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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do understand a woman's safety concern to why she might be reluctant to meet guys without veris. the thing is though the guy need a meet in order to get a veri... but he can't get a meet unless he has a veri. so how do one get out of that loop? its crazy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attend a club or social

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

A lot of users tend to get webcam Veris first

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Go to a club.

That's how we first got verified, several times by different people.

Perfect way to put potential meets minds at ease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a 'genuine single woman' with no veri's in a year. When I joined, I don't meet lots of casual. The first two men I met, were unverified, so I was not verified. I got random messages suggesting a single female not verified, was obviously a fake. Funny old site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank god they removed Phone veris, people got those and hid them and were suddenly verified "meet worthy" people...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Attend a club or social "

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to put my ugly mug on cam first,so at least they can see my photos aren't 10years old etc.And to have a quick chat of course too.

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon


"Thank god they removed Phone veris, people got those and hid them and were suddenly verified "meet worthy" people... "

Phone veries are more acceptable to us than cam veries.

Cam veries can be faked, but anyone trying to fake being a woman on the phone is going to fail lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before "

You're telling us you wouldn't meet in a cafe for a social?!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thank god they removed Phone veris, people got those and hid them and were suddenly verified "meet worthy" people...

Phone veries are more acceptable to us than cam veries.

Cam veries can be faked, but anyone trying to fake being a woman on the phone is going to fail lol "

Oh, I don't know - I can do rather a husky Joanna Lumley

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try being a 'genuine single woman' with no veri's in a year. When I joined, I don't meet lots of casual. The first two men I met, were unverified, so I was not verified. I got random messages suggesting a single female not verified, was obviously a fake. Funny old site "

it took you a whole year?.. wow! i wont stick around that long... am already thinking of deleting my account

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Go in the chatrooms for a tick,ask someone in there is an option.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before "

socials tend to be in non play venues....

so unless you have never been to a pub and just mingled with people for example a social is no different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try being a 'genuine single woman' with no veri's in a year. When I joined, I don't meet lots of casual. The first two men I met, were unverified, so I was not verified. I got random messages suggesting a single female not verified, was obviously a fake. Funny old site

it took you a whole year?.. wow! i wont stick around that long... am already thinking of deleting my account "

But in that year, I met two men. Just wasn't verified, so got occasional accusations of not being genuine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before

You're telling us you wouldn't meet in a cafe for a social?! "

yeah i would have a social meet maybe for a coffee or a meal... but i need to be verified first to even get a social meet. well thats what I've been told by a few women... which i do respect. the frustrating bit is getting out of that loop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before "
clubs or socials mate not meny take cam verification's that serious good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go in the chatrooms for a tick,ask someone in there is an option."

thanks hun x

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I do understand a woman's safety concern to why she might be reluctant to meet guys without veris. the thing is though the guy need a meet in order to get a veri... but he can't get a meet unless he has a veri. so how do one get out of that loop? its crazy lol "

Just attend as social fella that way there's no sex involved so in my experience people chat more freely and you also get a better feel for the people your meeting for that reason .

Because in my experience interesting intelligent conversation is harder to get out of people when there libido is doing the talking instead of there brain

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

They hold a Black Country group social at flirts bar which is just people going to pub, other place do shit like that to so try checking those out.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


" so how do one get out of that loop? its crazy lol "

I actually know the answer to this, but last time I commented on someone's profile I wasn't allowed to post on the following day's weekend picture thread...

Cam, social or club are the best way to get a veri, but it won't do any good without decent pics and a fuller profile, imho.

Mr ddc

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

A fairly informative profile quickly got me my first meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do understand a woman's safety concern to why she might be reluctant to meet guys without veris. the thing is though the guy need a meet in order to get a veri... but he can't get a meet unless he has a veri. so how do one get out of that loop? its crazy lol

Just attend as social fella that way there's no sex involved so in my experience people chat more freely and you also get a better feel for the people your meeting for that reason .

Because in my experience interesting intelligent conversation is harder to get out of people when there libido is doing the talking instead of there brain "

haha... cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me if verified or not tbh. You can get a lovely surprise or a nasty shock both ways

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before

You're telling us you wouldn't meet in a cafe for a social?!

yeah i would have a social meet maybe for a coffee or a meal... but i need to be verified first to even get a social meet. well thats what I've been told by a few women... which i do respect. the frustrating bit is getting out of that loop "

That's not totally true, I meet the odd unverified for a coffee is he's impressed me with this messages and profile.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I do understand a woman's safety concern to why she might be reluctant to meet guys without veris. the thing is though the guy need a meet in order to get a veri... but he can't get a meet unless he has a veri. so how do one get out of that loop? its crazy lol "

Seek out those that don't need to rely on total strangers to decide whether to meet another total stranger or not.

If you have a good profile, able to send a message that shows you've at least had a cursory glance at theirs then people will generally engage with you.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Go in the chatrooms for a tick,ask someone in there is an option.

thanks hun x"

Though it can be considered rude to ask in chat.

Make conversation with people, show your face on cam and be very polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before "

A social is just like walking into a pub full of swingers. Can you walk into a pub or is that too scary?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before

You're telling us you wouldn't meet in a cafe for a social?!

yeah i would have a social meet maybe for a coffee or a meal... but i need to be verified first to even get a social meet. well thats what I've been told by a few women... which i do respect. the frustrating bit is getting out of that loop

That's not totally true, I meet the odd unverified for a coffee is he's impressed me with this messages and profile."

Some socials are specifically for non verified people. Why not start your own socials and arrange them?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before

You're telling us you wouldn't meet in a cafe for a social?!

yeah i would have a social meet maybe for a coffee or a meal... but i need to be verified first to even get a social meet. well thats what I've been told by a few women... which i do respect. the frustrating bit is getting out of that loop

That's not totally true, I meet the odd unverified for a coffee is he's impressed me with this messages and profile."

Agree! The last unverified man I met now lives with me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Doesn't bother me if verified or not tbh. You can get a lovely surprise or a nasty shock both ways "

thats a good point . some women makes a biggie about veris though

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Just looked at your profile.

Gee...can't imagine why you're struggling!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before

You're telling us you wouldn't meet in a cafe for a social?!

yeah i would have a social meet maybe for a coffee or a meal... but i need to be verified first to even get a social meet. well thats what I've been told by a few women... which i do respect. the frustrating bit is getting out of that loop

That's not totally true, I meet the odd unverified for a coffee is he's impressed me with this messages and profile.

Agree! The last unverified man I met now lives with me! "

haha... nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just looked at your profile.

Gee...can't imagine why you're struggling! "

eerm! was that sarcasm?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Just looked at your profile.

Gee...can't imagine why you're struggling!

eerm! was that sarcasm? "

Yes!

People read the profile before the message...that's all I'm allowed to say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just looked at your profile.

Gee...can't imagine why you're struggling!

eerm! was that sarcasm?

Yes!

People read the profile before the message...that's all I'm allowed to say."

point taken... thanks xx

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By *hiterabbit6Couple
over a year ago

Sexytown, Moray

I often meet unverified people for socials whether they organised ones I host or just one on one, I'm sure somewhere near you would do the same ....

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

For me, I need to be enticed by someones profile and pictures to pique an interest, I don't need someone to be verified.

A 1 liner profile will never engage my mind.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for the advice and tips all... i really appreciate it

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I do understand a woman's safety concern to why she might be reluctant to meet guys without veris. the thing is though the guy need a meet in order to get a veri... but he can't get a meet unless he has a veri. so how do one get out of that loop? its crazy lol "

Go in the chat rooms with your cam on and speak to someone who is verified and ask politely if they could verify you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a club.

That's how we first got verified, several times by different people.

Perfect way to put potential meets minds at ease."

This, worked for us in exactly the same way, we got verified within minutes of joining by the people we had met at the club that night, who had recommended the site to us.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

I've met unverified people, I always have a social which puts me at ease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attend a club or social

for me that would be like jumping in at the deep end. i never done anything like this before "

I hadn't either but it's what I had to do to get verified. It's nothing to be scared of.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

It's not those that aren't verified by meeting that we won't meet, we won't meet with people who are not at least photo verified. I mean, really people, how hard is it to take a selfish and send it to fabs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not those that aren't verified by meeting that we won't meet, we won't meet with people who are not at least photo verified. I mean, really people, how hard is it to take a selfish and send it to fabs? "

I'm photo veri

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Put a social meet up for when you're free this week or look for a social someone else has put up. Take a look at the meets section for socials happening this week as well as the meets forum, UK one too. The moral of our message is, yes, you've guessed it, a social.

The reason we suggest this is that social meets tend to produce veris that reflect your personality, appearance and how you came across in general, traits it appears to us (especially positive ones) the good folk of fab seem to like and fingers crossed should put you in a good position for future meets.

Good luck!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's not those that aren't verified by meeting that we won't meet, we won't meet with people who are not at least photo verified. I mean, really people, how hard is it to take a selfish and send it to fabs? "

I'm not going to take a selfie (not that I'm selfish) because I'm an armchair anarchist and like to live on the edge without pandering to the directives lauded out by those who wish to impose their dictates and impinge on my freedoms to blather on and on, on here.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's not those that aren't verified by meeting that we won't meet, we won't meet with people who are not at least photo verified. I mean, really people, how hard is it to take a selfish and send it to fabs?

I'm photo veri "

Is that your bicep in photo 1?

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