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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

This is two different questions aimed at males and females.

Ladies - out of curiosity how many blokes had you slept with BEFORE swinging, and what do you think is about average?

Fellas - If you were starting a relationship with a woman who isn't a swinger, is there a number of sexual partners that you might think is excessive?

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

3 before i started and i have no idea what the average is, everyone is different

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

How old were you when you started?

The reason for the post is because my brother has been chatting to a lass for weeks and looks like there's a nice little relationship going. But earlier today he told me that he doesnt know whether he's gone off her after she announced she has been with 42 blokes.

Now she is 25 and he's 27 and he's been with 13 (I reckon he's telling porkies there but hey ho) so just wondering if that's normal, and if guys would be put off by a certain amount

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"How old were you when you started?

The reason for the post is because my brother has been chatting to a lass for weeks and looks like there's a nice little relationship going. But earlier today he told me that he doesnt know whether he's gone off her after she announced she has been with 42 blokes.

Now she is 25 and he's 27 and he's been with 13 (I reckon he's telling porkies there but hey ho) so just wondering if that's normal, and if guys would be put off by a certain amount"

And this is why I would never discuss numbers as my life prior to meeting someone new is none of their business

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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago

staffordshire

I think thats completely between them, if hes not comfortable with it and judges her for it then i doubt itll work. Everyone is different in their approach, as long as shes happy with that and through sharing the number i assume she is then i dont think it should have an influence on the future. Past is the past it cant be changed. And if someone judged me on something like that i would pass them by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I don't care and if it bothers a guy then he can fuck off basically not bothered how many people he's fucked either.

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

Yeah I gave him a bit of a bollocking when he told me. But he was adamant that it was way more than normal.

Just got me thinking

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Not bothered in the slightest. So long as they're clean and healthy it's game on!

Better sex too if they've had a few lovers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me at all and any guy who would judge my worthiness as a partner by how many people I'd slept with would not get any more of my time anyway.... and this has happened to me in a roundabout way.

She's still the same girl he was getting to know and enjoying the company of. That shouldn't change in my opinion

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I slept with 19 men in 48 years. I thought that was above average. Then I joined Fab. I had sex with 21 men in a month. Then I stopped counting! I met my partner on here and he has never been judgemental about my past.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Numbers really does not bother me whatsoever! I am not judgemental so it would be irrelevant for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think the average is about 8 men, i slept with 50ish before fab, not sure exactly.

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By *antasticMrsFoxMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Like an elite athlete it's all about training and practice and working on your craft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like an elite athlete it's all about training and practice and working on your craft. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my husband was number 26 (only counting full penetrative sex) and we had that conversation on our second date. But he told me on our first date that he had been a swinger (in fact I think he still was and stopped for me). I had just turned thirty went we started dating.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I gave him a bit of a bollocking when he told me. But he was adamant that it was way more than normal.

Just got me thinking"

It probably is way more than 'normal'. And if it's important to him to have a girlfriend who is 'normal' then that's a shame.

Mrs

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't know what the average is but i think it's higher for someone in their twenties these days than it was when i was that age. It is more socially acceptable for a young woman to want and enjoy sex than it was even 20 years ago.

As for me, i don't discuss the actual number with anyone but it is still only in single figures. I might be on a swinging site but I'm not desperate and I'm very choosy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you even need to discuss that with someone? Unless you are a control freaky type of person!!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Before Fab it was 5

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) I don't and never have counted - I don't understand the point of it . If I say and thought about it I'm sure I could et the number but I don't really care as it says nothing about me as a person whether i have had sex with five people or 500

2) I have no idea why anyone would ever have this discussion unless you will be happy no matter the answer

3) sleeping with a higher number of people doesn't mean you are desperate or will sleep with anyone - it could just mean you have a high sex drive or swing and enjoy having lots of meets (can still be picky about who they are)

Mrs

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

loads..and ?

i've had a great sex life, wild patches and monogomous adventurous ltr's..

prefer experienced partners too

id worry if they'd had only a few partners

i definitely wouldn't consider a relationship with anyone who hadn't had a fair bit of experience...not that im looking for that..and its sounds like its a good job..im obviously not dating material...good for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobodies business....not his, yours or ours.....

If anyone was that bothered about my numbers then I would doubt the future of any relationship.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had lot's... i intend to have lots more.. I did lie to my ex hubby and he was mortified at the 11 i claimed to have slept with.. I was his number 4...

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Before fab it was 3 guys. I'm still only just into double figures when it comes to penetrative sex. No idea what the average is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm... five before fab and I've only had sex with one person off here.

I can imagine that people will just judge those who use sites like this, regardless of however many people they've met.

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By *helonewolf OP   Man
over a year ago

Teesside

Thanks for the answers guys. Glad I'm

not the only one who thought it was bad of him to ask.

Just wanted to make sure I was right in thinking it!

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