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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff.....

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I think the men do cop it a bit more in such subjects but the ladies don't get off entirely scot free either.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i have never seen a post from a married woman playing behind her husbands back whining about her sex life,or recieved a mail from one.If i saw either i would treat them the same as the married men paying without consent on here.

The married women who play alone on here(and from time to time that's me)who i have met do so with the knowledge of their partners.They remember the golden rule,communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are on her for different reasons.

If they are up front about their situation and reasons why their here then what's the problem? If its not what you want or you disapprove of it then move on and let them get on with it.

I think its the ones that hide things you should be worried about, if they will lie about being married etc what else aren't they telling you about?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Who says they get treated any differently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Granted men are more crude on times some need real lessons in manners, flirting AND general communication (not all of us) but there are "happily" married women on here with out consent. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with that as we don't know the whole story. But that should also apply to blokes.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Granted men are more crude on times some need real lessons in manners, flirting AND general communication (not all of us) but there are "happily" married women on here with out consent. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with that as we don't know the whole story. But that should also apply to blokes. "

If there are ,then they have the sense not to come into the forum looking for symapthy.i think you are assuming different treatment simply because it's the "My wife is frigid" posters who get ripped to shreds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives"

This statement, more than any other was my bête noire with men in general! Any man that had the audacity to contact me to play in my home: it's okay for me to turn the home I share with my children into a knocking shop, whilst theirs remained sacrosant - got the very sharp, nasty edge of my tongue!

I used to play in my home, but I expected playmates to also be in a position to entertain me in theirs, should my children decide to stay home. If they wouldn't then absolutely no further communication, let alone a meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a single women that can't accomm i used to be married but now have kids so i dont play at home unless they are not here when it comes to guys they never give a stright answer when i ask y they dont accomm were i will always give the reason y thats the big dif we try to be honest mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives "

I don't get this. Do you expect to play in someone else's home even if they have kids then? Never mind that that is their privatre space? Or do you do decent thing and fork out for a hotel?

And if your kids are only there part-time what's wrong with having your adult friends round when your kids are at your ex's? My last FB had his teenage kids over 2-3 nights a week and those nights we just didn't see each other. Simple.

I can understand someone not being able to accommodate if they are flat-sharing, have moved back in with parents or a sibling after a relationship break-up, or are a single parent but otherwise it's a lame excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

This statement, more than any other was my bête noire with men in general! Any man that had the audacity to contact me to play in my home: it's okay for me to turn the home I share with my children into a knocking shop, whilst theirs remained sacrosant - got the very sharp, nasty edge of my tongue!

I used to play in my home, but I expected playmates to also be in a position to entertain me in theirs, should my children decide to stay home. If they wouldn't then absolutely no further communication, let alone a meet!"

Best forum comment we have seen in weeks! Single guys who cant or wont accom...for all kinds of reasons...we have heard them all...yet we are expected to accom!

Truth is...they are married or have GF end of story.

We like single guys but so MANY , whine and bleat....

Get a grip guys, its not Rocket Science!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff..... "

Would you like some Cheese with your Whine....?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

Im sure with your view you would never dream of meeting someone who has children at their home, even if they insisted upon it. Im sure the guilt would be too much. You obviously only do hotel meets or outdoor meets which wont be acceptable to quite a few

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"

Best forum comment we have seen in weeks! Single guys who cant or wont accom...for all kinds of reasons...we have heard them all...yet we are expected to accom!

Truth is...they are married or have GF end of story.

"

I'd be grateful if you could get my ex wife back or introduce me to this girlfriend then as I can't accommodate.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Those who can't accommodate all have their reasons and I won't judge them for that, be they male, female or a couple, or bleeding aliens.

I do not, however, like being told what I am or aren't by some one who doesn't even know me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i dont agree with much of this post, however I dont agree with the arsey statements about single men that cant accom must have GF's or be married, I in fact have recently moved back home from my ex's last year and live with my father(who occasionally works away on nites, hence forth I could accom), now u can assume what u like about that, its not ON my profile...but to those thinking of accusing me for lying...I think i could come up with a better excuse, so rest the PIshy comments about single men must be cheating,,,,there is "some" genuine ppl here....Oh and perhaps sometime I'm looking after younger family members...nahhh, more likely i'm cheating, thats always bloody more likely.

because it says you CAN accomodate, no-one should take that as yes lets meet anytime I want to be disregarding ur life!!!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Those who can't accommodate all have their reasons and I won't judge them for that, be they male, female or a couple, or bleeding aliens.

I do not, however, like being told what I am or aren't by some one who doesn't even know me. "

Thank you for saying what i was going to so eloquently.My Master does not accommodate,i know his reasons,he tells potential subs long before any meeting that he will not accommodate,but he most certainly is single.

What matters is honesty,not mass generalizations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well i dont agree with much of this post, however I dont agree with the arsey statements about single men that cant accom must have GF's or be married, I in fact have recently moved back home from my ex's last year and live with my father(who occasionally works away on nites, hence forth I could accom), now u can assume what u like about that, its not ON my profile...but to those thinking of accusing me for lying...I think i could come up with a better excuse, so rest the PIshy comments about single men must be cheating,,,,there is "some" genuine ppl here....Oh and perhaps sometime I'm looking after younger family members...nahhh, more likely i'm cheating, thats always bloody more likely.

because it says you CAN accomodate, no-one should take that as yes lets meet anytime I want to be disregarding ur life!!!

"

In fact I was pretty embarrassed to bring up people to my "empty"....as i had a bunk-bed(top half was my cats bed lol) just up till a few months ago...and really didnt think anyone would take the offer of filthy living room sex lol....Oh what a shite swinger I'am lol- bugger it am off to shag my blowupwhorewife!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston


"Those who can't accommodate all have their reasons and I won't judge them for that, be they male, female or a couple, or bleeding aliens.

I do not, however, like being told what I am or aren't by some one who doesn't even know me.

Thank you for saying what i was going to so eloquently.My Master does not accommodate,i know his reasons,he tells potential subs long before any meeting that he will not accommodate,but he most certainly is single.

What matters is honesty,not mass generalizations."

That was the one I sent. The other one I deleted was not so nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wishing to get into a Bun Fight here...

However, Single Guys who whine and winge on forums should expect some flak...

We really dont care if they are married or whatever, it would not stop us meeting them.

We are not looking to make new Soulmates on here. We are looking for no strings sex...We do meet single guys.

The OP does apper a gen guy...so maybe we were a bit hasty, Nonethe less, a generalisation maybe...But a pretty true one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those who can't accommodate all have their reasons and I won't judge them for that, be they male, female or a couple, or bleeding aliens.

I do not, however, like being told what I am or aren't by some one who doesn't even know me.

Thank you for saying what i was going to so eloquently.My Master does not accommodate,i know his reasons,he tells potential subs long before any meeting that he will not accommodate,but he most certainly is single.

What matters is honesty,not mass generalizations."

I'm single and have my reasons for not accommodating so i've never judged anyone else for not, I look at it as an option to get away and let someone else clean up afterwards.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Those who can't accommodate all have their reasons and I won't judge them for that, be they male, female or a couple, or bleeding aliens.

I do not, however, like being told what I am or aren't by some one who doesn't even know me.

Thank you for saying what i was going to so eloquently.My Master does not accommodate,i know his reasons,he tells potential subs long before any meeting that he will not accommodate,but he most certainly is single.

What matters is honesty,not mass generalizations.

That was the one I sent. The other one I deleted was not so nice. "

Ahhh the old step away from the keyboard for 30 seconds advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not wishing to get into a Bun Fight here...

However, Single Guys who whine and winge on forums should expect some flak...

We really dont care if they are married or whatever, it would not stop us meeting them.

We are not looking to make new Soulmates on here. We are looking for no strings sex...We do meet single guys.

The OP does apper a gen guy...so maybe we were a bit hasty, Nonethe less, a generalisation maybe...But a pretty true one! "

the specific point of the post was "dont tar us all..."- u did exactly that lol.... and please NEVER use

"end of" it just promotes, an "aye!right!" lol...aye come check ma profile too am genuine lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

I don't get this. Do you expect to play in someone else's home even if they have kids then? Never mind that that is their privatre space? Or do you do decent thing and fork out for a hotel?

No I never said that!

What I said was about being called a lier about my status when there is a reason for not accommodating. I Do NOT expect anyone to provide accommodation and have no quarms in paying for a hotel. if you can or can't is irrelevant what gets me is how quick a group of people who enjoy the life we do are far too quick to judge others!

And if your kids are only there part-time what's wrong with having your adult friends round when your kids are at your ex's? My last FB had his teenage kids over 2-3 nights a week and those nights we just didn't see each other. Simple.

I can understand someone not being able to accommodate if they are flat-sharing, have moved back in with parents or a sibling after a relationship break-up, or are a single parent but otherwise it's a lame excuse. "

So you understand reasons you agree with,how openminded of you.

How about just accepting people are entitled to live their lives a they see fit and so long as the ppl they meet know their reasons then not rushing to judge!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not wishing to get into a Bun Fight here...

However, Single Guys who whine and winge on forums should expect some flak...

We really dont care if they are married or whatever, it would not stop us meeting them.

We are not looking to make new Soulmates on here. We are looking for no strings sex...We do meet single guys.

The OP does apper a gen guy...so maybe we were a bit hasty, Nonethe less, a generalisation maybe...But a pretty true one!

the specific point of the post was "dont tar us all..."- u did exactly that lol.... and please NEVER use

"end of" it just promotes, an "aye!right!" lol...aye come check ma profile too am genuine lol"

I did not say about tarring US and was not meant as a "Look at me" post

No I never said that! Again you read into things that I do not mean

What I said was about being called a lier about my status when there is a reason for not accommodating. I Do NOT expect anyone to provide accommodation and have no quarms in paying for a hotel. if you can or can't is irrelevant what gets me is how quick a group of people who enjoy the life we do are far too quick to judge others!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

This statement, more than any other was my bête noire with men in general! Any man that had the audacity to contact me to play in my home: it's okay for me to turn the home I share with my children into a knocking shop, whilst theirs remained sacrosant - got the very sharp, nasty edge of my tongue!

I used to play in my home, but I expected playmates to also be in a position to entertain me in theirs, should my children decide to stay home. If they wouldn't then absolutely no further communication, let alone a meet!

Best forum comment we have seen in weeks! Single guys who cant or wont accom...for all kinds of reasons...we have heard them all...yet we are expected to accom!

Truth is...they are married or have GF end of story.

We like single guys but so MANY , whine and bleat....

Get a grip guys, its not Rocket Science!

"

POINT MADE !

It is EXACTLY this type of comment I am talking about !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Those who can't accommodate all have their reasons and I won't judge them for that, be they male, female or a couple, or bleeding aliens.

I do not, however, like being told what I am or aren't by some one who doesn't even know me. "

Totally agree !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What gets my goat is when I get the message "Single, patient, non_pushy, verified, can travel AND accommodate? When too good to be true then it isnt" after which am promptly blocked.

Damned if you do..."

dont mention yer verified lol...sounds like a boast...no-ones interested in veris...really...they arent...theyd rather some elsusive large cocked hunk comes round their door and doesnt actually exist.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the general consensus is that most men who swing have a chip on their shoulder and love whinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting at home or even asking to while the children there is just a pure lack of respect for the children I dont want mine waking up to strangers house rule I have never had a stranger in my bed while they have been here and that will be the case until they leave home this is their home. Plus when I have a meet I want to be abled to relax and enjoy myself. Plus I much prefer meeting in a club than a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the general consensus is that most men who swing have a chip on their shoulder and love whinging "

They whinge because they come on here looking for easy sex.

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

i only play at home when my daughter is not with me and then the guy has to be single

had a narrow escape a few months ago with a married man, but he told me to begin with he was single then something happened and sent a text saying sorry got the kids about, i then asked wife at home is she....... his profile was a single man and i then discovered she had no idea he was playing the single guy.... get a grip guys be more truthful as you will get found out sooner than later

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff..... "

I am happy to tar any cheating liar regardless of their gender

As for your reason for not wanting to accom, well I take each reason on face value and if anyone says they could but choose not to... I tell them to feck off. I don't like the "don't shit on your own doorstep" mentality.... especially when they then expect to come and dump a turd on mine.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff.....

I am happy to tar any cheating liar regardless of their gender

As for your reason for not wanting to accom, well I take each reason on face value and if anyone says they could but choose not to... I tell them to feck off. I don't like the "don't shit on your own doorstep" mentality.... especially when they then expect to come and dump a turd on mine."

Shoudnt this be in the scat thread!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff.....

I am happy to tar any cheating liar regardless of their gender

As for your reason for not wanting to accom, well I take each reason on face value and if anyone says they could but choose not to... I tell them to feck off. I don't like the "don't shit on your own doorstep" mentality.... especially when they then expect to come and dump a turd on mine."

If you have people round who take a dump at you're place then you need to screen your meets better

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff.....

I am happy to tar any cheating liar regardless of their gender

As for your reason for not wanting to accom, well I take each reason on face value and if anyone says they could but choose not to... I tell them to feck off. I don't like the "don't shit on your own doorstep" mentality.... especially when they then expect to come and dump a turd on mine."

Once there was I lady I used to know, who, upon realising I found out she was married and playing behind her partner's back decided to no longer meet me - even though I never mentioned anything to her about it.

I'm thinking, so she's the one cheating, yet she's the one holding it against me? Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt swing in my own home and I am not going to apologise for it. I dont care what people think about it. I do have children at home but even if I didnt I wouldnt swing in my home. I keep my home life, my normal day to day real life completely separate from my fantasy secret life.

We do mainly have meets in hotels and we go to clubs. We have made regular swing friends who invite us to their apartment. We do not expect accommodating, we would be happy to play elsewhere. They prefer to be in their home. I have never played in anyones home where children are, and wouldnt ever consider it under any circumstances.

If people dont like my reasons for not accommodating, well dont message me then, thats my view on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff..... "

Actually we do lol

I have been accused many times of playing away because I do not accommodate and have been told having kids is a cop out as lots of people with kids still accommodate, which is true but I choose not to for the safty of me and my kids

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff..... "

me peronally wether man or woman my opinion doesnt change

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"Why don't women get tar'd with the same brush as men on here?

If a woman says she is married & partner does not know it's fine but if a guy does it he is chastised, if a woman says she can not accom it's accepted but if a guy says it it must be because he is either married or is cheating on his partner? It does smack of hypocrisy.

Personally I'm not and do not judge those who are married, bee there before, but my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives ( mosey neighbours and vanilla ex would mean a world of shit ) anyways rant over, back to the fun stuff.....

Actually we do lol

I have been accused many times of playing away because I do not accommodate and have been told having kids is a cop out as lots of people with kids still accommodate, which is true but I choose not to for the safty of me and my kids"

my kids have left home but call anytime day and night, both have keys therefore we wont accomadate, we have been caught a few times by daughters just the 2 of us never mind anyone else.....as far as i am concerned my children will ALWAYS come 1st, and if peeps dont realise that well thats up to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its only a few that spoil it for the rest. But them few stick in peoples mind. Wen some dont get replies. They spit the dummy. If you dont get one. Dont stress. Just one of them things. Being polite gets you a lot further. Turni g up and wam bam is bad to. Women remember that. Plus. Not good. Cant help but have the hugs after. Makes it more sensual to.. Have fun everyone

micky. ..

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Going off the original post, i am not so sure they do get treated differently if they are contacting the same couples. We have been contacted by both, and as soon as we find out we get a polite no thank you. Its not that we are judging anyone, both of us have done it in previous relationships, we just don't want to get stuck in the middle if their partner finds out.

But guys are a bit more devious about it. The accomadating thing being a good example. Sure, some may share a house, have custody of the kids etc. But not as many as are on here, and its a certain some of them are cheating.

And its not just your profiles you need to be creative with. One line messages will normally just get deleted by us. And rude ones will get a rough reply. Like the 19 year old last night who simple said he would like to have a go, like my partner was a play station game.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

In a way mate you do have to sell yourself. Yes, thsi is meant to be fun. But you still need to make some effort. Just because you have a cock, doesn't mean you will get anything. Just because we are on swingers site, doesn't mean we will go with anything with a pulse. And when it comes to couples single guys need to remember that we ain't on here cause we have a crap sex life and the Female half needs to get it elswhere. We can have sex with each other when ever we want so we are not desperate. So you do need to make some effort.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

This statement, more than any other was my bête noire with men in general! Any man that had the audacity to contact me to play in my home: it's okay for me to turn the home I share with my children into a knocking shop, whilst theirs remained sacrosanct - got the very sharp, nasty edge of my tongue!

I used to play in my home, but I expected playmates to also be in a position to entertain me in theirs, should my children decide to stay home. If they wouldn't then absolutely no further communication, let alone a meet!

Best forum comment we have seen in weeks! Single guys who cant or wont accom...for all kinds of reasons...we have heard them all...yet we are expected to accom!

Truth is...they are married or have GF end of story.

We like single guys but so MANY , whine and bleat....

Get a grip guys, its not Rocket Science!

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Wonderful understanding and sympathetic view or should a say pathetic?

Not all people and yes I say PEOPLE who cant accom expect others to as a given!

When I view a profile if i see can't accom I don't message them, it doesn't matter if they appear to be gods answer to the art of sexual pleasure and only 5 mins walk up the road.

To assume that they must accom to please me is ridiculous as I like to think I respect their reasons for not doing so.

The OP has stated his reasons and I don't think it says any where that he expects others to do so, all he has asked is is it fair that men get slated and the ladies in general don't in his view...

stick to the topic...but to hard for some and yet again lets have a pop at guys... oh yes reason for the OP's question!

couples must also find this an issue?

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over a year ago


"my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

I don't get this. Do you expect to play in someone else's home even if they have kids then? Never mind that that is their privatre space? Or do you do decent thing and fork out for a hotel?

And if your kids are only there part-time what's wrong with having your adult friends round when your kids are at your ex's? My last FB had his teenage kids over 2-3 nights a week and those nights we just didn't see each other. Simple.

I can understand someone not being able to accommodate if they are flat-sharing, have moved back in with parents or a sibling after a relationship break-up, or are a single parent but otherwise it's a lame excuse. "

It's simply as I've said: there house is sacrosant, but they have no problem soiling yours!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

This statement, more than any other was my bête noire with men in general! Any man that had the audacity to contact me to play in my home: it's okay for me to turn the home I share with my children into a knocking shop, whilst theirs remained sacrosanct - got the very sharp, nasty edge of my tongue!

I used to play in my home, but I expected playmates to also be in a position to entertain me in theirs, should my children decide to stay home. If they wouldn't then absolutely no further communication, let alone a meet!

Best forum comment we have seen in weeks! Single guys who cant or wont accom...for all kinds of reasons...we have heard them all...yet we are expected to accom!

Truth is...they are married or have GF end of story.

We like single guys but so MANY , whine and bleat....

Get a grip guys, its not Rocket Science!

Wonderful understanding and sympathetic view or should a say pathetic?

Not all people and yes I say PEOPLE who cant accom expect others to as a given!

When I view a profile if i see can't accom I don't message them, it doesn't matter if they appear to be gods answer to the art of sexual pleasure and only 5 mins walk up the road.

To assume that they must accom to please me is ridiculous as I like to think I respect their reasons for not doing so.

The OP has stated his reasons and I don't think it says any where that he expects others to do so, all he has asked is is it fair that men get slated and the ladies in general don't in his view...

stick to the topic...but to hard for some and yet again lets have a pop at guys... oh yes reason for the OP's question!

couples must also find this an issue?"

Thank You.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"my reasons for not accommodating are because my home is where my kids stay and I do not want my private pleasures spilling over into their lives

I don't get this. Do you expect to play in someone else's home even if they have kids then? Never mind that that is their privatre space? Or do you do decent thing and fork out for a hotel?

And if your kids are only there part-time what's wrong with having your adult friends round when your kids are at your ex's? My last FB had his teenage kids over 2-3 nights a week and those nights we just didn't see each other. Simple.

I can understand someone not being able to accommodate if they are flat-sharing, have moved back in with parents or a sibling after a relationship break-up, or are a single parent but otherwise it's a lame excuse.

It's simply as I've said: there house is sacrosant, but they have no problem soiling yours! "

READ ABOVE

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over a year ago


"Those who can't accommodate all have their reasons and I won't judge them for that, be they male, female or a couple, or bleeding aliens.

I do not, however, like being told what I am or aren't by some one who doesn't even know me. "

The point I was making was against those that have said to me "not in my house - it's not a knocking shop", but want to play in mine - yeah, right!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I want feathers with my tar please.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

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http://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

No nit-picking please

Unless someone specifically asks for their profile to be critiqued or if it's relevant to the thread e.g. someone is wondering why they're not having success, please don't critique their profile or be mean about it. We want the forum to be open and friendly to newbies and everyone starts somewhere.

Please check out the rules before you post.

Can people also remember that if you are going to have your view, you have to do it without attacking a poster.

If you quoted any posts that were removed, yours will have been deleted too.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

After reading this thread again I think some are missing the point.

The man has a valid question and to be honest, from what I have seen, no one does ever mention when women can't accommodate but do when men can't and it is normally to say that they think it is because they are in a relationship. That may be true in some cases, but that wasn't really what the question was.

The OP also didn't mention that he wanted people to accommodate him as he won't accommodate.

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