FabSwingers.com forum: Single or Couple, How to tell them apart?

By *requent_Ferryers OP Couple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

We have just experienced another tirade of abuse from a "single male" who took umbrage at us saying "no thank you, we are not looking for single males".

He started his diatribe with "I sent you a friends request from my single male profile by mistake, (we) should have sent it from our couples profile... It is your fault that you do not block single males".

I then noted today a single female profile that gave and received a verification as a couple. Is it commonplace for "couples" to have "single" profiles in addition to the one they both use?

We have never established a "single female" profile, even though I do meet separately with other females, as we think it would confuse folk and perhaps be a little less than open and honest.

What is a girl to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a single girl profile for me to meet other fems. We also have a couple profile for us to meet couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a single girl profile for me to meet other fems. We also have a couple profile for us to meet couples.

Meant to say if I get messages from couples I ignore them or block them because profile says no couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a little fishy in our opinion.

The verification system is easily manipulated. Just get another profile set up as a couple and verify your single male account.

We usually contact the people who verify the people we seek to meet, often you can tell by the way they type, common misspellings, words shortened etc.

I'd block and delete myself but miss would probably send them a cutting reply.

Hence I do most of the admin on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a girl to do?

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Dont you mean we, as you are a couple? lol.

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By *requent_Ferryers OP Couple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

Meant to say if I get messages from couples I ignore them or block them because profile says no couples "

Our profile clearly says "No single males" yet we get unsolicited invitations to join their friends list from many single males. We also get many, many crude messages from the same.

I can understand why you have a single female profile purely to meet other women (I have thought about that option many times). So, if I read your profile and thought I would like to meet you then I would refrain from doing so as I would be contacting you from a "couples" profile and you clearly state "no couples"" in your profile.

My point is; why do single guys still contact us when we clearly say "no single males"?

I also have to say that the clarity of your intentions in your single female profile tempts me to establish a similar one for myself!

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By *requent_Ferryers OP Couple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

"What is a girl to do?

Dont you mean we, as you are a couple? lol."

I thought it was clear that I posted the topic as an individual, hence the question of "What is a girl to do".

Sorry if I confused you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a girl to do?

Dont you mean we, as you are a couple? lol.

I thought it was clear that I posted the topic as an individual, hence the question of "What is a girl to do".

Sorry if I confused you."
No, it didnt confuse there. I take it the female part is running the profile mostly there.

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By *lacklondontvloverMan
over a year ago

London

Just block the knob and change your setting to bar email and winks from single males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you meet separately then you're supposed to also have a singles profile so that people looking for singles can find you.

even if you did that it wouldn't change the fact that you aren't looking for single males and the sender of those messages in your OP is still in the wrong to presume you will make an exception for him. if he genuinely made a mistake then fair enough, but the mistake was also his and not yours, dunno why he started with his crap but ignore it and take it as he's not very organised, doesn't read profiles properly and maybe is desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block the knob and change your setting to bar email and winks from single males."

What he said ^

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

OP, can't you change your filters to block single guys. Unfortunately, in our experience, some people do not read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, can't you change your filters to block single guys. Unfortunately, in our experience, some people do not read profiles."

Ha ha have to laugh at "some people do not read profiles" can we up that to most people!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"OP, can't you change your filters to block single guys. Unfortunately, in our experience, some people do not read profiles.

Ha ha have to laugh at "some people do not read profiles" can we up that to most people! "

Yes, you are right

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