FabSwingers.com forum: most swingers are liars!

By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Putting on hard hat and taking two steps back.... what I mean is... for me, Mistress, the worst thing about swinging is the inevitable lies... to family, friends and neighbours. Ok, neighbours not bothering me too much, maybe friends neither - not really any of their business but when it comes to our children, what a nightmare! We tell the children we must know where they are, who they are with and what they are doing and if not something could happen and we would not know how to find them. Now I know we live in the age of mobile phones but I still feel bad about the lies we have to tell to our loved ones. Is this just me or do others feel this way?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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We don't tell lies to our kids, we just don't discuss our sex life with them.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"We don't tell lies to our kids, we just don't discuss our sex life with them."

Well I know what you mean, there are ways to word things without actually telling lies but thats just the mechanics really. I know our sex life is nothing to do with anyone else but us but for me this is the downside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all my private life is just that private what I get up to in my own time is my business. But on the up side it does make me more open to my girls about talking about the birds and the bees

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Our children have left home and have their own lives so we dn't get to know exactly what they are doing , the same as they don't know exactly what we are doing, be that just going out for a meal or having a meet for sex....although if they asked what we had been up to, we would only be telling them about the meal type of going out and not the meeting for sex meet.

If we were playing these games when the kids were younger then yes, we would tell them we were off out, and if they asked, we would say where, but not say why.

Kids don't need to know everything, so I wouldn't feel bad about it if I was you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone that knows me knows what i do so i never have that problem

But i realise it must be difficult fa a lot of folk

Some times protection lies are necessary ta protect peeps feelings xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your children ask you if you are a swinger and you reply by saying NO then that’s lying, but not telling them you swing is not lying its simply being discreet, even if you didn’t swing I doubt you would tell your children what you both done in bed the night before.

That aside, most swingers ARE liars, notice I said most, honesty in swinging is harder to find than a single bi female who’s up for performing like a seal to please couples

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Our children have left home and have their own lives so we dn't get to know exactly what they are doing , the same as they don't know exactly what we are doing, be that just going out for a meal or having a meet for sex....although if they asked what we had been up to, we would only be telling them about the meal type of going out and not the meeting for sex meet.

If we were playing these games when the kids were younger then yes, we would tell them we were off out, and if they asked, we would say where, but not say why.

Kids don't need to know everything, so I wouldn't feel bad about it if I was you

Well they just cant in this case and appreciate what you say though. Maybe its just a fear that one day they may find out somehow and feel we were lieing to them for years. Not telling lies was a big thing drummed into me as a child (although as an adult you realise that the world couldnt function without them). Anyway, hopefully they wont and if they do they may be old enough to understand why it was necessary. They are teenagers now. Teenagers can hardly handle the idea of their parents having sex with each other let alone other people! lol

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By *onboy45Couple
over a year ago

lincoln

We have never discussed swinging or any other private matters with our now grown up kids. However what do you do when you attend a swingers club only to be faced with your eldest daughter and her partner. Very awkward situation for both sides. So is it not worth he mention to grown up kids if the question arises

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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" They are teenagers now. Teenagers can hardly handle the idea of their parents having sex with each other let alone other people! lol "

lol exactly.

I get what you are saying, but I still think what adults do with their sex life doesn't have to be told to anyone if you don't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you should change the thread title to "most swinging parents are liars".

Not all swingers have kids.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Think you should change the thread title to "most swinging parents are liars".

Not all swingers have kids. "

Hm, well I do see your point but...

1. I dont know how to...

2. Surely most swingers lie or mislead at some time?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Not telling someone something isn't lying.

Telling them something that isn't true is lying.

I don't really have a problem with that. My ex asked me the other day about my sex life and I told her I had 'a no strings arrangement' and left it at that. She didn't press me too much and I made it clear I didn't want to discuss it any further. I didn't lie and I didn't hurt her by giving her a blow by blow account of my recent adventures.

My son is too young to young to ask questions so that's not an issue at present.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And why do we need to pander or justify what we are doing they dont need to know they are children we are adults if I asked my mum and dad what they were upto when I was younger I would get mind your own business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hm, well I do see your point but...

1. I dont know how to...

2. Surely most swingers lie or mislead at some time? "

I've never lied to anyone I've swung with. My profile's as honest as can be and I don't set out to mislead anyone either.

There are plenty on here like me too, who are honest and straightforward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to understand why people think they need to discuss the minutea of their lives with their kids or others.

As a parent I KNOW I'm a hypocrite for sure. I'll warn my children of the dangers of meeting people off the internet etc, but my friends and family do not need to know what I get up to.

Blimey, if my friends knew where my mouth had been they would offer me a drink in a disposable cup: assuming they'd let me into their houses without a haz mat suit!

I've got quite good at asking my children and their partners what they're up to so I can have an evening of fun. My children believe when they go out it's an opportunity for me to watch Corrie on the wide screen tv downstairs. In reality I hog tied nervous men to my dining table and did all sorts to them before leading them upstairs...why would I shatter that illusion?!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I struggle to understand why people think they need to discuss the minutea of their lives with their kids or others.

As a parent I KNOW I'm a hypocrite for sure. I'll warn my children of the dangers of meeting people off the internet etc, but my friends and family do not need to know what I get up to.

Blimey, if my friends knew where my mouth had been they would offer me a drink in a disposable cup: assuming they'd let me into their houses without a haz mat suit!

You continue to terrify me Sassy.

As you say I dread to think what your nearest and dearest would think

My family would be horrified to find out what I'd been up to as well I reckon, but then I know nothing about their sex life - so long may we all remain in ignorance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then my profile is lie to

if most Swingers are Liars

wonder if the op is as well

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Think you should change the thread title to "most swinging parents are liars".

Not all swingers have kids. "

I'm skipping over the performing seal comment above... I wouldn't know where to begin!!

However... I'm not a parent but I still have to lie to mine. I'm 38 years old and live alone. It doesn't stop me having to lie to my mum about where I'm going or how I know all these people. We're a close family and she's interested in my life so I have to come up with something. However... I stick as close to the truth as I can because I have such a shite memory that I'd get found out cause I'd never remember what lie I told!!

I met all my swinging friends on a camping trip. We're campers. That's what my mum thinks. I've been to weddings, birthdays, christmas, family stuff... all with the same excuse... "I'm going to a wedding this weekend... oh you know, X from camp?!"

Works a treat. It's not the best but I don't believe my mum requires intimate details of my sex life... not to mention the fact that she's utterly homophobic and would be astounded by my sexuality, it's a generation thing and she just doesn't need to know.

I don't lie to anyone else. People in my life know what I'm up to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you should change the thread title to "most swinging parents are liars".

Not all swingers have kids.

Hm, well I do see your point but...

1. I dont know how to...

2. Surely most swingers lie or mislead at some time? "
Doesn't everyone at some point in their life for some reason? I don't tell my parents because it would upset them and i don't tell my vanilla friends because they'd worry

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By *laphe1Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

have learned a few lessons on here,I have realised that there are a lot of blokes on this site who hide behind a couples profile,you never ever get to see the lady.They try to Pm you and when you ask why no photos on profile you get bullshit about not having a cam or photos taken yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You continue to terrify me Sassy.

As you say I dread to think what your nearest and dearest would think

My family would be horrified to find out what I'd been up to as well I reckon, but then I know nothing about their sex life - so long may we all remain in ignorance.

I'm a fluffy wuffy middle aged women who visits the garden centre, pots her petunias, recycles her household waste, wears sensible shoes on ocassion...what's to be afraid off?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have learned a few lessons on here,I have realised that there are a lot of blokes on this site who hide behind a couples profile,you never ever get to see the lady.They try to Pm you and when you ask why no photos on profile you get bullshit about not having a cam or photos taken yet."
its 1 of the reason why i wont chose couples

as you don't even no who you are talking to

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By *laphe1Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

absolutely after chatting to one lass on cam got me cock out for her and started playin 4 her ,few minutes later got loads of pms from different MF couples none with pictures.it dawned on me it was bullshitters getting a cheap thrill

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

as you don't even no who you are talking to

And you dont get single guys posing as single fems either ...where do you draw the line?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Putting on hard hat and taking two steps back.... what I mean is... for me, Mistress, the worst thing about swinging is the inevitable lies... to family, friends and neighbours. Ok, neighbours not bothering me too much, maybe friends neither - not really any of their business but when it comes to our children, what a nightmare! We tell the children we must know where they are, who they are with and what they are doing and if not something could happen and we would not know how to find them. Now I know we live in the age of mobile phones but I still feel bad about the lies we have to tell to our loved ones. Is this just me or do others feel this way?

Really dont get this at all do you announce to your kids when your going to have sex ? i think not so why should you when your going swinging we're all adults and this is something that we enjoy away from the vanilla world family and friends so dont see why your feeling so bad about it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But children have not yet gained the level of maturity to look out for themselves properly, which is why it is essential that any parent keeps their finger on the pulse so to speak. A parent needn't tell their offspring everything about their own lives as they don't require that level of protection from their children. On top of which childhood is a magical age and if I were a father I would not want to spoil that for any child by imparting such details of realism. The same way I wouldn't tell a son/daughter of mine that Santa didn't exist at four, or that one day I was going to give them one of the most painful experiences of their lives simply by dying even as they reach their teens. Some things they have to figure out when the time is right.

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"then my profile is lie to

if most Swingers are Liars

wonder if the op is as well"

I dont mean they lie on here necessarily although I know many do, I mean it is sometimes essential to lie or mislead others so that they do not know about our swinging life. This thread is simply me expressing the worst thing about swinging for me and asking if others share that _iew. I do think its sad if things have to become personal. I think I am entitled to post what I have and not expect a personal attack. Not that Im sobbing in the corner...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you should change the thread title to "most swinging parents are liars".

Not all swingers have kids. "

We have no kids, no lies, no secrets, no problems!

XXXX

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I cant disagree with a wise word most of you have said. Which indeed is why I continue to keep this side of our lives completely private. I think this is just a little complex I have in the back of my head which occasionally makes me feel like a hyprocrite. I will give it the occasional whip and keep it tied up until it behaves. Thanks though, actually this post has made me feel a little better about it. Hard to accept as a parent, that Im only human afterall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to understand why people think they need to discuss the minutea of their lives with their kids or others.

As a parent I KNOW I'm a hypocrite for sure. I'll warn my children of the dangers of meeting people off the internet etc, but my friends and family do not need to know what I get up to.

Blimey, if my friends knew where my mouth had been they would offer me a drink in a disposable cup: assuming they'd let me into their houses without a haz mat suit!

am i the only one that hopes one of sassys kids doesnt come home unreasonably early from said night out?????

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"I struggle to understand why people think they need to discuss the minutea of their lives with their kids or others.

As a parent I KNOW I'm a hypocrite for sure. I'll warn my children of the dangers of meeting people off the internet etc, but my friends and family do not need to know what I get up to.

Blimey, if my friends knew where my mouth had been they would offer me a drink in a disposable cup: assuming they'd let me into their houses without a haz mat suit!

am i the only one that hopes one of sassys kids doesnt come home unreasonably early from said night out?????

Nope, but she is a little scary so I kept stom.

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By *ystique and FantasmCouple
over a year ago

gloucester

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By *ystique and FantasmCouple
over a year ago

gloucester

The reason most swingers have to lie is because unlike the LGBT groups we have less protection from the moral religious brigade and the wolves of the media. After being exposed in a national newspaper last year which divulged my secret to my teenage children "and the world", I have to say that children and friends come around eventually and your sexuality will become accepted. Learn to stand up for your sexual freedom and the shallow minded will eventually leave you alone. We as swingers have the same rights as bi-sexual's as they have to veer toward polygamy to feed their sexual desires as we like to. What I find wrong is that the media is not allowed to disclose a persons sexuality if they are Bi sexual but they are allowed to disclose our sexuality as polygamous heterosexuals. I openly admit to my freedom of sexuality and have educated many who do not understand it. For me, lies are a thing of the past.

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By *mbianceWoman
over a year ago

burnham on sea, Somerset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reason most swingers have to lie is because unlike the LGBT groups we have less protection from the moral religious brigade and the wolves of the media. After being exposed in a national newspaper last year which divulged my secret to my teenage children "and the world", I have to say that children and friends come around eventually and your sexuality will become accepted. Learn to stand up for your sexual freedom and the shallow minded will eventually leave you alone. We as swingers have the same rights as bi-sexual's as they have to veer toward polygamy to feed their sexual desires as we like to. What I find wrong is that the media is not allowed to disclose a persons sexuality if they are Bi sexual but they are allowed to disclose our sexuality as polygamous heterosexuals. I openly admit to my freedom of sexuality and have educated many who do not understand it. For me, lies are a thing of the past.

I don't think polygamy is the word you are looking for here - it means marrying multiple wives. I get what you're trying to say about swingers opting for non-monogamy (which I think is a better, more accurate term) but many bisexuals are very monogamous indeed - it's more that they are attracted to people of either sex, but do not necessarily want multiple bed partners.

Agree that the tabloids often have no qualms about breaching someone's privacy though, when it comes to sexual behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely a Friar. And the worst kind I can tell you

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm definitely a Friar. And the worst kind I can tell you

brother hi can you lie

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I'm definitely a Friar. And the worst kind I can tell you

Trust Mr Bellows for he know what he speaketh off .........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm definitely a Friar. And the worst kind I can tell you

brother hi can you lie

Of course I can my son. Liketh the swine in muck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm definitely a Friar. And the worst kind I can tell you

Trust Mr Bellows for he know what he speaketh off .........

Thou speakest the truth on the liars thread? You are truly worthy of a blessing my friend

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm definitely a Friar. And the worst kind I can tell you

Trust Mr Bellows for he know what he speaketh off .........

Thou speakest the truth on the liars thread? You are truly worthy of a blessing my friend

he speaks the truth like all friars tuck and all

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

There is a simple phrase you can use instead of lying, "Mind your own business". One of my favourite replies if someone ever asks, 'Are you gay' or 'Are you bisexual' is, "That's non of your business unless you'd like to have sex with me"

Part of the thrill for us in this hobby is the escapism, stepping out of what is considered normal or socially acceptable or should I say socially expected. So the fact that it's private is actually a part of it for us.

When nice polite people are interested as to 'Have you had a good weekend?' they are perfectly happy with a 'Yes it was great, we spent it with friends'. On the other hand the typical nosey bastard will press and pry, to whom I say, "Well if we wanted you to know that much about it we would have invited you to join us"

Then some times we do tell,

'Have you had a good weekend?'

'Yeah it was ok, just the usual orgy'

'yeah right, so you was digging the garden then'

All my kids have flown the nest now but as it was nearing that time and my teenage daughter would say, "Is it ok if I stay out at so-and-so's house" laughingly we'd say, "Yes please, then we can have a great night of sex" which usually got a 'aw daaaaaad!!!' but still they knew the door was locked till the next morning but they never knew what was really happening behind the door.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

I don`t have children but I do have my elderly mother living with me. She wouldn`t be able to handle what I get up to so I cover my days out as "trips on the railway" which is another of my interests. I do tell her the area that I`m going to in case I should find myself in trouble for any reason, taken ill for example. My Mum is aware of one of my best swinging friends but only because of her cat which is a godsend should I forget and mention her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We certainly don't consider ourselves to be liars.

No, we don't broadcast or boast about what we do, but neither do we lie about it, We simply keep our private life private between ourselves, thus no awkward questions and therefore no need to lie about anything.

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By *essesCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Yes, I hate having to tell fibs to the kids when they say "ooh where you going" or to the parents when they babysit but it's just one of those things and we have learnt to keep it simple and as close to the truth as we possibly can. Luckily we were members of a Florida holiday forum first and so we use that as an excuse for new friends we have made.

On the other side of it though, I quite like having the tingle in my tummy of people not knowing what we do and having our secret fun.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I'm definitely a Friar. And the worst kind I can tell you

Trust Mr Bellows for he know what he speaketh off .........

Thou speakest the truth on the liars thread? You are truly worthy of a blessing my friend

Beseech me Friar but I speak only of the truth & wish i could do the girlie accent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i once went into work on a monday morning got asked the usual question did you have a good weekend i had been to club and said yes had sex in a swing they laughed and said yeah right what did you do really and as much as i said i did they didnt belive me kept me giggling for ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not see the reason to discuss our sex life with others. If a neighbour meets us in a club then he/she/they are in same "boot" as we or not? It is all about having fun with like minded people and a good laugh

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

it's not a problem with kids, teens or young adults as they all know the one universal fact: Your parents never ever have had sex

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"There is a simple phrase you can use instead of lying, "Mind your own business". One of my favourite replies if someone ever asks, 'Are you gay' or 'Are you bisexual' is, "That's non of your business unless you'd like to have sex with me"

Then some times we do tell,

'Have you had a good weekend?'

'Yeah it was ok, just the usual orgy'

'yeah right, so you was digging the garden then'

What a great tip, Im gonna use it! thanks!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have our guilty little pleasures and our alter egos I am mum mon to fri and when I go and play I am shaz. I just say I am going to visit friends in birmingham thats all my parents need to know. And if i bring left over booze back then I have won it on a raffle lol.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i understand totally where the OP is coming from,my parents would never accept my choices,either as a slut or sub,but i cannot tell my Mother to mind her own buisness.She ,for a variety of reasons,wants to know every detail of my day,phoning 5 or 6 times a day to check.(Thats inbetween daily visits)

i would love to be honest,and hate lying ,but what else can i do?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Being single.... I can shag who, when, where I like and no need to fib to anyone

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

my kids are adults, they no im into swinging but dont ask questions and i dont have to lie! simple xx

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By *imnher2Woman
over a year ago

watford

we do sometimes feel guilty when asked where were going and who with.. we do try to stick with a story close to the truth as possible.. its getting easier now tho as they stay out a lot more at friends so gives us time 2 get back home in morn without them even known we been out

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

usually the ones stating VVWE and they unzip and lob it out...

and.....

I get a flashback to my Xmas lunch and something with a rasher of bacon wrapped round it sitting alongside my turkey and sprouts........

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By *ittlemorespice OP Couple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"usually the ones stating VVWE and they unzip and lob it out...

and.....

I get a flashback to my Xmas lunch and something with a rasher of bacon wrapped round it sitting alongside my turkey and sprouts........ "

um... are you lost?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"usually the ones stating VVWE and they unzip and lob it out...

and.....

I get a flashback to my Xmas lunch and something with a rasher of bacon wrapped round it sitting alongside my turkey and sprouts........

um... are you lost?

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

our kids all know teen and 20s and my girls say i better not go after the boy -friends one thing i would never never do. lol we are open dont go into the in and outs as thay just dont need to know ..... its not in there faces. we have been Happily married over 25 years and all most all my childrens friends perents have split up .... at schools alot of the times thay was only ones with mum and dad together lots on 2nd or 3 marriages this swinging life has worked for us and just add the spice at times we have needed and family happy too as long as it not around them. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't tell lies to our kids, we just don't discuss our sex life with them."

totally agree, your sex life if your own business.

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

exactly xxxxx

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By *roticouple1Couple
over a year ago

chester

We think what you do in your own private time is your private buisness and should be kept there.

It is of no concern of friends, children or anyone else.

We can`t think of a single reason why we would want out privates lives and what we get up to be shared with anyone else.

Our Children have all left home but are still very close, they all have keys and we are pleased they still consider this as their home.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm getting to an age now that my memory is a little hazy, so it is much better to tell the truth thatn lie. My daughter is aware of my lifestyle, my mother knows I have more than one 'boyfriend', and, thanks to some tosser at work dobbing me in, even the vetting agency knows what I get up to!

I know its not the same for all of us but for me honesty is definitely the best policy.

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over a year ago

Its not easy when the children ask where you are going but as they are young we just say we are going to meet friends.

Tyring to convince the babysitter we are off out for a drink with friends is a different matter

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over a year ago

am i the only one that hopes one of sassys kids doesnt come home unreasonably early from said night out?????

I've had a couple of near misses - one, only because my friend was sat opposite my daughter on the train.

She should have been in college. My friend works in London Bridge, 12 minutes from me. He phoned to say he was sat opposite my daughter. He'd never met any of my children so I said, no, she's in college. He said, she's the spitting image of you - she is, apart from the fact she's a size 8 I'm a size 22!

Any how he said, if she gets off at your station we'll know. At this point I'm dressed for play, restraints visible on the bed, guest towels in the bathroom, male toiletries etc. He then phones giggling, saying my daughter got off at the station, and if it's her I have 10 minutes before she comes through the door. It took me 10 minutes to get my boots on!!!

It was like a scene out of a comedy, removing the restraints, taking guest stuff out of the bathroom, removing my clothing and putting my pjs back on, I just got back into bed when I heard "hi". Her classes had been cancelled.

I had to phone my friend and tell him he was right - it was my daughter...that was too close!

We laugh about it still!

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over a year ago

Nope, but she is a little scary so I kept stom.

Scary?!! Me?!! I'm a fluffy, wuffy, softy - honestly I am!

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over a year ago

Nope, but she is a little scary so I kept stom.

Scary?!! Me?!! I'm a fluffy, wuffy, softy - honestly I am!

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you are and say it how it is , lol xx

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over a year ago

Nope, but she is a little scary so I kept stom.

Scary?!! Me?!! I'm a fluffy, wuffy, softy - honestly I am!

you are and say it how it is , lol xx

See...see...all sweetness me. Mwah Jo xxx

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over a year ago

"Think you should change the thread title to "most swinging parents are liars".

Not all swingers have kids.

Hm, well I do see your point but...

1. I dont know how to...

2. Surely most swingers lie or mislead at some time? "

I would tend to agree. When I was a married man, happily swinging with the wife as it were, we used to have so many college reunions, works does etc, to explain away why we were staying away overnight on a Saturday - at one stage when we were going to Xtasia once every two months our folks were seriously starting to wonder what was going on

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over a year ago

"Hm, well I do see your point but...

1. I dont know how to...

2. Surely most swingers lie or mislead at some time?

I've never lied to anyone I've swung with. My profile's as honest as can be and I don't set out to mislead anyone either.

There are plenty on here like me too, who are honest and straightforward. "

I don't think the OP is referring to telling lies to people you are swinging with. They are referring to things you tell people to explain away what you are up to/where you are going.

I think!!

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over a year ago

Yeah, but when your vanilla friends or family ask you where are you going on Saturday night and the real answer is 'to get fucked by two guys at a club I know', what do you actually tell them???

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over a year ago

Agree that the tabloids often have no qualms about breaching someone's privacy though, when it comes to sexual behaviour. "

i believe the word you may be looking for is polyamory . the practise/ desire of having more than one intimate partner,

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