FabSwingers.com forum: If they don't ask to meet again

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish.. "

In the beginning it did but not any more. Guys say they want regular but it tends to be that they don't.

Or their idea of regular is 6 monthly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

In the beginning it did but not any more. Guys say they want regular but it tends to be that they don't.

Or their idea of regular is 6 monthly

think this can also be said of some ladies to be

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

When I meet alone, I dont want to meet them more than once anyway ... so its all good to me

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

He could still be in pog - land too?

POG is post orgasmic glow - it's that dream state that makes you feel wow and all warm like the Ready Brek man lol

My ex Ben did this to me and then explainex his glow lasted ages - he made up the phrase and I've used it ever since haha

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

No, I'm good at sex. But I know that I'm not easily available and other men are more so, so it doesn't worry me in the slightest. In fact, in a vague cuckolding sort of way, I rather like the ladies I have sex with to shag other men.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

In the beginning it did but not any more. Guys say they want regular but it tends to be that they don't.

Or their idea of regular is 6 monthly

think this can also be said of some ladies to be "

Probably can but I only meet guys so wouldn't know about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never worry or become paranoid about what people thought of me.

If we meet again, great. If not, so be it.

Meeting again could mean we neither had any better offers and wanted sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the main drawback for me. What fab gives me in confidence in one hand it takes away with another..I just wish they'd say so rather than ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we are all much more fussy about a relationship, even a friendship than a one off sexual encounter. Honest answers will be hard to determine as most men will have an agenda and that will be to charm you onto your knees.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is the main drawback for me. What fab gives me in confidence in one hand it takes away with another..I just wish they'd say so rather than ignore.

Exactly. I think I'm amazing & the results are amazing (get my drift) then nothing..

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

No, but then we can be pretty hard to tie down. So our regular probably doesn't match with others.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"This is the main drawback for me. What fab gives me in confidence in one hand it takes away with another..I just wish they'd say so rather than ignore.

Exactly. I think I'm amazing & the results are amazing (get my drift) then nothing.."

Before I met my OH and I wasn't ready for anything but NSA if it was wonderful I certainly wouldn't want a second meet, because it may become something more. The meet with my OH turned into something I never thought I would find here ... but the point before that for me was, I wasn't into any commitment, so it didn't matter how good it was, I didn't engage with that. I am a woman, maybe thinking more like a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is the main drawback for me. What fab gives me in confidence in one hand it takes away with another..I just wish they'd say so rather than ignore.

That's so true, glad to know somebody else has this thought process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things happen, some just like the chase and once you're caught they lose interest. Others aren't like that. Don't take it to heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He could still be in pog - land too?

POG is post orgasmic glow - it's that dream state that makes you feel wow and all warm like the Ready Brek man lol

My ex Ben did this to me and then explainex his glow lasted ages - he made up the phrase and I've used it ever since haha

I like that.

And it's so true!!

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

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I enjoy regular meets and have about five regular meets . However some couples just want one off meets and that is part of the excitement for them. The never want to sèe you again

It is not a reflection on you , it is just that they only want one off mèets and the buzz that goes with it.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

nah just means they wanted to use you for sex as their wife's at home who they wouldn't share for love or money haha. Don't let it knock your confidence, just enjoy the no strings sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

Do you ask them for another meet or do you wait for them to make contact?

If I had fun I ask if they want to meet again. If not then I say no thanks. I hate when people just leave it hanging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

No- I have got used to the odd one fibbing about frequency now.

Plenty more to choose from. Even though I have enough on my plate currently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

Some guys just sometimes think that maybe the girl does not fit what they are looking for when it comes to regular. Some guys say that to get a shag. Fair enough if I don't fit a guys preference. I do take issue with the ones who deceive to bag a shag though. I don't get paranoid, I can't be for everyone, just like everybody can't be for me. So I just take it in my stride and move on to the next victim lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He could still be in pog - land too?

POG is post orgasmic glow - it's that dream state that makes you feel wow and all warm like the Ready Brek man lol

My ex Ben did this to me and then explainex his glow lasted ages - he made up the phrase and I've used it ever since haha

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I'm going to nick that saying I get it with some subs I normally think it's a sub space need but this sums it up lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

It could be lots of reasons other than the sex.

We had regular meets with a couple years ago and the sex was great, but other aspects of the couple put us of, so we broke contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me if they don't ask to meet again.

My mind set is to meet once.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"He could still be in pog - land too?

POG is post orgasmic glow - it's that dream state that makes you feel wow and all warm like the Ready Brek man lol

My ex Ben did this to me and then explainex his glow lasted ages - he made up the phrase and I've used it ever since haha

I'm going to nick that saying I get it with some subs I normally think it's a sub space need but this sums it up lovely x"

Tis a cracker - many have pinched it lol

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"He could still be in pog - land too?

POG is post orgasmic glow - it's that dream state that makes you feel wow and all warm like the Ready Brek man lol

My ex Ben did this to me and then explained his glow lasted ages - he made up the phrase and I've used it ever since haha

I like that.

And it's so true!!

He was from your part of the world(ish) too - he's on here somewhere..... Lol

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By *irty filthy milfWoman
over a year ago

somewhere only i know!

My ex spent 7 months of messages etc before we met again then met a few times meals clubs home meets then thought it was ok to put a private pic on his profile as public and saw his arse when I went ballistic about it and blocked me!! WTF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you ask them for another meet or do you wait for them to make contact?

If I had fun I ask if they want to meet again. If not then I say no thanks. I hate when people just leave it hanging."

I ask..they say yes then poof..gone. if I get asked and I don't want to I say so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular would be nice just need to arrange it. But it tends just to be one night stands. Ah well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

I enjoy regular meets and have about five regular meets . However some couples just want one off meets and that is part of the excitement for them. The never want to sèe you again

It is not a reflection on you , it is just that they only want one off mèets and the buzz that goes with it."

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

It is rare I play with the same person more than once, so if they said they want to make it a regular thing I would put them off or not believe them, the latter is more likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes guys who have great sex with someone just want to specifically make it a one off because they feel familiarity breeds contempt and the magic would not be there a second time.

Just draw a line under it. Don't analyse. Not worth it. Plenty other guys on fab to choose from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you have chatted and then meet up. You said you want regular & it all seemed to go well. Then no further contact.

Does it make you paranoid that the sex etc was rubbish..

And guys. What would be an amazing meet for you?

never happened to me...its usually the other way around if I'm being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its schedules, others it could be avoiding forming an attachment

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I think you should aim for it being an amazing meet for you, not them. I don't mean be selfish but in a way I do .... great meets are when there is a connection and they may have a great meet with someone and not with you ....and vice versa. Its not a reflection on you and letting people dictate what a good meet for them is is a slippery slope because you are never going to be all things to all men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is the main drawback for me. What fab gives me in confidence in one hand it takes away with another..I just wish they'd say so rather than ignore.

I know exactly how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer regular meets - sex gets better as you get to know a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet with no expectations whatsoever other than we will have sex. If we decide to meet again that's great. If not that's great too. No expectations. No pressure. It makes everything so much simpler.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer regular meets - sex gets better as you get to know a person

Very true but it can also lead to feelings developing....my regular fb became very very attached to me after a year and I ended up telling him to go on match.com as it was obvious he was looking for a serious relationship

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