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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " It is a bit like stating the obvious isn't it? Personally I'm not too bothered by distance and will travel a reasonable way if I'm interested enough.. but I would only know that after chatting a while  | |||
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"Some just like showing their appreciation for beauty "Would you say that qualifies? If that was me, I'd just message them about pictures and their profile text if there was no intention to meet based on distance. | |||
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"Geography has been a bit of a problem for potential meets for us" Lincolnshire is a nightmare at times. As places are spread so far apart | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts | |||
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"Some just like showing their appreciation for beauty
Would you say that qualifies?
If that was me, I'd just message them about pictures and their profile text if there was no intention to meet based on distance. "I think some hope the reaction will be that distance is no problem and they travel with work etc. Whenever i decline due to distance, thats the answer that comes back to me. | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " Sometimes it's a leading statement. It's to see if you'd reply with "well I don't mind travelling..." 
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts "  | |||
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" I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts " Ok, so why not message and say "Hi, you look nice. Fancy a natter?" | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? Sometimes it's a leading statement. It's to see if you'd reply with "well I don't mind travelling..."
Sometimes it's just vocalising the frustration of having another perfect person for a meet live miles away. "Again why not ask if the person travels? Are people really so indirect when it comes to finding out answers to questions they might have? I would hate to be a person who's incapable of being direct. They must waste so much time and opportunities. | |||
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" I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts Ok, so why not message and say "Hi, you look nice. Fancy a natter?" " Sometimes when the attraction is so great that an occasional meet is possible. The other answer is a majority of guys wouldn't just want to chat without wanting to meet/photos/phone numbers. And when these are declined they get angry and abusive. I'm not saying this is you at all. Have you made it clear that you are just happy to chat? Would you be happy with just that? | |||
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" I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts Ok, so why not message and say "Hi, you look nice. Fancy a natter?" " Op you are sexy and you know it! What a shame I can't peek those sexy pictures,no more! | |||
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"Sometimes when the attraction is so great that an occasional meet is possible. The other answer is a majority of guys wouldn't just want to chat without wanting to meet/photos/phone numbers. And when these are declined they get angry and abusive. I'm not saying this is you at all. Have you made it clear that you are just happy to chat? Would you be happy with just that? " There's plenty of people I chat to that have no real desire to meet. However they didn't start their original message with "If only you lived nearer". If you only wanted to chat, I doubt that would be you're opening message in my opinion. | |||
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"Sometimes when the attraction is so great that an occasional meet is possible. The other answer is a majority of guys wouldn't just want to chat without wanting to meet/photos/phone numbers. And when these are declined they get angry and abusive. I'm not saying this is you at all. Have you made it clear that you are just happy to chat? Would you be happy with just that? There's plenty of people I chat to that have no real desire to meet. However they didn't start their original message with "If only you lived nearer". If you only wanted to chat, I doubt that would be you're opening message in my opinion. " If it's an opening message then I'm afraid I'm at a loss  | |||
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" I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts Ok, so why not message and say "Hi, you look nice. Fancy a natter?" Op you are sexy and you know it! What a shame I can't peek those sexy pictures,no more! "You'll survive | |||
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" I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts Ok, so why not message and say "Hi, you look nice. Fancy a natter?" Op you are sexy and you know it! What a shame I can't peek those sexy pictures,no more!
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " I think that of people who comment on those that have been let down with that. Assuming that they would be compatible based on location! | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? Sometimes it's a leading statement. It's to see if you'd reply with "well I don't mind travelling..."
Sometimes it's just vocalising the frustration of having another perfect person for a meet live miles away.
Again why not ask if the person travels? Are people really so indirect when it comes to finding out answers to questions they might have?
I would hate to be a person who's incapable of being direct. They must waste so much time and opportunities. "Are you new to the forum/ this site?
The amount of "tell the person you fancy" threads is astounding. For a site supposedly for adults, there's some really indirect childish people that seem incapable of approaching people directly. It's like high school "my mate fancies you! *giggle*"
In answer to your OP I think some people just think people are desperate for a shag. So them saying 'how hot yet ohhhh so far away you are' is just a pathetic attempt to get you to drive to them immediately. Because they think you'd be grateful. 
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " It could potentially be their way of asking if the distance is too much of an issue for you to go meet them. | |||
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" Are you new to the forum/ this site?
The amount of "tell the person you fancy" threads is astounding. For a site supposedly for adults, there's some really indirect childish people that seem incapable of approaching people directly. It's like high school "my mate fancies you! *giggle*"
In answer to your OP I think some people just think people are desperate for a shag. So them saying 'how hot yet ohhhh so far away you are' is just a pathetic attempt to get you to drive to them immediately. Because they think you'd be grateful.
"I'm like you, I'm just astounded at the total lack of directness, considering this is supposed to be a liberal and open lifestyle
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"Some people can't just take a compliment even tho they will probably never meet" Is that a compliment though? Saying something like, "I really like you're profile, and your pictures are fantastic" would be a compliment. "If only you lived nearer" is not what I class as a compliment at all. Especially for an opening message. | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? It could potentially be their way of asking if the distance is too much of an issue for you to go meet them." Instead of asking me outright if distance was an issue? See my point about being indirect. | |||
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" Are you new to the forum/ this site?
The amount of "tell the person you fancy" threads is astounding. For a site supposedly for adults, there's some really indirect childish people that seem incapable of approaching people directly. It's like high school "my mate fancies you! *giggle*"
In answer to your OP I think some people just think people are desperate for a shag. So them saying 'how hot yet ohhhh so far away you are' is just a pathetic attempt to get you to drive to them immediately. Because they think you'd be grateful.
I'm like you, I'm just astounded at the total lack of directness, considering this is supposed to be a liberal and open lifestyle
I mean is it really that hard to actually say what you mean? Honestly? "Many women can't take rejection. At all. Ever. Saying 'shame you're too far' shows their interest and if you say you'll travel they will be all smiley. If you say 'yeah too far' they can pretend they weren't interested in the first place.
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" Many women can't take rejection. At all. Ever. Saying 'shame you're too far' shows their interest and if you say you'll travel they will be all smiley. If you say 'yeah too far' they can pretend they weren't interested in the first place.
I don't like all the game playing crap either. "Interesting seeing as though men have to deal with rejection day in day
Would that make womens ego's more sensitive that mens on a whole? Of course there are the exceptions? It's an interesting notion you've brought up. | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " If only your castle was closer m'lord, you could have munched my cauliflower  | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? If only your castle was closer m'lord, you could have munched my cauliflower "Fucking LOL! You know I love your Cauli | |||
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" Many women can't take rejection. At all. Ever. Saying 'shame you're too far' shows their interest and if you say you'll travel they will be all smiley. If you say 'yeah too far' they can pretend they weren't interested in the first place.
I don't like all the game playing crap either.
Interesting seeing as though men have to deal with rejection day in day
Would that make womens ego's more sensitive that mens on a whole? Of course there are the exceptions? It's an interesting notion you've brought up. "How many women admit they won't go looking for fear of rejection. How many women gleefully reject men in unkind ways. How many women have hissy fits on threads begging for attention yet when men do similar they get slated - usually by the same women that cried on another thread about the same happening to them. Women and their ego's is an interesting subject. | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? If only your castle was closer m'lord, you could have munched my cauliflower
Fucking LOL! You know I love your Cauli "Cheeky little fucker,it's not a cauliflower | |||
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" If only your castle was closer m'lord, you could have munched my cauliflower
Fucking LOL! You know I love your Cauli
Cheeky little fucker,it's not a cauliflower "Two point, I'm taller than you and you called it a Cauliflower  | |||
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" If only your castle was closer m'lord, you could have munched my cauliflower
Fucking LOL! You know I love your Cauli
Cheeky little fucker,it's not a cauliflower
Two point, I'm taller than you and you called it a Cauliflower "Not in heels u won't be....and I did not!!!!!! | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " Maybe they're hoping you would do the travelling without directly asking?  | |||
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".... could have munched my cauliflower "Er yes you did! | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " Maybe they thought you were drop dead gorgeous and fancied a chat so started off the convo that way | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? Maybe they thought you were drop dead gorgeous and fancied a chat so started off the convo that way "See my point about being indirect/direct | |||
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" Many women can't take rejection. At all. Ever. Saying 'shame you're too far' shows their interest and if you say you'll travel they will be all smiley. If you say 'yeah too far' they can pretend they weren't interested in the first place.
I don't like all the game playing crap either.
Interesting seeing as though men have to deal with rejection day in day
Would that make womens ego's more sensitive that mens on a whole? Of course there are the exceptions? It's an interesting notion you've brought up.
How many women admit they won't go looking for fear of rejection. How many women gleefully reject men in unkind ways. How many women have hissy fits on threads begging for attention yet when men do similar they get slated - usually by the same women that cried on another thread about the same happening to them.
Women and their ego's is an interesting subject. "I'll admit it. In some ways and at some times, I still base my worth on if a guy fancies me or not. So, there's no way I'll approach a guy first. I've also been unkind in rejection - mainly of guys I've fucked, and it's to get in there first, before they can reject me. I know it's fucked up. | |||
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See my point about being indirect/direct "More women need to use my approach...oi cunt fancy a fuck? Saves Sooooo much time | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? Maybe they thought you were drop dead gorgeous and fancied a chat so started off the convo that way
See my point about being indirect/direct
More women need to use my approach...oi cunt fancy a fuck?
Saves Sooooo much time "Like your style.. | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? Maybe they thought you were drop dead gorgeous and fancied a chat so started off the convo that way
See my point about being indirect/direct
More women need to use my approach...oi cunt fancy a fuck?
Saves Sooooo much time
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" More women need to use my approach...oi cunt fancy a fuck? Saves Sooooo much time "I'm yours, I'm there! | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? Sometimes it's a leading statement. It's to see if you'd reply with "well I don't mind travelling..."
Sometimes it's just vocalising the frustration of having another perfect person for a meet live miles away.
Again why not ask if the person travels? Are people really so indirect when it comes to finding out answers to questions they might have?
I would hate to be a person who's incapable of being direct. They must waste so much time and opportunities.
Are you new to the forum/ this site?
The amount of "tell the person you fancy" threads is astounding. For a site supposedly for adults, there's some really indirect childish people that seem incapable of approaching people directly. It's like high school "my mate fancies you! *giggle*"
In answer to your OP I think some people just think people are desperate for a shag. So them saying 'how hot yet ohhhh so far away you are' is just a pathetic attempt to get you to drive to them immediately. Because they think you'd be grateful.
"oh come on lighten up fancy a fuck forum posts are just about throwing a few nice compliments someone's way and having a flirt . nothing to serious in my book and should not be taken seriously ether . Jesus I like my D/s fun but even I enjoy some light heart fun once in a while by god such forum posts a just a bit of fun sometimes I think people take this whole thing far far to serious there is a time and place for serious discussion and a time and place for trivial fun to. | |||
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" More women need to use my approach...oi cunt fancy a fuck? Saves Sooooo much time
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " Maybe they are hoping you'll reply saying 'I travel the country for work' or something? | |||
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" Many women can't take rejection. At all. Ever. Saying 'shame you're too far' shows their interest and if you say you'll travel they will be all smiley. If you say 'yeah too far' they can pretend they weren't interested in the first place.
I don't like all the game playing crap either.
Interesting seeing as though men have to deal with rejection day in day
Would that make womens ego's more sensitive that mens on a whole? Of course there are the exceptions? It's an interesting notion you've brought up.
How many women admit they won't go looking for fear of rejection. How many women gleefully reject men in unkind ways. How many women have hissy fits on threads begging for attention yet when men do similar they get slated - usually by the same women that cried on another thread about the same happening to them.
Women and their ego's is an interesting subject.
I'll admit it. In some ways and at some times, I still base my worth on if a guy fancies me or not. So, there's no way I'll approach a guy first. I've also been unkind in rejection - mainly of guys I've fucked, and it's to get in there first, before they can reject me.
I know it's fucked up. "It's not that fucked up. It's also refreshing honesty that stands out from a lot of the group think. | |||
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" Many women can't take rejection. At all. Ever. Saying 'shame you're too far' shows their interest and if you say you'll travel they will be all smiley. If you say 'yeah too far' they can pretend they weren't interested in the first place.
I don't like all the game playing crap either.
Interesting seeing as though men have to deal with rejection day in day
Would that make womens ego's more sensitive that mens on a whole? Of course there are the exceptions? It's an interesting notion you've brought up.
How many women admit they won't go looking for fear of rejection. How many women gleefully reject men in unkind ways. How many women have hissy fits on threads begging for attention yet when men do similar they get slated - usually by the same women that cried on another thread about the same happening to them.
Women and their ego's is an interesting subject.
I'll admit it. In some ways and at some times, I still base my worth on if a guy fancies me or not. So, there's no way I'll approach a guy first. I've also been unkind in rejection - mainly of guys I've fucked, and it's to get in there first, before they can reject me.
I know it's fucked up.
It's not that fucked up. It's also refreshing honesty that stands out from a lot of the group think. "Ah well, at least I'm self aware | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? Sometimes it's a leading statement. It's to see if you'd reply with "well I don't mind travelling..."
Sometimes it's just vocalising the frustration of having another perfect person for a meet live miles away.
Again why not ask if the person travels? Are people really so indirect when it comes to finding out answers to questions they might have?
I would hate to be a person who's incapable of being direct. They must waste so much time and opportunities. "It must be great to have confidence and self assurance enough to just ask outright. ... unfortunately not everyone is like that. 
Just accept the "compliment " that they are giving in whatever convaluted way it may be sent.
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" Just accept the "compliment " that they are giving in whatever convaluted way it may be sent. " Excuse me? Why should I just accept it. So because a woman messaged me, I should just accept her rather plain and indirect message as an acceptable form of contact, where no effort was made at all? Talk about double standards | |||
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See my point about being indirect/direct
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" Are you new to the forum/ this site?
The amount of "tell the person you fancy" threads is astounding. For a site supposedly for adults, there's some really indirect childish people that seem incapable of approaching people directly. It's like high school "my mate fancies you! *giggle*"
In answer to your OP I think some people just think people are desperate for a shag. So them saying 'how hot yet ohhhh so far away you are' is just a pathetic attempt to get you to drive to them immediately. Because they think you'd be grateful.
I'm like you, I'm just astounded at the total lack of directness, considering this is supposed to be a liberal and open lifestyle
I mean is it really that hard to actually say what you mean? Honestly? "Men n women communicate differently. See it as a compliment. | |||
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"No distance is insurmountable if they're worth it.
There are some people on here worth travelling for..
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"See it as a compliment." Well I don't. Sorry, I just see it as being too lazy to strike up a decent conversation. It also makes me question, if they're too lazy to interact properly here, what would they be like in person? | |||
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" Just accept the "compliment " that they are giving in whatever convaluted way it may be sent. Excuse me? Why should I just accept it. So because a woman messaged me, I should just accept her rather plain and indirect message as an acceptable form of contact, where no effort was made at all? Talk about double standards "I've never had occasion to use this phrase before but.........who pissed on your cornflakes??!! I can't remember if i have ever messaged someone and said that, but if I did, I would simply mean 'I just wanted to let you know that I really fancy you and would love to meet if you lived nearer but you live too far away for me to consider travelling to meet you'. No more, no less, no agenda - just a comment, nothing lazy about it in my view, and yes, I think it's a compliment, I would say thanks to someone who said that to me. | |||
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" Just accept the "compliment " that they are giving in whatever convaluted way it may be sent. Excuse me? Why should I just accept it. So because a woman messaged me, I should just accept her rather plain and indirect message as an acceptable form of contact, where no effort was made at all? Talk about double standards
I've never had occasion to use this phrase before but.........who pissed on your cornflakes??!!
I can't remember if i have ever messaged someone and said that, but if I did, I would simply mean 'I just wanted to let you know that I really fancy you and would love to meet if you lived nearer but you live too far away for me to consider travelling to meet you'.
No more, no less, no agenda - just a comment, nothing lazy about it in my view, and yes, I think it's a compliment, I would say thanks to someone who said that to me."Caveat.....if they lived a long way away lol! | |||
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I've never had occasion to use this phrase before but.........who pissed on your cornflakes??!!
I can't remember if i have ever messaged someone and said that, but if I did, I would simply mean 'I just wanted to let you know that I really fancy you and would love to meet if you lived nearer but you live too far away for me to consider travelling to meet you'.
No more, no less, no agenda - just a comment, nothing lazy about it in my view, and yes, I think it's a compliment, I would say thanks to someone who said that to me."Just because you're happy to accept that as a compliment doesn't mean everyone else should. Nor do I appreciate being told what to accept as a compliment, when in my view it isn't one. As for the cornflakes comment .... | |||
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I've never had occasion to use this phrase before but.........who pissed on your cornflakes??!!
I can't remember if i have ever messaged someone and said that, but if I did, I would simply mean 'I just wanted to let you know that I really fancy you and would love to meet if you lived nearer but you live too far away for me to consider travelling to meet you'.
No more, no less, no agenda - just a comment, nothing lazy about it in my view, and yes, I think it's a compliment, I would say thanks to someone who said that to me.
Just because you're happy to accept that as a compliment doesn't mean everyone else should. Nor do I appreciate being told what to accept as a compliment, when in my view it isn't one.
As for the cornflakes comment .... "Well, you appear very tetchy to me 
You miss my point - which is did she intend it as a compliment or not?
In my view the only gracious thing to do with a genuine compliment is accept it, but I am not telling you what to do - if you'd rather be tetchy instead, fill yer boots hun, no skin off my nose, you wait for the drooling sycophants to message you with lengthy florid prose if it pleases you! | |||
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You miss my point - which is did she intend it as a compliment or not?
In my view the only gracious thing to do with a genuine compliment is accept it, but I am not telling you what to do - if you'd rather be tetchy instead, fill yer boots hun, no skin off my nose, you wait for the drooling sycophants to message you with lengthy florid prose if it pleases you! "Well I'm not tetchy at all, I'm just not the type of guy willing to fawn over a person just because she's sent a lazy indirect message without even saying hello as a way of making contact. It wasn't a genuine compliment at all in my opinion. It was a lazy half arsed attempt at conversion. Something I bet you delete messages for. I don't need lengthy messages, I just need decent polite ones that at least say what they mean without having to second guess what their true intentions are. | |||
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" Well, you appear very tetchy to me
You miss my point - which is did she intend it as a compliment or not?
In my view the only gracious thing to do with a genuine compliment is accept it, but I am not telling you what to do - if you'd rather be tetchy instead, fill yer boots hun, no skin off my nose, you wait for the drooling sycophants to message you with lengthy florid prose if it pleases you!
Well I'm not tetchy at all, I'm just not the type of guy willing to fawn over a person just because she's sent a lazy indirect message without even saying hello as a way of making contact.
It wasn't a genuine compliment at all in my opinion. It was a lazy half arsed attempt at conversion. Something I bet you delete messages for.
I don't need lengthy messages, I just need decent polite ones that at least say what they mean without having to second guess what their true intentions are. "I've got to agree with FM it comes off a bit like someone's pissed on your chips. I delete shit lazy messages, as I'm sure many on here do, I don't start threads about them though. You sound like you're insulted by people daring to message you on anything other than your own terms. There's a difference between "not fawning" over someone/something and being so bothered about it you feel the need to rant. | |||
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"What annoyed me was being told to just accept the compliment. I don't dictate to other what to accept and what not to accept, so really don't appreciate it when I'm dictated to. I'm also allowed to have a difference of opinion on what I consider to be a compliment or not without the fear of being called tetchy just because I don't agree with anything at all that's been said. " Fair enough. (Still sound tetchy though.) | |||
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" Well, you appear very tetchy to me
You miss my point - which is did she intend it as a compliment or not?
In my view the only gracious thing to do with a genuine compliment is accept it, but I am not telling you what to do - if you'd rather be tetchy instead, fill yer boots hun, no skin off my nose, you wait for the drooling sycophants to message you with lengthy florid prose if it pleases you!
Well I'm not tetchy at all, I'm just not the type of guy willing to fawn over a person just because she's sent a lazy indirect message without even saying hello as a way of making contact.
It wasn't a genuine compliment at all in my opinion. It was a lazy half arsed attempt at conversion. Something I bet you delete messages for.
I don't need lengthy messages, I just need decent polite ones that at least say what they mean without having to second guess what their true intentions are. "Well, good luck with that 'need' for women to 'declare their intentions' on a casual message!! Last time I messaged someone out of the blue I just said 'Epic hair!'. I had no intentions at all that point - I just paid someone a compliment (I'm nice like that sometimes) | |||
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"What I find insulting is some women and couples moan day in and day out about poor messages from guys and how boring and unoriginal they are. Yet they send the exact type of messages they moan about. " Not me, I usually defend them - give the poor guys a break, if he says 'Hi' and he's what I'm looking for I'll reply! | |||
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"What annoyed me was being told to just accept the compliment. I don't dictate to other what to accept and what not to accept, so really don't appreciate it when I'm dictated to. I'm also allowed to have a difference of opinion on what I consider to be a compliment or not without the fear of being called tetchy just because I don't agree with anything at all that's been said. Fair enough. (Still sound tetchy though.)" | |||
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" Fair enough. (Still sound tetchy though.)" Well that's your opinion, I've no real desire to argue the point on how it sounds to be perfectly honest Ruby. | |||
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" -D No one has asked anyone to declare their intentions in the first message. You said "I don't need lengthy messages, I just need decent polite ones that at least say what they mean without having to second guess what their true intentions are." So just to clarify for the ladies that are planning on messaging you after reading this thread - 1 Say 'Hi' and you are displaying simple good mannered politeness 2 Say 'Hi, I wish you were nearer!' and you are guilty of a lazy, piss-poor and obtuse attempt at starting a conversation? Oookay, whatever you say!
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" -D No one has asked anyone to declare their intentions in the first message. You said "I don't need lengthy messages, I just need decent polite ones that at least say what they mean without having to second guess what their true intentions are." So just to clarify for the ladies that are planning on messaging you after reading this thread - 1 Say 'Hi' and you are displaying simple good mannered politeness 2 Say 'Hi, I wish you were nearer!' and you are guilty of a lazy, piss-poor and obtuse attempt at starting a conversation? Oookay, whatever you say!
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" OP as you apparently live in Birmingham if your profile is to be believed ...." Don't insinuate that my location or anything on my profile is wrong. I can assure anyone on here I am who I am and my location is correct. There's nothing fake on my profile. Perhaps you should ask "Your Strawbs" who I'd met at last years Blackpool Social too, and who indeed is a friend of mine | |||
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" OP as you apparently live in Birmingham if your profile is to be believed .... Don't insinuate that my location or anything on my profile is wrong. I can assure anyone on here I am who I am and my location is correct. There's nothing fake on my profile. Perhaps you should ask "Your Strawbs" who I'd met at last years Blackpool Social too, and who indeed is a friend of mine "My you are indeed touchy aren't you? There was no insinuation made. I was inferring it was an assumption that was correct with regards to your location. After all, I do not personlly live in a pineapple under the sea..... | |||
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"OP I really like the photo of you in a top hat If first example I didn't travel and saw it is would consider a message to say how nice it is and shame you're not closer. I would be sending it as a compliment just because no agenda You though from your comments wouldn't want to know that. Correct it is your prerogative to see it as a compliment or not but I'm sure more people would just accept it graciously and say thank you rather than start a thread which unfortunately may be showing a more petulant side "Yes it does appear to be a strop. | |||
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Would you say that qualifies?
If that was me, I'd just message them about pictures and their profile text if there was no intention to meet based on distance. "I'd say they were putting the ball in your court op! In a way they're declaring an interest but leaving it up to you whether you want to pursue it/travel to them! Great if their looks/personality match their profile when you've spent hours driving to meet them - not so great if they look like John Merrick's long lost twin! | |||
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"OP I really like the photo of you in a top hat If first example I didn't travel and saw it is would consider a message to say how nice it is and shame you're not closer. I would be sending it as a compliment just because no agenda You though from your comments wouldn't want to know that. Correct it is your prerogative to see it as a compliment or not but I'm sure more people would just accept it graciously and say thank you rather than start a thread which unfortunately may be showing a more petulant side "Right, so then if you had messaged about the top hat photo. Then indeed it could only be taken as a compliment and treated as such. Just because I'm not willing to be dictated to on what I should or shouldn't consider to be a compliment or defend my profile location when someone infers it may be false hardly qualifies as petulance. Those that do are more than welcome to avoid me | |||
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"I will always travel to someone that interests me. I see distance as no barrier. I have a 4 day weekend; am genuinely single and well....I am a tart. Yes I may flirt on the forums; but I intend to meet people I flirt with, I am sorry if that flirting openly is childish or nauseating for some... for me it's banter... it took a long time in my life to become comfortable with my skinny body; now I am and so that banter is affirmation; ego soothing (well I am being honest, why lie). I get messages "shame you are so far away" and if that person interests me I reply... that nowhere is particularly far in the UK... and go from there. I like this lifestyle; it is escapism coupled with physical and oft times mental pleasure; I have no geographical limits to that because I am lucky. " | |||
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Right, so then if you had messaged about the top hat photo. Then indeed it could only be taken as a compliment and treated as such.
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"I will always travel to someone that interests me. I see distance as no barrier. I have a 4 day weekend; am genuinely single and well....I am a tart. I get messages "shame you are so far away" and if that person interests me I reply... that nowhere is particularly far in the UK... and go from there. I like this lifestyle; it is escapism coupled with physical and oft times mental pleasure; I have no geographical limits to that because I am lucky. " Exactly, I travel all over the UK. Hell I've even been invited to Ireland off the back of the social I've just attended. Which I'll graciously take that person up on their offer. However, I don't respond to that opening one line message, or consider it to be a compliment. There's also another point to it that I hadn't bought up but might as well, considering the tone of the thread. Who's to say that even if I did live closer to the sender of the message that I would even be interested? That's making one hell of an assumption on their part in my opinion. Not all men on here are desperate for a sniff of female attention or validation. There are some who, quite happily will not be dictated to when being told what to accept as one thing or another and have no trouble voicing their views. | |||
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"I will always travel to someone that interests me. I see distance as no barrier. I have a 4 day weekend; am genuinely single and well....I am a tart. I get messages "shame you are so far away" and if that person interests me I reply... that nowhere is particularly far in the UK... and go from there. I like this lifestyle; it is escapism coupled with physical and oft times mental pleasure; I have no geographical limits to that because I am lucky. Exactly, I travel all over the UK. Hell I've even been invited to Ireland off the back of the social I've just attended. Which I'll graciously take that person up on their offer. However, I don't respond to that opening one line message, or consider it to be a compliment. There's also another point to it that I hadn't bought up but might as well, considering the tone of the thread. Who's to say that even if I did live closer to the sender of the message that I would even be interested? That's making one hell of an assumption on their part in my opinion. Not all men on here are desperate for a sniff of female attention or validation. There are some who, quite happily will not be dictated to when being told what to accept as one thing or another and have no trouble voicing their views. " Oooooooooohoooooooooh | |||
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"I will always travel to someone that interests me. I see distance as no barrier. I have a 4 day weekend; am genuinely single and well....I am a tart. I get messages "shame you are so far away" and if that person interests me I reply... that nowhere is particularly far in the UK... and go from there. I like this lifestyle; it is escapism coupled with physical and oft times mental pleasure; I have no geographical limits to that because I am lucky. Exactly, I travel all over the UK. Hell I've even been invited to Ireland off the back of the social I've just attended. Which I'll graciously take that person up on their offer. However, I don't respond to that opening one line message, or consider it to be a compliment. There's also another point to it that I hadn't bought up but might as well, considering the tone of the thread. Who's to say that even if I did live closer to the sender of the message that I would even be interested? That's making one hell of an assumption on their part in my opinion. Not all men on here are desperate for a sniff of female attention or validation. There are some who, quite happily will not be dictated to when being told what to accept as one thing or another and have no trouble voicing their views. " I don't really see where your issue is... I am sorry. People ARE presumptuous on here; it's kind of the way it works. I never message first, so people have to presume I will be interested and go from there. I put myself up on the site I am "fair game"... I can filter them out... that's easy. I have choices. I don't know chap; I am trying to see where you are coming from and I think (hope) I understand; you are of course right, not all men are desperate and we all have our preferences... I just make myself approachable... because I enjoy this lifestyle and try not to think too deep on the machinations or un-articulated (couldn't think of a word, made one up) desires. I take compliments as they come, regardless of their motive.. yes we can all be sycophantic; fawning and to a degree nauseating... even I roll my eyes sometimes... but I would like to think I am having fun; being cheeky; being a tart... because that's why I am here. I apologise if I patronise, I think sometimes my tone is like that but I genuinely hear what you are saying I am just not sure how you will restrict that which you dislike. | |||
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I like the guy above understand your points however also DON'T understand why you come across so horrible about what people are saying
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" Most men would be ecstatic to receive a message, not belittle its contents." Fortunately, I'm not most men. I didn't belittle it's contents, I questioned the point behind it as an opening line with no other content. Then disagreed with it being a compliment, which I believe to be personal opinion. I believe you have one also. | |||
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"I like the guy above understand your points however also DON'T understand why you come across so horrible about what people are saying " How have I been horrible exactly? I've merely defended my opinion when others have tried to tell me it's wrong. I haven't been insulting or offensive to anyone despite being called tetchy, stroppy and indeed petulant. | |||
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"I like the guy above understand your points however also DON'T understand why you come across so horrible about what people are saying How have I been horrible exactly? I've merely defended my opinion when others have tried to tell me it's wrong. I haven't been insulting or offensive to anyone despite being called tetchy, stroppy and indeed petulant. " You asked for people's opinions, they gave them, and because they didn't match your view of the world you dismissed them. Why ask, if you're not prepared to consider the answers? | |||
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"You asked for people's opinions, they gave them, and because they didn't match your view of the world you dismissed them. Why ask, if you're not prepared to consider the answers? " I did ask, I did consider the answers. Do I then have to change my own opinion just because someone gave them or they differed from mine? No of course I don't. Also don't quote out of context, we aren't discussing my view of the world are we? You've added that for dramatical effect. | |||
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"You started out saying "this isn't a rant" then proceeded to reply aggressively to everyone who posited a theory as to why someone might send that message. " I only proceeded to defend my opinion AFTER being told to "Just accept it" | |||
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"I like the guy above understand your points however also DON'T understand why you come across so horrible about what people are saying How have I been horrible exactly? " You were indeed very rude to Flowercandy in your first response, including rolling eyes in an insulting manner. Looking at it you completely ignored her first, self-effacing admission of being too shy to be direct, and I believe totally misunderstood the attitude behind her second sentence, and so got all nose out of joint and proud in response to something which was not there in the first place!!
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"You asked for people's opinions, they gave them, and because they didn't match your view of the world you dismissed them. Why ask, if you're not prepared to consider the answers? I did ask, I did consider the answers. Do I then have to change my own opinion just because someone gave them or they differed from mine? No of course I don't. Also don't quote out of context, we aren't discussing my view of the world are we? You've added that for dramatical effect. " Your consideration didn't come across, at all. All i saw was you dismissing any possibility that the messages you're complaining about could be a compliment. A bit like you bitching about couples moaning day in day out about the messages they receive? | |||
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"You started out saying "this isn't a rant" then proceeded to reply aggressively to everyone who posited a theory as to why someone might send that message. I only proceeded to defend my opinion AFTER being told to "Just accept it" " But not everyone said "just accept it". I'm not from the camp that says men should be grateful for every crumb of attention they are thrown by women and couples but it seems such an odd thing to be offended about. It's possible to overthink what is actually a throwaway comment. | |||
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"You started out saying "this isn't a rant" then proceeded to reply aggressively to everyone who posited a theory as to why someone might send that message. I only proceeded to defend my opinion AFTER being told to "Just accept it" " The question is WHY did you have such a massive knee jerk reaction to that comment when it was offered in a spirit of kindness, NOT superiority? | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? I'm just going to put this out there, right or wrongly..... maybe, just maybe they are trying to strike up a conversation with you and not actually want to meet? After all swinging has a social aspect to it too? Just my thoughts " Maybe they're trying to strike up a conversation with you in the hope that you'll do the traveling. That way at least it's their bed that gets destroyed | |||
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"I like the guy above understand your points however also DON'T understand why you come across so horrible about what people are saying How have I been horrible exactly? You were indeed very rude to Flowercandy in your first response, including rolling eyes in an insulting manner. Looking at it you completely ignored her first, self-effacing admission of being too shy to be direct, and I believe totally misunderstood the attitude behind her second sentence, and so got all nose out of joint and proud in response to something which was not there in the first place!!
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"You started out saying "this isn't a rant" then proceeded to reply aggressively to everyone who posited a theory as to why someone might send that message. I only proceeded to defend my opinion AFTER being told to "Just accept it" " Jeez, just accept their opinion then. Just to clear this up. Myou open a messege that says they like you. But they live too far away to meet. But they 'like you'. And your annoyed? Have you tried putting on your profile something along the lines of... 'Only messege me if you live within 500 feet'. See if that makes you feel better. You see I don't see problems, I try to find solutions. | |||
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"I like the guy above understand your points however also DON'T understand why you come across so horrible about what people are saying How have I been horrible exactly? You were indeed very rude to Flowercandy in your first response, including rolling eyes in an insulting manner. Looking at it you completely ignored her first, self-effacing admission of being too shy to be direct, and I believe totally misunderstood the attitude behind her second sentence, and so got all nose out of joint and proud in response to something which was not there in the first place!!
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According to you.
The roll eyes emoji was being told to "Just accept it". I don't just accept anything just because someone tells me to.
You're definition of "Very rude" differs massively from mine.
"Indeed, you don't seem to have any awareness of just how unpleasant your attitude appears. You had a knee jerk ego reaction to the words 'just accept it', I suspect because you imagined them being said with the same aggressive attitude you brought to this thread, whereas if you actually look at the sentiment the lady in question was trying to convey it was 'Hey hun, I'm sure she was complimenting you, that's the kind of thing I might say if I fancied someone, why don't you try taking it as a compliment when someone does that?'. Do you have problems with empathy, are you not able to put yourself in her shoes and try and imagine what she ACTUALLY meant? Everyone else sees, which is why everyone is saying you have a bad attitude. | |||
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"You started out saying "this isn't a rant" then proceeded to reply aggressively to everyone who posited a theory as to why someone might send that message. I only proceeded to defend my opinion AFTER being told to "Just accept it" Jeez, just accept their opinion then. Just to clear this up. Myou open a messege that says they like you. But they live too far away to meet. But they 'like you'. And your annoyed? Have you tried putting on your profile something along the lines of... 'Only messege me if you live within 500 feet'. See if that makes you feel better. "I shouldn't, but | |||
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"You started out saying "this isn't a rant" then proceeded to reply aggressively to everyone who posited a theory as to why someone might send that message. I only proceeded to defend my opinion AFTER being told to "Just accept it" Jeez, just accept their opinion then. Just to clear this up. Myou open a messege that says they like you. But they live too far away to meet. But they 'like you'. And your annoyed? Have you tried putting on your profile something along the lines of... 'Only messege me if you live within 500 feet'. See if that makes you feel better. You see I don't see problems, I try to find solutions. "Actually they didn't say that. The messages, of which there were three in a row, consisted of nothing else but "It's a shame you're not closer" and that's it. | |||
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"Lordscar. ...It would appear that a few are getting annoyed that you won't just accept their reply of just accepting the original comment.... few like to think their could be alternative thinking to theirs. Maybe they just need to accept that you have viewed it differently or possibly looking for alternative answers. "Let them get annoyed, it certainly doesn't bother me or change my opinion on what I consider to be a compliment. | |||
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"You started out saying "this isn't a rant" then proceeded to reply aggressively to everyone who posited a theory as to why someone might send that message. I only proceeded to defend my opinion AFTER being told to "Just accept it" Jeez, just accept their opinion then. Just to clear this up. Myou open a messege that says they like you. But they live too far away to meet. But they 'like you'. And your annoyed? Have you tried putting on your profile something along the lines of... 'Only messege me if you live within 500 feet'. See if that makes you feel better. You see I don't see problems, I try to find solutions.
Actually they didn't say that. The messages, of which there were three in a row, consisted of nothing else but "It's a shame you're not closer" and that's it. "But that's what such messages MEAN!!!! | |||
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"Lordscar. ...It would appear that a few are getting annoyed that you won't just accept their reply of just accepting the original comment.... few like to think their could be alternative thinking to theirs. Maybe they just need to accept that you have viewed it differently or possibly looking for alternative answers.
Let them get annoyed, it certainly doesn't bother me or change my opinion on what I consider to be a compliment. "I'm sure those pesky messages will be saying the opposite now. | |||
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"Lordscar. ...It would appear that a few are getting annoyed that you won't just accept their reply of just accepting the original comment.... few like to think their could be alternative thinking to theirs. Maybe they just need to accept that you have viewed it differently or possibly looking for alternative answers. "Is this where I start with the tetchy emojis to prove you correct?
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"If defending my opinion and not caving in to yours and others on this thread is being tetchy and petulant then so be it. " No. Differences of opinion are not tetchy and petulant, it's the manner in which it is done. | |||
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"If defending my opinion and not caving in to yours and others on this thread is being tetchy and petulant then so be it. No. Differences of opinion are not tetchy and petulant, it's the manner in which it is done." So you're suggesting I defend my opinions in a manner more amenable to you? Ruby, you'd defend your opinions exactly how you wanted to. Don't criticise me for doing the same. | |||
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"Ah well, here's a nice song that springs to mind, lets all chill
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And I'm the one being accused of being childish and tetchy.
You really ought to grow up a little don't you think? "Haha, I never said you were being childish honey! I admit I'm having a little fun at your expense now because you're obviously not going to see reason. Now where is that head banging on the wall emoji you mentioned.... | |||
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"I bet your glad some women don't live closer, eh Op? " | |||
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"I bet your glad some women don't live closer, eh Op? "I bet they are too. | |||
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"Ah well, here's a nice song that springs to mind, lets all chill
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJe1iUuAW4M
And I'm the one being accused of being childish and tetchy.
You really ought to grow up a little don't you think?
Haha, I never said you were being childish honey! I admit I'm having a little fun at your expense now because you're obviously not going to see reason.
Now where is that head banging on the wall emoji you mentioned.... "Honey? Please don't patronise me. Just because my opinion differs from yours doesn't give you any right to indirectly call me names using YouTube clips. | |||
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"Does anyone else think why even message that if you clearly are bothered by distance? I've just had three in a row, and all said "If only you lived closer" This isn't a rant, I'm just curious as to why even message in the first place? Anyone got any theories on this one? " Never had that, i get guys from the other side of the country offering to travel to me and get a hotel The joy of having tits eh
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"The popcorn wolves are out in their bestest lipstick today. " I disagree with that Scarlet, the popcorn wolves are the ones who sit back and stir because they see a thread going to shit and want to be part of it by jumping on a bandwagon without actually making any points of their own. The women I've seen posting in disagreement with the OP today have made their own points in a straightforward way. I hardly see how that constitutes "popcorn wolves". I assume this is what you're referring to given your reference to lipstick. | |||
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" I'm assuming why a women would mail a man with such a message is simply to get his attention, your now suppsed to jump in the car and drive two hours to meet her "Nooo? What without any kind of connection, establishment of whether I find her attractive enough to meet or not? Really? Shit, I didn't have a clue
Maybe if I apologise to all the women on on this thread so hell bent on changing my opinion to theirs and then message the lady's back then I'll make things right again with everyone?
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"The popcorn wolves are out in their bestest lipstick today. I disagree with that Scarlet, the popcorn wolves are the ones who sit back and stir because they see a thread going to shit and want to be part of it by jumping on a bandwagon without actually making any points of their own. The women I've seen posting in disagreement with the OP today have made their own points in a straightforward way. I hardly see how that constitutes "popcorn wolves". I assume this is what you're referring to given your reference to lipstick. " I'm referring to the ones clearly baiting the OP just to piss him off. Not those that made opposing comments but accepted the fact that he disagreed. I made comments further up the thread. I didn't get whiney and childish because he didn't stop his life dead to agree with everything I said. If that's the way some people want to play it then cool. | |||
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"The popcorn wolves are out in their bestest lipstick today. I disagree with that Scarlet, the popcorn wolves are the ones who sit back and stir because they see a thread going to shit and want to be part of it by jumping on a bandwagon without actually making any points of their own. The women I've seen posting in disagreement with the OP today have made their own points in a straightforward way. I hardly see how that constitutes "popcorn wolves". I assume this is what you're referring to given your reference to lipstick. " In a straight forward way? Says you who resorted to calling me names! | |||
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"The popcorn wolves are out in their bestest lipstick today. I disagree with that Scarlet, the popcorn wolves are the ones who sit back and stir because they see a thread going to shit and want to be part of it by jumping on a bandwagon without actually making any points of their own. The women I've seen posting in disagreement with the OP today have made their own points in a straightforward way. I hardly see how that constitutes "popcorn wolves". I assume this is what you're referring to given your reference to lipstick. In a straight forward way? Says you who resorted to calling me names! " I didn't call you any names. | |||
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" I'm assuming why a women would mail a man with such a message is simply to get his attention, your now suppsed to jump in the car and drive two hours to meet her
Nooo? What without any kind of connection, establishment of whether I find her attractive enough to meet or not? Really? Shit, I didn't have a clue
"yeah, didn't you know us women can pick and choose and have anybody we want
Your not very good at this swinging malarkey are you?
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