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By *oveseverything OP   Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

What to do if you have a much higher sex drive than your partner, but compatible in every other department.

is it wrong to start swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would talk to my partner and have a wank. But then everyone will have different opinions.

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By *airEWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

Swinging, by its most basic definition, involves partner swapping, so if your missus has a lower sex drive but is getting involved with swinging I foresee only more frustration.

If you mean is it wrong to have NSA sex with others without her knowledge, hell yes its wrong. The betrayal, the deception, the abuse of trust.

Try instead to make her feel loved and wanted and maybe her sex drive will improve. Maybe she's just stuck in a rut, the mundane details of life getting to her. Maybe she thinks you dont mind. Maybe she thinks there's no problem to be addressed. Maybe she's plain unhappy.

Talk to her, dont cheat on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging, by its most basic definition, involves partner swapping, so if your missus has a lower sex drive but is getting involved with swinging I foresee only more frustration.

If you mean is it wrong to have NSA sex with others without her knowledge, hell yes its wrong. The betrayal, the deception, the abuse of trust.

Try instead to make her feel loved and wanted and maybe her sex drive will improve. Maybe she's just stuck in a rut, the mundane details of life getting to her. Maybe she thinks you dont mind. Maybe she thinks there's no problem to be addressed. Maybe she's plain unhappy.

Talk to her, dont cheat on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to that unless you are in that situation its difficult for others to understand. I wank a lot. LOL

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

Talk to her dont cheat on her. If you cheat and she find out if it doesnt destroy your relationship permanently it will almost certainly adversly affect your sex life..ie you will get even less.

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By *essThePirateWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Apart from the still legally mine husband, I struggle to think of a guy that does not claim to have a high sex drive.

Like driving, they are all 'better than average.

Yep, swinging involves your consenting partner, having a bit on the side is cheating.

There is a high demand for sexy housewives who just want to have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can relate to that unless you are in that situation its difficult for others to understand. I wank a lot. LOL"

Can't presume none of us have been in the situation or a similar one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging, by its most basic definition, involves partner swapping, so if your missus has a lower sex drive but is getting involved with swinging I foresee only more frustration.

If you mean is it wrong to have NSA sex with others without her knowledge, hell yes its wrong. The betrayal, the deception, the abuse of trust.

Try instead to make her feel loved and wanted and maybe her sex drive will improve. Maybe she's just stuck in a rut, the mundane details of life getting to her. Maybe she thinks you dont mind. Maybe she thinks there's no problem to be addressed. Maybe she's plain unhappy.

Talk to her, dont cheat on her.

"

Agree totally with the above.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Looking at his veris I would say it's he is already cheating so I think this is a look at me thread

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By *oveseverything OP   Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

Actually I was swinging before we met. Have not met anyone for a while, but missing it, and she's not willing to participate, which as we all know is a shame because she is missing out

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Sorry dude been there, don't think it's gonna work out due to incompatibility

Hope it does tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What to do if you have a much higher sex drive than your partner, but compatible in every other department.

is it wrong to start swinging?"

This is the very reason I started swinging and if it wasn't for swinging I'd be divorced. When I started my husband didn't know, he does now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apart from the still legally mine husband, I struggle to think of a guy that does not claim to have a high sex drive.

Like driving, they are all 'better than average.

Yep, swinging involves your consenting partner, having a bit on the side is cheating.

There is a high demand for sexy housewives who just want to have sex"

My husband has very little sex drive. I count myself lucky if I have sex with him 6 times in a year. Yes you read that correctly, a year.

He isnt willing to swing. Has no interest in this side of life or sex what so ever. So am I cheating? Yes and no. We have had a discussion in the past about me having sex elsewhere and he said 'aslong as I dont know or find out about it, go ahead'

Do I feel guilty every time I do it, yep. But do I wabt the sex because I have an extremely high sex drive? Yep.

It isnt only men who find there partber goes off sex believe me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can relate to that unless you are in that situation its difficult for others to understand. I wank a lot. LOL"

It's not really that difficult to understand to be honest.There is really two options... The easy option, to sneak about behind their back, cheating on them and betraying them. Trying to have your cake and eat it. Then the hard option, face up to it. Have a chat and work on solutions. If it doesn't work, then end the relationship. The grown up option.

before anyone fires in with easier said than done. We were in a similar sexual rut; after 11 years together, kids, busy professional jobs and all the time consuming parts of life etc.

I had the chance to play away but chose the hard option and talked about it. Best thing I've ever done, after working on us, that's what's eventually led us to swinging. Sex drives re-clicked into gear and helped get our sex life back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I was swinging before we met. Have not met anyone for a while, but missing it, and she's not willing to participate, which as we all know is a shame because she is missing out"

There's only one person who can answer the question in the context of your relationship, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my last relationship was with someone with a low sex drive. i did put up with it because we were compatible in other ways and i really liked him. it didn't work out and i begrudge going without sex for so long now.

i never advocate cheating though. you will be compatible with loads of other people too and they might also be sexually compatible.

you have to priorotise what you want. do you want her or are you going to risk losing her and what you have and think is worth staying for?

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

The very reason we are on here. We both love exploring sex but slut needs so much more than I can handle so we agreed she can play alone as much as she likes or needs. She also has her own account on here.im a very understanding boyfriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is why they join fab lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggested an open relationship, and then left my partner when he decided he didn't want that. It seemed like the only thing I could do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same position as you with my husband. If you have tried talking to her about it and she hasn't come up with solutions then what are you supposed to do? Every other area in my marriage is great, it's just the sex, and I'm too young to not have a sex life. He hasn't come up with any ideas on how to spice things up, and more to the point he isn't even willing to try with me.

So, I decided life is for living, if he won't give me what I need then I need to go out and find it.

So my advice is go and have fun, just be extremely careful and discrete so you don't get caught.

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

Men should be more understanding towards there partners needs playful minx x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the same position as you with my husband. If you have tried talking to her about it and she hasn't come up with solutions then what are you supposed to do? Every other area in my marriage is great, it's just the sex, and I'm too young to not have a sex life. He hasn't come up with any ideas on how to spice things up, and more to the point he isn't even willing to try with me.

So, I decided life is for living, if he won't give me what I need then I need to go out and find it.

So my advice is go and have fun, just be extremely careful and discrete so you don't get caught. "
This is a mirror image of my relationship. Fair play to you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men should be more understanding towards there partners needs playful minx x"

Precisely. He's a top man in every other way though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in the same position as you with my husband. If you have tried talking to her about it and she hasn't come up with solutions then what are you supposed to do? Every other area in my marriage is great, it's just the sex, and I'm too young to not have a sex life. He hasn't come up with any ideas on how to spice things up, and more to the point he isn't even willing to try with me.

So, I decided life is for living, if he won't give me what I need then I need to go out and find it.

So my advice is go and have fun, just be extremely careful and discrete so you don't get caught. This is a mirror image of my relationship. Fair play to you. X"

Thank you. I've offered him a mff on a plate, several times, now which other man would say no to that on here ?

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots


"Swinging, by its most basic definition, involves partner swapping, so if your missus has a lower sex drive but is getting involved with swinging I foresee only more frustration.

If you mean is it wrong to have NSA sex with others without her knowledge, hell yes its wrong. The betrayal, the deception, the abuse of trust.

Try instead to make her feel loved and wanted and maybe her sex drive will improve. Maybe she's just stuck in a rut, the mundane details of life getting to her. Maybe she thinks you dont mind. Maybe she thinks there's no problem to be addressed. Maybe she's plain unhappy.

Talk to her, dont cheat on her.

"

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

I'd love a mff meet but hard to arrange so mmf it is in the mean time that way slut is always smiling lol

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

It's very common for more men to have stronger libidos. It's part of nature.

Cheating though, do what your heart says. I don't regret cheating. Arguably, it made me a better person.

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

My husband has a higher sex drive.

He got me on here to wake mine up a bit. Plus he liked the "hotwife" idea. It goes in phases where it works and doesn't work. But it's a huge a huge improvement on where we were.

It's got us closer I think.

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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago

totton

So where do I stand she had a need to take medication for the rest of her life. This has taken away her sex drive completely. We have had sex once yes once in the last year. She has no interest in anything to do with sex or any sexy fun. We have chatted about it many times and are marriage is great in all other ways. She knows I'm finding fun else where but dosnt want to know anything about it. Anything at all. So am I cheating ?? I don't think so. Like many lady's on here in the same but oppersit way. But are they slated for cheating ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread with plenty of helpful and experienced comments....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great thread with plenty of helpful and experienced comments...."

Can't beat experience in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great thread with plenty of helpful and experienced comments....

Can't beat experience in life "

Yep...builds character! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What to do if you have a much higher sex drive than your partner, but compatible in every other department.

is it wrong to start swinging?"

I'd say you have to start communicating with your partner! I think it is wrong to lie to your partner and potentially cause great upset.

I also think if you communicate openly with your partner about what you're doing (even if you BOTH decide that you won't go into details) there is absolutely nothing wrong with starting to swing.

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