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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's someone I fell head over heels in love with two years ago, despite my best efforts not to.I come on here trying to find someone, or something, to take my mind off of her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's someone I fell head over heels in love with two years ago, despite my best efforts not to.I come on here trying to find someone, or something, to take my mind off of her

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I feel for you. Love or whatever you want to call it can be breath taking in a bad way as well as good.

Chin up... You will find someone special again.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls. "

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Well OP, I think that's quite sweet tbh and perfectly normal, unless you are the sort of person who can compartmentalise real life and fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you fell in love with her? That's not a bad thing in itself.

You could be open and honest about your feelings and maybe she feels the same but has kept quiet so as not to scare you off.

Or she could say no chance. In which case you just have to take it on the chin and don't meet again.

Life is too short to dilly dally and pussy foot around. If (God forbid) something bad happened to you, what would you regret most? Telling someone that you loved them? Or NOT telling someone that you loved them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?"

Three weeks in she got infatuated with me. I asked her to slow down, I was getting same feelings but could see it. I reminded her about exes, kids blah blah, told her I liked her ALOT. But that she should put her barriers up a little.

Four weeks after and we hadn't had sex, but it didn't matter to me. We make each other laugh all the time and listen etc.

I then made the mistake of telling her my feelings were getting stronger.

Now she's thought about it for a couple of weeks, and decided she needs space and afterwards wants to pick it up again as friends only. I can't do that now, it's not a case of toys out of the pram. When I look at her, I want to tear all her clothes off, kiss, cuddle - the whole lot. I can't be her friend with all that bubbling away, it'd be a big lie. I don't lie anymore.

So in short.. Yes, I was honest, which was a bit stupid of me. But if it's not mutual anymore, better I know now I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you fell in love with her? That's not a bad thing in itself.

You could be open and honest about your feelings and maybe she feels the same but has kept quiet so as not to scare you off.

Or she could say no chance. In which case you just have to take it on the chin and don't meet again.

Life is too short to dilly dally and pussy foot around. If (God forbid) something bad happened to you, what would you regret most? Telling someone that you loved them? Or NOT telling someone that you loved them.

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My thoughts exactly... And yes.. I can compartmentalize... To a certain extent. It was getting to the point I couldn't though.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Can I troll? Or are we being nice?

Can't help feelings brother. Hit us when we least expect it. Enjoy it. For one day you will regret stuff you never did and this could be one of them!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I know just how that feels.

I met someone, supposedly a fwb, but we fell for each other.

We spent a fantastic 10 months together but he has had to move away for work and I have commitments here so there is no way we can be together.

It hurts. Right now I'm a little bit lost and feel like I'm missing a part of me. I'm just taking one day at a time. I used to smile to myself a bit when I heard others talking about the one that got away, it had never happened to me before but it has now.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Sounds a bit full on too soon for her. See how it goes when she suggests meeting up again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cunt struck", it'll pass.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

I fell in love with Vik just over ten years ago. I was from the BDSM scene, she was from the swinging scene. We met on another dodgy website (Alt). Both were out of relationships... we thought we were 'safe' as neither of us wanted a relationship. We met... we fucked... we ended up meeting a few more times and fell in love. I collared her ten years ago this December (remember, we met on a BDSM site) We got married 8 years ago.

We are still very much into swinging, and we are more in love than ever before. We have our disagreements, and arguments, etc just like any other couple.

So, feelings *can* work with this life, but like any other relationship it takes work and consideration.

-Matt

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls. "

Times like this you need Jesus in your life, confess all and feel better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd just like to point out.. I didn't express my feelings in a creepy full on way. I've been married a long time in the past. I know how to talk about this stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can I troll? Or are we being nice?

Can't help feelings brother. Hit us when we least expect it. Enjoy it. For one day you will regret stuff you never did and this could be one of them!

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Be brutally troll like.. No pity party please lmfao

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

Times like this you need Jesus in your life, confess all and feel better"

Fuck me! I hope you're trolling me right now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

Times like this you need Jesus in your life, confess all and feel better

Fuck me! I hope you're trolling me right now! "

"He's not the Messiah! He's a very naughty boy!"

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I fell in love with someone recently spent everyday with them for 4 months...it ended I was and still am a little devastated by it all but it takes two to tango and for whatever reason he ended it I'm not sure of the reason as I never got one but possibly he just didn't want to carry on...who knows

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I fell in love with someone recently spent everyday with them for 4 months...it ended I was and still am a little devastated by it all but it takes two to tango and for whatever reason he ended it I'm not sure of the reason as I never got one but possibly he just didn't want to carry on...who knows "

We met through the scene and at the time I certainly wasn't looking for anything but it happened could kick myself now though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?

Three weeks in she got infatuated with me. I asked her to slow down, I was getting same feelings but could see it. I reminded her about exes, kids blah blah, told her I liked her ALOT. But that she should put her barriers up a little.

Four weeks after and we hadn't had sex, but it didn't matter to me. We make each other laugh all the time and listen etc.

I then made the mistake of telling her my feelings were getting stronger.

Now she's thought about it for a couple of weeks, and decided she needs space and afterwards wants to pick it up again as friends only. I can't do that now, it's not a case of toys out of the pram. When I look at her, I want to tear all her clothes off, kiss, cuddle - the whole lot. I can't be her friend with all that bubbling away, it'd be a big lie. I don't lie anymore.

So in short.. Yes, I was honest, which was a bit stupid of me. But if it's not mutual anymore, better I know now I guess. "

Maybe she took your advice and put her barriers up? If your interested in my advice is say just go with the flow and what will happen will happen don't be so all or nothing

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls. "

you will be surprised that this is a verry common issue it's juat that nobody admits to it, it seems.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fell in love with someone recently spent everyday with them for 4 months...it ended I was and still am a little devastated by it all but it takes two to tango and for whatever reason he ended it I'm not sure of the reason as I never got one but possibly he just didn't want to carry on...who knows

We met through the scene and at the time I certainly wasn't looking for anything but it happened could kick myself now though "

Don't worry hun x you'll be fine. Hearts heal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?

Three weeks in she got infatuated with me. I asked her to slow down, I was getting same feelings but could see it. I reminded her about exes, kids blah blah, told her I liked her ALOT. But that she should put her barriers up a little.

Four weeks after and we hadn't had sex, but it didn't matter to me. We make each other laugh all the time and listen etc.

I then made the mistake of telling her my feelings were getting stronger.

Now she's thought about it for a couple of weeks, and decided she needs space and afterwards wants to pick it up again as friends only. I can't do that now, it's not a case of toys out of the pram. When I look at her, I want to tear all her clothes off, kiss, cuddle - the whole lot. I can't be her friend with all that bubbling away, it'd be a big lie. I don't lie anymore.

So in short.. Yes, I was honest, which was a bit stupid of me. But if it's not mutual anymore, better I know now I guess.

Maybe she took your advice and put her barriers up? If your interested in my advice is say just go with the flow and what will happen will happen don't be so all or nothing"

I think she did. But... At this moment in time.. I can't see her any other way than how I do. I'm too rigid to ride the wave right now, maybe later.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I fell in love with someone recently spent everyday with them for 4 months...it ended I was and still am a little devastated by it all but it takes two to tango and for whatever reason he ended it I'm not sure of the reason as I never got one but possibly he just didn't want to carry on...who knows

We met through the scene and at the time I certainly wasn't looking for anything but it happened could kick myself now though

Don't worry hun x you'll be fine. Hearts heal. "

It's not so much the healing it's the amount of unanswered questions I have it's hard to get closure and I need to seek that within myself.....all I will say is he played a good game with the crap he was coming out with..never mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've also got to point out.. This wasn't a fab/lifestyle thing. We met normally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always struck me as odd that people come on a site like this which is NSA ( or at least that's my interpretation of it ) , then fall in to something like love and it gets messy .

I feel the ops pain , and totally get how he feels , but if the scene is here to offer what it does , then maybe it's not the right place to be without the mind frame to cope with it .

Too soon for both parties by the look of it , and maybe one day the right person at the right time will offer the answer .

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"It's always struck me as odd that people come on a site like this which is NSA ( or at least that's my interpretation of it ) , then fall in to something like love and it gets messy .

I feel the ops pain , and totally get how he feels , but if the scene is here to offer what it does , then maybe it's not the right place to be without the mind frame to cope with it .

Too soon for both parties by the look of it , and maybe one day the right person at the right time will offer the answer ."

I agree with you to some extent but when words and actions are done that makes you believe that you are both on the same page in terms of things it's hard not to get swept up in the moment...I would love to have an heart like ice I really would and I think my recent events have taught me a valuable lesson....I didn't meet him on here I met him through other means through the scene..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how you feel I've done that I'd split up with an ex and came on here to morv on and have fun. I ended to seeing them for 6 months we both were falling for each other and he ran. I now have my guard up I won't let it happen again x

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I fell in love with someone (non-Fab) massively.

I console myself by saying at least being single and not having her in my life means I get to arse about on Fab with no complications

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?

Three weeks in she got infatuated with me. I asked her to slow down, I was getting same feelings but could see it. I reminded her about exes, kids blah blah, told her I liked her ALOT. But that she should put her barriers up a little.

Four weeks after and we hadn't had sex, but it didn't matter to me. We make each other laugh all the time and listen etc.

I then made the mistake of telling her my feelings were getting stronger.

Now she's thought about it for a couple of weeks, and decided she needs space and afterwards wants to pick it up again as friends only. I can't do that now, it's not a case of toys out of the pram. When I look at her, I want to tear all her clothes off, kiss, cuddle - the whole lot. I can't be her friend with all that bubbling away, it'd be a big lie. I don't lie anymore.

So in short.. Yes, I was honest, which was a bit stupid of me. But if it's not mutual anymore, better I know now I guess.

Maybe she took your advice and put her barriers up? If your interested in my advice is say just go with the flow and what will happen will happen don't be so all or nothing"

I think this post maybe right OP when you told her to slow down you most likely hurt her feelings then a mire couple of months later your confessing your feelings . thus confusing the girl first its one thing then another .

I personally would hang in there play by her rules thinking she is testing me seeing if my sudden change of heart was true after all what have you got to lose by hanging in there nothing you haven't already lost and by hanging in there for a while you may win more than you had in the first place .

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Can I troll? Or are we being nice?

Can't help feelings brother. Hit us when we least expect it. Enjoy it. For one day you will regret stuff you never did and this could be one of them!

Be brutally troll like.. No pity party please lmfao"

In that case ignore my last and stop being a Jessie! Get a grip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh, fuck feelings. My experience of 'falling in love' tends to end up tragically. Learn from your mistakes and all that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can I troll? Or are we being nice?

Can't help feelings brother. Hit us when we least expect it. Enjoy it. For one day you will regret stuff you never did and this could be one of them!

no

Be brutally troll like.. No pity party please lmfao

In that case ignore my last and stop being a Jessie! Get a grip!

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Thank you! That's what I need! Stop being a bitch, lock down and man up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?

Three weeks in she got infatuated with me. I asked her to slow down, I was getting same feelings but could see it. I reminded her about exes, kids blah blah, told her I liked her ALOT. But that she should put her barriers up a little.

Four weeks after and we hadn't had sex, but it didn't matter to me. We make each other laugh all the time and listen etc.

I then made the mistake of telling her my feelings were getting stronger.

Now she's thought about it for a couple of weeks, and decided she needs space and afterwards wants to pick it up again as friends only. I can't do that now, it's not a case of toys out of the pram. When I look at her, I want to tear all her clothes off, kiss, cuddle - the whole lot. I can't be her friend with all that bubbling away, it'd be a big lie. I don't lie anymore.

So in short.. Yes, I was honest, which was a bit stupid of me. But if it's not mutual anymore, better I know now I guess.

Maybe she took your advice and put her barriers up? If your interested in my advice is say just go with the flow and what will happen will happen don't be so all or nothing

I think this post maybe right OP when you told her to slow down you most likely hurt her feelings then a mire couple of months later your confessing your feelings . thus confusing the girl first its one thing then another .

I personally would hang in there play by her rules thinking she is testing me seeing if my sudden change of heart was true after all what have you got to lose by hanging in there nothing you haven't already lost and by hanging in there for a while you may win more than you had in the first place ."

I'll hang in there, but only if it doesn't hurt too much. Weve hardly spoke today and she's normally the first and last person I talk to.

I apologised for being a bit of a dick, I closed up on her, yes and no answers. Only thinking of my feelings, sorry doesn't always work though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I fell in love with someone (non-Fab) massively.

I console myself by saying at least being single and not having her in my life means I get to arse about on Fab with no complications

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I hear ya. The grass isnt always greener.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?

Three weeks in she got infatuated with me. I asked her to slow down, I was getting same feelings but could see it. I reminded her about exes, kids blah blah, told her I liked her ALOT. But that she should put her barriers up a little.

Four weeks after and we hadn't had sex, but it didn't matter to me. We make each other laugh all the time and listen etc.

I then made the mistake of telling her my feelings were getting stronger.

Now she's thought about it for a couple of weeks, and decided she needs space and afterwards wants to pick it up again as friends only. I can't do that now, it's not a case of toys out of the pram. When I look at her, I want to tear all her clothes off, kiss, cuddle - the whole lot. I can't be her friend with all that bubbling away, it'd be a big lie. I don't lie anymore.

So in short.. Yes, I was honest, which was a bit stupid of me. But if it's not mutual anymore, better I know now I guess.

Maybe she took your advice and put her barriers up? If your interested in my advice is say just go with the flow and what will happen will happen don't be so all or nothing

I think this post maybe right OP when you told her to slow down you most likely hurt her feelings then a mire couple of months later your confessing your feelings . thus confusing the girl first its one thing then another .

I personally would hang in there play by her rules thinking she is testing me seeing if my sudden change of heart was true after all what have you got to lose by hanging in there nothing you haven't already lost and by hanging in there for a while you may win more than you had in the first place .

I'll hang in there, but only if it doesn't hurt too much. Weve hardly spoke today and she's normally the first and last person I talk to.

I apologised for being a bit of a dick, I closed up on her, yes and no answers. Only thinking of my feelings, sorry doesn't always work though. "

its ok fella you made a mistake that all we all do it from time to time remember to someone upset sorry is just a word but your actions that follow that sorry are what will prove you point . I would give her 24 hours then message her just saying how are I've missed our chats .

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over a year ago

OP - My advice is to take things slowly with the woman.

If there's something there, that rare connection that is difficult to find don't let anything get in the way of that.

That does not mean head straight into a full on committed marrage minded relationship! What it does mean is that you need to let the relationship breath and to give you and this woman a change to get over past relationships and to establish if there's something worth pursuing.

If there really is connection worth pursuing you might have to wait - would a period of a week not seeing each other help for example? Or maybe you could decide only to meet one day a week etc.

I guess if you and her both think this could really go somewhere play it cool and don't smother the relationship. If she can't see it working out over the long term you might want to look elsewhere.

Good luck anyways

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"How do you get close enough to someone to enjoy every moment you're with them - without falling in love?

Trollers and piss takers, go on, have a field day. I could do with a laugh.

Met a girl outside of fab. Fancied her and have been nothing but totally honest with her. Ended up having sex and it was.. Omg! For both of us.

Trouble is, both have kids and not long out of relationships. Neither of us wanted a relationship. But dick head here went and fell for her! I tried not to, she said I could continue on fab, we were fuck buddies etc. I did, but I wanted her. Fab is fun, but it doesn't help much when you're thinking of someone else.

Anyone else have this issue? I'm pretty balanced and normal.. But fucking feelings... Fuck em! I need an alternate ego to slip into right now because today sucks balls.

I don't see the problem fella are you still seeing her or did you do something silly and ruin the fun ...?

Three weeks in she got infatuated with me. I asked her to slow down, I was getting same feelings but could see it. I reminded her about exes, kids blah blah, told her I liked her ALOT. But that she should put her barriers up a little.

Four weeks after and we hadn't had sex, but it didn't matter to me. We make each other laugh all the time and listen etc.

I then made the mistake of telling her my feelings were getting stronger.

Now she's thought about it for a couple of weeks, and decided she needs space and afterwards wants to pick it up again as friends only. I can't do that now, it's not a case of toys out of the pram. When I look at her, I want to tear all her clothes off, kiss, cuddle - the whole lot. I can't be her friend with all that bubbling away, it'd be a big lie. I don't lie anymore.

So in short.. Yes, I was honest, which was a bit stupid of me. But if it's not mutual anymore, better I know now I guess.

Maybe she took your advice and put her barriers up? If your interested in my advice is say just go with the flow and what will happen will happen don't be so all or nothing

I think this post maybe right OP when you told her to slow down you most likely hurt her feelings then a mire couple of months later your confessing your feelings . thus confusing the girl first its one thing then another .

I personally would hang in there play by her rules thinking she is testing me seeing if my sudden change of heart was true after all what have you got to lose by hanging in there nothing you haven't already lost and by hanging in there for a while you may win more than you had in the first place ."

Agree with this totally. From the first time we met, we both knew (we talked afterwards) but both treaded carefully as both had teens and had both been single for a while and not looking. When its right, its right and it will work out if you stay in touch, if its meant to. I think you should stay friends .... its always good to have friends anyway.

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over a year ago

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