FabSwingers.com forum: Trust

By *erts NN OP Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Can you fully trust a meet and any advice on how to meet a genuine couple or person on fab?

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

?? Trust is a big word... So in what way?

And if they have veri's/check out veri's veris' and youve no cncerns, then why not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials and clubs are a good place to meet people. We tend to have a social first its a good way to get an idea of people

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By *erts NN OP Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"?? Trust is a big word... So in what way?

And if they have veri's/check out veri's veris' and youve no cncerns, then why not!

Trust in that they don't come knocking at your door one day !! Hahaha

But honestly in that you put trust in people/strangers not to enter your real world/life

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

Ooh goh yeh!

And why would anyone pop up amd choose to shout to the world theyve gangbanged your missus whilst aunt maud is eating her sunday roast!

I know people who met friends etc thru here, uve friends and share abit more than flyids with, at times.

Isnt this normal life anyway? Just part of it? The shame is other peoples, not the yours, anyway!

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

Bloody little keyboard keys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials away from home first- you just get a feel for people I think or if your that worried just don't accomodate

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By *helonewolfMan
over a year ago

Teesside

"Socials away from home first- you just get a feel for people I think or if your that worried just don't accomodate "

I agree with Shel Pauly. If you feel you're gonna struggle to trust people then maybe start with hotel meets first? Then if you're looking for regular meets you can maybe meet at your place further down the line once trust has been established

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was naieve once and invited people to my home. I was also very lucky that all of them were good sorts.

These days I insist on social meets, dont give personal details and prefer to meet in public places or at a local club.

What changed? Being fucked over by someone I trusted.

Trust is earned and hard won but once you have it, treasure it as it is invaluable.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I dont trust anyone completely and you cant always tell what they are like until you meet them even after talking on the phone. Some men seem nice on the first meet but afterwards you find out they are not as nice as you thought. I have had a few bad experiences, men who were too rough, manipulative, creepy, just not nice. Someone gave another young lad my phone number, people will talk about you to others and not always in a nice way. Someone may seem nice or overly nice, then they will say things or act in ways that make you feel uncomfortable, you get bad vibes about them. Most men i have met have been ok though but after being on here for seven years im more wary and careful who i meet.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Can you fully trust a meet and any advice on how to meet a genuine couple or person on fab?"

First thing is take the plunge. Get meet 1 out the way and work it out from there.

A genuine person in my mind will not force you into anything you don't want to do. Will meet socially first. Be understanding. That type of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would listen to what they have to say but totally trust my gut when making a decision on here.

If you not let the organs below your waist line make your decisions and use your brain you ll do alright on here

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Pushy people are the worst and you cant rely completely on verifications, they may of been well behaved with others but they wont be with you. I have got it on my profile must use condoms only a few men just ignore it, they wont use them or try and talk you into not bothering with them. Being a trusting person i had relyed on the men to use them without me checking because most men in the past always did. I once gave my mobile number and address to a man who said he wanted to join me for mmf only then just before he said he only wanted to meet me on my own, said he would come half an hour early or something, which is what they say sometimes, i said no only a few weeks later he rang me and said he would come round to my house. He has contacted me several times on here and i have to keep blocking him and i know he is married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust is earned, over time.

I cant see how anyone can attach anything other than a very basic level of trust after a single meet or a 1 hour coffee experience.

Its what puzzles and bewilders me about anyone who would knowingly allow someone they just met to enter into a bondage scene with them (for example).

Seceding control like that should take time and the built up of trust (IMHO) not a 30 minute Costa assessment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance in hell would I tell a stranger on a swinging site where I live.

I wouldn't trust a stranger. Their name, relationship status, age, height... anything and everything may not be true. It's just a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet in hotels and never give out personal details to anyone. I have a few that I've met many times over the years. Even they don't know much about my personal life. The way i see it is like 2 different worlds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't really trust a stranger either, but as long as they are what they have said they are that will do for me.

I only accommodate for a couple of guys I meet regularly now and wouldn't accommodate for anyone new.

I think I have been lucky to not have met any real odd jobs but have always had a social before meeting again anyway, and would now meet away from home.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

the only real trust issue is when you're tied up and restrained, then what they do to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of clubs in and around Hertfordshire, meeting there eliminates the risk of strangers subsequently turning up on your door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you fully trust a meet and any advice on how to meet a genuine couple or person on fab?"

In a word no!

most are backstabbers or cheats.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Socials and clubs are a good place to meet people. We tend to have a social first its a good way to get an idea of people "

Deffo this

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By *ildlingsMan
over a year ago

Luton

"I was naieve once and invited people to my home. I was also very lucky that all of them were good sorts.

These days I insist on social meets, dont give personal details and prefer to meet in public places or at a local club.

What changed? Being fucked over by someone I trusted.

Trust is earned and hard won but once you have it, treasure it as it is invaluable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the only real trust issue is when you're tied up and restrained, then what they do to you

Ooh yess wheres the rope im tieing you up most definatly x

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I met a married man once who was much younger than me for group sex, he asked to see me again and on the day he didnt turn up but sent his friend instead, someone i didnt know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you fully trust a meet and any advice on how to meet a genuine couple or person on fab?"

It's the same as real life in some ways .

Would you invite someone you had just met into your world if swinging wasn't on the agenda ?

Why does it change if its a meet for sex ?

In our case , it really is just NSA sex we meet up for , so we never meet at home . Nor too close to home . But a few that we know well now have visited us at home , but not for sex . Just a coffee and a chinwag like any friends would .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't fully trust anyone in life. A lot of people find that about their ex-life partners.

To meet people on here, get a good profile, message a lot, and get to an actual club and not just rely on this website.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Not sure what you mean by trust but part of our ing out process is to insist on a social meet first in a bar or somewhere you would be amazed how many couples suddenly go quiet and quite often disappear at the mention of meeting for a social

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