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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seen quite a few admirers of BBW knockin about on here but not really many who appreciate larger build guys.

Being relatively new to the swing scene, is being big and hairy as taboo here as it is on the 'gay' social networking sites ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is a BBM a big bowel movement?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is a BBM a big bowel movement?"

be serious fella - u know what i meant

i don't know if the acronym exists for guys as it does for girls but thought i'd use it anyway !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i personally love a nice broad fella mmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to think a larger build fella wasnt for me but after sunday im think maybe x

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By *iercedTattooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

bangor

I think you will find its BHM big handsome man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you will find its BHM big handsome man!

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hey thanks for clearing that up for me !

as they say, you learn something new every day

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By *iercedTattooedBBWWoman
over a year ago

bangor

No problem at all

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"i used to think a larger build fella wasnt for me but after sunday im think maybe x"

ooohhh who caught your eye sunday then hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i used to think a larger build fella wasnt for me but after sunday im think maybe x

ooohhh who caught your eye sunday then hehe"

a few did and a few didnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is a BBM a big bowel movement?"

Shit ..... !! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen quite a few admirers of BBW knockin about on here but not really many who appreciate larger build guys.

Being relatively new to the swing scene, is being big and hairy as taboo here as it is on the 'gay' social networking sites ?"

ARE big, hairy men taboo on 'gay' social networking sites?

I thought these 'bears' had loads of admirers. Not everyone's taste, I accept, but popular in some quarters.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

As a lover of "bears" god i hate labels, i have to say i thought they were quite popular on the gay scene,i mean thats where the term bear comes from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own we like to get on with folk no matter their size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many who just go for the personality anyway. They think looks don't count so i wouldn't worry there will always be someone for every one as the world is full of people with low self esteem.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"There are many who just go for the personality anyway. They think looks don't count so i wouldn't worry there will always be someone for every one as the world is full of people with low self esteem."

What the fuck?

i dont thinks looks count,because sex starts in the mind,and the best sex is with those who can turn you on.Not worrying about looks doesn't mean you are desperate,it can mean you are looking for something better than surface good looks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are many who just go for the personality anyway. They think looks don't count so i wouldn't worry there will always be someone for every one as the world is full of people with low self esteem."

there is no 'low self esteem' on my part, rather a curiosity as to how someone who isn't 'toned' shall we say fits into things on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seen quite a few admirers of BBW knockin about on here but not really many who appreciate larger build guys.

Being relatively new to the swing scene, is being big and hairy as taboo here as it is on the 'gay' social networking sites ?

ARE big, hairy men taboo on 'gay' social networking sites?

I thought these 'bears' had loads of admirers. Not everyone's taste, I accept, but popular in some quarters. "

there are specific sites aimed at big men but if you go on mainstream sites like gaydar you are very limited to meets unless you are under 30, toned, hung like a horse and describe yourself as 'fit' &/or 'very good looking'

with regards to the bear look being popular, it is more so these days but then again the big guys 6ft plus with rugby player builds are the ones that generally get the candy

my hope with fabswingers is really to try and find people who have far wider tastes than the mainstream sites i have had profiles on in the past

it does however seem more 'acceptable' to the majority to be curvy and a woman than it is curvy and a man ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont like over weight guys myself, if im going to be honest

i dont think its a taboo tho, they just not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I'm surprised about the amount of BBW profiles on here and other sites insist there men to be fit,toned and athletic with a six pack... !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Actually I'm surprised about the amount of BBW profiles on here and other sites insist there men to be fit,toned and athletic with a six pack... !"

it's all a matter of taste - just coz a person is big doesn't mean that they find other big people attractive.

i prefer leaner guys n gals but dont rule out anyone based on body size. what is important to me is that i find someone facially attractive. if i do, i tend to overlook body shape / age / cock size and all the other things we use to 'judge' someones attractiveness.

but that is purely MY take on things and i know other people will have a whole different view of how to perceive someone is attractive to them or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many who just go for the personality anyway. They think looks don't count so i wouldn't worry there will always be someone for every one as the world is full of people with low self esteem."

Another bizarre comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm big: size 22, but I've never been attracted to a big man. My ex husband is 6ft and 12st 6lbs, my partner is 6ft 5lbs and runs marathons for fun.

Just because you're big doesn't mean you're going to be attracted to other big people. Would you expect a blue eyed person to only be attracted to other blue eyed people?!! Of course not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I'm surprised about the amount of BBW profiles on here and other sites insist there men to be fit,toned and athletic with a six pack... !"

why?

all because you look a certain way does not mean you have to find that attractive in others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many who just go for the personality anyway. They think looks don't count so i wouldn't worry there will always be someone for every one as the world is full of people with low self esteem.

Another bizarre comment! "

Im glad you understood it to think its bizarre cause im still trying to work out what he means lol

Best i have come up with is people with low self esteem shag fat people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many who just go for the personality anyway. They think looks don't count so i wouldn't worry there will always be someone for every one as the world is full of people with low self esteem.

Another bizarre comment!

Im glad you understood it to think its bizarre cause im still trying to work out what he means lol

Best i have come up with is people with low self esteem shag fat people? "

I read it as people with low self esteem - doesn't have to be just fat: ugly, short, unemployed, homeless, single mothers with multiple kids etc, will shag anyone that gives them the time of day!

As I said...bizarre, but I find most of his posts that way, so hey...ho!

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By *ippsANDbigPCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

i dont like skinny or muscular men. i much prefer bigger men , not over weight men just bigger.

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By *elen HewieCouple
over a year ago

Gateshead

we are both BBW and BBM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i dont like skinny or muscular men. i much prefer bigger men , not over weight men just bigger."

u mean like tall guys who carry their weight ?

i am talking overweight aka fat guys aka blokes with a belly

i fit that description and am ok with it - just wondering why it seems more 'acceptable' for women to be big on the swinging scene and not so much the men ?

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By *ippsANDbigPCouple
over a year ago

sheffield


"i dont like skinny or muscular men. i much prefer bigger men , not over weight men just bigger.

u mean like tall guys who carry their weight ?

i am talking overweight aka fat guys aka blokes with a belly

i fit that description and am ok with it - just wondering why it seems more 'acceptable' for women to be big on the swinging scene and not so much the men ?"
yes as long as he carries it well, i dont mind a bit of a belly.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If you went to somewhere like chams you will see there are a lot of big men on the scene.Swingers are not all athletic men with size 10 partners. Its a general cross section of the public and everyone feels comfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you went to somewhere like chams you will see there are a lot of big men on the scene.Swingers are not all athletic men with size 10 partners. Its a general cross section of the public and everyone feels comfortable"

aww cheers for that. need to try a swinging club. only ever been to a men only sauna. i was bad enough in there so with hot ladies and clits dying to be played with i'd probably need a sedative lol

kids and candy shops spring 2 mind !

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Actually I'm surprised about the amount of BBW profiles on here and other sites insist there men to be fit,toned and athletic with a six pack... !"

I am surprised there is always someone surprised by this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the big hairy guys on the gay scene are termed bears , me i'm just lazy and cant get to do a sit up ,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i think the big hairy guys on the gay scene are termed bears , me i'm just lazy and cant get to do a sit up , "

agreed 'bear' is a term widely used to describe bigger build hairy guys

the big guy 'scene' breaks it down even further tho - they have the whole zoo - otters, bear cubs, wolf, wolf cubs, polar bears are all used to describe hairy guys of a variety of builds and ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answering your op, yes BHM's are far less popular than BBW on here, although not as taboo as on 'gay' sites. A lot of men like BBW for curves/boobs, but a BHM is well, just fat. I prefer BBW women, but have no preference on men

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Answering your op, yes BHM's are far less popular than BBW on here, although not as taboo as on 'gay' sites. A lot of men like BBW for curves/boobs, but a BHM is well, just fat. I prefer BBW women, but have no preference on men"

but aren't the women in most cases just fat too ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I suppose, but usually have big boobs with it (& not hairy ones!) lol.

I have a BBW g/f myself, but she wouldn't touch a fat guy. Personal taste, but BHM's are a small niche. Gay sites, like you say, are far worse. Theres a big 'gym' scene, so a lot are reasonably toned, though I think most over-rate themselves in the 'looks' department. A lot of ageism, and anti-hairy too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, I suppose, but usually have big boobs with it (& not hairy ones!) lol.

I have a BBW g/f myself, but she wouldn't touch a fat guy. Personal taste, but BHM's are a small niche. Gay sites, like you say, are far worse. Theres a big 'gym' scene, so a lot are reasonably toned, though I think most over-rate themselves in the 'looks' department. A lot of ageism, and anti-hairy too"

Oh yeah, give me someone with a gorgeous face rather than a good body any day

My ex Mrs was a BBW too (an to this day just doesn't see that she is so, so attractive to men) but the girl before her was a size 6/8 petite little thing so I guess I am lucky enough to be 1 of them guys who isn't fixated with a particular look.

I agree on the gym / ageism / hairyness sentiment entirely. I've gotten past the stage where I alter my 'look' to suit what I think will make me more attractive to others and I think confidence and inner contentment shines thru if it is genuine.

Besides, skinny doesn't suit everyone so when I lost lots of weight I just look like a fkin head on a stick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your good looking big or small you are that ....... you can have the body of a god and be uglie . paper bags help i know , lol In my time swinging have come across woman who have been on diets 24/7 and you can tell thay are just unhappy in them -selfs but feel if really slim better then others ..... i know alot of the media make woman feel like this but its more then a nice body that make a person .... its just so shallow ....if your a 16 and over your just as good as everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If your good looking big or small you are that ....... you can have the body of a god and be uglie . paper bags help i know , lol In my time swinging have come across woman who have been on diets 24/7 and you can tell thay are just unhappy in them -selfs but feel if really slim better then others ..... i know alot of the media make woman feel like this but its more then a nice body that make a person .... its just so shallow ....if your a 16 and over your just as good as everyone. "

agreed !

and btw mrs - you are 1 stunning looking lady (i know it's off subject but there ya go lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own we like to get on with folk no matter their size "

Snap! Same outlook to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if your a 16 and over your just as good as everyone. "

If someone thought being a size eight made that person better than me at a size 22, then honestly, that type of person would obviously be lackking in grey cells and not someone I'd ever want to be associated with: so win/win for everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bbw to me means with a bit of fat ,though still lovely i must add .

rubenesque to me means large build with curves but less fat coverage ,

most ladies just use the bbw term when to me they are different ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can i now state one of my best sessions was with a ssbbw wow what we did left nothing to the imagination, though difficult to move around for her she still made one hell of a sexy woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who needs the neg media attention, when your own Mother won't been seen in public with me as i'm to fat(she is a plastic surgery queen 3rd face lift plus everything else)

My ex was alway trying to convince me i had nothing to worry about

Now i just don't care take it or leave it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who needs the neg media attention, when your own Mother won't been seen in public with me as i'm to fat(she is a plastic surgery queen 3rd face lift plus everything else)

My ex was alway trying to convince me i had nothing to worry about

Now i just don't care take it or leave it."

you have nothig to be worried about - you're a great lucking lady

dare i say it's ur mother that has the issues, not you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who needs the neg media attention, when your own Mother won't been seen in public with me as i'm to fat(she is a plastic surgery queen 3rd face lift plus everything else)

My ex was alway trying to convince me i had nothing to worry about

Now i just don't care take it or leave it.

you have nothig to be worried about - you're a great lucking lady

dare i say it's ur mother that has the issues, not you "

Bless you

It's taken me 40 years but yes I've finally figured it out. Ah plus a night at Chams talking some very lovely people from Fabs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who needs the neg media attention, when your own Mother won't been seen in public with me as i'm to fat(she is a plastic surgery queen 3rd face lift plus everything else)

My ex was alway trying to convince me i had nothing to worry about

Now i just don't care take it or leave it.

you have nothig to be worried about - you're a great lucking lady

dare i say it's ur mother that has the issues, not you

Bless you

It's taken me 40 years but yes I've finally figured it out. Ah plus a night at Chams talking some very lovely people from Fabs"

yeah took me a while and a few confidence issues before i got a grip

esp when i started going to gay venues. thought no1 would ever fancy me but how wrong was i !

so from then on in i was like well i am not to everyones taste but i am definately a niche market

and niche markets do better than u think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who needs the neg media attention, when your own Mother won't been seen in public with me as i'm to fat(she is a plastic surgery queen 3rd face lift plus everything else)

My ex was alway trying to convince me i had nothing to worry about

Now i just don't care take it or leave it."

mmm got ya mums addy please !

only joking i hate silicon love the real curves to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your good looking big or small you are that ....... you can have the body of a god and be uglie . paper bags help i know , lol In my time swinging have come across woman who have been on diets 24/7 and you can tell thay are just unhappy in them -selfs but feel if really slim better then others ..... i know alot of the media make woman feel like this but its more then a nice body that make a person .... its just so shallow ....if your a 16 and over your just as good as everyone.

agreed !

and btw mrs - you are 1 stunning looking lady (i know it's off subject but there ya go lol) "
kisses xx thats very sweet ..... i haave learnd over the years we have to be who we are xxx not what others would like us to be... lifes far to short for others hang-up s on things xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like a belly to rub :0)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I have found is that men are more accepting of bigger guys than women are

This is a generalisation (so don't pan me for it) but I would suggest that is because men are more predatory sexually whilst a great deal of women, despite their sexual nature, are still looking for their 'Officer and A Gentleman' moment

And in a white suit I would less like Richard Gere and more like Tattoo off Fantasy Island, so that kinda fucks that idea

(for those young pups on here you might have to google the Fantasy Island reference haha)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is subjective, we all like different things and thank god for that.

These threads appear all the time and the only thing they are really good for is illuminating the 'ugly' people who, whilst are of course allowed an opinion, feel the need to be wicked in their replies and spout vitriol and stereotypical half truths ooh and complete shite lol

vol

xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Attraction is subjective, we all like different things and thank god for that.

These threads appear all the time and the only thing they are really good for is illuminating the 'ugly' people who, whilst are of course allowed an opinion, feel the need to be wicked in their replies and spout vitriol and stereotypical half truths ooh and complete shite lol

vol

xx

"

vol

your profile made me chuckle

i just luv a cynic

cheers for putting a smile on my face at the end of a crappy day x

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By *evin5050Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Glad to see some ladies liking the larger male. Personally, I had to lose some weight to start getting some fun on here but then I was very large.

Also, can I say that any lady of any size who is "happy and comfortable in their own skin" - I find very sexy as the confidence shows through. I also agree with others that a pleasant face and personality is by far the best feature on anyone and outweighs any size issue.

I have noticed that whilst I can struggle to get fun on here at times - I generally don't at cham's, possibly because people can see me face to face. Just my opinion, but perhaps people that go to cham's are generally less judgemental than most. Good thread - have enjoyed reading the posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isn't BBM blackberry messenger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an interesting thread. As a BBM or BHM or Bear It was interesting to read others views. I haven't met yet due to lack of confidence but I too wondered about bigger men with bellies and did women find them attractive as you read so many profile wanting toned well hung adonises.

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I specify over 6ft and large build....cos thats what I like!

Hate to feel bones!!

Love the feel of a big bodied gent!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"What an interesting thread. As a BBM or BHM or Bear It was interesting to read others views. I haven't met yet due to lack of confidence but I too wondered about bigger men with bellies and did women find them attractive as you read so many profile wanting toned well hung adonises."

Attitude is attractive, look at the threads today in what ppl look for in a man,yes some want looks, but for many it is that indefinable "something" called sex appeal.

My Master has said today here he is not "average" but i was begging to meet him long before i knew what he looked like,and i still say he is the sexiest man on the interweb! i think he is sexy and gorgeous.

kev doesnt use the net !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would just like to add that some people are really nasty with their comments about so say bbw women...or bhm.

you see peoples profiles that say fat people not for us....bbbw's not for us....size 12 and above not for us.....

im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

just dont wanna start a sizist war...lol.

lots of love....2 lovely bundles of fun...xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not being sizist but ----

any ladies into short 5.4 old guys , ! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would just like to add that some people are really nasty with their comments about so say bbw women...or bhm.

you see peoples profiles that say fat people not for us....bbbw's not for us....size 12 and above not for us.....

im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

just dont wanna start a sizist war...lol.

lots of love....2 lovely bundles of fun...xxxx"

BBW does nothing for me but thats just my preference

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


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im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

"

Just because we are slim, doesn't mean we don't have curves....I am in proportion to my size, oh and I am not self obsessed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

Just because we are slim, doesn't mean we don't have curves....I am in proportion to my size, oh and I am not self obsessed!! "

I bet you, like me, aren't offended when you read a profile saying that they prefer/only play with BBW's.... I respect their preferences and DO NOT think that they are being 'nasty' by saying so!

....myself and hubby are what you call 'BBW friendly'... most are absolutely lovely... it's just the odd one that likes to take a swipe that we are less than friendly with

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By *RMADCHICKCouple
over a year ago

cheltenham


"If you went to somewhere like chams you will see there are a lot of big men on the scene.Swingers are not all athletic men with size 10 partners. Its a general cross section of the public and everyone feels comfortable"
too true i am not slim and have always battled with my weight i was 25 stone and know what it is like for men but at chams you can have a good time with genuine people.Attraction is always part of sex but more for a woman than a man that is a fact.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


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im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

Just because we are slim, doesn't mean we don't have curves....I am in proportion to my size, oh and I am not self obsessed!!

I bet you, like me, aren't offended when you read a profile saying that they prefer/only play with BBW's.... I respect their preferences and DO NOT think that they are being 'nasty' by saying so!

....myself and hubby are what you call 'BBW friendly'... most are absolutely lovely... it's just the odd one that likes to take a swipe that we are less than friendly with "

i'm lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really attracted to BBW's but it's the label rather than the lady that it's attached to.

I've played with loads of ladies who some might apply that tag to.

I'm a sucker for a pretty face and long legs so much so, that I'm quite happy to ignore the bit in the middle, well, with a couple of exceptions, lol.

BHM's will always struggle to get laid on sites like this. There will always be exceptions to the rule, but that's how it is.

It's all about preferences and I've never seen a profile asking for a BHM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

Just because we are slim, doesn't mean we don't have curves....I am in proportion to my size, oh and I am not self obsessed!!

I bet you, like me, aren't offended when you read a profile saying that they prefer/only play with BBW's.... I respect their preferences and DO NOT think that they are being 'nasty' by saying so!

....myself and hubby are what you call 'BBW friendly'... most are absolutely lovely... it's just the odd one that likes to take a swipe that we are less than friendly with

i'm lovely "

That didn't need saying xx

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I still just call it chubby chasing, don't realy like the BBW type labels

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

The BBW label is usually taken by people who are larger! In my opinion it should be a title that is given by others, not taken. It smacks of "I love me, who do you love?" We don't play with larger ladies in the same way that we don't play with those into watersports, just not our thing!

I also can't understand why people get offended by the term "fat". It is a name that describes what a BBW generally is... I have been called all sorts of things but I laugh and move on! However, if it is deliberately used to offend as an insult, that is all wrong. "We don't play with fat people" is a preference, not an insult!

Just wish people would call things what they are instead of sugar coating...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"would just like to add that some people are really nasty with their comments about so say bbw women...or bhm.

you see peoples profiles that say fat people not for us....bbbw's not for us....size 12 and above not for us.....

im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

just dont wanna start a sizist war...lol.

lots of love....2 lovely bundles of fun...xxxx"

I take it you don't see the irony in your statement!

People are not nasty for having a preference. If someone doesn't find someone over a size 12 attractive why not be specific? Too many people on here desperate to hear from anybody are not selective enough and those that express a preference, whether it's tall, professional, ethnicity etc are slated!

Some profiles are rude, arrogant and aggressive: full stop! How they describe those they don't want to meet is just another element. Do they sound like people you'd feel relaxed and comfortable with? No: so why give them a moments thought.

Sweeping generalisations are foolish! My size 8, 10 and 12 size friends would say I'm the most self absorbed person they know: I think they exaggerate, but hey ho!

I wouldn't dream of lowering my standards to those that find it acceptable to be rude to others. You can be respectful to others whilst expressing your own preference.

Hardly rocket science, is it?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are who they are if we are fat say it like it is. Because we enjoy our lives and food. I love my bumps wobbly bits and curves they make me who I am could never imagine being skinny just not for me. Saying that I was uncomfortable have gone from a size 28 down to 20 and feeling a lot healthier. At my heaviest never had a problem attracting the opposite sex a lot to do with confidence i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you will find its BHM big handsome man!

"

ohh yes i like those very muchly he he

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"The BBW label is usually taken by people who are larger! In my opinion it should be a title that is given by others, not taken. It smacks of "I love me, who do you love?" We don't play with larger ladies in the same way that we don't play with those into watersports, just not our thing!

I also can't understand why people get offended by the term "fat". It is a name that describes what a BBW generally is... I have been called all sorts of things but I laugh and move on! However, if it is deliberately used to offend as an insult, that is all wrong. "We don't play with fat people" is a preference, not an insult!

Just wish people would call things what they are instead of sugar coating... "

i call myself fat all the time and make fat jokes at my expence, but i also label myself as bbw on here and other websites i am on purely because it is a term that will help people decide froma quick glance whether or not they are interested in speaking to me

i dont see why the lager ladies cant 'take' the term bbw if that is how they see them selves, after all i am here to advertise me, not be judged by others on here and be 'allowed' to use a descriptive term for myself. who would decide wether or not i get bbw accreditation??

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"would just like to add that some people are really nasty with their comments about so say bbw women...or bhm.

you see peoples profiles that say fat people not for us....bbbw's not for us....size 12 and above not for us.....

im so tempted to put ...self obsessed skinny curveless people not for us and see how they like it...lol

just dont wanna start a sizist war...lol.

lots of love....2 lovely bundles of fun...xxxx

I take it you don't see the irony in your statement!

People are not nasty for having a preference. If someone doesn't find someone over a size 12 attractive why not be specific? Too many people on here desperate to hear from anybody are not selective enough and those that express a preference, whether it's tall, professional, ethnicity etc are slated!

Some profiles are rude, arrogant and aggressive: full stop! How they describe those they don't want to meet is just another element. Do they sound like people you'd feel relaxed and comfortable with? No: so why give them a moments thought.

Sweeping generalisations are foolish! My size 8, 10 and 12 size friends would say I'm the most self absorbed person they know: I think they exaggerate, but hey ho!

I wouldn't dream of lowering my standards to those that find it acceptable to be rude to others. You can be respectful to others whilst expressing your own preference.

Hardly rocket science, is it?!!"

Well said! Dont even understand what the actual debate is about??? People come in all shapes and sizes and generally speaking reap what they sow, so it is down to choice again. People are individuals and to generalise about who is better or worse is ridiculous! True we are all more than how we look but this is a swinging site where people want to have sex with others who they find attractive... again... personal choice! Overweight people who lose weight dont lose a lovely personality and slim people who gain weight dont get a cheery disposition! To those who say they choose a personality over body time and looks, good for you if you want to settle. For me, I will hold out for both thanks.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What an interesting thread. As a BBM or BHM or Bear It was interesting to read others views. I haven't met yet due to lack of confidence but I too wondered about bigger men with bellies and did women find them attractive as you read so many profile wanting toned well hung adonises."

heyy not all of us do lovey guys that would leave lovebites on the mirror types and all that - no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I LOVE larger men n women in fact I wish there was a search function on here for real sized the larger the better for me I have absolutely zero interest in skinny gals n so called six packs YUK just not for me at all. Older n larger mmmmmm yes please hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I LOVE larger men n women in fact I wish there was a search function on here for real sized the larger the better for me I have absolutely zero interest in skinny gals n so called six packs YUK just not for me at all. Older n larger mmmmmm yes please hehe "

REAL sized????

is there no size in between what people call skinny and BBW??

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I LOVE larger men n women in fact I wish there was a search function on here for real sized the larger the better for me I have absolutely zero interest in skinny gals n so called six packs YUK just not for me at all. Older n larger mmmmmm yes please hehe

REAL sized????

is there no size in between what people call skinny and BBW?? "

nope lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i forgot i'd posted this so was surprised to rear it's head again

rather than knocking big people or a debate on who likes big women and who doesn't, it was more intended as a forum to discuss why bigger ladies are more 'sexually popular' than bigger men are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BBM AND BBW IS NOT A ISSUE ASLONG YOU ARE CLEAN

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I would have thought the same sentiments apply to everyone regardless of size

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have thought the same sentiments apply to everyone regardless of size "

there is an underlying generalisation /sentiment from some people that all fat people are dirty / unclean

as a fatty myself i can assure you that nothing is further from the truth in my case.

i'm like a new pin on the outside at all times (even if i feel like a bag o'shite on the inside that day)

am sure there are some fatties that are, just as there are people who are chunky / average / athletic / skinny (or woteva label you choose)

no excuse for being a stinker irregardless of build !

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I would have thought the same sentiments apply to everyone regardless of size

there is an underlying generalisation /sentiment from some people that all fat people are dirty / unclean

as a fatty myself i can assure you that nothing is further from the truth in my case.

i'm like a new pin on the outside at all times (even if i feel like a bag o'shite on the inside that day)

am sure there are some fatties that are, just as there are people who are chunky / average / athletic / skinny (or woteva label you choose)

no excuse for being a stinker irregardless of build !"

You don't need to assure me of anything x

I thought the post I responded to above mine was completely out of order and extremely presumptious,but then I like posts like that as I can sit and snigger to myself at how some peoples brains work

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would have thought the same sentiments apply to everyone regardless of size

there is an underlying generalisation /sentiment from some people that all fat people are dirty / unclean

as a fatty myself i can assure you that nothing is further from the truth in my case.

i'm like a new pin on the outside at all times (even if i feel like a bag o'shite on the inside that day)

am sure there are some fatties that are, just as there are people who are chunky / average / athletic / skinny (or woteva label you choose)

no excuse for being a stinker irregardless of build !

You don't need to assure me of anything x

I thought the post I responded to above mine was completely out of order and extremely presumptious,but then I like posts like that as I can sit and snigger to myself at how some peoples brains work"

it was a 'royal' assurance not just directed at your good self lol

and am in agreement with ya bout the internations made in that post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i forgot i'd posted this so was surprised to rear it's head again

rather than knocking big people or a debate on who likes big women and who doesn't, it was more intended as a forum to discuss why bigger ladies are more 'sexually popular' than bigger men are "

hhmmm good question

i think it may be that men and women are different in what turns them on

i did start trying to put into words what i mean by that but it looked like absolute gobledy gook

although i do think that what we are intially attracted to is one thing but what you find attractive after time of knowing a person is completely different

if anyone knows what i am meaning today please explain it to me cause i'm lost

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i forgot i'd posted this so was surprised to rear it's head again

rather than knocking big people or a debate on who likes big women and who doesn't, it was more intended as a forum to discuss why bigger ladies are more 'sexually popular' than bigger men are

hhmmm good question

i think it may be that men and women are different in what turns them on

i did start trying to put into words what i mean by that but it looked like absolute gobledy gook

although i do think that what we are intially attracted to is one thing but what you find attractive after time of knowing a person is completely different

if anyone knows what i am meaning today please explain it to me cause i'm lost "

haven't got a clue what ur on about

but ur lovely anyway, so who cares ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i forgot i'd posted this so was surprised to rear it's head again

rather than knocking big people or a debate on who likes big women and who doesn't, it was more intended as a forum to discuss why bigger ladies are more 'sexually popular' than bigger men are

hhmmm good question

i think it may be that men and women are different in what turns them on

i did start trying to put into words what i mean by that but it looked like absolute gobledy gook

although i do think that what we are intially attracted to is one thing but what you find attractive after time of knowing a person is completely different

if anyone knows what i am meaning today please explain it to me cause i'm lost

haven't got a clue what ur on about

but ur lovely anyway, so who cares ? "

awwww ty treacle xxxxx

its clear in my head what i mean but its just not making it to my finger tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as the saying goes, Opposites attract! I love all women for who they are. I find the female form very attractive, both big and small. I have an 8 stone partner and a 14 stone GF. Yhe main thing is that they are as attractive both visually and mentally as each other. It is a terrible shame if people are treated differently in any walk of life due to something so shallow as a dress or trouser size.

The swinging community is generally a bit more open minded, or least what I've seen of it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is a terrible shame if people are treated differently in any walk of life due to something so shallow as a dress or trouser size.

The swinging community is generally a bit more open minded, or least what I've seen of it is."

I totally disagree that it deemed shallow to have a preference based on someone's size. if i dont want to shag a size 28 then how the heck is that shallow? just like i dont want to sleep with a 75 year old. i have my choice on what i like and dont like. im sick of reading that people shouldnt do this, or be like that. yes we all treat people differently because at the end of the day we are all unique individuals with similar interests BUT different likes/dislikes. so some might like big girls, slim girls, medium girls, tall girls, short girls (or guys).

then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Yeah, I have to agree. Being open minded doesn't mean not having any preferences or personal tastes! So long as you don't express those tastes in a derogatory manner, there shouldn't be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, you are right in the fact that taste is an individual thing. Who you fancy or don't is entirely up to you and no one can tell you different.

Just my opinion...if it's woth anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm" "

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case."

It is not often I take up the keyboard, but reading that made me want to answer. Why? Because to say that an opinion is wrong is in itself wrong! You may not agree with it, but that is the opinion of the poster and there are undoubtedly some on here who will meet anyone just for sex! Why you would find that offensive is beyond me. It affects you in no way except to give you a chance to defend the sensibilities of larger women and perhaps get more meets from it?

The question is about why larger women get more fun than larger men and what was written above with reference to “any port in a storm” is broadly correct.

As a woman, I am very particular who we meet. I won’t “take one for the team” and I know what I like. On the other hand, we have met men for a pre-romp social and called it off. Not because they are different to the pictures and not because they are not easy to get on with and likeable. The main reason is that when pressed about others they have met and have validations from, they are embarrassed about any larger meets. I have had guys say to me that they met them because they were available!

That doesn’t just apply to meets with single ladies, but also couples. Apart from let-downs, it was the main reason we stopped meeting single guys. Women on the other hand are definitely more selective and their brains are not in their nether regions. Not only that, but there are many more single guys looking for play than women, so we can afford to be more choosy! I am no skinny thing and I know that I am not to everyones liking, but neither is everyone to my liking!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case.

It is not often I take up the keyboard, but reading that made me want to answer. Why? Because to say that an opinion is wrong is in itself wrong! You may not agree with it, but that is the opinion of the poster and there are undoubtedly some on here who will meet anyone just for sex! Why you would find that offensive is beyond me. It affects you in no way except to give you a chance to defend the sensibilities of larger women and perhaps get more meets from it?

The question is about why larger women get more fun than larger men and what was written above with reference to “any port in a storm” is broadly correct.

As a woman, I am very particular who we meet. I won’t “take one for the team” and I know what I like. On the other hand, we have met men for a pre-romp social and called it off. Not because they are different to the pictures and not because they are not easy to get on with and likeable. The main reason is that when pressed about others they have met and have validations from, they are embarrassed about any larger meets. I have had guys say to me that they met them because they were available!

That doesn’t just apply to meets with single ladies, but also couples. Apart from let-downs, it was the main reason we stopped meeting single guys. Women on the other hand are definitely more selective and their brains are not in their nether regions. Not only that, but there are many more single guys looking for play than women, so we can afford to be more choosy! I am no skinny thing and I know that I am not to everyones liking, but neither is everyone to my liking!

"

so you agree with the statement that some large women get meets cos some guys will shag 'anyone' ?

moreover you can't see why a fat man or woman would find that offensive ?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case.

It is not often I take up the keyboard, but reading that made me want to answer. Why? Because to say that an opinion is wrong is in itself wrong! You may not agree with it, but that is the opinion of the poster and there are undoubtedly some on here who will meet anyone just for sex! Why you would find that offensive is beyond me. It affects you in no way except to give you a chance to defend the sensibilities of larger women and perhaps get more meets from it?

The question is about why larger women get more fun than larger men and what was written above with reference to “any port in a storm” is broadly correct.

As a woman, I am very particular who we meet. I won’t “take one for the team” and I know what I like. On the other hand, we have met men for a pre-romp social and called it off. Not because they are different to the pictures and not because they are not easy to get on with and likeable. The main reason is that when pressed about others they have met and have validations from, they are embarrassed about any larger meets. I have had guys say to me that they met them because they were available!

That doesn’t just apply to meets with single ladies, but also couples. Apart from let-downs, it was the main reason we stopped meeting single guys. Women on the other hand are definitely more selective and their brains are not in their nether regions. Not only that, but there are many more single guys looking for play than women, so we can afford to be more choosy! I am no skinny thing and I know that I am not to everyones liking, but neither is everyone to my liking!

so you agree with the statement that some large women get meets cos some guys will shag 'anyone' ?

moreover you can't see why a fat man or woman would find that offensive ?

"

Whilst I agree that some people might be offended by the previous post I personally feel that it is misplace annoyance. Firstly, I would not call people fat as I think that it is an insulting word. Secondly, poster was simply stating fact.... some meets or a meet had actually admitted to meeting a larger woman as this was all there was on offer at the time. She didnt like this and decided that said person was not for her. Have to agree with her on this. I have also spoken to some fit goodlooking guys who have told me that they only met the previous woman because they werent given alternatives at the time and wanted to be verified. Now, this is either a lie... or offensive. If lie, then this is also offensive! I have no time for guys like this and our profile makes that plain I think. It not only shows lack of respect for the woman but also for themselves. Its no good shooting the messenger... aim at the guy who give truth to the 'any port in a storm' saying. Not pretty, but hey, no different in real life surely.

Mistress x

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"I LOVE larger men n women in fact I wish there was a search function on here for real sized the larger the better for me I have absolutely zero interest in skinny gals n so called six packs YUK just not for me at all. Older n larger mmmmmm yes please hehe "

Just another offensive post. Good for you if you have a preference.... no problem. Why the yuk?!!!!! Really not necessary and if you were saying it about larger people there would be fireworks by now. I am beginning to wonder if offensive posters are like that in their everyday lives or just because they are behind a keyboard.

Mistress x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I hadnt added to this post before as i cant be doing with the big v slim arguement. There are plenty of guys/girls that have different attractions. Ive never been short of meets, in fact the opposite, every guy ive met has been lovely, decent and respectful. Ive never once got the impression they have wanted to meet just because i was available. Quite the opposite i take time to know someone before a meet and noone has rushed me to meet before i have been ready.

In the real world all my serious boyfriends have not had a natural attraction to large women, ive always been the largest they have been with. They have been attracted to me as a person. Jay,s ex wife was a size 10 and 5ft 6 he had never been with anyone above a size 12. Why people should argue about size is beyond me. If you find someone attractive just go with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Its no good shooting the messenger... aim at the guy who give truth to the 'any port in a storm' saying. Not pretty, but hey, no different in real life surely.

Mistress x"

I think I already did that

It was the fact that the statement was being pretty much defended that got my goat.

That is just a fundamental lack of self respect on the part of the guys (and girls) who instigate such moves.

Why would you have sex with someone you didn't find attractive ?

I just can't envisage being with anyone I thought was ugly.

But then, despite having a healthy sex drive I'm rarely 'desperate' to empty my balls at any cost.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"so you agree with the statement that some large women get meets cos some guys will shag 'anyone' ?

moreover you can't see why a fat man or woman would find that offensive ?

"

Oh dear, I take a day off and end up posting on here!

I certainly do agree with that statement! You are very naive if you think any different! I have heard if first hand from the guys themselves and that is why we never met them again. It is also one of the reasons why we don't meet singles anymore!

Read again... I didn't say that fat people wouldn't find it offensive I said I can't understand why YOU find it offensive! You are NOT a woman and that is what the question was about, why larger WOMEN get meets and larger men don’t! Funny thing is that you are looking to meet smaller people too, but then you say that you can overlook size if the face is nice!!!! Sounds to me that you are practicing exactly what you are saying doesn’t exist!!

People on a forum can only give their view from their experience. Our experience is that there are indeed SOME large women get meets because SOME single guys will have sex with anyone! (See above)?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Oh dear, I take a day off and end up posting on here! "

i know - it's awful. i'm not even on a day off !


" I certainly do agree with that statement! You are very naive if you think any different! "

If there is one thing I am not, it is naive


" I have heard if first hand from the guys themselves and that is why we never met them again. It is also one of the reasons why we don't meet singles anymore! "

they'd have been thru the door if they'd have made a statement like that to me


" Read again... I didn't say that fat people wouldn't find it offensive I said I can't understand why YOU find it offensive! "

fair comment


" You are NOT a woman "

thanks for noticing


" Funny thing is that you are looking to meet smaller people too, but then you say that you can overlook size if the face is nice!!!! "

not only smaller people

facial attractiveness is important to me, size / body shape less so

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"I hadnt added to this post before as i cant be doing with the big v slim arguement. There are plenty of guys/girls that have different attractions. Ive never been short of meets, in fact the opposite, every guy ive met has been lovely, decent and respectful. Ive never once got the impression they have wanted to meet just because i was available. Quite the opposite i take time to know someone before a meet and noone has rushed me to meet before i have been ready.

In the real world all my serious boyfriends have not had a natural attraction to large women, ive always been the largest they have been with. They have been attracted to me as a person. Jay,s ex wife was a size 10 and 5ft 6 he had never been with anyone above a size 12. Why people should argue about size is beyond me. If you find someone attractive just go with it"

Well put. Thats exactly it isnt it. Each to who they find attractive and not insulting anyone who isnt in that group. I dont want younger guys to like me because they want a to meet an older woman I want them to be attracted just because they are. This argument could be translated to age, sexual preferences or lots of other differences. If a guy meets a woman he is ashamed of or admits to only meeting her because she was the only one available shame on him not her. As for the op - who knows, maybe curves look better on women, maybe men are more accepting of different body types or maybe there are more women around who dont hold with the any port in a storm view. I guess everyone on here uses everyone in one way or another I think its just the dishonesty thats offensive really and that will never change.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case."

i suppose you can take it how you like but your perception rather than my words!!

why is it offensive to say that some guys will shag anything?

please explain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case.

i suppose you can take it how you like but your perception rather than my words!!

why is it offensive to say that some guys will shag anything?

please explain "

in the context of this forum, i have read your remark to come across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

please correct me if the statement wasn't meant in that manner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case.

i suppose you can take it how you like but your perception rather than my words!!

why is it offensive to say that some guys will shag anything?

please explain

in the context of this forum, i have read your remark to come across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

please correct me if the statement wasn't meant in that manner

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my post was a response to the person who posted before me about being shallow. i made the statement that we all have different likes/dislikes. my angle was that there are guys who wont take size or age into question and will shag anything hence the port in a storm comment.

at no time did i say that fat people only get shagged as some men are desperate (as i think you may have implied)

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"then again there are also some who will go for "any port in a storm"

even though you're post was a semi-rant, i was on board with what you had said til the line above.

that as a stand alone statement is offensive.

whether it was intended or not, your remark comes across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

i can testify, as i am sure can many on here that that is most definately not the case.

i suppose you can take it how you like but your perception rather than my words!!

why is it offensive to say that some guys will shag anything?

please explain

in the context of this forum, i have read your remark to come across as 'fat people can only get a shag cos some people are desperate'

please correct me if the statement wasn't meant in that manner

my post was a response to the person who posted before me about being shallow. i made the statement that we all have different likes/dislikes. my angle was that there are guys who wont take size or age into question and will shag anything hence the port in a storm comment.

at no time did i say that fat people only get shagged as some men are desperate (as i think you may have implied)"

ok then - i misunderstood

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