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By *wingers01 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stockton

weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to relax more if you are nervous then it is going to be difficult also try different positions like you being on top that way you can take control if it becomes uncomfortable.

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By *wingers01 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stockton

weve tried all that haha, get so far in and it kills! wouldnt wish him to have a smaller cock though! haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"weve tried all that haha, get so far in and it kills! wouldnt wish him to have a smaller cock though! haha"

Have you try using smaller toys first blg up it can help loosen up and relax you

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By *uninthesunlincsMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Try fingering and licking to start with and also a vibe on your clit teasing you bizzare i know but it does work! also try missionary position gives better angle for well hung guys.

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By *wingers01 OP   Couple
over a year ago

stockton

have to try that one.. never thought of missionary, we were going to try a smaller cock possibly in 3sum.. but thought it might kil the mood if i still couldnt get my partners in

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By *uninthesunlincsMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

I am sure it wouldnt ruin the mood as long as your relaxed with the other guy.

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

Missionary works for me

Although it normally helps that I am very excited (and that fact that it is toys being used on me).

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Get some butt pluggs,i say some cos start small and build up.My Master is rather large,and this training worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah forget but plugs even a no 2 traumatises me lol,id love to know how some women take a good back door kicking with no problems at all? whats the secret girls? (oh i nearly forgot )and guys ? i was thinking something along the lines of bonjella it works on gums so maybe it would work on bums lol,if u do find a way to make it easier and comfy _wingers01 please let me know as hubby is an arse mad wannabe lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this might sound mad but try Ice cubes they numb the ring

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

grit ya teeth

or

get a cock mold and do it of your hubbies dick

then try fucking him up the ass like he does you

if he can take it no problem then you take it no problem too

or

it is exit hole only lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

loads and loads of lube theres never enough lube when it comes to anal.

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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago

Cardiff/Newport/Bristol/M4

actually i can see why he likes to fuck your ass

WOW!!! what a butt lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"nah forget but plugs even a no 2 traumatises me lol,id love to know how some women take a good back door kicking with no problems at all? whats the secret girls? (oh i nearly forgot )and guys ? i was thinking something along the lines of bonjella it works on gums so maybe it would work on bums lol,if u do find a way to make it easier and comfy _wingers01 please let me know as hubby is an arse mad wannabe lol "

it's about relaxation,trust and wanting too.Oh and i rarey use lube.

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By *iz78Woman
over a year ago

wirral

there are alot of anal creams on the market with a numbing agent in them

also durex do a lube that u put in the freezer so it is easier to pop in the bum for anal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok here the secret....Get in the shower with your man. Make sure its nice and warm/hot....Heat loosens up muscle so it will relax your anus....While your in there use the time for foreplay....Do your thing...and during it make sure you get him to start fingering your ass increasing the number of fingers slowly......try a small dildo if you can but the key is to slowly increase the intensity as you want your body to relax...a massage before the shower will help with this...

once your out of the shower use a lot of lube/OIL it works wonders.try putting your legs behind your neck..whatevers comfortable.....get him to play with your ass a bit and concentrate on relaxing your ans letting him in...make him use a lot of lube on his dick too....make it as slippery as possible.....when hes abt to go in tell him to rub his cock against your ass first so your body is accalmitised to whats going to happen....do tell me how this works out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried it after the lady has cum , as this tends to relax you more and sometimes helps ,,,, so i am told ! lol

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Dont know what advice to give, as i love anal, and love it hard never need lube either. Guess some women suit it some dont not sure, but good luck on your quest xxxxx lol

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

I would suggest that you NEVER use anything to numb or desensitise the area. You feel pain for a good reason, its to tell you your body is being damaged. Too much, too soon and too fast can cause tears to tissue/muscles.

The anus has what might be compared to a 'gag reflex', such that if something tries to enter it, its natural reaction it to clam shut.

You need to learn to control this reflex action. Sorry but this is gonna get a bit graphic.. you need to concentrate on pushing like you're trying to have a dump, that dilates/relaxes the anus and sphincter.

Use a lubricant cream of some sort, E45 lotion,or a quality hand cream. Spit is nowhere near good enough (for a beginner at least) and KY tends to dry up too quick. You might do better to warm up the cream first, anything cold is likely to make you clam up all the more.

And as someone has suggested already, start with a finger, then two, then three, take you time and don't try and rush it... enjoy

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Go face down on a pillow, get a mouthfull, and bite down,,,,, hard!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would suggest that you NEVER use anything to numb or desensitise the area. You feel pain for a good reason, its to tell you your body is being damaged. Too much, too soon and too fast can cause tears to tissue/muscles.

The anus has what might be compared to a 'gag reflex', such that if something tries to enter it, its natural reaction it to clam shut.

You need to learn to control this reflex action. Sorry but this is gonna get a bit graphic.. you need to concentrate on pushing like you're trying to have a dump, that dilates/relaxes the anus and sphincter.

Use a lubricant cream of some sort, E45 lotion,or a quality hand cream. Spit is nowhere near good enough (for a beginner at least) and KY tends to dry up too quick. You might do better to warm up the cream first, anything cold is likely to make you clam up all the more.

And as someone has suggested already, start with a finger, then two, then three, take you time and don't try and rush it... enjoy "

Well said about anything to numb or desntisise.....and to OP, if it's too big don't go any further, enjoy everyting else you like though

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By *arysueCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Try an anal speculum you can stretch your bum slowly,it works for me,and of course lube lube lube

Sue xxx

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

as this is a swinging site I recommend finding a guy with a slimmer cock im seven and a half inches but not too thick and quite popular for Dp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god I love anal!! All I need is a little rimming and I'm more than ready for cock! I even orgasm through anal!!

X

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"Oh god I love anal!! All I need is a little rimming and I'm more than ready for cock! I even orgasm through anal!!

X"

And what about the misses, does she like anal too?

Sorry, yes its silly but I couldn't resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he have to shove it in all the way? Just go so deep that it still feels good

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

Oh dear, just read this thread and it made me very horny!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "

get it wrong and its crap

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips?

get it wrong and its crap "

Lol very apt Sam!

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By *witch mix vanillaCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.

You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable.

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By *ue care and attentionWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.

You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable. "

Even better with a rabbit in pussy at the same time...mindblowing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.

You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable.

Even better with a rabbit in pussy at the same time...mindblowing! "

Now that is turning me on too !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even better with a rabbit in pussy at the same time...mindblowing! "

mmmm that is such fun

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By *ockwell DominusMan
over a year ago

Birstall

Frankie says "Relax"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok hear goes ,first lube up get him to finger in you as deep as he can with a well lubed finger for a while ,then i find lie on your side with your knees up towards your chest as far as you can,this will strating out your back passage have your lover lube up realy well place his cock on your bum hole push in then when he is in a little you bare down as if pooing this opens up your spincer a little do this a few times pulling out lubing up each time ,take your time then it will sudenly pop in, some times a little painfull but you will get used to it

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth


"I would suggest that you NEVER use anything to numb or desensitise the area. You feel pain for a good reason, its to tell you your body is being damaged. Too much, too soon and too fast can cause tears to tissue/muscles.

The anus has what might be compared to a 'gag reflex', such that if something tries to enter it, its natural reaction it to clam shut.

You need to learn to control this reflex action. Sorry but this is gonna get a bit graphic.. you need to concentrate on pushing like you're trying to have a dump, that dilates/relaxes the anus and sphincter.

"

glad someone warned you about desensitising creams not a good idea.

i find a spoons postition works for us as well as on top and on my knees. also works when i have the strap on.

a enima works to help clean you out , and lube, lube lube and then more lube.. you can buy lube in single dose tubes that put the lube right inside. these are good as a top up.. as the lube is inside as well .

and relax,, explore the area as much as possible with fingers, toys tongue what ever turns you on, and i am sure you will get there..

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"actually i can see why he likes to fuck your ass

WOW!!! what a butt lol"

We second that!!!

We have found plenty of lube, plenty of warmup play works for us.

Post orgasm seems to help to lol.

Xx

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "

Use something to bite down hard on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "

It is not compulsory. Only do it if and when you are ready and really want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tried germolene instead of vaseline but it healed up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to give you some advice -

But after reading this thread I'm just so damn horny that I can't think of anything but the delicious feel of a huge cock buried deep in my bum - it's been too long and now you've made me desperate for it again...waaaa!!!!!

All I can say is that it takes time to slowly stretch, but keep using bigger and bigger things and you'll get there in a few weeks... and, ohmygod - it's worth it!!!! Make it a fun thing between you to see how much you can slowly stretch and what new things you can manage to take and enjoy...

I think that I need to go and get on my hands and knees now and seriously abuse my biggest dildo...

.... hell, I'm so horny!

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By *manteukMan
over a year ago

surrey


"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "

Try Anne Summers Booty Lube, Worked for my Ex, got a muscle relaxant and good lasting lube. And slow and easy too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we first tried it in amsterdam must have been the wacky backy lol.

no seriously have a drink to relax

let hubby have your pussy first to warm you up i use lube but take it slowly im in charge i lead him in so i know how far

i can take it ,but do it bit by bit till you get used to it .

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Pick someone with a little willy

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ann summers dont sell booty lube anymore, but your right it was good stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovehoney do an anal gel that desensitizes the area making anal alot easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lovehoney do an anal gel that desensitizes the area making anal alot easier "

oh really? do they now.

(im taking notes you know, heard all about you!) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oiiiii

i just look at the pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oiiiii

i just look at raisealaffs pictures "

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By *RMADCHICKCouple
over a year ago

cheltenham

you need a guy for a theesome me and maddie did this and it was great he was up her arse as he was smaller an i was fucking her some of the best orgasums ever for all and would repeat again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oiiiii

i just look at raisealaffs pictures

"

the laffing boy strikes again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any Advice on Anal???

It gives you a sore bum!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not if done correctly

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

ID Millennium lube. Silicone based so it never dries..its perfect for Anal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not if done correctly but I do have a serious tagnut problem so anals not really an option for me "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he doesnt mind me doing you the honours in the mean time until your backdoor is ready

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

Lubrication lubrication and more lubrication try an anal relaxant dont try it until at least one orgasm vaginally beter still try my cock which is an inch shorter but much slimer and will feel great with your guys 9 in a DP

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By *hiluk1ukMan
over a year ago

Prescot

Some people are just not cut out to receive anal, either physically or mentally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.

You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable.

ooh yesss i can vouch on this one will blow your mind

Even better with a rabbit in pussy at the same time...mindblowing! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, I have to be in the mood. Then I find it's best to be really relaxed, very, very turned on, definitely post an orgasm or two, lots of lube and for me, the best way is doggie, but the man doesn't move... I am the one who controls the movement and just take it really, really slowly, bit by bit...

Mmmm.... Hope you manage it! Really does give the most intense orgasms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"actually i can see why he likes to fuck your ass

WOW!!! what a butt lol"

got agree very nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take it very very slow have a lot of play before hard fingers, toys and tongue and then loads of lube but my ex always said it hurt like hell and she had to be turned on to the max before I could enter her but I think after the first flush of pain she would get into a lot but had to go slow before i could go like fuck!!

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

relax enjoy and love it, once its in OHh my god fuck it hard. But thats just me a dirty woman i guess xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go face down on a pillow, get a mouthfull, and bite down,,,,, hard!!! "

I use a bit of wood to bite on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly, I have to be in the mood. Then I find it's best to be really relaxed, very, very turned on, definitely post an orgasm or two, lots of lube and for me, the best way is doggie, but the man doesn't move... I am the one who controls the movement and just take it really, really slowly, bit by bit...

This is best way i find as well YOU have to be incontrol. The 1st little bit does hurt but push past that and your away .... enjoy

Mmmm.... Hope you manage it! Really does give the most intense orgasms! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you need a right good fisting , then it wont be a problem from there on in

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