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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After receiving a message from a married guy playing away who said he had not read my profile until after he had sent a message asking if I was up for meeting this morning, it got me wondering.....

Do you ever just message after seeing a photo or do you actually read the profile first to see if you would be compatible, then message?

If you don't match what they are looking for would you chance it and message anyway?

Just interested really as I wouldn't message until I had read their profile fully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was a man I wouldn't bother reading profiles either. Most women and couples don't reply so I totally understand why they just mail everyone within a certain radius.

I just see if there's a spark. I'm not bothered how we came into contact. Junk mailing or if they specifically mailed me, I don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As tempting as it would be just to message on the strength of your lovely avatar, I have a feeling your boobs are unable to message back!

So yes, I'd read the profile to see if the rest of you was lovely too.

Same goes for any message I'd potentially send

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I look at pictures and scan through a profile.. couple of criteria I look for which will stop me from messaging.. other than that I message if I like what I see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profile of someone I message/has messaged me. There's no point of I'm not what they're looking for

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By *iscellaneousCouple
over a year ago

Idle

We always read the profile and then base our message on that. We try to make sure that we like the same things and read their veris too then send a message to test the water! Apart from a couple of things (MiscF likes the male to be her height or taller as she's 5'10 for example) we like to think we are fairly open!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always read the profile and then base our message on that. We try to make sure that we like the same things and read their veris too then send a message to test the water! Apart from a couple of things (MiscF likes the male to be her height or taller as she's 5'10 for example) we like to think we are fairly open! "

5'10? That's me out then

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By *OOM696969Man
over a year ago

BRIDLINGTON


"I look at pictures and scan through a profile.. couple of criteria I look for which will stop me from messaging.. other than that I message if I like what I see."

Pretty much spot on, read the profile, send a little bit more about me and then hope ha.

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By *igmatt82Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I'm always attracted to the pictures first and if they take my fancy I read the profile as I feel it helps me tailor a message just for that person. This helps me build conversations and not one liners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was a man I wouldn't bother reading profiles either. Most women and couples don't reply so I totally understand why they just mail everyone within a certain radius.

I just see if there's a spark. I'm not bothered how we came into contact. Junk mailing or if they specifically mailed me, I don't care. "

I always read the profile and if interested my messages are written to reflect that - and always polite, articulate and never generic.

They just get deleted regardless so totally stopped sending them.

Just here for the forums and cams now.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Wouldn't dream of messaging or replying without looking at all pics, reading the profile and verifications. Then perving the pics again just to make sure

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By *arrasicMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"After receiving a message from a married guy playing away who said he had not read my profile until after he had sent a message asking if I was up for meeting this morning, it got me wondering.....

Do you ever just message after seeing a photo or do you actually read the profile first to see if you would be compatible, then message?

If you don't match what they are looking for would you chance it and message anyway?

Just interested really as I wouldn't message until I had read their profile fully. I did then realised she was a TV but a sexy one

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By *arrasicMan
over a year ago

birmingham

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By *iscellaneousCouple
over a year ago

Idle


"We always read the profile and then base our message on that. We try to make sure that we like the same things and read their veris too then send a message to test the water! Apart from a couple of things (MiscF likes the male to be her height or taller as she's 5'10 for example) we like to think we are fairly open!

5'10? That's me out then "

I did a lot of growing, sorry!

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By *arrasicMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"We always read the profile and then base our message on that. We try to make sure that we like the same things and read their veris too then send a message to test the water! Apart from a couple of things (MiscF likes the male to be her height or taller as she's 5'10 for example) we like to think we are fairly open!

5'10? That's me out then

I did a lot of growing, sorry! "
I did then realised she was a TV but a sexy one tempted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always read the profile of someone I message/has messaged me. There's no point of I'm not what they're looking for"

Same here. I check out the winkers too in case I miss someone nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a picture catches my eye then the natural thing to do next is read their profile. I see no point in messaging a lady that clearly isn't interested in what I can offer when it's hard enough to get a reply from those who seem like there looking for similar!

But on the very rare occasion a picture is to good to just "Fab" then I have been known to send a message just showing my appreciation for said picture and wishing them luck on there fab journey with no expectations attached.

Reading the forums makes you appreciate why it's so hard to get replies on here and certainly opens your eyes to just how dumb and desperate some guys are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn't dream of messaging or replying without looking at all pics, reading the profile and verifications. Then perving the pics again just to make sure "

Always best to double check.

I'll always read the full profile before messaging someone for the first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I always read the profile (although many don't have much to read). First to check whether my approach is likely to be welcome; so age, attitude to single men, preferences etc and then to decide if I'd really be interested.

I don't send many new messages but always try to tailor my message to the profile so I'm not keen to invest effort if it's going to be largely pointless.

In fact I don't always message with the specific intention for it to lead to play. Sometimes it's just something in their status or what I've read on the forums which catches my eye. I still like to know the sort of person I'm messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profiles - taking note of what they want, in the order of: Age range, Gender, Colour, Height, Sexuality, Cock size (I cant change any of those).

If I fit their requirements, I can then decide if they fit mine.

Every message will be composed according to the individual. Usually around 8-10 lines, so I dont waste too much of their time in a first-contact.

Responses are rarer than SETI pings - I'd have as much success, throwing bottles into the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message these days, on an old profile years ago I would but it didn't enhance my enjoyment of the site. I would spend time reading a profile and looking at the pics (of course), then diligently tailor an opening message based on both; including a face pic... only to get no response; it became dull.

The frustration was usually heighten by the status messages battering around in my local area...

So... I put a face pic up. Learnt some patience (of course changed my profile/account) and never sent a first message again. They say single guys have to learn to deal with wholesale rejection and I did in my own way. Since I have been back, this approach has made my time here much more enjoyable.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"We always read the profile and then base our message on that. We try to make sure that we like the same things and read their veris too then send a message to test the water! Apart from a couple of things (MiscF likes the male to be her height or taller as she's 5'10 for example) we like to think we are fairly open!

5'10? That's me out then "

There may be loads of other reasons why you don't meet their preferences, even if you were 5'10"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbf i always read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the profile to see if we are after similar things if we are then I message with a face pic, if not then I don't message.

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

Read profile, then Interests... The pics come last. I will then send a wink. The prose will always speak a lot about the owner of the profile. if the profile expects me to send a full essay as an introduction/1st message, I stay away, however amazing the photos are...

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"I always read the profile of someone I message/has messaged me. There's no point of I'm not what they're looking for

Same here. I check out the winkers too in case I miss someone nice. "

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Depends why I'm messaging,

If it's in response to a forum post chances are I'll have probably read it previously.

If it's because I've an interest in potentially meeting them ..always .. if their profile ticks my boxes then I'll message ..if I've read it and it doesn't tick boxes I'don't message.

I rarely send messages these days when I do I get a good response rate

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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago

North Herts

Talking from the perspective of the messages we receive, there's nothing that has us reaching for the delete button more than one where our profile has obviously not been read (when it's an unsolicited message i.e. not related to a forum post etc).

So when it comes to messaging others we'd both always take the time to read the profile and tailor messages accordingly, making reference to something in that profile if possible.

Mr G

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It starts with the photos do we like what we see there and then read the profile to check for any compatibility pointless sending a message if we are clearly not what is being looked for.

On a side issue never sure about the age range as a lot of couples have a cut off at 50 but as a couple we are either side of it. We don't tend to message those looking for somebody aged 50 or less but have been contacted by quite a few couples who say oh well that is the age range we are looking for men in!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I very rarely bother messaging at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read what's point putting it on if not to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to have a stock message that I sometimes send out without reading a profile fully.

I also try to read profiles fully and tweak my stock message.

If a profile is totally not for me - for example since they play only with straight people or with BBC's I try to block the profile so I don't message them and will not message them in the future.

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