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"So what do you wanna do? Cant have it all ways surely? Anyone else steer clear of these?" Locals who can accommodate - thank you so much! I know it sounds impossible but it does work. At least I spell out my limitations on my profile, so if people find it unacceptable they can avoid me (unlike the people who say they can accommodate but actually can't). | |||
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"They can just meet at a local club " Or hotel. It's not rocket science. | |||
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"I steer clear of people who can't read that I don't accommodate or travel on my profile." exactly | |||
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"Dear God, This again! I am a can't travel, can't accom profile. To travel means (for me) driving 100 miles for a fuck. NOT gonna happen. Can't means won't accom, I don't want a random shag knowing where I live with my family. So, I either meet in a local hotel, see I don't have to travel, or a local club. For others it means they use public transport and are willing to travel across town not across the country. I really don't understand how people are stumped by this?!?! " This
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"Dear God, This again! I am a can't travel, can't accom profile. To travel means (for me) driving 100 miles for a fuck. NOT gonna happen. Can't means won't accom, I don't want a random shag knowing where I live with my family. So, I either meet in a local hotel, see I don't have to travel, or a local club. For others it means they use public transport and are willing to travel across town not across the country. I really don't understand how people are stumped by this?!?! "Come on guys dont bite ny head off I was only asking. Sorry if its a regular question but I hadn't seen it. Cant accom yeah get that but then cant travel. How far does that mean cant travel? Local area only or will travel if collected? | |||
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"Dear God, This again! I am a can't travel, can't accom profile. To travel means (for me) driving 100 miles for a fuck. NOT gonna happen. Can't means won't accom, I don't want a random shag knowing where I live with my family. So, I either meet in a local hotel, see I don't have to travel, or a local club. For others it means they use public transport and are willing to travel across town not across the country. I really don't understand how people are stumped by this?!?!
Come on guys dont bite ny head off I was only asking. Sorry if its a regular question but I hadn't seen it.
Cant accom yeah get that but then cant travel. How far does that mean cant travel? Local area only or will travel if collected?"Think about this. What fool will give out their home address to some stranger on the Internet so that they can be 'picked up'? I know, I wouldn't | |||
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"So what do you wanna do? Cant have it all ways surely? Anyone else steer clear of these?" It means I have two teenage sons stay at home .and can't travel far from home but can come to urs or hotels .simple | |||
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"To be fair, I won't accom & can't travel far so when I'm meeting I explain why on my profile. So if someone doesn't want to meet me even then, I don't really care. "Is that a Fab lolly you are eating? I didn't know they still made them... | |||
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"Dear God, This again! I am a can't travel, can't accom profile. To travel means (for me) driving 100 miles for a fuck. NOT gonna happen. Can't means won't accom, I don't want a random shag knowing where I live with my family. So, I either meet in a local hotel, see I don't have to travel, or a local club. For others it means they use public transport and are willing to travel across town not across the country. I really don't understand how people are stumped by this?!?!
Come on guys dont bite ny head off I was only asking. Sorry if its a regular question but I hadn't seen it.
Cant accom yeah get that but then cant travel. How far does that mean cant travel? Local area only or will travel if collected?"Each person has their own maximum distance they are willing to go. I guess it depends on how much they are prepared to pay for the taxi, if the train/bus goes in the right direction, if their is a hotel within their budget close by etc Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. I do think Fab could do with a few more tick boxes, hotel meets and club meets and maybe a distance willing to travel would be useful. | |||
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"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen." Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. | |||
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"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. " Small town, imagine the shock of being seen getting in a car with a man not my husband. I would be branded a loose woman  | |||
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"Dear God, This again! I am a can't travel, can't accom profile. To travel means (for me) driving 100 miles for a fuck. NOT gonna happen. Can't means won't accom, I don't want a random shag knowing where I live with my family. So, I either meet in a local hotel, see I don't have to travel, or a local club. For others it means they use public transport and are willing to travel across town not across the country. I really don't understand how people are stumped by this?!?! "Couldn't have put it better | |||
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"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. Small town, imagine the shock of being seen getting in a car with a man not my husband. I would be branded a loose woman ""Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. " Really? Like from the end of the street where I live whilst my neighbours wonder why I am walking down in a sexy dress and getting picked up by some random stranger? And then he knows that I live within a 5 minute walk from where he picked me up from Or do I take a Taxi to the nearest supermarket some 10 minute driving distance away and get collected by some random stranger in his car? | |||
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"It could be the first filter the person uses, some people will see that and move on." Thank Gawd for that; I don't want to meet the brain-dead | |||
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"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. Small town, imagine the shock of being seen getting in a car with a man not my husband. I would be branded a loose woman
"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen.
Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. "
Really? Like from the end of the street where I live whilst my neighbours wonder why I am walking down in a sexy dress and getting picked up by some random stranger? And then he knows that I live within a 5 minute walk from where he picked me up from
Or do I take a Taxi to the nearest supermarket some 10 minute driving distance away and get collected by some random stranger in his car?"I'm not advising YOU to do anything. But since there are peopLe who appear willing to invite 'random' strangers into their homes or visit the homes of 'random' strangers, I hardly think meeting someone at a designated place is much different. As I said, I've done it and it worked fine. But then I don't generally meet 'random' strangers. | |||
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"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. Small town, imagine the shock of being seen getting in a car with a man not my husband. I would be branded a loose woman
"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen.
Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. "
Really? Like from the end of the street where I live whilst my neighbours wonder why I am walking down in a sexy dress and getting picked up by some random stranger? And then he knows that I live within a 5 minute walk from where he picked me up from
Or do I take a Taxi to the nearest supermarket some 10 minute driving distance away and get collected by some random stranger in his car?
I'm not advising YOU to do anything. But since there are peopLe who appear willing to invite 'random' strangers into their homes or visit the homes of 'random' strangers, I hardly think meeting someone at a designated place is much different. As I said, I've done it and it worked fine. But then I don't generally meet 'random' strangers. "You seem upset by the us of the word random. How random. | |||
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"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. Small town, imagine the shock of being seen getting in a car with a man not my husband. I would be branded a loose woman
"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen.
Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. "
Really? Like from the end of the street where I live whilst my neighbours wonder why I am walking down in a sexy dress and getting picked up by some random stranger? And then he knows that I live within a 5 minute walk from where he picked me up from
Or do I take a Taxi to the nearest supermarket some 10 minute driving distance away and get collected by some random stranger in his car?
I'm not advising YOU to do anything. But since there are peopLe who appear willing to invite 'random' strangers into their homes or visit the homes of 'random' strangers, I hardly think meeting someone at a designated place is much different. As I said, I've done it and it worked fine. But then I don't generally meet 'random' strangers. "No; but YOU are commenting on an OPEN forum!!! Any person I only exchange a few messages with on the Internet and have a couple of telephone conversations IS a random stranger. He could be lying about everything. I am not stoooooopid enough to believe him to: 1) get into his car 2) give him my address 3) walk into his home Glad for you that there are people who would; Not glad for those who then get assaulted, raped or murdered. Oooooohhhhh, yes, that happens. Usually by the ones who are '115%+' 'genuine' | |||
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"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen. Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. Small town, imagine the shock of being seen getting in a car with a man not my husband. I would be branded a loose woman
"Collected? That would mean I have to give my address to a random, not gonna happen.
Not necessarily. You could be collected from an agreed place close to where you live. I've done that. "
Really? Like from the end of the street where I live whilst my neighbours wonder why I am walking down in a sexy dress and getting picked up by some random stranger? And then he knows that I live within a 5 minute walk from where he picked me up from
Or do I take a Taxi to the nearest supermarket some 10 minute driving distance away and get collected by some random stranger in his car?
I'm not advising YOU to do anything. But since there are peopLe who appear willing to invite 'random' strangers into their homes or visit the homes of 'random' strangers, I hardly think meeting someone at a designated place is much different. As I said, I've done it and it worked fine. But then I don't generally meet 'random' strangers.
You seem upset by the us of the word random.
How random."I'm not upset. It just seems a weird term to use. Does anyone select the people they meet at 'random'? They may be strangers, they may be all sorts of things but 'random'? | |||
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"I'm not advising YOU to do anything. But since there are peopLe who appear willing to invite 'random' strangers into their homes or visit the homes of 'random' strangers, I hardly think meeting someone at a designated place is much different. As I said, I've done it and it worked fine. But then I don't generally meet 'random' strangers. No; but YOU are commenting on an OPEN forum!!!" Sorry, that doesn't make sense. Just because I'm commenting on an open forum doesn't mean I'm offering individual advice to every single person who reads it. | |||
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"I'm not advising YOU to do anything. But since there are peopLe who appear willing to invite 'random' strangers into their homes or visit the homes of 'random' strangers, I hardly think meeting someone at a designated place is much different. As I said, I've done it and it worked fine. But then I don't generally meet 'random' strangers. No; but YOU are commenting on an OPEN forum!!! Sorry, that doesn't make sense. Just because I'm commenting on an open forum doesn't mean I'm offering individual advice to every single person who reads it." I didn't say YOU were offering advise anymore than the poster before YOU was offering advice to YOU when YOU chose to respond to her comment I responded to your comment because your comment makes it sound as if it is perfectly safe for women to enter vehicles driven by [random] strangers. My argument is that any such person is no better than an unlicensed mini-cab driver and we all know what happens to some women by them! | |||
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"So what do you wanna do? Cant have it all ways surely? Anyone else steer clear of these? It means I have two teenage sons stay at home .and can't travel far from home but can come to urs or hotels .simple" This | |||
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"I responded to your comment because your comment makes it sound as if it is perfectly safe for women to enter vehicles driven by [random] strangers. My argument is that any such person is no better than an unlicensed mini-cab driver and we all know what happens to some women by them!" Surely it goes without saying that people need to ensure their own safety before meeting, whether that's accommodating, travelling or being collected or even meeting in a hotel. In that context being collected is no worse than accomodating or travelling. You seem to be looking for an argument for arguments sake. I insist on a social first and by the time I've collected, accommodated or visited, I'm not just some 'random' bloke. | |||
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"I responded to your comment because your comment makes it sound as if it is perfectly safe for women to enter vehicles driven by [random] strangers. My argument is that any such person is no better than an unlicensed mini-cab driver and we all know what happens to some women by them! Surely it goes without saying that people need to ensure their own safety before meeting, whether that's accommodating, travelling or being collected or even meeting in a hotel. In that context being collected is no worse than accomodating or travelling. You seem to be looking for an argument for arguments sake. I insist on a social first and by the time I've collected, accommodated or visited, I'm not just some 'random' bloke. " No, it is you who is looking for an argument Go back and read your comments. Where did you mention that you have one or many 'socials' before offering your pickup services? | |||
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"I responded to your comment because your comment makes it sound as if it is perfectly safe for women to enter vehicles driven by [random] strangers. My argument is that any such person is no better than an unlicensed mini-cab driver and we all know what happens to some women by them! Surely it goes without saying that people need to ensure their own safety before meeting, whether that's accommodating, travelling or being collected or even meeting in a hotel. In that context being collected is no worse than accomodating or travelling. You seem to be looking for an argument for arguments sake. I insist on a social first and by the time I've collected, accommodated or visited, I'm not just some 'random' bloke. No, it is you who is looking for an argument Go back and read your comments. Where did you mention that you have one or many 'socials' before offering your pickup services?" I responded to a comment saying you'd need to give your address to be collected. I said you could instead meet from a pre arranged collection point. Pretty simple point I think for most. That could apply to any circumstance depending on the persons view. Do I really have to preempt that with full disclosure of my own preferences and qualifications about security etc. | |||
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"I responded to your comment because your comment makes it sound as if it is perfectly safe for women to enter vehicles driven by [random] strangers. My argument is that any such person is no better than an unlicensed mini-cab driver and we all know what happens to some women by them! Surely it goes without saying that people need to ensure their own safety before meeting, whether that's accommodating, travelling or being collected or even meeting in a hotel. In that context being collected is no worse than accomodating or travelling. You seem to be looking for an argument for arguments sake. I insist on a social first and by the time I've collected, accommodated or visited, I'm not just some 'random' bloke. No, it is you who is looking for an argument Go back and read your comments. Where did you mention that you have one or many 'socials' before offering your pickup services? I responded to a comment saying you'd need to give your address to be collected. I said you could instead meet from a pre arranged collection point. Pretty simple point I think for most. That could apply to any circumstance depending on the persons view. Do I really have to preempt that with full disclosure of my own preferences and qualifications about security etc. " Are we back to the unlicensed minicab driver? What is so difficult for you to understand that pickup points by unknowns carry a huge risk for women. Since you conveniently omitted your umpteen 'socials' to prove that you are Mr NiceGuy (as if that proves anything), it came across as that you were stating that such 'pickups' are safe for women Give it up. This is not safe for women. It is one of the riskiest things I have heard anyone suggest. It is about as safe as the idiots who write to women with, "I am parked in a lay-by on xxx for some 'fun'" | |||
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"maybe they travel very locally but not a distance? cant accom always makes me think either live at parents or behind someones back, in reality it prob means id prefer not to av a stranger in my house just yet and hotel meets are sexy!!" This exactly. Not every one drives or is able to travel long distances for meets. Also there is such a thing as having housemates and not everyone cheating or living with parents. Just because someone can't accomodate doesn't always mean they are cheating  | |||
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"So what do you wanna do? Cant have it all ways surely? Anyone else steer clear of these?" There is a reason people do this its not hard to work out if you think about it but you avoiding them is the result many are looking for. | |||
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"You're just going round in circles and talking nonsense. It's a pointless discussion. I've made my point and people can iterpret it anyway they want. What point you're making God only knows....lol" I could and do say that it is you talking nonsense and giving the impression here that 'pickups' by random strangers are safe; absolute tosh I wouldn't in a million years get into someone's car who I did not know well (a Black cab is the exception) Men will say anything to make women feel that they are safe doing unsafe things just to get their leg over. And that is the point. Surely you get it now that I've spelt it out | |||
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"You're just going round in circles and talking nonsense. It's a pointless discussion. I've made my point and people can iterpret it anyway they want. What point you're making God only knows....lol I could and do say that it is you talking nonsense and giving the impression here that 'pickups' by random strangers are safe; absolute tosh I wouldn't in a million years get into someone's car who I did not know well (a Black cab is the exception) Men will say anything to make women feel that they are safe doing unsafe things just to get their leg over. And that is the point. Surely you get it now that I've spelt it out" Yes I understand that you are taking the comments out of context, sure. But I got that point ages ago thanks. So you think going round to a random strangers house or inviting a random stranger to your house is safe do you? | |||
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"You're just going round in circles and talking nonsense. It's a pointless discussion. I've made my point and people can iterpret it anyway they want. What point you're making God only knows....lol I could and do say that it is you talking nonsense and giving the impression here that 'pickups' by random strangers are safe; absolute tosh I wouldn't in a million years get into someone's car who I did not know well (a Black cab is the exception) Men will say anything to make women feel that they are safe doing unsafe things just to get their leg over. And that is the point. Surely you get it now that I've spelt it out Yes I understand that you are taking the comments out of context, sure. But I got that point ages ago thanks. So you think going round to a random strangers house or inviting a random stranger to your house is safe do you?" Nope. I think that meeting a few time in a swinger's club is safe for me. There are a dozen people within earshot of even the 'private' rooms where the walls seem to be constructed out of paper. Also, the staff periodically check up on the female members | |||
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"You're just going round in circles and talking nonsense. It's a pointless discussion. I've made my point and people can iterpret it anyway they want. What point you're making God only knows....lol I could and do say that it is you talking nonsense and giving the impression here that 'pickups' by random strangers are safe; absolute tosh I wouldn't in a million years get into someone's car who I did not know well (a Black cab is the exception) Men will say anything to make women feel that they are safe doing unsafe things just to get their leg over. And that is the point. Surely you get it now that I've spelt it out Yes I understand that you are taking the comments out of context, sure. But I got that point ages ago thanks. So you think going round to a random strangers house or inviting a random stranger to your house is safe do you? Nope. I think that meeting a few time in a swinger's club is safe for me. There are a dozen people within earshot of even the 'private' rooms where the walls seem to be constructed out of paper. Also, the staff periodically check up on the female members" And this is one of the reasons I only meet in clubs, they are the safer option. | |||
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"cant accom always makes me think either live at parents or behind someones back" In reality if it's a couple it means they have kids at home | |||
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"cant accom always makes me think either live at parents or behind someones back In reality if it's a couple it means they have kids at home" This is exactly what it is for us, we will accommodate if we can get the kids away for a night but would have to plan for it | |||
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