts.

I've turned down bi men before. I'm a fucking prejudiced homophobe!

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

So many people still missing the point an just assuming you want to fuck any man you meet in a couple

As a straight male of our coupke I'm perfectly comfortable meeting bi couples as I'm not dumb enough to assume a potential meet must instantly fancy because the male is bi.

I don't really get it but unfortunately not a lot will change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

What a load of rubbish. I don't meet Bi men, that's my choice, it doesn't mean I,m homophobic, it means I don't want to have sex with Bi men. It has nothing to do with my fear of them eyeing up my straight fella.

The risk of catching HIV AIDS is higher in the Bi/Gay community than the straight. And don't shout condoms at me, it's caught via blood to blood contact.

Get off your soap box, it's not against the law to not want to be fucked by a Bi man.

It's my health, my life, my choice.

Its not homophobic.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I am sorry the op what planet are you living on !!!!!

I don't like mushrooms is that mushroom phobia - is it fuck - it is my preference

I don't play with in the swinging world - Afro Carriebean women, I actually lost my virginity to a mixed race girl

I have played with couples where the male is bi and he has played straight. As a preference I would not normally play with bi male couples but have done.

Am I homophobic - no I am not, I have friends that are gay and have no issue about what sexuality some one is, being male or female

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

It's like they have to find a justification for why they are not wanted so think of a word and stick "phobic" or "ist" on the end if it to make themselves feel better

Right so you're one of those people wh do not think homophobia exists despite it being evidenced in two topics posted on the matter?

Gotcha!

I didn't say homophobia doesn't exist. If people don't want to fuck bi men it's not homophobia. It's their preference.

What two topics?

Wasn't replying to you.

Anyway, there is a bi lies post on the forum.

If people don't want to fuck bi men. Fine. But it's homophobia.

A gay guy, obviously a no go for a woman.

A bi guy is simply a person who likes girls and guys. So what possible reason could there be other than blind prejudice.

Ah sorry I mixed up posts.

I've turned down bi men before. I'm a fucking prejudiced homophobe!

We've turned down bi guys. In fact we do it all the time.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The biphobia on here really grinds my gears.

So called sexually liberated folk being bigoted and small minded. Preferences my arse. "

It is a preference, it's sex not a cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am sorry the op what planet are you living on !!!!!

I don't like mushrooms is that mushroom phobia - is it fuck - it is my preference

I don't play with in the swinging world - Afro Carriebean women, I actually lost my virginity to a mixed race girl

I have played with couples where the male is bi and he has played straight. As a preference I would not normally play with bi male couples but have done.

Am I homophobic - no I am not, I have friends that are gay and have no issue about what sexuality some one is, being male or female

So you're not homophobic. Therefore it doesn't exist. And no one else is.

Thanks for your input.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

The risk of catching HIV AIDS is higher in the Bi/Gay community than the straight. And don't shout condoms at me, it's caught via blood to blood contact.

Get off your soap box, it's not against the law to not want to be fucked by a Bi man.

It's my health, my life, my choice.

Its not homophobic."

But again there is an assumption that there is a bi/gay community that bi or gay people must belong to, sort of like the lifestyle (not the swinging lifestyle, but how would you feel if someone made the same assumptions about all swingers).... the community is vast and diverse .... why assume everyone who is part if it is the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This entire thread has stirred my mind and got me thinking.... I wonder how many gay people (not just men, as I wouldn't want to come across as sexist) wouldn't meet a bisexual person because they don't like that they are also attracted to the opposite sex (heterophobic). Then I remembered a guy I went to college with that was adamant that heterosexual sex vile and the thought of it made him sick.

Ess

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"This entire thread has stirred my mind and got me thinking.... I wonder how many gay people (not just men, as I wouldn't want to come across as sexist) wouldn't meet a bisexual person because they don't like that they are also attracted to the opposite sex (heterophobic). Then I remembered a guy I went to college with that was adamant that heterosexual sex vile and the thought of it made him sick.

Ess"

Reminds me of Big Brother and one contestant being thrown out because of such comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ess"

The thought of sexual acts, I would have thought, is separate to the sexual orientation of the person carrying them out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

100% this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a matter of choice and human rights ,we as a human being have choices and if we don't want to go with bi or straight it's the choice of each person .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ess

Reminds me of Big Brother and one contestant being thrown out because of such comments"

??? That's lost on me as I don't watch it.

Ess

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Ess

Reminds me of Big Brother and one contestant being thrown out because of such comments

??? That's lost on me as I don't watch it.

Ess"

One contestant made comments anti bi, and I think he was thrown off. Watched it on and off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ess

The thought of sexual acts, I would have thought, is separate to the sexual orientation of the person carrying them out. "

Quite possibly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say though... it's our faces that put people off more than our sexuality Lol

Ess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

Exactly!

Yawn!

Just meet the people you want to meet and want to meet you OP!

The world is full of people I disagree with - but I don't expect them to change their opinions to suit me!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Exactly this, you have opened yourself up to the other 50% of the entire human race yet he's still complaining about the odd few who wont meet a Bi guy

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who is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must say though... it's our faces that put people off more than our sexuality Lol

Ess"

Facephobic.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

I'm sorry you feel this way op yes I agree it is just a boundaries but I feel I must point out personal choice should be respected whether you agree with that person choice or not,

if someone's rude in how they express that personal choice well then that says more about them than it does about those who fall outside of there choice of who to meet.

but I will say this by moaning about such people one could say your being just as disrespectful about them as they are about bi people .

respect works both ways one must always respect personally choice whether one agrees with it or not failure to do so makes you seem like some with a axe to grind such like the people you feel by there action on personal choice are doing so because they have a axe to grind to.

hope that makes sense as typing it has given me a headache think I will go play some tanks less deep thinking needed when playing that

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

Exactly!

Yawn!

Just meet the people you want to meet and want to meet you OP!

The world is full of people I disagree with - but I don't expect them to change their opinions to suit me!

I had to re read the op after this. They aren't complaining they aren't getting meets, they are pointing out what they have noticed about attitudes here. Gees people get defensive very quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I must say though... it's our faces that put people off more than our sexuality Lol

Ess

Facephobic.

No... we're just ugly

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Homophobia exists in swinging. Why wouldn't it.

The people declaring they aren't, probably are not.

The homophobes will stay silent, thank fuck for that. I don't want to read their bigoted shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

Exactly!

Yawn!

Just meet the people you want to meet and want to meet you OP!

The world is full of people I disagree with - but I don't expect them to change their opinions to suit me!

I had to re read the op after this. They aren't complaining they aren't getting meets, they are pointing out what they have noticed about attitudes here. Gees people get defensive very quickly"

They are accusing people they don't know of homophobia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you really are living on a different planet !

Just because someone doesn't want to meet bi guys doesn't mean they are homophobic it means that is their preference.

Ours personally is that we wouldn't even consider meeting someone who was pregnant as that to us just seems wrong , does that make us pregnantist or whatever the word for that could be ? NO, it means its not for us so we move on to someone who isn't pregnant which is our preference.

And before you call us homophobic we aren't as we have met bi guys before.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

Exactly!

Yawn!

Just meet the people you want to meet and want to meet you OP!

The world is full of people I disagree with - but I don't expect them to change their opinions to suit me!

I had to re read the op after this. They aren't complaining they aren't getting meets, they are pointing out what they have noticed about attitudes here. Gees people get defensive very quickly

They are accusing people they don't know of homophobia

By the things some people say, even if they dont mean these things, they certainly come across like that.... I haven't met Donald trump, but I certainly know how he feels about certain things, or at least how he is coming across. Perhaps some people don't realise how homophobic they are sounding. Not too long ago many people had no black, no Asian on their profiles. There was a couple of long discussions on the forums about how one could express preferences in a positive way ... and not in a language of the past that incites division and hatred. People need to be careful how they use their words I think

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

The risk of catching HIV AIDS is higher in the Bi/Gay community than the straight. And don't shout condoms at me, it's caught via blood to blood contact.

Get off your soap box, it's not against the law to not want to be fucked by a Bi man.

It's my health, my life, my choice.

Its not homophobic."

I've had in total three safe sexual experiences with men and tested clean two or three times since, the last test earlier this month. I've engaged in far riskier sexual behaviour throughout my life with heterosexual women, usually at their suggestion. All swingers put themselves at a higher risk of STDs than average and nobody really knows their meets sexual history.

Yes, I would describe your comment as homophobic.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

The risk of catching HIV AIDS is higher in the Bi/Gay community than the straight. And don't shout condoms at me, it's caught via blood to blood contact.

Get off your soap box, it's not against the law to not want to be fucked by a Bi man.

It's my health, my life, my choice.

Its not homophobic."

It's this kind of nonsense and yes it is homophobia that stops bi people (men particular) coming out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

Exactly!

Yawn!

Just meet the people you want to meet and want to meet you OP!

The world is full of people I disagree with - but I don't expect them to change their opinions to suit me!

I had to re read the op after this. They aren't complaining they aren't getting meets, they are pointing out what they have noticed about attitudes here. Gees people get defensive very quickly

They are accusing people they don't know of homophobia

I'm mixed race and Bi and I couldn't care less if people don't want to meet me!

People can put whatever they like on their own profiles!

Surely that's what a profile is for - to try and work out whether you want to get to know / meet that person!

I think if you are sensitive to other peoples words then a public forum on a sex site on the internet is the wrong place for you!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

As heated as these kinds of threads always get, they make a wonderful filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As heated as these kinds of threads always get, they make a wonderful filter. "

Exactly!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Why can't people just allow other people to exercise their right to choice without trying to label them homophobic, racist, ageist, biphobic etc etc? Getting a teeny bit boring now

I very much dislike disrespectful people.

There's far too many entitled people on here crying when people don't want to fuck them.

Exactly!

Yawn!

Just meet the people you want to meet and want to meet you OP!

The world is full of people I disagree with - but I don't expect them to change their opinions to suit me!

I had to re read the op after this. They aren't complaining they aren't getting meets, they are pointing out what they have noticed about attitudes here. Gees people get defensive very quickly

They are accusing people they don't know of homophobia

I'm mixed race and Bi and I couldn't care less if people don't want to meet me!

People can put whatever they like on their own profiles!

Surely that's what a profile is for - to try and work out whether you want to get to know / meet that person!

I think if you are sensitive to other peoples words then a public forum on a sex site on the internet is the wrong place for you!

Yes whilst it is a filter, I believe some things are not appropriate to be said, especially if they are offensive. Too many sensitive people here take too many things very personally, but this is a very different discussion, its about certain types of language not being acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all very well, but not everyone aproves of the gay lifestyle, its as much peoples right not to agree with it as anything else

I know now this will be twisted round as a homophobic post,but that doesn't alter the fact that those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of

Not suggesting they should give two hoots about someone else's approval,but if someone puts on their profile won't meet gay or bisexual, that is their choice too

Twisting your post?

Here's why you are homophobic:

"those choosing a homosexual lifestyle are not going to be universaly approved of"

So gay and bi people are choosing are they? Not born that way. Guys just wake up and say "oooh, fancy a cock in my mouth today"

Yes, some do, others behave with restraint and decorum

I presented a fact, and as such you are the ones choosinig to make accusations "

Your contention that 'a homosexual lifestyle' is a choice is basically homophobic though. It's an outdated belief, just as the term homosexual is outdated in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who are you to say what a preference is?

Freedom of speech, freedom of expression, freedom to choose what you want within the confines of UK law.... things great men and women have died to afford us. Maybe remember that when you try and dictate to people what a preference is. There are countries that do exactly that and look how good they are.

A preference can be anything from marmite to not wanting to meet bi guys, bi women, black guys, Asian guys, goths, emos, tv's, fat people, thin people, beef cakes, people with green hair, people with no hair, midgets, giants...... you get the point?

It's not homophobic, racist, sizest, anti alt, anti bald or anti hair dye, it's a preference and that persons right.

Get over yourself and look for people who want to or don't mind bi guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make. "

Typical though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

Persecution always been an issue if you attach a " label" to something or some one doesn't really matter what the tag is just that its different from the perpetrators _iews or belief's.

I didn't care a jot that there was a bi guy oggling my arse as I was pounding his girl a while back, out of mutual respect we set the boundaries before the meet, live and let live is what I say, drop the labels and it would be a better world

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Who are you to say what a preference is?

It's not homophobic, racist, sizest, anti alt, anti bald or anti hair dye, it's a preference and that persons right.

Get over yourself and look for people who want to or don't mind bi guys."

Preference is what you prefer, not what you dont. So why not state the preference ...

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

"The biphobia on here really grinds my gears.

So called sexually liberated folk being bigoted and small minded. Preferences my arse. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got an excellent idea .....

Lets all not tell each other what to think!

Or should we all start fucking people we don't find attractive just incase we're offending someone (grrrrr)

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

Yes we'd all like to be judged on our own individual merits rather than being disregarded en masse, but we also understand that that's not always practical.

I'm talking about specific instances of actual homophobia towards bi guys. Not general preferences.

If you feel something totally inappropriate has been said, did you report it to admin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who are you to say what a preference is?

It's not homophobic, racist, sizest, anti alt, anti bald or anti hair dye, it's a preference and that persons right.

Get over yourself and look for people who want to or don't mind bi guys.

Preference is what you prefer, not what you dont. So why not state the preference ..."

It makes no difference how you write it. "Straight guys only please", according to the OP, homophobic or "no bi guys please", according to the OP, homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make. "

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons...."

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

It's not homophobia as a bi guy is not a homosexual . And being forced to have sex with anyone just because they ask , no matter who they are is much worse than homophobia - and we are bi and only meet bi people !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing "

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

If your offended by that, that's your issue not mine, as I made the points about myself, no-one else. If your bitter about something, do put it in context please, and don't use any pitiful excuse to vent out of context.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

You thought you were being tongue in cheek and 'clever' but clearly I am not the only one who thought it was off. Bernard manning comes to mind .... why would you think I am bitter? I was just commenting on your post in a discussion forum. You are now getting personal. What's, with that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To get rid of or make this problem less a problem i think first there should be a system worked out to help irradicate fakes and time waisters ?

Maybe folk who aint had a shag in say ? 12 month ? 2 years be on basic rassions ?

1 hr of internet per day ?

Or is that maybe a bit more towards torture than rassions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I said "if, you are bitter" not "you are bitter", purely because I believe you took something out of context, purposefully in my opinion to wage some sort of campaign/vendetta. Nothing I said was personal. You clearly seem to have taken it as so, and as I've asked you to do so before, if you think I've been rude or abusive please do report.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I would consider suggesting someone is bitter or pitiful is personal .... sounds like someone does have a vendetta or a campaign. Have I upset yet min another life?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I would consider suggesting someone is bitter or pitiful is personal .... sounds like someone does have a vendetta or a campaign. Have I upset yet min another life?"

Meant to say have I upset you in another life? Apparently, on the re read, you have asked me this before ....report something. Not sure who, what or when we are talking about, but beginning to feel a little 'stalked'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I would consider suggesting someone is bitter or pitiful is personal .... sounds like someone does have a vendetta or a campaign. Have I upset yet min another life?

Again, do please please read the words, it makes your response less laughable.

However on that note, no you haven't and don't upset me, the worst you do is amuse me with your nonsensical responses

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I would consider suggesting someone is bitter or pitiful is personal .... sounds like someone does have a vendetta or a campaign. Have I upset yet min another life?

Again, do please please read the words, it makes your response less laughable.

However on that note, no you haven't and don't upset me, the worst you do is amuse me with your nonsensical responses

Good to see that it's, not only me seeing what you are saying and how Yu are acting. Keep it uo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I would consider suggesting someone is bitter or pitiful is personal .... sounds like someone does have a vendetta or a campaign. Have I upset yet min another life?

Again, do please please read the words, it makes your response less laughable.

However on that note, no you haven't and don't upset me, the worst you do is amuse me with your nonsensical responses

Good to see that it's, not only me seeing what you are saying and how Yu are acting. Keep it uo."

I'm not too worried

Anyway, the offer is there, if you feel I've been so offensive towards you, do do please report

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I would consider suggesting someone is bitter or pitiful is personal .... sounds like someone does have a vendetta or a campaign. Have I upset yet min another life?

Again, do please please read the words, it makes your response less laughable.

However on that note, no you haven't and don't upset me, the worst you do is amuse me with your nonsensical responses

Good to see that it's, not only me seeing what you are saying and how Yu are acting. Keep it uo.

I'm not too worried

Anyway, the offer is there, if you feel I've been so offensive towards you, do do please report

It does seem like you are watching and remembering my posts. I should be flattered I suppose. Double bluff, heh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, based on this OP's rationality of not having a preference and it being a phobia, I must confess I am:

Ageaphonic - I'm sorry, I just can't have sex with dead people....

Lookaphobic - I'm disgusted with myself, and I'm sure you all will be too, but I just can't bring myself to fuck someone I don't find attractive

Xenophibic - the thought of shagging Osama Bin Laden disgusts me, I know I know, please forgive me, I am truly sorry guys

Judeophobic, I just couldn't jump the bones of any religious cult leader, just call the police now.....

And to add to the long list of my sins, I'm apotemnophobia, because I know it wrong (I'm so embarrassed to say) I just couldn't have sex with someone who's been decapitated....

Actually that's a pathetic comparison to make.

Why? Because they're preferences? And based on the OP's arguement preferences don't exist, they're actually phobia's.

The only thing here that's pathetic is that, hence the rather silly comparisons....

Its actually offensive too, especially if you or someone you love has experienced homophobia or racism .... but typical to minimise it like its nothing

Lmao! The only thing that's offensive here is the suggestion that someone's preference is homophobic.

Whilst tongue in cheek (which you didn't clearly get) the comparisons I made were poignant and in context.

I do enjoy your inability to rationally debate.

Do please read the words, it can be most useful to do so when making a point about them.

I would consider suggesting someone is bitter or pitiful is personal .... sounds like someone does have a vendetta or a campaign. Have I upset yet min another life?

Again, do please please read the words, it makes your response less laughable.

However on that note, no you haven't and don't upset me, the worst you do is amuse me with your nonsensical responses

Good to see that it's, not only me seeing what you are saying and how Yu are acting. Keep it uo.

I'm not too worried

Anyway, the offer is there, if you feel I've been so offensive towards you, do do please report

It does seem like you are watching and remembering my posts. I should be flattered I suppose. Double bluff, heh?"

Oh yeah, they're certainly memorable alright , just not sure you should be flattered because of it though

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Got this odd feeling, it's not a phobia, just a sexual preference.

Hey lambast me, never seen a man I fancy - sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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You guys should arrange a meet

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

If you are referring to us, we only meet bi, for couples where they are both bi, not bi curious. Saying that, we aren't meeting at the moment due to work and family and us taking priority ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

Lol, yeah that would go well!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Be much more interested in meeting the OP but sadly too far from us .... good to hear their _iews on such an interesting topic, relevant to us and a great filter. We aren't really into the mainstream 'vanilla' swinging ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

If you are referring to us, we only meet bi, for couples where they are both bi, not bi curious. Saying that, we aren't meeting at the moment due to work and family and us taking priority ...."

Haha, right, we're not interested in an argument here but we need to clarify. If we've followed this properly you are arguing that people who don't meet bisexuals are homophobic but you won't meet straight people? What's the difference? Straightophobic or a preference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

Lol, yeah that would go well!

Your never know

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

If you are referring to us, we only meet bi, for couples where they are both bi, not bi curious. Saying that, we aren't meeting at the moment due to work and family and us taking priority ....

We dont meet straight couples as we don't play with people of the opposite sex, we have each other for that. My main point is, I know its subtle because it's been missed by a fair few very defensive people, is that to state a preference is to state a preference, what you prefer, not what you don't want ... thus our profile is focused on what and who we are looking for and why. There is a reason we don't meet straight couples, but we do play straight, with each other. I am not sure the same could be said for people who discriminate against bi couples and openly state it in a negative way on their profiles, no bi males etc instead of we prefer straight males. can you see the difference? It just gives us an indication of who the people are and how they behave in terms of respect towards others.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I am saying they are choosing to use homophobic language, lets hope unknowingly ...

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink

I just don't understand why people are prejudice over bisexual. So what if a man wants to suck cock or a lady wants to lick pussy. Ffs it's ok for a man to stick his cock up a woman's bum but god forbid if he does it to a man you won't meet him? I know many many whom like myself are (I say this loosely as I hate labels ) straight but they , like me are bi playful and will suck cock lick pussy etc. Sex to me is more than a cock in a pussy!! Are we really still in the 1920s??

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's a preference.

Whether we like it or not meeting bi guys has consequences. If you do you are not allowed to give blood again.

I love bi guys but there will be people who prefer not to meet them for this reason alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

If you are referring to us, we only meet bi, for couples where they are both bi, not bi curious. Saying that, we aren't meeting at the moment due to work and family and us taking priority ....

We get your comment but we'll go back to what we said earlier. One may be more aestheticly pleasing to read but they still mean exactly the same thing and according to the OP are homophobic. You can't seriously think it's ok to say we only meet bi but not ok to say we only meet straight. Yes, there are certain ways to word things in order to lessen the blow so to speak but it's exactly the same.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

We all have differing experiences on this site and tho I haven't come across homophobia directly,I have noticed and experienced my share of heterosexism..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have differing experiences on this site and tho I haven't come across homophobia directly,I have noticed and experienced my share of heterosexism.."

Oiiiii, it's straightophobic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have differing experiences on this site and tho I haven't come across homophobia directly,I have noticed and experienced my share of heterosexism..

Oiiiii, it's straightophobic

Officially voted for as word of the day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a lot of nastynes hidden under the statement

"It's out personal preference "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have differing experiences on this site and tho I haven't come across homophobia directly,I have noticed and experienced my share of heterosexism..

Oiiiii, it's straightophobic

Officially voted for as word of the day!

Thanks

mwah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there is a lot of nastynes hidden under the statement

"It's out personal preference "

Possibly, possibly not.

But until that person with preferences is openly derogatory or offensive about those whos said preference excludes, should one judge which it is?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

If you are referring to us, we only meet bi, for couples where they are both bi, not bi curious. Saying that, we aren't meeting at the moment due to work and family and us taking priority ....

We are straight between us. Are the couples saying no bi bi with each other? Bi includes sex with opposite sex, so it includes the act that straight couples do .... bi isn't the same as gay ...

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think there is a lot of nastynes hidden under the statement

"It's out personal preference "

Possibly, possibly not.

But until that person with preferences is openly derogatory or offensive about those whos said preference excludes, should one judge which it is? "

How its said makes it pretty obvious. Its not rocket science

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think there is a lot of nastynes hidden under the statement

"It's out personal preference "

Possibly, possibly not.

But until that person with preferences is openly derogatory or offensive about those whos said preference excludes, should one judge which it is?

How its said makes it pretty obvious. Its not rocket science"

How it is said?

I find it hard to understand how paraverbal communication can be interpreted from the written word only?

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley

"It's a preference.

Whether we like it or not meeting bi guys has consequences. If you do you are not allowed to give blood again.

I've never seen the point in this argument. How many women must have given blood over the years without ever knowing that they'd had sex with a bisexual man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being bi is the least of my worries

I'm the wrong side of 5'10"; The wrong side of 50; Ab-less in Seattle (and everywhere else); Ever so slightly rotund; Balding and I SMOKE

. Now I know what you're thinking - Aaah but Mother Nature or a Divine Being will have compensated him with a huge schlong - which in the circumstances would only be fair. But NO. My endowment is distinctly average (although beautifully shaped

). It would be difficult for me to ever know whether being Bi was the dealbreaker

Tongue in Cheek rantlette over

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"The biphobia on here really grinds my gears.

So called sexually liberated folk being bigoted and small minded. Preferences my arse. "

Puritans get everywhere! but like you i wise they would fuck-off elsewhere. but of course they are on a mission from God, so nothing will divest them of their mission to get to heaven.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to see so much homophobia from people on fab. Getting a bit sick of reading posts that suggest not meeting a bi guy (couple or single profile) is a "preference.

In our opinion it's blatant homophobia.

Say someone puts up a profile saying they don't kiss anyone else. That's a preference. That someone would still meet others but an agreement would be there about a boundary.

There is nothing to say a bi guy is eyeing up your straight fella. It's simply a boundary issue that gets brought up in discussion.

"
I'm a single chick and don't meet bi guys

So nothing to do with anyone fancying my fella?

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"Being bi is the least of my worries

I'm the wrong side of 5'10"; The wrong side of 50; Ab-less in Seattle (and everywhere else); Ever so slightly rotund; Balding and I SMOKE

). It would be difficult for me to ever know whether being Bi was the dealbreaker

Tongue in Cheek rantlette over

OMG your a leper you should be damned to hell

enjoy life - You ONLY have ONE! and SOD what ANYONE else thinks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being bi is the least of my worries

I'm the wrong side of 5'10"; The wrong side of 50; Ab-less in Seattle (and everywhere else); Ever so slightly rotund; Balding and I SMOKE

). It would be difficult for me to ever know whether being Bi was the dealbreaker

Tongue in Cheek rantlette over

OMG your a leper you should be damned to hell

enjoy life - You ONLY have ONE! and SOD what ANYONE else thinks!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i joined I got sent constant messages from bisexual men and gay men when politely said I am straight one I will suck you better then any women has another said you have no choice went on to say they have seen me in town and will fuck me if I like it or not reported finally a week or so later the bloke was removed.Then I changed my profile to couples and women only able to contact me.

Then I thought I could make some good friends on here so why not accept friends requests from anyone.

I once had a mmf three some after I fucked the women the man tried to suck me off in a nervous wreck I bolted very fast for the door we spoke before hand she said her boyfriend was bi but would not try anything so from experience yes bisexual men do try it on with you so I think people should have every right to put up not meeting bisexuals if it is how they feel.

But when people insult gay men or bisexual it irritates me also transsexual wow they want to Change sex so what also post op transsexual women I tell you one thing earlier in the year they was a post op transsexual in Darlington.

Asked for toilet she was stunning tall blonde hair big breasts long legs made.

And the bloke she asked said wish one and started laughing with his post op transsexual turn round and said women's I have a Vagina but bigger balls then you will ever have I was bad laughing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

"I just don't understand why people are prejudice over bisexual. So what if a man wants to suck cock or a lady wants to lick pussy. Ffs it's ok for a man to stick his cock up a woman's bum but god forbid if he does it to a man you won't meet him? I know many many whom like myself are (I say this loosely as I hate labels ) straight but they , like me are bi playful and will suck cock lick pussy etc. Sex to me is more than a cock in a pussy!! Are we really still in the 1920s??"

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over a year ago

Bi playful still bi sexual in my opinion anyway as still having sexual foreplay with own sex.But to each they own be shot world if all the same lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wtf has what someone does when they're not with you got to do with you?

This is a swing site not a dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

If you are referring to us, we only meet bi, for couples where they are both bi, not bi curious. Saying that, we aren't meeting at the moment due to work and family and us taking priority ....

We are straight between us. Are the couples saying no bi bi with each other? Bi includes sex with opposite sex, so it includes the act that straight couples do .... bi isn't the same as gay ..."

That makes no sense and we've made no reference towards any sexual preference. We'll say this one last time for good measure though.

You stating you won't meet straight people (which you did a few posts up) is no different to anyone saying they won't meet bi people. It's a preference which is both their and your choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 22/10/16 21:07:20]

You guys should arrange a meet

If you are referring to us, we only meet bi, for couples where they are both bi, not bi curious. Saying that, we aren't meeting at the moment due to work and family and us taking priority ....

We are straight between us. Are the couples saying no bi bi with each other? Bi includes sex with opposite sex, so it includes the act that straight couples do .... bi isn't the same as gay ...

That makes no sense and we've made no reference towards any sexual preference. We'll say this one last time for good measure though.

You stating you won't meet straight people (which you did a few posts up) is no different to anyone saying they won't meet bi people. It's a preference which is both their and your choice."

I have no interest in straight guys. I mean properly straight. They don't want sex with me so there's no point meeting them.

If I meet a couple when I'm not dressed and the guy is straight, however, I'm not interested in him. Just his wife.

I'm no danger to a straight guy. I never touch first.

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink

"Bi playful still bi sexual in my opinion anyway as still having sexual foreplay with own sex.But to each they own be shot world if all the same lol."

Bi playful to me means I'm not into a relationship with my own sex. As I said I hate labels so please don't put me in one. But I enjoy a lady's body in the environment of another male etc but I am not attracted to woman

So therefore I'm biplayful not sexually!!

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