FabSwingers.com forum: Too Rough?

By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Hi every one don't know about your self's but I loveee rough sex the animalist side of it but what is too rough?

For me I love hair pulling spanking name calling throwing a lady round the bed gagging her on cock rough anal lots of bdsm and we'll anything kinky and fun but

what is too far?

I would never hit any one or choke them til they went blue but it's a thin line beween rough and abusive

(just to make it clear every thing I have done I had ok'ed it with the ladies I have played with and they have enjoyed it)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone's idea of too rough will be different so it's a individual case situation. I enjoy rough sex, similarly to what you have mentioned but not with every fab meet, Paul can do that with me, had it with a couple of fab meets but it's people who I feel I could trust and who "got" me. Therefore they know what kink works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The possibility is better than the actuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's down to the individual.

I love when my dom spanks, canes, strangles and hurts me.

However if any Joe bloggs tried what he does to me I'd flat out try and kill em

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Everyone's idea of too rough will be different so it's a individual case situation. I enjoy rough sex, similarly to what you have mentioned but not with every fab meet, Paul can do that with me, had it with a couple of fab meets but it's people who I feel I could trust and who "got" me. Therefore they know what kink works for me. "

Oh I under stand it's just been talking to a fwb and she has not seen my full rough side but iam not sure if ied wanna with her I do enjoy what we have but it got me thinking as you say every one will be diffrent

Some spanking or hair pulling may not be for them bu others won't stop til blood

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"The possibility is better than the actuality. "

Very true

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"It's down to the individual.

I love when my dom spanks, canes, strangles and hurts me.

However if any Joe bloggs tried what he does to me I'd flat out try and kill em

Lol oh I get you there I would never just meet a girl and do such unless we had talked about it lol just reading horror story's about girls cutting one night stands and lads donkey punching girls and such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit wary of rough sex with strangers as I wouldn't want to findyself in court lol

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"I'm a bit wary of rough sex with strangers as I wouldn't want to findyself in court lol"

True mate it has happend before guys having rough sex with a lass then her saying he raped her or some thing that's why I always making sure we know what's going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rough sex just feels wrong to me. Maybe that's an issue with me but never been able to get my head round it. Maybe too easy for someone to get actually hurt?

(My opinion only here, not judging others at all).

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"The possibility is better than the actuality. "

As Lady Tissington has said succinctly!

Chemistry and trust is a perogative in these situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for hitting some one during sex there's always that worry you will hot to hard and next thing she's cruing and calling you names ant showing u the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't 'do' rough - I'm generally squeamish and don't like to hurt anyone.

My very first Fab meet was a bit of a fun crazy one (she's now UNLOS sadly) - wanted me to vigorously finger fu*k her so she squirted and also really pinch her nipples hard (like *really* hard!) as she didn't have much sensitivity in them.

She seemed to enjoy it all but it didn't quite feel right for me, I'm more a 'make love not war' type of guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The possibility is better than the actuality.

As Lady Tissington has said succinctly!

Chemistry and trust is a perogative in these situations

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By *r TemptationMan
over a year ago

York

Yes - know what you mean - we all have limits and I have had ladies ask me to go way beyond mine and the answer was 'No' as not got a nasty streak in me.

Also had a friend who loved it rough and we had a bit of a laugh but we both knew I could never be bad enough to her and it just felt wrong to me and She knew it but thought it was funny but loved me for trying.

Guess it takes all sorts and for me I am a softie and would be mortified if I hurt anyone or overstepped the mark - each to their own I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you have a guy completely ignore 'not so hard', not just once, but several times, and keep doing exactly what he was before, and then tell you afterwards it was your fault, 'you should have said stop' ... Yeah... Trust... Ho ho ho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you have a guy completely ignore 'not so hard', not just once, but several times, and keep doing exactly what he was before, and then tell you afterwards it was your fault, 'you should have said stop' ... Yeah... Trust... Ho ho ho "

Not being funny but that is abuse.

I was in a very abuse relationship several years ago, physically and emotionally..... Very very bad.

However as time has passed I have learnt that I am able to enjoy the things that are taboo but remain in control.

I do not give myself lightly in that manner at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*abusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being funny but that is abuse.

I was in a very abuse relationship several years ago, physically and emotionally..... Very very bad.

However as time has passed I have learnt that I am able to enjoy the things that are taboo but remain in control.

I do not give myself lightly in that manner at all x"

Yeah, no shit.

Seems to me that I may as well be on a dating site, the time it takes to build a sufficient amount of trust. And even then.... Right, where's my habit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being funny but that is abuse.

I was in a very abuse relationship several years ago, physically and emotionally..... Very very bad.

However as time has passed I have learnt that I am able to enjoy the things that are taboo but remain in control.

I do not give myself lightly in that manner at all x

Yeah, no shit.

Seems to me that I may as well be on a dating site, the time it takes to build a sufficient amount of trust. And even then.... Right, where's my habit? "

I really do get that....

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Couple of digs to the kidneys and some eye gouging.............

Oh rough sex!!

Thought you said rugby.....my bad!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like rough sometimes, but what you describe OP is way beyond anything I'd be comfortable with.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I met a guy who wanted to 'rag doll' me, not sure if that's a proper term but it's what he called it. I enjoyed it as I trusted him, I wouldn't let anyone do that sort of thing

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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

How I see it is if it's with some one who trusts me and we have both talked about it then it's fine but not to just do it randomly on a meet or a 1 night stand

I would never do some thing we(me and a fwb) had not talked about and such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rough sex is awesome but as others have said, it takes trust and time to work out boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate rough sex

Anything where i feel the guy is just viewing me as a piece of meat to fuck for his pleasure only is to far for me

I have got up and walked out of many meets because the guys been too rough with me, from ridiculously aggressive finger fucking to being slammed that hard they have nearly put my head through the wall

Its not nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a two way street; I'm pretty vanilla but it would take me a while to feel comfortable even lightly spanking someone.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

"I hate rough sex

Anything where i feel the guy is just viewing me as a piece of meat to fuck for his pleasure only is to far for me

Its not nice

Absolutely...turns us both off instantly ...prefer gentle sensuous sex but OK with being a bit more vigorous (different from rough) when the time is right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fine line between rough and abusive? It's where the other person says no, or uses their safe word. There's a some play in the SM scene that could be seen as abusive, but as long as both parties concent, there's no forcing and there's good comunication I can't see much could be abusive.

OP - You need to talk to your partner about their limits.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Hi every one don't know about your self's but I loveee rough sex the animalist side of it but what is too rough?

For me I love hair pulling spanking name calling throwing a lady round the bed gagging her on cock rough anal lots of bdsm and we'll anything kinky and fun but

what is too far?

I would never hit any one or choke them til they went blue but it's a thin line beween rough and abusive

(just to make it clear every thing I have done I had ok'ed it with the ladies I have played with and they have enjoyed it) "

That's what I call too rough

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

My husband is into much rougher sex than me. He likes to pull hair and I hate it because it hurts me.

So he doesn't do rough stuff with me. He doesn't believe me when I say he's the roughest guy I've been with. He's very muscly and I think sometimes he doesn't know his own strength?

I love it when he holds onto me really tightly while he fucks me though. That's a huge turn on.

Any guy I've been with from Fab seems so ridiculously gentle by comparison, I wonder if they think I'm fragile or something? It's a nice contrast though and I'm glad I can have both in my sex life.

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