FabSwingers.com forum: "Back Again" new profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've seen alot of profiles saying "back again" with a new profile asking for people they have met before for verifications. I don't it's right, not sure if other members agree..

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I've seen alot of profiles saying "back again" with a new profile asking for people they have met before for verifications. I don't it's right, not sure if other members agree.."

I never really understood this myself. Why keep deleting profiles if your taking a break just switch the profile to hidden and come back when ready.

Maybe someone can enlighten me but I don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if people start a new relationship with someone out of the swinging scene, they're maybe expected to delete it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No self control

haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if people start a new relationship with someone out of the swinging scene, they're maybe expected to delete it... "

This is exactly what happened with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen alot of profiles saying "back again" with a new profile asking for people they have met before for verifications. I don't it's right, not sure if other members agree..

I never really understood this myself. Why keep deleting profiles if your taking a break just switch the profile to hidden and come back when ready.

Maybe someone can enlighten me but I don't get it

probably they get blocked by people they like.

i used to veri new profiles of my previous meets but stopped doing it because i thought maybe they're up to something shady on here, such as harassing someone who blocked them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We deleted out old profile whilst Mr was away for a while working, when we came back we put back again (admittedly probably should take that off now) and privately asked one friend to 're verify us but we have also seen them since so they were happy to do so.

Sonetines people need a break or have to take one, and some hide their profiles and some delete and start again, it's what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left but came back quite recently. The negative side of fab got to me and I thought I'd needed it out of my life. Anyway, I missed it all so here I am again with a few re-verifications. It was actually quite good to throw off some old associations and start afresh. Previously I had thought the same as you ladies though I must admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've verified people who have left and come back but they have been guys I've kept in touch with off site.

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

"If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left a few times, because I didn't want to be here at that time.

I've also deleted Angry Birds from my phone a couple of times, because I got bored.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also think that people who meet people off site shouldn't verify them on the site... cos it makes people think they are genuine,but clearly only on for chat and not meets, thus being considered timewasters.. and spoils it for other who are genuine on the site...

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

They must pee ppl of and have to leave me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied) "

i ask them to call me to check, well i did when i was reverifying them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also think that people who meet people off site shouldn't verify them on the site... cos it makes people think they are genuine,but clearly only on for chat and not meets, thus being considered timewasters.. and spoils it for other who are genuine on the site..."

Why not? Just because they have met off site doesn't make them automatically time wasters or not wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with you. They're saddos that can't stand the pace or the heat of fab! Idiots!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had my first profile set up by my best friend 3 years ago.

I deleted that original account after about a year.

My needs, desires changed.

Then I found myself back, so yes I did when starting this profile ask for my previous meets to verify me as genuine. I see no harm in it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've verified people who have left and come back but they have been guys I've kept in touch with off site."

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

""If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied)

i ask them to call me to check, well i did when i was reverifying them."

That's what the thoughtful people do. But a lot of people here don't seem to think with their brains.

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By *tephens11Man
over a year ago

Leeds

""If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied) "

Agree they only have to hide there profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've left a few times, because I didn't want to be here at that time.

I've also deleted Angry Birds from my phone a couple of times, because I got bored.

I deleted pokemon go cause I decided it was a shit waste of time after conquering a gym

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't think anyone should verify people on the site they have met off the site.. verifications is to show people that they are genuine and that they have met them on the site.. and not off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think anyone should verify people on the site they have met off the site.. verifications is to show people that they are genuine and that they have met them on the site.. and not off... "

So, because I have friends who also swing whom I've known for years it's wrong for them to verify that I am a genuine individual even though I may not have fucked them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think anyone should verify people on the site they have met off the site.. verifications is to show people that they are genuine and that they have met them on the site.. and not off... "

No it shows they are a real person, whether the meet was on here or off. That's all a verification is to show a person is real surely? Whether that be an old friend or a random meet from here.

Surely that would also mean if you may someone in a club without knowing their profile on here you can't verify them as you didn't meet on here. It makes no sense at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied)

i ask them to call me to check, well i did when i was reverifying them.

That's what the thoughtful people do. But a lot of people here don't seem to think with their brains.

lol, i am glad for my tiny brain sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you been swinging with them off the site and seen their profile on the site you shouldn't ask them for verification,cos it's not right..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you been swinging with them off the site and seen their profile on the site you shouldn't ask them for verification,cos it's not right.."

Most of our verifications are from club meets, so your saying we shouldn't be verified from anyone we have met in a club and visa versa?

In that case half of fab wouldn't be verified be that man, woman, couples, TV/TS as a lot of people use clubs as a meeting place instead of their homes or hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you been swinging with them off the site and seen their profile on the site you shouldn't ask them for verification,cos it's not right.."

The whole point of a verification for my point of view, is so you can look and see that they are infact genuine?

It's a safety net.

Or, let's look at it this way.

A friend offers you advice on a male or female that you are interested in dating, you have known this friend for a long time, do you dismiss this persons opinions?

Or, it's like buying a car with or without service history.... Which would you go for? (p.s. If it's the latter I'm selling my VW polo with part service history, great runner, no issues....but you'll just need to take my word for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I don't think anyone should verify people on the site they have met off the site.. verifications is to show people that they are genuine and that they have met them on the site.. and not off... "

I don't see that it matters where they have met. All a veri does is prove that they are who they say they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied)

Agree they only have to hide there profile"

I promised myself to give up alcohol but rather than leave the bottles in the cupboard I cleared them all away. Sometime later my Cupboard has alcohol and I am drinking. We sometimes seriously decide to give something up, the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have to delete there account due to stalkers and make new ones it's ok reporting them but they can soon make up new email accounts and rejoin .

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I don't think anyone should verify people on the site they have met off the site.. verifications is to show people that they are genuine and that they have met them on the site.. and not off...

I don't see that it matters where they have met. All a veri does is prove that they are who they say they are

Yep,my first veri was from someone on another site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've left a few times, because I didn't want to be here at that time.

I've also deleted Angry Birds from my phone a couple of times, because I got bored.

Sounds about right. I'll delete if I'm going to be off the site longer than a month or so, it's easy enough to just set up a new profile. Nothing more sinister than that. I've been verified by and verified others who I've met on previous profiles.

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By *horley ChickWoman
over a year ago

Chorley

"I've seen alot of profiles saying "back again" with a new profile asking for people they have met before for verifications. I don't it's right, not sure if other members agree.."

I think it's perfectly ok!

For single males especially it's very difficult to get meets without verifications. If people met them and liked them from their previous profile, why shouldn't they verify them again to give them a helping hand? As long as we're not talking several years ago of course - in which case I suggest you'd need to arrange a social to ensure they look like their pics etc!

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By *moothdanMan
over a year ago

Northumberland

It's a way for some to keep changing their age. Tend to find most come back with 40 years old as they come up more often within an age range of the search option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen alot of profiles saying "back again" with a new profile asking for people they have met before for verifications. I don't it's right, not sure if other members agree..

I never really understood this myself. Why keep deleting profiles if your taking a break just switch the profile to hidden and come back when ready.

Maybe someone can enlighten me but I don't get it

Will be "hiding" our profile next time we decide to take a break. Didn't know this was an option. Easier than re-writing the profile.

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

""If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied) "

Good point. I'd never thought of that.

Most of the time the 'we are back again' is on a profile over a year old, and I just think "Oh, so they don't even bother to update it".

or.. if there is any text about "We know how this works, time wasters stay away" or any other passive aggressive bullshit, then I just think they are drama queens.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""If you remember me from before, please send a verification"

What's to say that it's definitely the same person/couple behind the profile? Especially with no pics. (but even with pics, they may have been copied) "

I've reverified one or two..but only when theyve given details of our previous meeting that Joe public wouldn't have known.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The two people have met, they should be free to verify each other on the site surely?

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