FabSwingers.com forum: A bit annoying

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've just written a reasonably long message to a woman I've had on my hotlist for a while, who I just noticed on line. Her profile says she meets single guys and specifically says she is looking for couples, women, men. She's verified by a number of guys. She complains in her status about fab being quiet.

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

did it not say 'not looking for single guys'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So she can look for them herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she is focusing on couples and men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this too sometimes OP. It just enables me to proactively look for single guys rather than deal with messages being sent to me. Once we ladies take those filters off it 'can' get a little silly at times

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

"I've just written a reasonably long message to a woman I've had on my hotlist for a while, who I just noticed on line. Her profile says she meets single guys and specifically says she is looking for couples, women, men. She's verified by a number of guys. She complains in her status about fab being quiet.

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently..."

She has probably blocked all single guys so she doesn't get inundated with messages and maybe she likes the fun of searching for single guys herself...

Maybe she's a cock tease...

No one knows but her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"did it not say 'not looking for single guys'"

OP. If she is not looking for single males, she is not messing you about, is she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently..."

Wasted your time? Oh behave...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"did it not say 'not looking for single guys'"
You can have single guys on your profile but block messages from single guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do this too sometimes OP. It just enables me to proactively look for single guys rather than deal with messages being sent to me. Once we ladies take those filters off it 'can' get a little silly at times"

No that's fine. She's cleary entitled to do that obviously. I was just a bit annoyed it wasn't clearer. Women say they want messages of substance relevant to their profiles, which I do anyway, but they take time and thought. The least you can hope is they get them, lol...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't think she wasted your time, OP...,you wasted your own. I expect she was doing something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O wouldn't say she's wasted your time as she hasn't interacted with you in anyway. As others have said, the filters are up so it's in her hands and she's not inundated with messages

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently..."

sorry to hear you have been messed around OP but I feel you really need to lighten up so you fancy her but can't message her .

is that really worth writing this post over personally I think not.

after all there's no guarantee that she would of done anything other than delete your message .

I do feel for those who put to much stock in there search for fun because by doing so all your doing is opening yourself up to negative thoughts when things inevitably don't go to plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit back have a brew and wait till she finds you

if not theres plenty more out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if she's saying it's quiet on fab then i wouldn't be surprised if she's accidently blocked men.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Hmmm, think you wasted your own time, it does say on the profile when you can't message.

Plus you've now wasted some more time typing this in the forum about it........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it not come up as soon as you click message that you cannot due to filters, before you have chance to start writing? It always has for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it not come up as soon as you click message that you cannot due to filters, before you have chance to start writing? It always has for me

And me. You can still type the message if it's only the warning that you're not what they're looking for, but if they have message filters so you can't, then it's a bold yellow thing and you can't type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sit back have a brew and wait till she finds you

if not theres plenty more out there"

Actually, do you know what...there aren't!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Does it not come up as soon as you click message that you cannot due to filters, before you have chance to start writing? It always has for me

That's true, if you are filtered out of messaging because of age, sex etc it comes up first, before you type, not when you try to send.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Sit back have a brew and wait till she finds you

if not theres plenty more out there

Actually, do you know what...there aren't!"

There's 4 who verified you and 11 on your displayed friends list, that's not all bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a big world out there theres not just here to get laid mate alot peoples lives revolve round this which is quite sad but its everyone to there own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does it not come up as soon as you click message that you cannot due to filters, before you have chance to start writing? It always has for me

Actually that a very interesting point. Normally it does for me and it does now if I try to write her a message. However I clearly was able to write her a message before and only when I tried to send it did I get the message. In fact I'm pretty sure her profile DIDN'T say 'not looking for single guys' either (I'm sure I'd have noticed) but it does now.

I wonder if what has happened is that she's changed her permissions between me starting to write and sending. Drat. If I'd only not gone back and edited the text...lol. Okay I'll let her off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So she can look for them herself

Don't tell him....let anyone like that suffer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently..."

'She's wasted your time?' Hate to break it to you but she doesn't know you exist. YOU wasted YOUR time. Nobody is entitled to anything on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently...

'She's wasted your time?' Hate to break it to you but she doesn't know you exist. YOU wasted YOUR time. Nobody is entitled to anything on here."

Really? I hate to break it to YOU but I disagree with you. I think people are entitled to expect on here that profiles are real, that people are honest in their descriptions and requirements, that they act in good faith and that they turn up when they arrange to. I'm not saying it always happens but I think people are 'entitled' to be pissed off when it doesn't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently..."

Just block and move on.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Ooh that's took a bit of a bad twist.

OP youve already just said you think she changed halfway through typing to block single men. She hardly did anything wrong!

Also being pissed off over a relatively minor thing isn't great.

Sometimes things don't work out. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ooh that's took a bit of a bad twist.

OP youve already just said you think she changed halfway through typing to block single men. She hardly did anything wrong!

Also being pissed off over a relatively minor thing isn't great.

Sometimes things don't work out. Move on."

Why was it a bad twist? I was a 'bit' pissed off and amazingly, amongst all the usual trolling on the forum, a few helpful posters provided some useful information which facilitated me reassessing the situation. I now understand what happened a bit better and one day when the lady in question removes the filter I may message her successfully. All good here.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

That's what I had thought, the 'bad twist' I was talking about is your reply prior to this, talking about being entitled to be pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently...

'She's wasted your time?' Hate to break it to you but she doesn't know you exist. YOU wasted YOUR time. Nobody is entitled to anything on here.

If any of those things had happened, you'd be right to be pissed off. But they haven't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently...

'She's wasted your time?' Hate to break it to you but she doesn't know you exist. YOU wasted YOUR time. Nobody is entitled to anything on here.

If any of those things had happened, you'd be right to be pissed off. But they haven't. "

I didn't say they had. I was making a general reply to a general claim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently...

'She's wasted your time?' Hate to break it to you but she doesn't know you exist. YOU wasted YOUR time. Nobody is entitled to anything on here.

Really?? The OP couldn't message a stranger on the internet and he's having a hissy fit. Nobody owes you ANYTHING on here. Lose the sense of entitlement and get real ffs. This is the nature of the Internet. People lie. People cheat. People will say anything to try and fuck somebody who may not even exist. The sooner people realise that and quit the whinging then maybe they may get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take any notice! I am not letting people I don't know to have the pleasure to annoy me! I just move one I won't make a fuss about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ooh that's took a bit of a bad twist.

OP youve already just said you think she changed halfway through typing to block single men. She hardly did anything wrong!

Also being pissed off over a relatively minor thing isn't great.

Sometimes things don't work out. Move on.

I don't see anybody trolling you...some have disagreed with you...but then they're often seen as the same thing on here...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently...

'She's wasted your time?' Hate to break it to you but she doesn't know you exist. YOU wasted YOUR time. Nobody is entitled to anything on here.

Sounds like you're the one having the hissy fit...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently...

'She's wasted your time?' Hate to break it to you but she doesn't know you exist. YOU wasted YOUR time. Nobody is entitled to anything on here.

Sounds like you're the one having the hissy fit..."

Nope. No problem with me having fun on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hold on a sec .. let me get this right , so a guy hotlists a girl (thats his perogative) he then throws a hissy fit because she has blocked his message from sending to her profile (along with the other 1000000 messages she has chosen not to get )heres the thing ..... your entitled to nothing here , not a coffee not a reply to your mail , not a blow job , not a ride nothing nada zilch . There isnt a customer satisfaction agent who will deal with your PURCHASE disappointment , this isnt a bank where your in the queue for service .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"hold on a sec .. let me get this right , so a guy hotlists a girl (thats his perogative) he then throws a hissy fit because she has blocked his message from sending to her profile (along with the other 1000000 messages she has chosen not to get )heres the thing ..... your entitled to nothing here , not a coffee not a reply to your mail , not a blow job , not a ride nothing nada zilch . There isnt a customer satisfaction agent who will deal with your PURCHASE disappointment , this isnt a bank where your in the queue for service . "

You really haven't read the thread, have you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really haven't read the thread, have you..."

That's how I understood it too, and i've read the thread. What am I missing or misunderstanding? You hotlisted someone who's profile showed she meets single men, but when you tried to message her she's put a block on messages from single men... is that right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really haven't read the thread, have you...

As I understand it that's correct, so OP probably, without understanding how a lot of females use the filters, assumed that the lady was looking for guys. He then typed out a long and thoughtful message which was then blocked.

He has now been informed how a lot of us use the filters and it's all good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You really haven't read the thread, have you...

My point wasn't that she blocked single men. She's quite within her reasonable rights to do that and I have no sense of entitlement (as some claim) that she has to accept a message from me, read it, answer or whatever.

The actual point was that her profile said she was looking for single men, met with single men, with no mention that their attention was unwelcome. As a result I spent time reading her profile and writing a relevant message only then to find that the time had been wasted (cue some esoteric comments about who had wasted that time) because the message was blocked. I felt somewhat misled by her profile.

However it seems that what most likely happened is that between me starting to write the message and sending it, she changed her filters. This not only led to the blocking of my message but also put a marker on her profile which I would have seen had I not already started the message.

It was just an unfortunate sequence of events and I accepted the lady was not to blame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I found your toys

Beard

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, I found your toys

Beard"

Don't give up the day job...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On sending the message I got the error response that she has blocked all persons of my sex (male).

So basically she's just wasted my time. If she's looking for guys why is she blocking them? Ok, I'm just letting off steam really. I seem to have been messed around by a few women recently..."

To block people of a certain age/sex or what ever is a quick way of taking a break without rewriting the whole thing. Try winking first to see if you are blocked or not?!

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