FabSwingers.com forum: Why bother?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was talking with a non swinging friend of mine on the phone just.. now she knows I swing, she knows about my M/s dynamic.. and doesnt judge me on either..

But she was confused.. She asked me what was missing from my sex life that we needed too..

now when I explained that there was nothing missing, that no man or woman or groups of the above could make me as satisfied or make me feel like my Masters touch does,to be fair.. my masters verbal turn ons has me satisfied beyond what a 6 guy session does.. lol she just asked.. So why bother...

This actually took some explaining.. for us its about the adventures, the experiences, and we like the variety.. I mean most of the play times I have are good.. I just always need Master after... it is an addition not because something is missing.. Its the sexual adventure, its the meeting new people.. and yes sometimes for us its the pure filth we can get up to..

We also use it to help maintain a happy healthy sex life when Master is away... and I have a regular playmate that pops over for both social and play times.. but always for all our pleasure.. ( ie on cam to my Master)

She asked me if all people into swinging did it for the same reasons.. and it got me thinking..

Why do you swing.. ..? And is your reasons now, different from when you started..

Katie. x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

When jay and i met we where both swingers and one of the wonderful things was we didnt have to explain to each other why we swung.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We swing because we love sex and the variety of sex you can have with different people and multiple people at the same time. We do it because we like the opportunities for new experiences it gives us exploring new places even-clubs, holiday destinations etc. We do it to turn each other (and ourselves) on in new ways and because we can without harming our own relationship. We do it to get lots of dirty pics we can look at when we are old(er) and remember the fun we had!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I started swinging over a decade ago and I guess I found it exciting. I always knew I had a high sex drive but was unaware that there were so many people who liked doing the same stuff as me! I knew about contact mags but I started on the phone lines then moved to the internet.

Now I swing because I love it! I meet the best people, and have sex with them.

Again, its because my sex drive is so high and my boredom threshold is low. I like the variety, the different types, the fact I have explored my bi side, and finding out that guys I would never get chatted up by in a pub are quite happy to shag me in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We swing because i love seeing sam playing and being played with as much as sam love playing and being played with by other men too we both find it a turn on, pushing our barriers all the time and finding new turn ons !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chatted to a man on another social network type site, he asked me if i had ever thought of swinging and here i am. I enjoy it, i love the social aspect as well as the sex aspect and ive made loads of friends, no-one judges me like they do in the vanilla world, everyone is respectful to each other and above it, it has been a huge boost to my self confidence and self esteem. Oh yes and im no longer afraid to tell someone, actually i dont want to meet you again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single girl I dont class myself as a swinger but I love the lifestyle the clubs and the social aspect. And the freedom to have sex with whom ever I choose male, females or group sex without being judged. And to all those swinging couples I love them never seen such strong relationship in my life plus I would rather swing than cheat.

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We kind of fell into swinging after doing photo exhibitionism, single pics fo Katee went to more and more racy pics that involved posing with other women. Then the hubbys joined in adn eventually full sex and not simulated sex for photo's happened.

We did that and still do it for the varied experiences. We've had a grand time in the last 7/8 years, but more and more recently, we have talked about giving it all up.

There comes a time in most relationships when the most fulfilling part comes from being platonic rather than sexual. In other words there is more to be gained from the partnership than sex alone.

As we grow older this gets nearer. And you know what? We can look back on what we have done and reminisciece, but we are both honest enough to realise that we will not miss it all once we do give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single girl I dont class myself as a swinger but I love the lifestyle the clubs and the social aspect. And the freedom to have sex with whom ever I choose male, females or group sex without being judged. And to all those swinging couples I love them never seen such strong relationship in my life plus I would rather swing than cheat."

Yes to all the above x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I'd been using the internet dating sites, 1on1 meets, sometimes just casual encounters, I had very few relationships from it.Found more adult based sites, but still i was using it for 1on1s, and of course maybe finding a girlfriend!-eventually i realised i could be comfortable being in the presence of males when things started going group fun based...after that ive never looked back.I had a exclusive relationship from here last year for a year and that involved VERY little swinging, i missed being actively meeting ppl-instead of just chatting camming!- well the joys of being single and able to sorta do as i please helps me....but i get the odd cuddle times and feel good having slept with someone and not just had filthysex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I do it cos ive worn hubby out

To be serious though,its because we both get a chance to live out each others fantasies and I love the total sexual liberation with other people while being in a loving relationship at the same time

I did'nt expect to make some really good friends too and that has been an added lovely bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I can. If I just wanted a shag.... I'd go into town and pick someone up- here- although as a single, I'm not technically swinging, I can pick and choose what I want- whatever it happens to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....although as a single, I'm not technically swinging, I can pick and choose what I want- whatever it happens to be

This has always fascinated me and I see further up another lady said basically the same thing.

'Swinging' isn't just a couples thing and single fems as much as single guys do in fact 'Swing' in my honest opinion. Just as the days of throwing your car keys into a bowl have passed I believe the swinging world has moved on and includes all couples (MF, MM and FF), Buckfuddie couples, singles and any combination of the above. And all the better for it if I may say so.

So is Chameleons Club, for example, a Swinging Club or not? It has couples, single fems and single guys as members.

Personally I am not too into labels and if two people are attracted and have fun together on a 'No Strings' basis then terrific for them. Label it as you will.

Sorry if I went Off-Thread a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back on Thread ...

Personally I can't get my head round the Dom / Sub thing at all. This does not mean any criticism of those who do go that way for their fulfillment its just I really do not understand it.

I have also had personal experience of how a lovely friend of mine got drawn into that 'scene' and had her mind totally screwed by some really very unpleasant blokes. But I know that that is the exception but it does make me very wary.

Me and Swinging? I had a big heart attack and two mates at work got me signed up to AFF while I was at home on rehab. I found I liked the chatrooms, met some lovely people and it went from there. It is as much the social and how you make friends as much as the sexual fun that keeps me in this lifestyle. 6 years and stuill smiling....

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Just to buck the trend here a little...we dont swing..tried, enjoyed but we were shit at it! lol...our limit is the Cam now..but we love this site and personally find swingers really nice non judgmental people who are great fun to be around...hence the reason we are here

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By *azmissy67Woman
over a year ago

welshpool area

Personally after a 20yr marriage were my hubby was the only person i had sex with - i was abit lost sexually when we split up. i wanted sex but not another relationship just wanted to let my hair down and find out what i had been missing. Did the internet dating sites but was finding guys wanting to 'take over my life' and really didnt want that - a guy i met suggested fab and here i am - enjoying NSA fun and making some good friends on the way. Im happy the kids are happy cos mum is happy and there is no 'step-dad' to try and run things lol

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

I like to swing when iget the chance (not that easy being a single male on here lol) as it give me a chance to really explore my bi side and have the best of both worlds.

I find people on sites like this tend to be very open and easy people to get on with.

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

kaz thats how i feel as well now time to get a life again

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I guess it's like having money, you may have some money and be more than happy with it, but a bit more does no harm.

I have all the sex I want with my wife, but if there is more on offer then why not?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

On your death bed you are going to regret the things you didnt do,not the things you did.For me life is to be experienced to the full,not just in swinging,but every aspect.

This affected my D/s journey too,i have friends who love the idea but are happy with a flogging at a club,that' just not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally after a 20yr marriage were my hubby was the only person i had sex with - i was abit lost sexually when we split up. i wanted sex but not another relationship just wanted to let my hair down and find out what i had been missing. Did the internet dating sites but was finding guys wanting to 'take over my life' and really didnt want that - a guy i met suggested fab and here i am - enjoying NSA fun and making some good friends on the way. Im happy the kids are happy cos mum is happy and there is no 'step-dad' to try and run things lol "

I can relate to this: I was a 20 year old virgin when I married. When I left my husband 22 years later he was still the only man I'd been with.

My priority was ensuring the stability and security of my children: I had no intention of introducing new "uncles" to them, but I wanted sex not a relationship: this worked for me.

I met my partner on SH, our D/s relationship is strictly for the bedroom. We"re both "alpha's" but there's no "power struggle" we're equals: it's worked for four years and continues to.

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