FabSwingers.com forum: Does swinging have a shelf life?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sure this has been asked before and I guess asking on the forum is only asking people who are still on site but wondering whether FAB has a shelf life?

Finding it and everyone a bit irritating but then I feel the same in real life too.

Do I hide myself or say goodbye?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd leave and only come back if or when I felt like meeting again. Or use other avenues to find sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say you have no time to meet...?

Maybe take a break until you can meet...then come back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was on here three years ago I think that it was much better years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say goodbye.

Good luck

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I had 4 weeks off and came back. It gets things into perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure this has been asked before and I guess asking on the forum is only asking people who are still on site but wondering whether FAB has a shelf life?

Finding it and everyone a bit irritating but then I feel the same in real life too.

Do I hide myself or say goodbye? "

Hide for a bit , that's what we did this time for about a month .

Just come back this evening .

In the past we have left a couple of times and restarted a week or two later .

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

my swinging life evolved, I excessed in the beginning, took it too seriously and got bored of it. Now, I dip in and out when it suits me and take it all with a pinch of salt.

it's a better place for me to be....

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Hide yourself for a while until you're feeling it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand why you asked the question. I have often wondered the same myself. I dip in and out. More out lately. Our needs and outlook on life change with time, as does our relationship with fab. Not a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've had my profile hidden for a while now coz i've lost interest in meeting off this site, the site itself isn't bothering me or anything, it is me who has changed and just lost interest.

it means i can come on here whenever i want still but nobody really messages me hardly so im not on here for ages chatting any more.

i think people are pliant and have different needs at different times. like when i first joined i'd never have considered a relationship but still wanted sex so i was here for that. other way round now, i miss sex still but i don't mind and hoping the guy i'm seeing is worth it (which i think he is).

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

definitely has a shelf life. If nothing else one eventually becomes too old to continue or for anyone else to want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bored to be honest!

But I'm sure I'll change my mind when I find my mojo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people take a break from Fab from time to time. The site is, unfortunately, heavily skewed towards objectified porn-inspired sex ("fill my hole now" "empty my sack" stuff) that's quite far from the enticing seductive erotic exploration some of us had hoped to find. Chatting with people can also be nerve wracking... with lots of messages back and forth and people trying to find a reason not to meet rather than vice versa. In the end it can feel like a full time job. That's why we had a break last month.

But in the end Fab is what it is, love it or leave it... it's still an amazing conduit to connect you with some really sexy open minded people. And if you don't take it too seriously and your happy to play the long game... sooner or later maybe you'll find exactly what you've been looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try the politics forum

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By *evilsAdvocate72Woman
over a year ago

East

"definitely has a shelf life. If nothing else one eventually becomes too old to continue or for anyone else to want to meet.

You're never too old to have sex and if you like the life style then most likely ye will continue in it albeit within your own age group.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I left for a while, came back after realizing that a vanilla relationship with a man, no matter how good he was, wasn't going to work for me.

But I agree with freespiritlovers that the "porn" type of stuff gets pretty old pretty quickly. So that "massive cock" and "fucking in every position" and "blow job on the motorway" is ho-hum for me and not attractive. But a man in bed who loves to kiss and fondle and enjoys fucking me with him on top never gets old, I love it. In fact sex with multiple people and getting to relate to them is addictive. As is the freedom of interacting with someone and having sex (if desired), something you often can't do in normal life (although I'll admit a fair number of vanilla interactions of mine in real life have ended up in sex LOL!!)

It is true that when I started swinging years ago I was having sex with a new bloke almost every day of the week but over time it comes to a more practical frequency. Also, unlike what many think, second and third etc. meets with the same lover are not boring they are incredibly erotic. I think swinging couples who have found the life partner who enjoys his/her attitude to sex are incredibly lucky.

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By *evon DelightCouple
over a year ago

A town in Devon

"A lot of people take a break from Fab from time to time. The site is, unfortunately, heavily skewed towards objectified porn-inspired sex ("fill my hole now" "empty my sack" stuff) that's quite far from the enticing seductive erotic exploration some of us had hoped to find. Chatting with people can also be nerve wracking... with lots of messages back and forth and people trying to find a reason not to meet rather than vice versa. In the end it can feel like a full time job. That's why we had a break last month.

Spot on really. Connecting with like minded people is why we stay, but you do have to sift some of the mindlessness that can gets in the way. Good things come to those that wait.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I doubt we'll ever leave. We use the site as and when we need to. It's a tool for us to use. Its not a life long commitment. Just something handy when we are in the mood to have sex with others.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

No it doesnt since im meeting older men i have noticed there are men and women in there 70s and even 80s on here.

When i have met men i didnt like it has put me off meeting anyone but mostly i havnt really been able to meet and the longest i have gone without meeting anyone was about three months.

I like being on here even if i dont meet anyone though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. People who continually let you down for meets just spoil it so we often disappear off sites for months at a time to save it getting boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I left for a while, came back after realizing that a vanilla relationship with a man, no matter how good he was, wasn't going to work for me.

This

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"definitely has a shelf life. If nothing else one eventually becomes too old to continue or for anyone else to want to meet.

You're never too old to have sex and if you like the life style then most likely ye will continue in it albeit within your own age group. "

The pond in which we fish diminishes with each decade.

I agree that you're never too old to have sex but I don't agree that swinging is a lifestyle...for me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also, unlike what many think, second and third etc. meets with the same lover are not boring they are incredibly erotic."

This

This is why we've recently decided to try not full swapping on a first play but build up to it through one or two more tantalising meets. It will hopefully out the "I can't be bothered with that I just wanna fuck" people from those who get it and have more of an erotic outlook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both take turns going on and off the boil with swinging in general but both get immediately interested again when someone exciting comes along, we've learned not to expect anything from fab so we don't get frustrated by it like we used to. Our deal is that if we never swing again then thats OK, but if 20 different hot people suddenly dropped into our lives at once then we'd be duty bound to take advantage of every one. You just never know.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

In the beginning I met regularly and became somewhat jaded. I hid my profile, used the forums and did other things.

I met my other half on here three years ago. I meet previous playmates and my other half plays at clubs.

I use the forums, not as often as I did as I have become bored of it. But it serves a purpose, it can be a cheap source of entertainment for sure. I'm not compelled to log on, if it caused me any angst I know where to find "delete account ".

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all. Think my feeling jaded in real life is the real issue here. Hiding for now at least x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"my swinging life evolved, I excessed in the beginning, took it too seriously and got bored of it. Now, I dip in and out when it suits me and take it all with a pinch of salt.

it's a better place for me to be...."

Seems to be quite a common process for a lot of people, was for us.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

We've been at it over 10 years and are still enjoying it.

That said we've never taken it too serious or let it rule our lives. I suppose in a way we're occasional swingers; once a month/every six weeks.

I've seen couples appear on the scene, absolutely cane it for about 6 months, and then disappear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say the OP needs to take a break. Whether it's permanent or not it only the the OP to decide what feels best.

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