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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so I'm not a noob by any stretch of the imagination BUT I am relatively new to trying to hookup with one guy as I normally do couples/group meets and events.

Two weeks ago I started looking for just ONE guy to have as a regular FWB and I have had NO luck at all! The ones that have got past the 'don't send me any dick pics or one word messages', I've given my number too. Out of those only two have kept my interest and now both of them have let me down on even meeting for a social, let alone a meet.

Am I asking for too much commitment to just meet someone socially to see if we fancy each other at least?? Lol

Why bother messaging someone who lives 2 hours away if you know they want a regular FWB??

God I'm a moaning bitch today but am well pissed off. Feel like I'm just wasting my time on Tinder rather than on a website where I thought everyone was here for the same thing???

Rant kinda over. Hehe. Xx

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Aah! We all get those spells, rant accepted

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By *OOM696969Man
over a year ago

BRIDLINGTON

Pretty common as a bloke on here...As been told many a time, keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so I'm not a noob by any stretch of the imagination BUT I am relatively new to trying to hookup with one guy as I normally do couples/group meets and events.

Two weeks ago I started looking for just ONE guy to have as a regular FWB and I have had NO luck at all! The ones that have got past the 'don't send me any dick pics or one word messages', I've given my number too. Out of those only two have kept my interest and now both of them have let me down on even meeting for a social, let alone a meet.

Am I asking for too much commitment to just meet someone socially to see if we fancy each other at least?? Lol

Why bother messaging someone who lives 2 hours away if you know they want a regular FWB??

God I'm a moaning bitch today but am well pissed off. Feel like I'm just wasting my time on Tinder rather than on a website where I thought everyone was here for the same thing???

Rant kinda over. Hehe. Xx"

I could say everything you just have about trying to find a lady fwb. What you are finding isn't exclusive to just single men. Unfortunately it's just how it seems to be, I've pretty much given up on a local fwb for now at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people are shit. i don't even do 1 on 1 and that's pretty much all anybody asks for. i hardly even look in my inbox coz i know it'll be someone pissing me off.

starting to think idiocracy is real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so I'm not a noob by any stretch of the imagination BUT I am relatively new to trying to hookup with one guy as I normally do couples/group meets and events.

Two weeks ago I started looking for just ONE guy to have as a regular FWB and I have had NO luck at all! The ones that have got past the 'don't send me any dick pics or one word messages', I've given my number too. Out of those only two have kept my interest and now both of them have let me down on even meeting for a social, let alone a meet.

Am I asking for too much commitment to just meet someone socially to see if we fancy each other at least?? Lol

Why bother messaging someone who lives 2 hours away if you know they want a regular FWB??

God I'm a moaning bitch today but am well pissed off. Feel like I'm just wasting my time on Tinder rather than on a website where I thought everyone was here for the same thing???

Rant kinda over. Hehe. Xx"

Really, two whole weeks? God, how have you managed to hold it together? By the sounds of it you've had plenty of messages but you've rejected most as not meeting your criteria for an acceptable message. Of those who've got through you've rejected another batch as not being interesting enough. The final guys have then not played ball by rolling over and giving you what you want. What utter cads...lol.

I jest a little and, before anyone jumps in, I've no time for anyone who arranges to meet but fails to turn up. However if any post illustrates the expectation difference between single women and single guys it is this. If a guy posted this on the forums he'd be berated for an unreasonable sense of entitlement and be told to suck it up and move on.

You have my sympathy...of course

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/561116

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok so I'm not a noob by any stretch of the imagination BUT I am relatively new to trying to hookup with one guy as I normally do couples/group meets and events.

Two weeks ago I started looking for just ONE guy to have as a regular FWB and I have had NO luck at all! The ones that have got past the 'don't send me any dick pics or one word messages', I've given my number too. Out of those only two have kept my interest and now both of them have let me down on even meeting for a social, let alone a meet.

Am I asking for too much commitment to just meet someone socially to see if we fancy each other at least?? Lol

Why bother messaging someone who lives 2 hours away if you know they want a regular FWB??

God I'm a moaning bitch today but am well pissed off. Feel like I'm just wasting my time on Tinder rather than on a website where I thought everyone was here for the same thing???

Rant kinda over. Hehe. Xx

Really, two whole weeks? God, how have you managed to hold it together? By the sounds of it you've had plenty of messages but you've rejected most as not meeting your criteria for an acceptable message. Of those who've got through you've rejected another batch as not being interesting enough. The final guys have then not played ball by rolling over and giving you what you want. What utter cads...lol.

I jest a little and, before anyone jumps in, I've no time for anyone who arranges to meet but fails to turn up. However if any post illustrates the expectation difference between single women and single guys it is this. If a guy posted this on the forums he'd be berated for an unreasonable sense of entitlement and be told to suck it up and move on.

You have my sympathy...of course"

Hehe I know! I'm just frustrated...and yes, I probably am being a bit picky.

Wanting someone who is not an idiot, can hold a conversation, lives within a half hour drive and is somewhat flexible is probably too much to ask! Hahahaha

Message inbox is full but I have a few potentials so I might get lucky. PS my dry spell is a LOT longer than 2 weeks, I've just been actively looking for 2 weeks ?? xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/561116

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of really lovely, funny and intelligent guys on here. You'll find them, keep looking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, this isn't a criticism of what you're looking for, but the thing with fab is that we're all NOT all looking for the same thing. It's always been like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah!!! I don't think it's unreasonable but it just takes time I think to find fwb where theirs and your time coincides, be it for a social meet or more. Having said that if someone's agreed to turn up they should turn up!!!

As for the messages, well, sometimes I don't get a clue of what their expections are when they drop in my inbox and when I answer to move it forward a bit there's no response at all, so, as you say, what was the point.

As I was once told by someone: 'sit down an ava cupatea luv, itl be ok t'mora so dont fret'. And, strangely .... it usually is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gave up meeting one on one from hear along time ago. The site is just full of wankers at the moment. What you are looking for is relatively straight forward, however with the crap on here probably impossible to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,'ve got one but I haven't been able to find another and I,'ve been looking for over 2 years. It's hard to find someone you connect with and are compatible sexwise ect. XXX

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

2 weeks isn't a very long time.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Could also be something to do with your profile sending mixed messages, you say not really looking for single males, that will stop a lot of genuine guys contacting you. They will respect that you are not looking them

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I think looking actively for a fwb rarely works out. It either happens or it doesn't as it goes a bit further than the once fun and not everyone is looking for that.

On top of that two weeks is not a long time, throwing tantrum isn't helping and even for women there's no entitlement.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I was lucky to meet my fwb - on pof the dating site. I have been having fabulous sexy fun for 18mths now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty common as a bloke on here...As been told many a time, keep trying "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Could also be something to do with your profile sending mixed messages, you say not really looking for single males, that will stop a lot of genuine guys contacting you. They will respect that you are not looking them"

This

Your profile text has nothing about looking for a FWB.

If you know what you want and are looking for. Go searching yourself and contact the single men who catch your eye. We have far better success that way, rather than just waiting to see who drop into our box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it not just the turning up. I find the people on here are not even able to reply with a thanks but no thanks. they just read an delete.

why the fuck would any body write a full intro to have it deleted. I still do. but I am wasting my time really.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

This is not meant as a bucket of cold water but we have found our perfect couple.

They have been looking for 30 years and us for ten.

Probably on the excessive side but they and we are picky. The moral here? The P word is required, and hold to your standards.

B2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say the same thing about finding and meeting people for swinging as I do about vanilla relationships.

"The best ones come along when your not really looking"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - this kind of thing - looking for a regular FWB - takes time, and to find a good one can take months.

All I have to say is enjoy the journey in finding one

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