FabSwingers.com forum: Social do I go or not?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey I've got a meet set up with a guy who I've been let down by before. We've got a date and time set. I've asked him to confirm if we're on but he ignored the message and has been on since.

Do I still go and take the chance of being stood up or not go as he hasn't confirmed and is likely not to go back online till Tomoz? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't go. He's been online and not responded to you be you've been let down before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I definitely wouldn't go!

What's your gut instinct telling you? I'd go with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it somewhere that you would go anyway? I organise socials at my local coffee shop where I don't mind spending a few hours most days anyway.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

If he's not confirmed then no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you need to ask

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

No I wouldn't go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I wouldn't go. He's been online and not responded to you be you've been let down before."
this....it wouldn't take a minute to confirm and let you know and if he has already let you down he should make more effort so you know. Good luck x

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

If there hasnt been any contact by first thing in the morning then block and move on.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Does not sound promising.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go. I don't meet those that ignore me especially if they had let me down before...but then i don't meet socially so for me it would be a massive effort to arrange the meet in the first place and I'd be expecting a lot more than a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

block him. meet someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it somewhere that you would go anyway? I organise socials at my local coffee shop where I don't mind spending a few hours most days anyway."

This

If it's not out of my way, I'd go. If it is, then no chance if he didn't confirm.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'd just tell him to do one and give some other guy a chance and see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thank you it's an area I no and is local I need to go to a post office so I'll go to the area I'm not holding my breath x

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

If he has logged in, he has seen your message and has not responded to you, my advice would be to not go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If he has logged in, he has seen your message and has not responded to you, my advice would be to not go.

He's logged in two hours after I sent the message not read it and not been on since x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't waste your time and effort if he can't be bothered replying! far too many mind games on here do your self a favour and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If he has logged in, he has seen your message and has not responded to you, my advice would be to not go.

He's logged in two hours after I sent the message not read it and not been on since x"

Depending on how much you wrote you can still "read" a message without opening it.

Don't go, he's not confirmed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he was keen to meet you he would have opened that message when he was online. I wouldn't risk it to be honest. You probably have men chomping at the bit to meet you, they areore worthy of your time more than he is.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"If he has logged in, he has seen your message and has not responded to you, my advice would be to not go.

He's logged in two hours after I sent the message not read it and not been on since x"

Send one more and tell him politely that unless he confirms he is showing up today, you won't be .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go but I would message to tell him

If he don't read it that's his fault if he turns up

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Unless somewhere you go anyway then no.

However i'd also be nervous of arranging a meet with a stranger somewhere I go frequently. He could turn out to be a weirdo, stalker or worse..

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"If he has logged in, he has seen your message and has not responded to you, my advice would be to not go.

He's logged in two hours after I sent the message not read it and not been on since x"

He could have just been on his phone and opened browser and fab been last page loaded so would show as being online.

But I'd wager as a single guy is not flooded with emails, so surprising not responded especially if it is something already being arranged and expected.

-Matt

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

Don't go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there hasnt been any contact by first thing in the morning then block and move on."

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact you are asking implies you are doubting it. Go with your gut instinct.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

"If he has logged in, he has seen your message and has not responded to you, my advice would be to not go.

He's logged in two hours after I sent the message not read it and not been on since x"
Then definitely don't bother wasting your time waiting to see if he shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbf...

My internet has been messing up lately and I've managed to read msg then not get back on for ages.. fingers crossed it's just something simple and he contacts..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally hate the fact that we have to confirm things that have already been agreed upon, these days. Does nobody's word mean $hite anymore?

"are we still on?"

I HATE this!

For me, if you say you're going to be somewhere or do something DO IT, no confirmation required! I don't care if we haven't spoken for weeks, I expect you to keep your word and if I can't trust your word how can I trust you? I can't!

I wouldn't even have given them a second chance if they stood you up the first time.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

When is it supposed to be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I wouldn't go. If he let you down once why give him a second chance? Plenty more men on here to enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go, no second chances

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"I personally hate the fact that we have to confirm things that have already been agreed upon, these days. Does nobody's word mean $hite anymore?

"are we still on?"

I HATE this!

I wouldn't even have given them a second chance if they stood you up the first time. "

Because sometimes life gets in the way. If I contact someone to say "Are we still on for Sunday?" that is me indicating that *I* have not forgotten the event and that they know *I* will be there, and that nothing has come up in the meantime, and that it gives them a chance to be able to cancel if need be e.g. if something has come up at their end.

It is nothing to do with my 'word' and all to do with courtesy.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When is it supposed to be?"

At 12 today x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I definitely wouldn't go!

What's your gut instinct telling you? I'd go with that!"
agreed

follow your instinct and if he's let you down before without good valid reason I wouldn't go

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"When is it supposed to be?

At 12 today x"

Are you going?

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Sounds like a time waster . If you really want to meet him arrange it at a swing club so if he lets you down at least you can find someone else of interest ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nooooooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go, have a cuppa, leave. If he doesn't show, report and block.

You could put a meet today up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey I've got a meet set up with a guy who I've been let down by before. We've got a date and time set. I've asked him to confirm if we're on but he ignored the message and has been on since.

Do I still go and take the chance of being stood up or not go as he hasn't confirmed and is likely not to go back online till Tomoz? Xx

"
block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally hate the fact that we have to confirm things that have already been agreed upon, these days. Does nobody's word mean $hite anymore?

"are we still on?"

I HATE this!

I wouldn't even have given them a second chance if they stood you up the first time.

It is nothing to do with my 'word' and all to do with courtesy.

-Matt"

You've missed my point entirely. It's not the person asking "are we still on?" that I'm annoyed with. It's the very fact that we have to ask the question at all. Life getting in the way has NOTHING to do with not keeping your word. If plans have to change then that's absolutely fine but you are responsible for LETTING THE OTHER PERSON KNOW. I shouldn't have to text/call you to see if your plans have changed. You should be letting ME know. If we want to use technology that way then we should use planner apps that can remind you of obligations so you never forget. Call me old fashioned but I don't care how long it's been since we made an agreement to meet. I WILL be there unless I have cancelled. No excuse for timewasting.

If £10,000 was being handed out, I bet they wouldn't miss it without rescheduling. Well my time is worth that much. I hate when people don't respect my time

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

No, I've not missed your point at all.

Let me word it differently: "What is wrong with a bit of extra courtesy?". You are not sorting out a business deal here, you are trying to meet up with another human being for some kind of intimacy.

One thing my wife has taught me about women is that a few extra words here and there are often highly appreciated. It doesn't matter what I am thinking or, in this case, that I *will* be there because I said so two weeks ago. It is me letting that person know that I am considerate, thinking of them and value them.

-Matt

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Did he show up??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go - he's the fool here. There are men on here that struggle for a meet, yet he's let you down before and doesn't read your messages? Move on, he's obviously one of those "I'm God's gift to women" types. Sounds to me like you've had a lucky escape OP - I'm sure you'll be able to get a meet with someone else who will treat you with the respect you deserve!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Hey I've got a meet set up with a guy who I've been let down by before. We've got a date and time set. I've asked him to confirm if we're on but he ignored the message and has been on since.

Do I still go and take the chance of being stood up or not go as he hasn't confirmed and is likely not to go back online till Tomoz? Xx

don't go your going out of your way taking time out of your day to meet someone new .

the very least that they can do be them a male female or couple is answer your polite enquiry asking if the date was still on and that nothing unexpected had cropped up on there end .

its just common decency to reply to your enquiry he really has no excuse not to with modern phones being hook up to the internet .

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx"

Yup, his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx"

Forget him. Plenty more out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx"

How's it is loss lol

He chose not to meet you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx

How's it is loss lol

He chose not to meet you

Guess ur right it's my loss as I made the effort and changed my plans around to meet him for him not to bother meeting!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Is it somewhere that you would go anyway? I organise socials at my local coffee shop where I don't mind spending a few hours most days anyway."

This

If it didn't put us out, we'd probably go.

If it meant going out of our way, definitely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx

How's it is loss lol

He chose not to meet you

Guess ur right it's my loss as I made the effort and changed my plans around to meet him for him not to bother meeting! "

Just that saying there loss really makes,me laugh

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I really should read the whole thread before replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx

How's it is loss lol

He chose not to meet you

Urmmm because he missed the chance to find out how great she is?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx

How's it is loss lol

He chose not to meet you

Guess ur right it's my loss as I made the effort and changed my plans around to meet him for him not to bother meeting!

Just wondering y have you blocked me when I never emailed you before?

Just that saying there loss really makes,me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx

How's it is loss lol

He chose not to meet you

Guess ur right it's my loss as I made the effort and changed my plans around to meet him for him not to bother meeting!

Just that saying there loss really makes,me laugh

Why? I just think you're being a bit argumentative

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not heard from him this is what he did last time he has my number too so he could have call to. Never mind his loss xx

How's it is loss lol

He chose not to meet you

Guess ur right it's my loss as I made the effort and changed my plans around to meet him for him not to bother meeting!

I think so as he's blocked me when I've never spoken to him x

Just that saying there loss really makes,me laugh

Why? I just think you're being a bit argumentative "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure y my last two post hasn't showed up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go that way if he don't turn up you have lost nothing but if he does then he knows how you felt last time

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Proves your gut instinct of doubt was right. Always trust your gut not the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok thank you it's an area I no and is local I need to go to a post office so I'll go to the area I'm not holding my breath x"

he has let you down before so ask yourself a question, how important is this guy to you,

do you really like him or are you not bothered, if yes then go and see if he turns up, if no then don't waste your time over him, spend your time looking for another guy instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not like he's got a full inbox like some women get!! He's blatantly ignored your message if he's been online..it's a bit hard to miss that yellow box..especially for a bloke on here!

Out of interest what was his excuse for letting you down before? If he was genuine he should be making a darn sight more of an effort this time..

I wouldn't go..plenty more to go at on here girl..his loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not like he's got a full inbox like some women get!! He's blatantly ignored your message if he's been online..it's a bit hard to miss that yellow box..especially for a bloke on here!

Out of interest what was his excuse for letting you down before? If he was genuine he should be making a darn sight more of an effort this time..

I wouldn't go..plenty more to go at on here girl..his loss."

He had to work was the last excuse but his not been on line since I'm not bothering with him again xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I made arrangement with a friend and hadn't heard from her I wouldn't go so a random from a sex site....eh no x

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