FabSwingers.com forum: Good looking/ attractive

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone puts on their profile that they are good looking/ attractive

Does it put you off or turn you on

Do you see it as confidence or arrogance ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all; but then my opinion of attractive and their's may be different. It's highly subjective. No harm done by saying it though, if that is what they believe and if they think it adds to the profile that they are projecting.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It puts me off and I think it's arrogant. Not everyone is going to find them attractive.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Most definitely off putting. What one person finds good looking another will dislike. As the saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I'd rather just see recent pics and make up my own mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm good looking at all, I'd say I'm ordinary, so I definitely wouldn't put it on my profile.

According to one of my veris someone thinks I'm handsome, I wish I knew who said it.

My luck it'd probably be a bloke....

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"If someone puts on their profile that they are good looking/ attractive

Does it put you off or turn you on

Do you see it as confidence or arrogance ?"

Don't know!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I think its quite funny if i dont think they are good looking, they probably think they are doing me a favour and cant understand why im not that fussed about meeting them. When couples put it on their profile i think they mean to say, they are good looking so dont contact them if youre not.

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By *xkinkycouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Haywards Heath

depends really, if they say they are good looking or reasonably good looking and if there profile is all about them bigging themself up then yes mega offputting but still depends on the rest of the contents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the context / intent.

If the expectation is for me to be in awe of them - off putting.

As a general description of themselves - perfectly acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can put what they want on their profile, it won't change whether I think they're good looking or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're totally gorgeous, ..... we just don't boast about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're totally gorgeous, ..... we just don't boast about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That in itself doesn't put me off. If i don't agree with them then it does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think miss is attractive, she thinks I am attractive, ergo we are an attractive couple.

We don't really worry whether it offends or puts people off by saying so on our profile.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

As others have said,doesnt mean i would think they are good looking and i like to decide for myself.

Sometimes it can come across as very arrogant,ie when you have said no to someone And they say "why,im goodlooking"etc.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many other phrases on peoples profile along with "good looking" that can put people off, but how people come across on there profile is normally very different to how they are in real life xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If someone puts on their profile that they are good looking/ attractive

Does it put you off or turn you on

Do you see it as confidence or arrogance ?"

I see it as confidence, I don't think they automatically assume everyone will agree.

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By *inky BunnyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"If someone puts on their profile that they are good looking/ attractive

Does it put you off or turn you on?"

A person can be physically beautiful and NOT particularly sexy so yes a turn-off.

Sex appeal is not the same as beauty.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If someone puts on their profile that they are good looking/ attractive

Does it put you off or turn you on

Do you see it as confidence or arrogance ?"

It's more how it's written, that can sometimes put me/us off.

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as confidence or insecurity - You really have to get to know people to understand why they feel the need to put it in their profile.

Whatever way you see it I think it could be contrued as arrogant depending on who you think the profile is written for. It does tend to irriate me when people say they are good looking/attractive because I feel that's something for me to decide. But from another perspective it could just be the person who has written the profile telling the reader that they consider themselfs attractive?

On balance I would say it's a good way to sell yourself in the profile, but it does depend on what culture you're from as well. For example most readers of this post will be british and it grates against our cultural values when someone blows their own trumpet, but such behavour could be seen quite differently in america for example.

The really attractive people do have the confidence to beleive they are attractive (as we all "should" (getting into a mental health minefield here)). Those kind of people will know that to sell yourself you have to be positive about yourself in a profile. Being negative is such a no no and I don't like people who are passive about themselfs - Those that just have a list of likes and dislikes and don't say anything positive or negative about themselfs are being quite passive and that makes me feel unsettled.

In conclusion a profile that asserts that they are good looking causes me a range of emotions. I think it's arrogant in some ways, but it certainly makes the person interesting to get to know since it makes me want to know why they are telling the world they are attractive. Ultimately though it does sell the profile to me - I'm a sucker for marketing lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There was a lady this morning who's profile I read ( yes I read a profile)

She said she was good looking

I have no doubt she has been told or is confident enough to think it

No issues

Personally I like curves

And this lady had none

Which in itself I find unattractive but that's just me

So to me she isn't what I'm looking for (bet she's gutted haha)

No face pic either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very off putting because it shows a lack of understanding about women - that we all like different things. Just send a pic and I'll make my own mind up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am an ugly old sod, but as the saying goes, " beauty is in the eye of the beholder "

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

It puts me off. I woukdnt message a woman who says that because it tells me that she is on here for attention.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For the record

I do not consider myself good looking

Wouldn't put it on my profile

Might out

Shrek seeks Fiona

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It puts my right off, no real need to say it. Face pictures will allow the reader to make his mind up initially

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am an ugly bugger but my mum says I am beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would put me off a bit. Not because it indicates over confidence or even arrogance, but because she'd probably be looking for someone also good looking. She considers herself good looking so no doubt thinks she has the pick. I'm facially no better than average really.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"If someone puts on their profile that they are good looking/ attractive

Does it put you off or turn you on

Do you see it as confidence or arrogance ?"
It makes no difference to me as an opinion can be formed from looking at their pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see on a mans profile that he has put 'handsome' then that would put me off, especially if he was showing face pics that didn't correspond with my idea of handsome...

But then again it might be tongue in cheek ..

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