FabSwingers.com forum: Any couples ever experience someone else falling for your partner?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry this is really directed at couples.

Have any couples met with other's in the swinging world, all is going well then either the male half or female have become infatuated with your partner or even yourself?

Or maybe you were the one who was infatuated with the other.

This has never happened to us thankfully, but we do worry this could happen and how to deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The woman of a couple we met was infatuated with my ex. She eventually moved on to stalk someone else.

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes, me (R) and the male half of another couple dated for a while a few years ago, with everyone's knowledge. That's how we discovered we could be poly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all..yes this happened to me and my now ex partner 2 years ago, we met a local couple off here.

Its became obvious to me that my partner and her partner had become very close, to cut a long story short she had an affair with him and left me just over a year ago.

She now lives with him and it caused so much shite for both families and friends etc, but to be honest our r.ship wasnt in a good place.

So my advice to any couple is make sure you r.ship is solid, and be careful who you invite into it.

On the plus side ive moved on and in back as a singleton, and life is great and im loving being back here on fab after a 2 year break..hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow great topic. I do agree that you should be a solid couple.

We find keeping everything out in the open is the best way to avoid that sort of situation. Because guys always try i, a sneaky kik msg outside the group etc. Block! Very disrespectful.

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By *ottscpl2014Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/derby

Every contact we ever have is usually in a group on on here. Even if its a direct chat the other always reads it. I think as long as you're open and honest about everything and know what you both want you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a couple obviously

but I've heard this is one of the reasons why some only meet once.

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I've lost count.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I'm guessing it happens more than just occasionally for swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to us but as soon as we realise feelings from others are developing we have stopped all contact x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've not met up with many couples but I doubt it would ever be an issue for us. Mrs has a few WhatsApp messages off one fella that are quite flirty but as long as we're both open about it then the trust is there.

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By *randnew23sumsCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Wow great topic. I do agree that you should be a solid couple.

We find keeping everything out in the open is the best way to avoid that sort of situation. Because guys always try i, a sneaky kik msg outside the group etc. Block! Very disrespectful."

We were chatting with a couple in a group chat once. The man from the other couple messaged my girlfriend privately asking her to meet up alone. I asked him to keep all the messages in the group as we wouldnt be meeting alone. His partner then started swearing and calling him all sorts of names telling him she's told him about doing that and she'll not stand for it anymore, they vanished off fab a couple of hours later!

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"Yes, me (R) and the male half of another couple dated for a while a few years ago, with everyone's knowledge. That's how we discovered we could be poly

This!

Having feelings grow between playmates was how I discovered I'm poly

Emotions becoming involved isn't a bad thing for some, can make things complicated but again, that's not necessarily a bad thing

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes, resulted in a nightmarish stalker scenario that chased us off the scene for a few years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ended up with a stalker

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

Yes he got really angry when we stopped the meets it went on for a few months threatening to wait for nick with his mates to beat him up amongst other stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey i could have written a whole lot more but tried to keep it brief,i think its important for your relationship to be in a good place.

As for some couples it will happen very naturally, but for others its a massive step into the unknown to bring third parties into your relationship.

I think judging from the replies alot of couples have experienced something negative, for all the decent people on here you will have 20 who want to cause as much damage as possible.

I do feel talking openly in a forum will help others make an educated choice, i do hope my post have assisted and if anyone wishes to dicuss this just message me

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