FabSwingers.com forum: Wife wants a fb\bull (advice from anyone in this lifestyle plse)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wife wants a bull or fb...to fuck alone, semi regularly, she has met occasionally alone, the idea both excites me and scares me, is this normal, (not scared safety wise as will be carefully arranged)....we think rules boundaries would be good, (advice)

she would phone me to hear her getting fucked, video, send pics etc,

We share 99% of our swinging but think this may add to it, I love her to go out on the pull and come home an tell me what a horny night she's had getting fingered etc, but with family it's almost impossible to do this now.....so thinking of this....thoughts appreciated from anyone in this scenario, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet someone you like... It's that simple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what you are describing is a hot wife scenario. My advice would be to make sure you both meet the guy, even if it's just social. If you can both be 'around' the first few times they would help too.

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By *lacklondontvloverMan
over a year ago

London

Speaking from experience I would advice that you make sure it is something that you BOTH want as after all you are a couple and sometimes this can lead to bad feelings and jealousy.

If it's something that you both want then set your boundaries and then go from there. Swinging can and should be exciting and incorporating this into your relationship can make it fun.

Best of luck whatever you decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wife wants a bull or fb...to fuck alone, semi regularly, she has met occasionally alone, the idea both excites me and scares me, is this normal, (not scared safety wise as will be carefully arranged)....we think rules boundaries would be good, (advice)

she would phone me to hear her getting fucked, video, send pics etc,

Please PM me for chat... I can definitely help you and share some experiences with you as I have done this and more with my ex girlfriends x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience as a bull is that it's a three way relationship in these situations, takes time and effort (which is lots of fun) to nurture the relationship, the marriage comes first and can be extremely rewarding for all. I think it would be helpful to set boundaries and expections....pics / vids, veto powers, sharing details, frequency, etc. Enjoy!

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By *ombikerbullMan
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Jk75's Comments are spot on.

I make it clear from the off I am not a homewrecker and I have no designs on anyone.

At the begining it is very much a 3 way partnership as time progresses things naturally ease up as you learn each others kinks.

If you get a good Dom he will sound very dull to start with as he wants to make you comfortable.

Once you has dialed in your needs / wants in then the real fun will start.

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

"Jk75's Comments are spot on.

I make it clear from the off I am not a homewrecker and I have no designs on anyone.

At the begining it is very much a 3 way partnership as time progresses things naturally ease up as you learn each others kinks.

If you get a good Dom he will sound very dull to start with as he wants to make you comfortable.

Once you has dialed in your needs / wants in then the real fun will start."

Why exactly do you assume that they need a Dom?.....just interested in hearing why you believe this.

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

To the Op.....would be happy to share our personal experience of this with you, will be in touch soon.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou that would be very kind,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thankyou that would be very kind, "

Pm me diva x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said, make sure it's really what you want. I've never been in a cuckold relationship but I hear that sometimes they aren't the best thing for a couple.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"Jk75's Comments are spot on.

I make it clear from the off I am not a homewrecker and I have no designs on anyone.

At the begining it is very much a 3 way partnership as time progresses things naturally ease up as you learn each others kinks.

If you get a good Dom he will sound very dull to start with as he wants to make you comfortable.

Once you has dialed in your needs / wants in then the real fun will start."

Utter arse gravy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure it has to be a Dom situation, if anything wife will be in control of fun with him while I get to share the details and the thought of what's happening,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking from experience rules are key but they need to be 100% followed. Any deviation in the slightest will need the entire arrangement cancelled or it can cause big problems.

As others have said, ensure you both meet him for a social. I would say more than once would be best before allowing play.

It will be a big test as feelings need to be kept purely sexual which is not easy to manage for all involved.

However, if done right it can be very rewarding for all involved.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be careful, there's a lot of guys out there who would treat you with more respect if they borrowed your lawnmower than your wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a number of lovers since we've been exploring this lifestyle. My experience is they they tend to be a bit 'off and on'. I think it's quite difficult to find a permanent regular bull or lover for a married woman. A lot of men like the idea in theory, but in practice life gets in the way. And let's face it very few single men are going to want to put that level of devotion into a married woman. So my advise, its go for and enjoy, but don't get hopes up about regularality. Even consider having a number of bulls or lovers for your wife, which is the solution I came to.

Mrs

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By *ime 2 CumCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I've had a number of lovers since we've been exploring this lifestyle. My experience is they they tend to be a bit 'off and on'. I think it's quite difficult to find a permanent regular bull or lover for a married woman. A lot of men like the idea in theory, but in practice life gets in the way. And let's face it very few single men are going to want to put that level of devotion into a married woman. So my advise, its go for and enjoy, but don't get hopes up about regularality. Even consider having a number of bulls or lovers for your wife, which is the solution I came to.

Mrs"

Makes a lot of sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou all, your comments have been very helpful xx

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By *irstTime4everythingCouple
over a year ago

Reading

It can be great fun and amazingly but boundaries are important and must be respected as sometimes lines can be crossed. It takes a lot of trust and in the beginning you may feel there's no doubt but time can change that. I'd advise a couple of group sessions either social or sexual just to keep reminded of the actual relationship as it's human nature for feelings to develop and everyone has to remember it's purely fun and as soon as the fun stops the arrangement must end or things get complicated

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By *entleman JimmyMan
over a year ago

Hove

she would phone me to hear her getting fucked, video, send pics etc,

I think jk and FirstTime make good comments but no-one has addressed your question about it being normal tofeel both excited and scared by the prospect of your wife following this path. I think the answer is "absolutely" and I think it is the conflicting emotions that are at the bottom of why some men find this so addictive - the misture of emotions is potentially extreme" Not everyone is the same of course, but there may be, embarrassment, shame, jealousy, humiliation and anger - all mixed up with extreme sexual excitment, pleasure and fascination. It is this intense conflict of emotions that makes the guys who go for it love it so much! My thoughts anyway - although personally I prefer to be the extra guy! Incidentally I agree with whoever said that no overt "Dom" attitude is essential or even required at all!

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