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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In the past I have played with the male half of a couple but very rarely do now, mainly due to getting to know some couples and realising how much drama can come from it all and if rather just not be involved. So now I prefer to just stick to single men.

Many couples I have met/know tend to seek the singles, however many did start to originally meet just couples but as they couldn't find a couple they both liked they decided meeting singles would be better. The only couples I know that just meet single fems tend to be the ones that met through swinging (odd but works for them, apparently).

So now after being on the scene for a while and getting to know people it has felt like some couples do this to keep the other half happy. State they haven't got a problem with it but you can tell by their reaction that they clearly have.

So I guess my statement/question is: there must be couples on here that are both happy with what each other do, when meeting singles, but how can you tell? Obviously communication is the key but when one half is completely oblivious but wants the other half to be happy there's not much chance they'll notice, so they carry on thinking everything is normal.

I know many couples on here will state their swinging relationship has worked fine for them etc, but I'm sure the ones that I know it's not working for both sides would say the same too.

Clearly my own point of view, but single men state that other single men ruin it for them; but then I think well I wouldn't meet a couple again due to my own experiences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh it's a tad long this, I won't expect many responses :/

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Oh it's a tad long this, I won't expect many responses :/"

A long one in here tends to get more responses than a short one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh it's a tad long this, I won't expect many responses :/

A long one in here tends to get more responses than a short one "

I might just go off the forums for a bit then even I looked at it and though oh wow I can't be bothered to read that guess it's whether it interests people or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got told by my group of friends to play with more couples as I was getting hassle from single women.

So this time round, I played more with couples, but it appears some of the couples I've met are even worse for aggro than singles.

I think this is because as times gone by they've changed their swinging dynamic and instead of sticking to what was working for BOTH of them, they've moved into new ground which isn't working.

I just need one good woman and that's it, I'm off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good thread OP

Well we have met and played with a few single fellas over the past 6 years and speaking as the male half of us I absolutely loved every second and I know for a fact that Bonnie did Too! However, having never tried an ffm it's hard to know how things would effect us. We both talk about it a hell of a lot and the fantasy is awesome for the both of us, but as we all know the difference between what is good as "bedroom" talk and the reality can be immense and have damaging implications if it doesn't go according to the fantasy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A good thread OP

Well we have met and played with a few single fellas over the past 6 years and speaking as the male half of us I absolutely loved every second and I know for a fact that Bonnie did Too! However, having never tried an ffm it's hard to know how things would effect us. We both talk about it a hell of a lot and the fantasy is awesome for the both of us, but as we all know the difference between what is good as "bedroom" talk and the reality can be immense and have damaging implications if it doesn't go according to the fantasy

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I noticed it states bi curious and in my opinion I think that the ffm would work if your wife fancied the woman, but then it's the case does she actually fancy women or not. I have been in many situations where a fem has started playing with me but I haven't enjoyed it as I wasn't attracted to her, she wasn't doing anything wrong, but I'm not bi so it wasn't for me. So I know if I got in a relationship on here it would be meet singles as I've no interest in playing with a female.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Hi op,intereting thread. We both have single profiles and both happy with the other meeting alone. My oh meets men alone and me women. But I totally get you that there are many many more couples out there who don't like their partner meeting singles and just put uo with it. According to a lot of couples, their relationship is perfect. They turned to swinging in unison and it makes their relationship even better. I just don't believe their hype to be honest. I have never seen anyone on the forums admit their relationship has its ups and downs because of swinging, instead people prefer to paint an unrealistic picture of it. I think its different for those who got together as swingers to those where one had the idea first. This is based on my own experiences on the scene for seven years, as a single and as part of a couple. I don't know how I would feel if my oh met women alone as he doesn't have this scenario in mind

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Couples? They're a myth!!

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)


"Couples? They're a myth!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A good thread OP

Well we have met and played with a few single fellas over the past 6 years and speaking as the male half of us I absolutely loved every second and I know for a fact that Bonnie did Too! However, having never tried an ffm it's hard to know how things would effect us. We both talk about it a hell of a lot and the fantasy is awesome for the both of us, but as we all know the difference between what is good as "bedroom" talk and the reality can be immense and have damaging implications if it doesn't go according to the fantasy

I noticed it states bi curious and in my opinion I think that the ffm would work if your wife fancied the woman, but then it's the case does she actually fancy women or not. I have been in many situations where a fem has started playing with me but I haven't enjoyed it as I wasn't attracted to her, she wasn't doing anything wrong, but I'm not bi so it wasn't for me. So I know if I got in a relationship on here it would be meet singles as I've no interest in playing with a female. "

A very good point and you have raised an ongoing discussion between us two. Bonnie does regard herself as Bi-Curious as she has "dabbled" during play with other couples, not because she has too as I truly never have and never will pressure her to do anything she didn't want to do, but because she has found the other lady attractive and sexy hence the "dabbling". But she doesn't look at a woman in what we call her "vanilla state of mind" and find her sexually attractive in any way (although she does tend to admire her shoes, nails, hairstyle, colour coordination!!!) I suppose this is why we haven't met or go out of our way to meet single ladies. Do you think it could be a recipe for disaster if we did?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A good thread OP

Well we have met and played with a few single fellas over the past 6 years and speaking as the male half of us I absolutely loved every second and I know for a fact that Bonnie did Too! However, having never tried an ffm it's hard to know how things would effect us. We both talk about it a hell of a lot and the fantasy is awesome for the both of us, but as we all know the difference between what is good as "bedroom" talk and the reality can be immense and have damaging implications if it doesn't go according to the fantasy

I noticed it states bi curious and in my opinion I think that the ffm would work if your wife fancied the woman, but then it's the case does she actually fancy women or not. I have been in many situations where a fem has started playing with me but I haven't enjoyed it as I wasn't attracted to her, she wasn't doing anything wrong, but I'm not bi so it wasn't for me. So I know if I got in a relationship on here it would be meet singles as I've no interest in playing with a female.

A very good point and you have raised an ongoing discussion between us two. Bonnie does regard herself as Bi-Curious as she has "dabbled" during play with other couples, not because she has too as I truly never have and never will pressure her to do anything she didn't want to do, but because she has found the other lady attractive and sexy hence the "dabbling". But she doesn't look at a woman in what we call her "vanilla state of mind" and find her sexually attractive in any way (although she does tend to admire her shoes, nails, hairstyle, colour coordination!!!) I suppose this is why we haven't met or go out of our way to meet single ladies. Do you think it could be a recipe for disaster if we did? "

Like I said, communication is the key. If you're both keen on it then trying it once wouldn't be a recipe for disaster, but I suppose that depends on how strong your relationship is, from what you say id say it's pretty strong. But when you started doing mmf you weren't sure how it'd turn out, I guess it's all about trial and error. Many couples go through stages to see what works for them, but if one thing didn't work that's when it needs to be said so you're both aware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met as singles and originally played as singles too.. then after loads of hassle spent over 2 years only meeting as couples.. we are working out if we can meet as singles again as both do like different things and finding couples we both like can be hard.

Last 3 club nights we have ended up only playing together as no couples took our fancy as a couple x

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"We met as singles and originally played as singles too.. then after loads of hassle spent over 2 years only meeting as couples.. we are working out if we can meet as singles again as both do like different things and finding couples we both like can be hard.

Last 3 club nights we have ended up only playing together as no couples took our fancy as a couple x "

We usually play as singles at clubs as we have the same issue. You do need to be careful of those clubs who are okay for the woman to play alone and not the man though. Some clubs insist couples play and stay together. This isn't our thing as we aren't joined at the hip (ie we do have individual personalities too)

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We met as singles and jack has my full permission to meet on his own,no drama here.He likes 3sums and im happy for him to have them,as long as i get pics and details

Miss

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We have thought about meeting as singles and both have singles profiles but neither of us have acted on it.

We both enjoy watching the other play so we tend to invite people to come play with one half of the couple but let the other half watch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in the swinging lifestyle before meeting Paul and was very open with him about my needs and intentions from the start so although we didn't meet on the scene we got into it together at the very start of our relationship. 9 years later we are as strong as we have always been and yes there have been blips, I've done things that I shouldn't have done and later discussed with him but he knows I'm a wild one and accepts that with me and as long as we discuss everything we are both happy.

As for who we meet, we go through stages, the stage at the moment is I am meeting a lot more single guys due to Pauls workload. I am more than content for Paul to see other woman and I actually insist that he does so but timing is difficult.

The best way to find out if a couple has the dynamics you need is to have a social with both of them first, it's something we prefer to do even when only one of us is playing. That way you can tell if they are happily married and if any jealousy is there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet as a couple whether meeting singles or couples. It works for us and I can't see us changing it any time soon. Different dynamics suit different people. If we both weren't happy, we'd stop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have thought about meeting as singles and both have singles profiles but neither of us have acted on it.

We both enjoy watching the other play so we tend to invite people to come play with one half of the couple but let the other half watch. "

I know some people that have had pleasant and unpleasant experiences with the other half watching. I don't recall ever playing with a man when his partner has watched, but I know I wouldn't now due to stories I've heard. I know not everyone is the same, but I'd rather just not take the risk.

Who would have thought swinging could have been so much hard work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh it's a tad long this, I won't expect many responses :/

A long one in here tends to get more responses than a short one "

A metaphor for life, that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have rather a strange set up in that we play as a couple and alone with single females. I'm bi and have no interest in other men as jay fulfills all I need. We have been lucky in that we have experienced several ffm and even a few fffm's. I've watched Jay with other women and then joined in but I'm just as happy and majorly turned on when he plays with women alone. Be that at a club or meets outside while I'm at work. The sex we have after it as we talk is awesome. Similarly Jay is happy for me to play alone with no need to watch or participate. We have made many friends and although at first they found it strange they now see how at ease we both are with it all. No jealousy or problems through it as we discuss things on a regular basis and yes there are certain things we'very done and found they weren't for us but just discuss it adjust our boundaries accordingly. Anyone who has met us knows how at ease we are and have commented we have an ideal relationship as we never do anything just to keep the other happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have thought about meeting as singles and both have singles profiles but neither of us have acted on it.

We both enjoy watching the other play so we tend to invite people to come play with one half of the couple but let the other half watch.

I know some people that have had pleasant and unpleasant experiences with the other half watching. I don't recall ever playing with a man when his partner has watched, but I know I wouldn't now due to stories I've heard. I know not everyone is the same, but I'd rather just not take the risk.

Who would have thought swinging could have been so much hard work "
i have done this and enjoy it.. as i am honest that i feel put out if I can't watch. However in reverse ive had women get proper arsey with me in the past playing with their man and wouldn't do so now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When myself and hubby swung we only met cpls 1st...but cpls trying to organise meeting other cpls in a pure pain in the butt...so was way easier meeting singles

Now we both meet singles alone...but eould never meet a cpl alone...

Make of that what you will ?? Lol

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By *errible2sumCouple
over a year ago

london

Single men are our fav to meet.

It's easier

No drama

She likes multiple cocks

It just takes time to work through the no chancers to the hot ones she fancies.

Trouble is some men think because you are swingers you will meet anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We originally started out just looking to meet couples, and at the time Mrs was at the Bi-curious stage.

It all changed when we had a meet with a couple who's male half had "performance issues", so pretty much left the three of us playing together. Some might say they planned it that way, if they did we didn't really care as Mrs got to thoroughly explore her Bi side and really enjoyed watching me play with the other lady, as well as the three of us playing together.

It answered some of those questions about it potentially causing problems between us in that scenario, which ultimately changed us to looking for single females to join us too.

Of course as yet, that's still to happen, but we're not obsessed with it, if it happens, great, if it doesn't, no harm no worries, as we started by looking for and playing with couples and ultimately enjoy that just as much.

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