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I posted a meet and my regular buddy went ballistic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Blokes do get jealous! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised you're still on fab with all the hassle you get op

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"
Does he meet other women x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If you had only seen him for 6 months he might have presumed that neither of you are looking to see other people separately, so it came as a bit of a shock to him.

Obviously I don't know the situation but I'm just trying to think what may have happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I've never had anything like that. By the sounds of some things I read on here it seems like I've had an easy, hassle and jealousy free existence on here.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No, but I think you've done the right thing. I prefer to have sex with women who have a healthy sex life and have sex with a variety of men. I can't bare exclusivity and clingyness and a sense of ownership.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Sometimes it one rule for you and another one for him From your post I would say you done the right thing by walking away

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"No"
gizza kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's no need to explain yourself,he obviously has issues

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"

Nope. I must be lucky, I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No because I'm very clear from the outset that I will never be exclusive even if I meet a guy regularly.

I'd probably have been brutally honest in response and told him that actually he wasn't enough for me sexually and I'll fuck whoever I want whenever I want, before blocking him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"

I'd tell the daft cunt to fuck off

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"No gizza kiss "
kissy kissy and thats and thats as nice as i get

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

Last yr as a newbie I met a bloke that wanted me to be exclusive but he wasn't expected to do the same.....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should be flattered that he doesn't want to share you. I presume with time he had some feeling for you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"

Yes I've had a couple who didn't want me meeting others while we met regularly. You see the signs after 4 or 5 meets. Even had them block me and so loose their veris. It does surprise me at times as it's a swing site but then it shouldn't really as there are all sorts on here looking for very different things.

I tend to just say if I wanted an exclusive relationship I'd be dating and get married and remind them I met them here not in the pub or some vanilla environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"

How did you revise your profile?

Did you discuss what kind of 'relationship' you wanted with the man you were seeing for 6 months? FB/ FWB/ monogamy/ NSA etc?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

tell him to fuck off then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm surprised you're still on fab with all the hassle you get op "

That's a bit of an unnecessary remark I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much drama in your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of feel for him. But I know exactly what you mean obviously not knowing all the details it sounds like lack of him saying he wants more and you not saying you don't. It's a shame when good things finish though. But hey plenty more fish in the fab sea xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab? Does he meet other women x"

Well he never had any success he told me. Only had a few older verifications!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised you're still on fab with all the hassle you get op

That's a bit of an unnecessary remark I think"

The green arrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised you're still on fab with all the hassle you get op

That's a bit of an unnecessary remark I think

The green arrow "

What of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised you're still on fab with all the hassle you get op

That's a bit of an unnecessary remark I think

The green arrow

What of it?"

The pack have arrived

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I choose my companions very wisely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I would do the same as you if I did, and walk away.

Not here to meet exclusively but not here to meet loads either and if someone was needy that would be game over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No but I would do the same as you if I did, and walk away.

Not here to meet exclusively but not here to meet loads either and if someone was needy that would be game over. "

Yep totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm surprised you're still on fab with all the hassle you get op

That's a bit of an unnecessary remark I think

The green arrow

What of it?

The pack have arrived "

What pack?

Are you okay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"

No , but if we did we would do exactly the same as you have

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Too much drama in your life. "

Compared to many of the profiles and forum posts.my life is very very tame!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an adult and if I'm meeting someone regularly we discuss what we want and come to an agreement.

I don't know why some people think it's ok to shit all over other people's feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When jealously rears it's ugly head the best thing to do is turn the other way and walk away very quickly ! It's not an attractive quality at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sort of situation is why I always had the rule that anyone I met had to be actively meeting others. Even now Redhead is meeting other people and that's one of the basic tenets of our relationship. This is a swingers site, if you want exclusivity then you need to be very specific and probably join love harmony

Beard

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Had a guy go a bit crazy on us because after we'd arranged a meet we hadn't deleted the meet we'd put up. In fairness we'd been here a few weeks and didn't think to do so, apologised and then starting getting one word replies so decided to call it all off and blocked, cue the abusive messages via his alternative accounts.

Do as you please OP it's a swinging site after all.

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By *irty filthy milfWoman
over a year ago

somewhere only i know!


"Last yr as a newbie I met a bloke that wanted me to be exclusive but he wasn't expected to do the same.....? "

Now that doesn't work! I've had guys saying they're ok with me going to clubs without them then get a million questions and sulky messages the day after and even had 1 guy that would randomly turn up at my house to check up on me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"

he developed feeling for you which is not a crime by the way in my book .as I often develop feeling for long term play partners and I know they do develop the same feelings towards me .plus I find such feelings improve the sexual dynamic when they exist the high from the sex is higher .

his crime was to allow feeling he had for you to ruin the dynamic he had with you by making his feeling for you your problem when instead he should of dealt with them internally and never bothered you with his feeling of jealous .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was exclusive to my ex fwb due (a) our bdsm dynamic, (b) I didn't have any time to meet anyone else .

Ironically he's now exclusive to his fwb

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By *ilvercharmCouple
over a year ago

Our gate


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?

I'd tell the daft cunt to fuck off "
pmsl sound like a plan

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

This isn't the place for monogamy what did he expect.

I've had similar and just ditched him as can't be dealing with drama of a jealous person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had that from men I have met, sometimes only met them once, post a meet and its "what about me, aren't I good enough then" I just want to play, not do exclusive. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. When I had my own account I met a guy a few times, went to clubs etc. I'd always ask him first if I was after a meet. One time he couldn't make it so I went out with another guy and he went mad! We met up for a chat a week later which ended up in a huge argument....He couldn't understand why it was ok for him to have sex with others' but not me. Idiot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?"

He doesn't get it at all does he. You belong to you not to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I wouldn't go exclusive can't be doing with the hassle, plus there's just to much choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've had jealousy happen but I don't tolerate it any more.

I get turned on by knowing those I meet, meet others and vice versa. That's part of the fun of swinging for me.

Have you spoken to him about why he felt like that and maybe then, you can find a way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't but then again I don't seem to attract any of the drama that some others appear to on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?

I'd tell the daft cunt to fuck off "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had been seeing one guy from fab for six months and we met regularly at clubs and one of his flats. However when I posted a meet and revised my profile when I was away with work he became very upset and angry saying it was obvious I was on the site to sleep around and that obviously he was not enough for me sexually.

I did enjoy his company but not on here for monogamy. I enjoy social meets too. I decided to end our meets. Anyone else had a similar situation arise on fab?

he developed feeling for you which is not a crime by the way in my book .as I often develop feeling for long term play partners and I know they do develop the same feelings towards me .plus I find such feelings improve the sexual dynamic when they exist the high from the sex is higher .

his crime was to allow feeling he had for you to ruin the dynamic he had with you by making his feeling for you your problem when instead he should of dealt with them internally and never bothered you with his feeling of jealous . "

Spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had jealous guys who think that them and Paul should be enough for me, they get told good bye! If my husband isn't possessive I don't expect others to be so. But if someone had "lost" it with me, well they would get a block and removed from my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you could have asked why he was on fab etc.....

My only advice is to be clear with people what kind of relatioship you want from the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my old profile, too many times! It's the risk you take when looking for regular. Some can become a little too attached .

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By *heekyslagWoman
over a year ago

Chippenham

I've only experienced guys feeling protective rather than jealous and but if that's the case then you're probably better off going your separate ways.. nobody wants a green eyed fuck buddy

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